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Mommy
May 14, 2023
On the day that you were born the angels got together. And decided to create a dream come true ...
Mommy loves you so, Ray Ray.
I miss you.
Laura
July 20, 2022
My beautiful son Ray Ray, Mommy is here. xo Love knows no boundaries in the depth of my soul for the love that I feel for you. You knew me like no other. No one can compare the deep bond that we shared, it's so hard to find that in this world, I found it in my son, which is you. Hold my hand and watch over me like you did here on earth, so I can be strong for my other true love, Jimmy, your older brother, who loves and misses his baby brother so deeply. Thank God he has Melanie, who we all love so very much. My sweet Ray, you were too good for this place. but God wanted you home by his side. I miss you even more as time goes by, your smile, voice, laugh, hugs, kisses, that sweet face of yours! It is endless of what I miss. Just a hug, one hug from you would be a dream come true. This is why Jimmy and I say Sweet Dreams of Ray to each other, hoping one of us will dream of you. My Sunshine, you will always be my baby boy. I love with all my heart. Forever!
Love,
Mommy
laura Ingrassia
October 4, 2020
To my Beloved Ray Ray,
I love you too much my Sunshine. You will always and forever be my baby. You are my heart and I am so grateful that you and Jimmy our my sons.
Jimmy is doing great, he and Melanie are so in love and are made for each other. They are a team, which is important in relationships. I love Melanie with all my heart and i am grateful everyday that she and Jimmy found each other. She is my beautiful, thoughtful, strong and just such a sweet sweet daughter in law. I thank God for her.
Jimmy misses you everyday, he does all things good for YOU. That is how much he loves and misses you. You are the first think he thinks of when he wakes up, and the same when he goes to sleep. We text each other Sweet Dreams of Ray, then if one of us has a dream bout you we tell each other all about it.
I do dream of you Darling, a lot. I know you are in Heaven, but I wish so much that you were here with us. You were my rock. You know I am strong and Jimmy is always there for me, but we just want you too, here with us.
You and Jimmy taught me love like no other could. You also taught me so many things, you always gave me so much compassion and wisdom. You did good kid. Better than good, the best.
You always cared about so many, especially me and your family members. You told everyone that I was your heart, well Darling, you are my heart and it's a bit broken, but I go on, for you, Jimmy and Melanie, family and friends.
I could always count on you for love, laughter and just being there to talk to. How I miss our talks, your voice, just you. I just miss you. Still can't believe you are gone. I don't think i will ever let my mind fully grasp that you are really gone, because I don't think I could handle it, so my mind protects me from that. I just think of your sweet face and your sweet kind soul, loved by so many.
I remember you were upset because you weren't sure if you could make friends when you moved back with me to Kings Park, well your tears were for nothing. You were loved by so many, they love you, honor you, look up to you, think of you all the time. Ray, you are a hero. Young men your age still miss you and boys younger than you try to be like you. No matter how popular and loved you were, you always helped the kids who were bullied, they will always remember that. Because of your love and empathy for so many, you left a little of you inside so many hearts and souls.
I know i taught you and Jimmy to forgive, I enforced this as our #1 rule in our home. I am so glad I did because I know you were embraced by Jesus for this. You were upset and asked why I only gave you books on your and Jimmy's Birthdays. I gave you a beautiful children's Bible and Jimmy a Disney book, I said "there was nothing left, I gave you everything for Christmas!" Now i am so glad that those sentimental books are with us.
Forever Ray, in my life, in my dreams, in my heart in my soul, you will always be my baby.
Love,
Mommy
July 11, 2018
41ways... not a day goes by that we don't miss you.
-Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.
Psalm 23
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Quaranto
January 10, 2016
We all miss you so much Ray. When Jacks on the field wearing # 41 with pride we know he has you with him as his angel
He plays hard like you and reminds us of you Kassidy & Jack miss you so much We love you and miss you so much Happy Birthday week love. xoxo Love All of Us
July 25, 2014
love you baby #41
Anonymous Anonymous
May 23, 2014
Noones wrote on this in to years, so I'm gonna write, we weren't friends but it was so sad when you past, it's been 6 years and I still remeber the announcement in school. Rip ray ray
July 18, 2012
Dear Ray-Ray,
So here we are 5 years, 5 years??? Not a day goes by that you are not thought of or spoken of. I want to thank you Ray for always being there for us, you truly are our guardian angel, and now you have another angel with you. We will be looking for you Thursday into Friday. Dylan getting assigned your #41 out of all the numbers in the world for the all star game? Phones vibrating and your number there, thank you, it brings us great relief knowing you are ok and with us. Chills again as I write this and Anne texts me, we love you Ray!!! You are forever in our hearts #41 always!! We miss you so much!!!
