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Acacia
September 6, 2024
From a New Yorker, our firefighters are a part of the city´s lifeblood, and you are no different. I was only 8 when Katrina hit, and I remember asking my teacher that December if we could send Christmas presents to the people who saved the city. I don´t remember if anything came of a such a small wish from a kid so far away, nor did I know your name at the time, but I hope that you can feel the love and support of everyone still down here. There´s gonna be a long line of people who´ll want to tell you how much you meant to them once they meet you up there.
To Kai,
Seeing your message sent only a few days ago touched my heart. Your dad was a great man, and I can only imagine how proud he is of you. Hopefully, you are safe and healthy.
Sending you and your family love and peace from the City that Never Sleeps.
Kai
September 5, 2024
I´m not entirely sure if anyone will see or read this, but I just wanted to say that I consistently come back to this page to read about the stories of my father and the heartfelt condolences that you´ve given to my mom and I. I´m eternally grateful that I have the ability to see just how much my father impacted those who were lucky enough to have him in their life. Reading these stories about him makes me strive to be a better man.
I really can see in my daily life just how much I take after both of my parents. I´m so thankful to those around me who keep his memory alive and help me in my quest to get to know him better.
I know he´s looking down at my mom and I and smiling.
I´m glad my dad finally has the presence of his mother beside him again. Especially because I know just how much mine means to me.
CAROL DUDENHEFER
August 4, 2010
HAPPY BIRTHDAY,RICKY
IT WILL BE 5 YEARS THIS DECEMBER,YOU ARE STILL LOVED AND MISSED SO MUCH.IT DOESN'T GET MUCH BETTER FOR,YOUR MOM,I STILL THINK OF YOU EVERYDAY.
LOVE YOU WITH ALL OUR HEARTS ,MOM,DAD,CRYSTAL,AND CALLIE
Carol Dudenhefer
August 3, 2008
Happy birthday Ricky,another year has gone by,time is going so fast,of course you are forever young.
I think of you everyday,there is no one to talk to about you.Crystal can't mention you without breaking down,Dad shuts down,it's too sad for him.But Callie and I talk about you all the time,she remembers you so well.She and I watch home videos of you,I won't let her forget,
her Godfather.Callie's in the gifted and talented program,just like you ,Ricky.
Don't see Kai,or hear much about him,Dad and I don't go into New Orleans much,health problems,sure do miss him,Callie misses him too.
Tomorrow,on your birthday,I'll have masses said for you,Raoul,Maw Maw ,and Paw Paw.I can't get through mass without crying,so I've been sitting in the crying room at church,with the children,so as not to cause attention.I love you Ricky with all of my heart,and as time goes by I'm getting closer to being with you again.
Love,Your Mom
ps.also Dad,Crystal,and Callie send their love
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Gay Peacock
June 16, 2008
Another Father's Day has come and gone. Kai told me he was going to write you a song and put it in his Daddy's Memory Box. Kai is growing so fast and takes after both his parents. Not a day goes by that he does not say something or do something that reminds us of his Daddy. Kai was awarded the Reading award, just like his Daddy and the Math award just like his Mommy. We are so proud of him as I know you are.
Love and Miss you,
Ms Gay
Kara Marinello
June 15, 2008
Happy Father's Day Ricky
I miss you so much. You are a great father and wonderful cousin and friend. God bless you. I know you are with us in spirit. Love you
RONNIE AND JANET DAUTERIVE
June 15, 2008
HAPPPY FATHERS DAY RICKY. YOUR AUNT JANET AND UNCLE RONNIE MISS YOU, AND KNOW YOU ARE WITH MOM AND DAD (MINE), AS WELL AS LITTLE RAOUL.
Carol Dudenhefer
June 13, 2008
Happy Fathers Day Ricky,
We love and miss you very much.
Your Mom
Carol Dudenhefer
June 13, 2008
Happy Fathers Day,Ricky,You were the best Father in your short time here.I know you're looking after Kai from Heaven.He's precious Ricky,saw him in his dance review,so cute.I know you were there too.The outside wall of the auditorium was covered with green dragonflies,was that a sign from you ,for your son,I like to think so.I even brought one home with me,it landed in my hair.I love and miss you so much.
Your Mom.
Carol Dudenhefer
August 1, 2007
Ricky,Saturday August 4th,is your 2nd heavenly birthday,you would have been 35.So young,and so much to look forward to.I still question God everyday,I can't understand it all.When my time comes,I want some answers.You had so much to give to this world,I know in your short 33 yrs you gave more than most,but you had so much more,so much more,to your family and friends.
I went to see, THE SIMPSON"S MOVIE,as I watched it,I could picture you sitting there,I imagined hearing you laugh,I think you would have liked it.
Saw Kai last week,he is growing up so much,I see you in him so much.
I don't know what I'll do Saturday,bake a chocolate cake I guess,be thinking of you as I always do.
One thing now ,I can remember you and smile,before I couldn't think of you without crying.
Happy Birthday son,hope you ,Maw Maw, Paw Paw,Raoul,and all other loved ones are celebrating.
Love your Mom,Dad,Crystal,and Callie
Lori Bell
June 17, 2007
Happy Father's Ricky. We know you are celebrating it with Jesus. Love and miss you, Lori, Buddy, Chris & Jeff.
CAROL DUDENHEFER
March 17, 2007
HAPPY ST.PATRICKS DAY,RICKY
LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH,I KNOW YOU'LL BE LOOKING OUT FOR KAI WHEN HE GETS HIS TONSILS OUT.
LOVE.YOUR MOM
CAROL DUDENHEFER
February 14, 2007
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY,RICKY.
I LOVE YOU,AND MISS YOU,I THINK ABOUT YOU EVERYDAY.
LOVE,YOUR MOM
Carol Dudenhefer
December 3, 2006
Thank you,son,for the penny from heaven.December 2nd,was a horrible day for me,I think I cried most of the day ,just wanted to be alone.
My birthday will never be the same,that was the last time, last year,that I saw you alive.Last Thanksgiving was the last holiday I spent with you and Kai.This time of the year will always be difficult.
Saturday,Dec. 2nd,I searched all day for a sign,I was just about to give up hope,resigned myself to the fact that I wasn't getting a sign,so decided to go to bed and cry myself to sleep.
,then I found a penny in my bed,with the date 2005,I'll take this