Love 'Aunt' Marie & family
Marie Harned
January 13, 2012
Happy 21st Birthday Ray Ray!!!! We love and miss you always!!! Thank you for always keeping watch over us! #41 forever
Love 'Aunt Marie' and family
Marie Harned
July 14, 2010
Dear Ray-Ray,
Today, July 14th a day I will never forget where I was or what I was doing. I cannot believe it is 3 years since that dreaded phone call I made and then the next 6 longest days of many of our lives. Ray Ray there is not a day that goes by that you are not thought of! You are so sorely missed and loved by all and you will never be forgotten #41. We miss and love you so much, Love, 'Aunt Marie' and family Keep watching over us and sending us signs that you are okay.
April 4, 2010
Dear Ray~Ray,
You are always still in my thoughts constantly..the little signs that you send..waking me up every morning at 4:41 am..I hope you like the angel I left you when I visited you a few weeks back..me & big Bill visited you while we attended a service directly behind you..while walking around to our surprise you are surrounded by a few friends, especially a sweet angel named Jake that is resting beside you...I found peace there...wanted to send you Easter Blessings today...soar sweet angel and watch over lil Jakey for us..#41 never forgotten...our love forever & ever...Kim, big Bill, Nick, JamiLee, Paul, lil Billy & great news, Jami is pregnant..if it is a girl, she wants her middle name after you!!!! kisses & hugs to you in heaven....
Marie Harned
October 15, 2009
Dear Ray-Ray,
You have another little angel with you to watch over, his name is Sean. Please keep him under your beautiful wings and continue to always watch over all of us. We love and miss you so much Ray Ray and you will never be forgotten! #41
Love 'Aunt' Marie & family
Lisa Quaranto
September 23, 2009
Ray Ray - We think about you every day - we miss you so so much. There are so many sign that you are around us, we know you are here with us. Kassidy & Jack sent you more balloons, we went down to the bluff - they put a message in a bottle for you too! Love you and missing you so very much. All of us , Lisa John, Kassidy Jack, Joseph Quaranto. You sure do have a lot of brothers and sisters that love and miss you Keep looking over us sweet angle #41 xoxo
September 21, 2009
Hi Ray~Ray...it's been a while since I have signed this book, however, not a day goes by that I do not think about you & what the wonderful future you would have accomplished..I so know that you are with me & are my sweet angel looking over me..continue to look over Jimmy, Joey, Brianna and of course Billy too!!
Forever in my heart & with all my love always...Kim Buttgereit
July 22, 2009
Dear Ray-Ray~~~attending the memorial last night has brought some peace in my life~~you are loved & missed by so many, sweetie.....keep shining our guardian angel...all my love forever...
Kim Buttgereit
July 21, 2009
Dear Ray-Ray,
Beautiful, Beautiful memorial last night. Again I will say it you are LOVED!! The community is amazing, people spoke about your kindness, how you can put a smile on anyone's face and what an amazing football player you were. Ray you are sorely missed and loved so much. Keep watching over us all. #41 always loved, never forgotten.
Love,
'Aunt' Marie & family
Marie Harned
July 14, 2009
Dear Ray-Ray,
Cannot believe two years ago today was that dreaded phone call and the start of a horrible week, praying and crying for you to be alright. Well now it has been just crying and still wondering why? We all miss you Ray so much and not a day goes by that you are not remembered. What an impact you have made in the community, you would be so proud...The 1st Annual 7 on 7 passing tournament was last Saturday and all I can say is you are loved!! Continue watching over all of us Ray Ray because this is not getting any easier. We love and miss you so much, never forgotten #41,
Love, 'Aunt' Marie and family
July 11, 2009
My dearest Ray Ray,
Love and miss you angel. Your smile, kindness, strength, humor has forever left a special place in so many hearts.
Aunt Donna
Ray-Ray - Your little brother Jack thinks and speaks of you all the time. Please watch over this little daredevil Minny YOU! Love the Qs
July 9, 2009
kim buttgereit
July 8, 2009
RAY~RAY...NOT A DAY GOES BY THAT I DO NOT THINK ABOUT YOU!! YOU ARE SO MISSED & LOVED BY MANY...YOU HAVE LEFT SUCH AN IMPACT ON SO MANY PEOPLE...ALL OUR LOVE, THE BUTTGEREITS
BIG BILL, KIM, NICK, JAMILEE & PAUL & LITTLE BILLY XOOXOXOX
Dyanna Walters
July 2, 2009
Dear Ray, Last night I dreamt about you the entire night and I prayed I could stay sleeping 2 keep dreaming, I didnt want 2 wake up. It was so real I heard that voice so clearly that I havent heard for 2 years..and of course you had me laughing, probably during my whole dream..I think about you everyday and more and more I still believe im going 2 see you somewhere..im not sure if you or ne1 else ever realized what an impact youve made on so many peoples lives...you are soo loved and you will never ever be 4gotten..I am so thankful for the friendship that we had and the wonderful memories that will always stand out about my childhood that you took a major part in...I am so happy 2 have known you for as long as I did and 4ver I will continue 2 talk about you 2 every1 and let them know what a wonderful person weve lost... I miss you so much beautiful and you will always, no matter what have a HUGE place in my heart! Rest peacefully angel xoxox <3
please watch over me and my grandpa*(who is making me think back 2 you like it was yesterday </3)<3
Love Dyanna
kim buttgereit
April 12, 2009
Dear Ray-Ray....Happy Easter in Heaven..you are constantly in my thoughts & missing you so much....i feel your presence both funny & unusual. i also hear your voice in my head to buy scratch offs now and then & have been winning..not the 25,000 again, but the gas & grocery funds will do just fine....love & miss you honey...my guardian angel...
forever & always..
kim & the butt fam xoxoxoxoxo
Marie Harned
March 26, 2009
Dear Ray,
It doesn't seem to be getting any easier. In fact the pain is still there and the disbelief that you are gone is so real. I know you are around me and I truly believe that. I wonder when we are at a game watching your sister play basketball, and your brothers are there with us, Are you here Ray? Where are you, are you sitting next to us? This is where you should be. We miss you Ray and love you so much. I know my boys miss you too and whenever Madison and I see a #41, she says thats Ray Ray's number. Keep watching over us sweetheart!!
We love you, never forgotten #41
'Aunt' Marie & Family
Donna DelVecchio
March 6, 2009
My Ray Ray each day it becomes harder and harder. Still feels like a dream. You are missed so very much. You are in our prayers and thoughts every single day.
Love you so very much
Aunt Donna
Lisa Quaranto
March 4, 2009
Ray "OUR ANGEL"
Jack wrote a story about you in the Fort Salonga School Paper, it was so so nice! I will share it with everyone, We love you and miss you so so much Ray Ray xoxo The Quaranto's
KIM BUTTGEREIT
March 1, 2009
Ray-Ray....thinking of you every day...& missing you always...
always & forever..
kim xoxox
KIM BUTTGEREIT
February 14, 2009
hi ray-ray....happy valentines day to u in heaven...
with love always & forever...billy, kim, nick, jamilee & paul & lil billy xoxoxoxoxxox
kim buttgereit
January 16, 2009
Dear ray-ray....i am sorry i didn't enter a message to you on your birthday but, i did put a birthday sign & balloons up for you on the 13th...i guess i am so caught up with nick & paul being overseas, that it slipped my mind...we all so love & miss you and you are one shining angel...all our love, big bill, kim, nick, billy, jamilee & paul xo
January 16, 2009
Dear Ray Ray "Happy Birthday in heaven" We miss you so so much. We think about you every day. We sent you balloons up to heaven from the Kassidy & Jack. Love You.
Stacy Catalano
January 16, 2009
Dear Ray so sorry we missed your birthday Happy 18th Birthday in Heaven, never forgotton Love always, Stacy and Stephani Catalano
January 15, 2009
Ray-Ray I know this is a little late but i wanted to wish you a happy 18th birthday its hard not having you around. I miss you so much
Marie Harned
January 13, 2009
Dear Ray-Ray,
Happy 18th Birthday Sweetheart! You are missed and loved so much by all!
#41 Never Forgotten
Love, 'Aunt' Marie & Family
Dyanna Walters
January 13, 2009
Happy 18th Birthday Ray!! I love and miss you so much... you will never ever be forgotten..see you soon xoxox
Lorraine Meadows
January 13, 2009
Happy 18th Birthday Ray Ray,
I miss you so much and still can't believe that this is real. I think about you every second of the day. I've been feeling you around a lot lately and I never stop looking for signs that you are there. I love you so much Angel,
Love Aunt Lorraine
Donna DelVecchio
January 12, 2009
Dearest Ray Ray,
Happy Birthday angel. Love you so much. My prayers for everyone whose lives you touched.
You are and will always be a special angel to so many.
Love you.
Aunt Donna
January 2, 2009
Love you RayRay. Think of you all the time. God Bless all that love you.
Love
Aunt Donna
kim buttgereit
January 2, 2009
hi ray-ray...happy new year in heaven sweet angel....billy had some couples over for new year's eve and as usual your brother ate me out of house and home...continue to look over all of us & your brother....he misses u so much....love & misses...kim
Marie Harned
December 30, 2008
Dear Ray-Ray,
Well Christmas has come and gone and it is not any easier without you. Went to visit you and your headstone is absolutely beautiful but it also makes it too real, it brought everything back like it was yesterday, it still really hurts but I want to thank you whenever I see #41 I know you are there and I am able to put a big smile on my face because I feel you all around us. I believe that you are our angel watching over us and we love and miss you. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year in Heaven. We will be celebrating mass in your honor for your birthday. RIP Ray Ray
We love you, always loved, never forgotten!
'Aunt' Marie
kim buttgereit
December 27, 2008
hey kiddo...it's 4:30 am and i just can't sleep, so i thought i would talk to my guardian angel since i know you are around me...nick is leaving for afghanistan on monday and i am having trouble sleeping...please watch over him & paul in iraq..talk to you soon..love you honey....kim xoxo
KIM BUTTGEREIT
December 25, 2008
HI RAY-RAY.......MERRY CHRISTMAS SWEETIE....IT'S 9:30 PM CHRISTMAS NITE AND I HAVE BEEN THINKING OF YOU ALL DAY....KEEP SHINING AS YOU ALWAYS HAVE...I LOVE YOU & MISS YOU VERY MUCH...LOVE, KIM & FAMIILY XOXOXOX
Lorraine Meadows
December 25, 2008
Merry Christmas Ray Ray,
Missed you so so much tonight as I do everyday. Christmas will never be the same, but I know you are here with everyone watching over us. I love you so much Angel.
Love Aunt Lorraine
Donna
December 18, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Miss you so very, very much. Christmas will never be the same.
Love you with all my heart, sweet angel.
kim buttgereit
December 17, 2008
hi ray-ray....i love you....kim xooxxoxoxo
kim buttgereit
December 13, 2008
hi ray-ray....this week lil billy & i decorated our kp memorial that we keep up for you for christmas ..it looks beautiful & makes me think of you when i pass by..all the memories & love....well, 11 more days until your crazy brother jimmy comes back & we are so excited about seeing him...i love & miss you very much honey & continue to be another one of my guardian angels....always & forever...kim
the buttgereits...big bill, nick, jamilee & paul, lil billy xoxoxoxx
ps keep an eye on my boys while they are serving..paul in iraq & nick in afghanistan...thanks buddy
Donna DelVecchio
December 7, 2008
Miss you so much Ray Ray. Sweet memories of you at Christmastime.
Will pray for all that love and miss you so very much.
Love
Aunt Donna
kim buttgereit
December 3, 2008
hi ray*ray.....this morning i woke up & jamilee decorated the house for christmas...and for one reason or another, i immediately thought of you and then i looked on the tree & saw a beautiful american flag ornament i bought at bike week and she had that at the top of the tree and thought of paul who is in Iraq & nick who will be going to afghanistan after christmas....please watch over my boys ray*ray and keep them safe....i love & miss you very much honey....always & forever in my heart ...mamma kim
the buttgereits
kim, billy, nick, jamilee & paul & lil billy...xoxoxoxoxox
Lorraine Meadows
November 27, 2008
Happy Thanksgiving Ray Ray, we miss you so so much. Not a moment goes by that I am not thinking of you. I look for you everywhere, I love you so much my sweet angel. You are here in our hearts and souls, watch over everyone.
#41 forever in our thoughts
Love Aunt Lorraine
kim buttgereit
November 26, 2008
hi ray ray, happy thanksgiving our sweet guardian angel.....you are always ~ always in our thoughts, silent sam.....we love & miss you so much.....not a day goes by without me mentioning your name...how amazing you were & are...give my pop a big hug & kiss from me....i love you ray ray.....forever....kim
the buttgereits....kim, big billy, nick, jamilee & paul, lil billy xoxoxoxox
Brothers Jack & Joey
November 21, 2008
Joey, Kassidy & Jack xoxo
L Q
November 21, 2008
Love You, Mis You Ray Ray
Lisa Quaranto
November 21, 2008
Dear Ray Ray
We cannot belive how the time has gone by - you are in our thoughts every day - Kassidy wore your #41 shirt to school today. We miss you so so much and wish you were here with your family and friends that all love and miss you dearly. Love you, The Quaranto's
Marie Harned
November 20, 2008
Dear Ray-Ray,
It has been 16 months and not a day goes by that you are not thought of. We feel your loss in everything around us that goes on in which you should be here with us. We should be going to football games watching you play, we should be celebrating birthdays and holidays with you and this should be a wonderful year to watch you get ready to graduate. The pain never goes away and when I pray to you at night, I know you are there for your family and friends and watching over us all. Happy 2nd Thanksgiving in Heaven Ray Ray, you are truly missed and will never be forgotten #41.
Love always,
'Aunt' Marie
November 18, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Not a day goes by that I do not think of you. I pray for all that loved and knew you.
Love you my sweet angel.
Aunt Donna
L Q
November 17, 2008
http://rayray41.blogspot.com
kim buttgereit
November 14, 2008
ok ray ray....in honor of you we have decided to have a hot sauce turkey for thanksgiving..we will think of you on this day, as always honey...again, i will talk to you soon.....love always & forever....kim
kim buttgereit
November 11, 2008
hi ray ray...just stopping by to send my love & kisses to u in the
heavens..u are thought of every single day...we miss you so....butterfly kisses & hugs to you sweet boy....
our love always & forever xoxoxox
kim, big bill, nick, jamilee, paul & billy
Donna
November 7, 2008
Ray Ray,
Love you so much. Miss you so much. In our prayers everyday. A true angel. Please know every moment you are thought of.
Number 41 will never be forgotten.
Love
Aunt Donna
Donna DelVecchio
September 14, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Love you and miss you so very much. You are one special angel that touched so many, many lives.
Love you.
Aunt Donna
L Quaranto
September 9, 2008
http://rayray41.blogspot.com/
Im trying to start a new site/blog spot where we can all share our thoughts and write to Ray Ray.
Try the link above or from Google search Ray Cuiffo Angel and you should find it.
Kim Buttgereit
August 27, 2008
Hi ray-ray....it has been a very heartbreaking year for all...god how we miss you so much...i have beautiful pics of of you & jimmy & one of you, jimmy & joey that i look at everyday....so many thoughts run through my head...if only...i know annie knows what i am talking about...your brother jimmy was a riot at jamilee's wedding & he walked me down the aisle...we know you were there with us as the candle lite was in honor of you, honey..well, jimmy is here a lot, playing x-box with billy..and is eating me out of house & home, but i don't mind at all, cause he makes me laugh every time he is here....you are beautiful & every time i see a butterfly if think of you..you are flying with my dad..they have meaning to me....sorry this is so long, but, i need you to know just how much you are loved & missed...love & misses...
kim/harleymamma
& big bill, nick, jamilee, paul & lil billy xoxoxoxoxo
sue pedersen
August 16, 2008
WE think about you always steph still has your picture in her room its such a great picture of you shes starting college soon but everything is bittersweet wish you were here you remain in our hearts always.love sue
Donna DelVecchio
August 11, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Forever in our hearts and prayers.
Love you.
Aunt Donna
KP Mom
July 31, 2008
Dear Ray-Ray,
I know in my heart you were watching us all at the memorial service for your one year anniversary in heaven. The pain from the loss of you is still apparent as I looked over and saw your sister's tears as your mom and dad try to remain strong for her sake when I am sure they are suffering more than anyone can imagine.
As the memorial ended and everyone returned to their homes and their families with their everyday lives they struggle to fill the void left by the tragedy of 1 year ago.
Although your mom picked a beautiful song to be played...no song, no candle, and no words of sympathy can every take your place at their dinner table or in all of our hearts.
You were so special Ray-Ray...may you have peace in heaven and may your family continue to find the strength to cope with such a devastating loss.
July 30, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Miss you. I pray every day it is not real as to what happened. You live on in so many others.
May all that love you find peace.
Love you my little Ray Ray.
Aunt Donna
"SISTERS" Kassidy & Brianna Miss YOu Ray! xoxo
July 27, 2008
#41 Forvever! Love you Ray - Jack Q/
July 27, 2008
Kassidy & Joey, Miss their brother Ray Ray xoxo
July 27, 2008
xoxo We all miss you dearly
July 27, 2008
sue pedersen
July 25, 2008
Ray,
Its been a long week and I guess everyone got by in whatever way they could after a year I still can't believe we lost you we said our goodbyes an are having memorials none of it seems real at all as I know life has to move on for us that are here Iam not sure if we can, you left an impact on so many of our lives and sometimes in those quiet moments is when the sadness just takes us over and we start to hurt all over again you will never be forgotten and all the tributes and memorials are testimony that your family and friends will keep your memory alive you were so loved and will always be. with love Sue
Quaranto family
July 24, 2008
Ray Ray
Miss you so much. Kassidy & Jack let balloons go up to you this past weekend with hugs & kisses to you. Keep watching over all of us, we feel you around us Ray. Love you and miss you dearly sweetie. The Quaranto's
Donna DelVecchio
July 22, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Love you. Miss you. Yesterday there were clouds in the shape of a heart. May all that love you find peace somehow and let us all continue to pray for our Ray Ray.
Love
Aunt Donna
SUE PEDERSEN
July 20, 2008
Ray Ray,
So here we are a one year ago you were taken from us it true that noone has gotten far since that time we are still feeling the same as that first day we heard the news steph and I went to the field today we put flowers on you memorial it just doesnt seem right that were here without you always know you will forever be in our hearts and we think of you everyday and there is a sadness that will remain in our lives forever missing you and your beautiful face love sue
Marie Harned
July 20, 2008
Dear Ray Ray,
As we go to your gravesite not far away from home, it breaks our hearts to think of you resting there all alone. As we kneel beside your grave today and everyday and say a prayer, we all know the heartache as we turn and leave you there. Your name is always spoken, our thoughts are always with you, you will never be forgotten.
Always in our hearts!
Happy First Anniversary in Heaven Ray Ray #41! We miss you so much!
Love 'Aunt' Marie & family
Stacy Catalano
July 19, 2008
Dear Ray, We have not stopped thinking about you one day this entire year. The image of your Dad and Ann's face while you were in surgery has haunted me everyday for a year. We think about you and your family everyday and my heart breaks everytime I see them and your Aunt Marie. What wonderful people they are. We will be seeing you Sunday. Our love always Stacy and Stephani Catalano
July 15, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
No words can express how we all feel. This week brings it all back into our minds of this dreadful week. Not that next week, next month, next year or our entire lives it will get better.
You are loved, cherished, and are in so many hearts my precious angel.
Love you,
Aunt Donna
Marie Harned
July 15, 2008
Dear Ray-Ray,
We are all feel so numb this week, it is still so unreal that we are all going through this. I keep wishing and praying that this is not true and I will call and hear your voice. We are walking around with a sick feeling inside and asking why? You are so loved and not a day goes by that you are not spoken of or thought of. What a great community we live in and what a great impression you have made on others. The Wolverine Den had new shirts made with your number on them, you will never be forgotten Ray!! Watch over us all this week especially, and always. The next few days will be unbearable. We love you Ray! #41
Love,
'Aunt' Marie
SUE
July 13, 2008
TO ALL OF THE PEOPLE WHO ARE HURTING YOU ARE ALL IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS AS WE COME UPON THIS TRAGIC NIGHT I KNOW RAY WATCHES OVER US AND IS WITH US IN SPIRIT WE HAVE ALL LOST SO MUCH OVER THIS YEAR AND EVEN AS EACH DAY MUST COME AND EVENTS HAPPEN THERE IS AND EMPTINESS THAT WE ALL SUFFER FROM A SADNESS THAT IS FELT RAY RAY WE MISS YOU AND AS WE APPROACH THE NEXT WEEK WE WILL NEED YOU TO GIVE US STRENGTH STEPHANIE IS HURTING SO BAD SHE DOESNT KNOW WHERE TO RUN WATCH OVER HER AND REMEMBER THE LOVE SHE HAS FOR YOU I KNOW YOUR BRIGHT SMILE IS LIGHTING UP THE SKY GOD GOT A SPECIAL ANGEL THAT NIGHT AND WE ALL LOST A SPECIAL SOUL WE LOVE YOU AND KEEP YOU IN OUR THOUGHTS AND IN OUR HEARTS FOREVER SUE
Dyanna Walters
July 13, 2008
Ray.. i cant truly believe we are approaching the week where no body ever could of imagined would happen and the week that left a scar on everybody who knew you. Ill never forget finding out about the horrible news that i couldnt get myself to actually believe and once i stepped foot in that hospital on july 17th it hit me and made me truly realize how many lives youve touched and what an imprint you left on so many peoples hearts. Ill never be able to thank your grandfather enough for letting me squeeze in on thursday night the 19th to see you, to hold your hand and just look at the beautiful face that i grew up with and i will never forget for as long as i live. Ill never forget holding your hand ray just saying i know hes strong he always has been. But that next day was the day i was dreading more then anything the day i thought truly would never come. But from that moment on so many people grew closer, 2 towns formed together because of you ray... your selden and kings park friends are closer then ever and when were around them i feel like your with us and smiling down on us. I just cant believe its been a year i can still picture every single seat taken up in the waiting rooms, a flow of posters and stuffed animals and pictures going in and out of your room. This is all a nightmare that i seem to replay over and over again in my head all of the time. I miss you so much ray and i promise during this hard week i will be there to visit you and i can not even begin to imagine how many others will be there also. I love you ray and thank you for all of those memories and for being some1 who could always make me laugh and smile. Happy anniversary in Heaven babe !! <33 I will never forget you *
Donna
July 11, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Cannot believe it will be a year soon. Miss you more than you will ever know. Every holiday is different now. I treasure every video and picture I have of you. Your adorable face when you were two looking around the corner doing peek a boo, the silly pictures of you always happy. A joy that brighten so many lives.
Love you sweet angel.
Aunt Donna
Always in our hearts and prays
Janet
July 11, 2008
Dear Annie, Jimmy, Jimmy Jr., Brianna, and Joey:
I can't stop thinking about you guys as the anniversary of that horrible day approaches. The emotions you all have had to endure this past year are too painful for any parent to imagine. The memorials and tributes you have organized in his honor have helped everyone who knew Ray-Ray and will always keep his memory alive. Annie, I passed you on the road the other day and I hope you and Jimmy are coping alright, I remember how concerned you were when Ray went through his surgery.
Happy Anniversary in heaven Ray-Ray. Watch over your family. You were loved so very much.
sue pedersen
July 9, 2008
RAY,
I can't believe were 4 days away from the begginning of our nightmare last year i can remember the day so clearly when stephanie called me i can see the corridors of the hospital filled with your family and so many freinds which is a true testimony of who you are and we always be in ours hearts if only time could take us back so many lives were forever changed that day I know your watching over us us please guides us through this next week and know we keep you in our hearts always love sue
Donna Del Vecchio
July 4, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Miss you more and more each day. No celebrations, no BBQ's on this day. It is to painful for us. Know that we love you so much. There is a big void in our hearts. We carry on for you. We treasure each moment we spent with you.
You were a hero to so many. You made such a difference in so many lives. Such sweet memories of you I will treasure forever. Your smile, your fun loving ways. A gift from God was given to us the day you were born. If only we knew your short time on Earth should have been savored. Our tears can fill up an ocean.
Nothing in life that hits us now seems to matter. Who cares that the world has gone crazy. Our world went crazy the day that you passed on.
Forever in our hearts. We love you so.
Aunt Donna, Aunt Lorriane, your cousins, your uncles Michael and Jim , your grandma, Jimmy and your mommy who misses you so
May God each day give us the strength to carry on.
P.S. A special prayer goes out to Scott who also passed on too soon. May your family find the strength too.
Sue pedersen
July 4, 2008
HEY RAY RAY
we all think of you so often time has'nt made it any easier steph still struggles with your loss as we all do I can't believe its been a year without you so Steph graduated and had prom but none of it was done without a thought of you please watch over her we miss that beautiful smile and think of you all the time I visited you the other day its just still not real to me anyhow I tell steph she can keep you alive in her dreams she'll never forget you we all miss you so much love ya sue
RIP RAY RAY
July 3, 2008
Marie Harned
July 3, 2008
Dearest Ray-Ray,
I have been thinking about you so much lately. It has been a rough few months with all the special events going on and you are not here to share them with us. We were at Jimmy's graduation party Saturday and I found myself walking over to the side by the tree your family planted and thinking of you, wishing you were here. Anne made it look so nice with the cross and plaques in memory of you.
I know you are always with me, I feel you around me all the time, I only wish I could see you and laugh with you again. I cannot believe in a few short days is when our nightmare began. I wish I never made that phone call to Anne that Saturday, our lives will never be the same, you will be forever in our hearts!!! We love you Ray-Ray. Happy 4th of July in Heaven!!!
Love,
'Aunt' Marie & family
Donna DelVecchio
July 3, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Mom, I, Aunt Lorraine, Grandma and all of us miss you so much. Mom was so happy to see Jimmy on his big day for the Prom.
We love you more than you will ever know. In our hearts forever. Please keep watching over us to give us all the strength to carry on and to do all we do in honor of your life here on Earth.
Love You Ray Ray
Aunt Donna
Lisa Quaranto
July 2, 2008
Dear Ray-Ray
This month is especially hard for everyone. The bbq for Jimmys graduation was this past weekend, it was nice to see that all of your family, friends and loved ones were together, Annie, your Dad brothers and sister, all of us miss you so much, but that goes without saying. We know you were there with all of us. Joeys brother Jack was all over the place, he reminds us of you when you were little, he has so much energy, just like you.
And as you know he will continue to wear your #41 when hes playing KPY football. You are missed so very very much. Sending you love, hugs & kisses. Lisa, John, Kassidy & Jack Quaranto xoxo
June 30, 2008
Ray-Ray:
As another summer begins and all the bbq's, outdoor sporting events, graduations and the graduates enjoy their last summer before they go off to college you and your family are forever in our hearts and our minds. Although you are at peace now and watching over them their suffering continues. Nothing is the same. When I am sitting in the bleachers and Annie and your Dad are not there with Brianna the magnitude of loss is felt by everyone. Remember how we would joke and call you, Jimmy and Brianna the 3 triplets? Your Dad was always so proud of you out on that field. All of the "KP sports moms" would laugh about seeing Annie driving all over Kings Park and called them "Annie sightings" but we admired her stamina and are sure she wishes you were here asking for a ride! The loss they must feel is unimaginable. I pray that god gives you all the strength to get through this difficult time.
Ray-Ray, you were one of the few kids that were kind to my son and you will never be forgotten!
KP Mom
Donna DelVecchio
June 28, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
Miss you more each and every day. Johnny graduated yesterday. I thought of you. Jimmy is graduating tomorrow - so, so proud of him. His strength has been incredible.
Wish I knew about the tribute in the year book - I would have taken out a full page. Would have written about how a joy you were to hold, how you were so excited at Christmas time when Santa came and you sat on his lap, how you always were so full of happiness, the videos of you trick or treating, the times in the summer when you spent endless hours in the little pool mom had for you, the Halloween party when you put a balloon under your custome and bumped bellies with your cousins and brother. Treasured moments and memories that fill my heart.
So many sweet memories of you. Always smiling, happy, and so easy going. A joy. A special gift was given to us all the day you were born.
I pray for all that love you. Nothing will ever be the same. I treasure each and every moment I spent with you.
So many lives were changed by you. Each day when I walk outside I look to the sky - you are there - a sole bird flying, a rainbow, a gorgeous sunset.
There is a hibicus plant where you once stood when you were confirmed. Gorgeous flowers bloom everyday. I think of you.
Your grandpa here on Earth was full of honor, strength and courage as he watched over you and prayed to keep you here with us. Your grandpa in Heaven, I know, is there with you now.
Forever and always you will have a place in so many hearts. You are our hero, our sunshine, are gift from God.
Love Ya My Sweet Child
Aunt Donna
Jeanne Ferrari
June 23, 2008
Laura, I think about you often......I am so sorry for the loss of your son, Raymond. I remember the GREAT MOM you were to your 2 boys.... I worked with you at the Mill Pond in Centerport, and remember the times you ran out and left the job, as your boys needed you. You are and always will be a Great Mom.... Never forget it, and remember all the good times with Ray........Jeanne Ferrari now living in Florida.......
Donna DelVecchio
June 21, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
I drive by every day where it happened. Still wish every day it is a bad nightmare.
You were a hero to so many. You are in so many hearts and souls. Nothing will ever be the same. If only the last time I saw you I gave you a bigger hug. Did not know what was to come.
Ray Ray I know you know how much you are loved and missed.
Your sense of humor, your smile, your courage. Still cannot yet bare to watch the many videos of you.
I pray each day for your mom and dad, stepmom. brothers and sister and, of course, all of your family, your true love, and friends.
Let us all make Ray Ray proud each and every day. Make a difference in his honor.
Love you my angel.
Aunt Donna
Stacy Catalano
June 19, 2008
Dear Ray, I can't believe t is almost a since our lives changed forever. Stephani and I were wishing it was all a dream, and we could forget 2007. We didn't want you to think we have forgotton you, we NEVER EVER WILL. Sending you our love ALWAYS. Stacy and Stephani Catalano
Kim Buttgereit
June 13, 2008
dear ray-ray...it's almost been a year and i thought the passing time would make it easier...but, not a day still goes by without you on my mind..i freshen up the memorial in kp...jimmy is in jamilee's wedding and joey will be there as well and we are having a candle ceremony along with the grandpas in your honor...you will be in our hearts that day for sure...honey continue watching over us as our guardian angel..all our love forever & always, the buttgereit family xoxoxox
Donna DelVecchio
May 25, 2008
Dearest Ray Ray,
How proud you must have been seeing Jimmy and Stephanie receiving the scholarships. Wish I, Aunt Lorraine, and Mommy would have known about it. We would have been there.
You know everything I do I do in honor of you now. All of us are finding as time goes by it is getting harder.
I am thankful for all the pictures and videos I have of you and Jimmy. Every Christmas is forever kept for us to watch over and over again. The countless gifts that mommy worked so hard to buy for you. You, Jimmy and mom playing together after the gifts were open. Simple but glorious times of innonence.
We love you and miss you more than you ever will know. This still to me is a dream. I do not want to believe it. Everything we do we do for you. You have taught us that kindness and a true heart can touch so many lives.
I love you
Aunt Donna
Marie Harned
May 21, 2008
Dear Ray-Ray,
Well the 10 month mark has passed and it stills feels so unreal. I went to the Newfield Scholarship Awards Monday night and your Dad, Anne, Jimmy, Joey & Brianna did such a good job presenting the Raymond Cuiffo Scholarship Award in your honor. All your friends and family were there to support your brother and family. It was so bittersweet. Jimmy received a scholarship which made us all proud and Stef won two as well! We all love and miss you so much Ray Ray. Please watch over us all as you have been. We feel you all around us!! #41 Never forget RIP Sweetheart,
Love, 'Aunt' Marie & family
P.S. Say hello to my mother-in-law.
The Quarantos
May 20, 2008
It seems unreal that it almost a year. You are still and always will be loved beyond words.
Stacy Catalano
April 22, 2008
Dear Ray, I have been trying to figure out a way to turn back 2007 and go back to the way it was. To erase all of the tragedy we all have endured and make everyone happy again. If that were true we would finally get to meet you. We think about you all the time and know we will meet you someday. Love Stacy and Stephani Catalano
Kim Buttgereit
March 28, 2008
Dear Ray-Ray,
Not a day goes by without me thinking about you..you are greatly missed and loved by so many..the lives you have touched is incredible..Jimmy is here a lot on weekends playing video games with Billy..he always makes me smile & laugh and the tattoos he has in your honor are so beautiful and touching..just want to you know that you are loved & missed every single day...God Bless you and continue to be our Angel....Kim, big Bill, Nick, JamiLee & lil Billy Buttgereit, Kings Park
Lorraine Meadows
March 23, 2008
Dear Ray Ray,
Happy 1st Easter in Heaven, We love you so much angel.
Love Aunt Lorraine, Uncle Jim and James
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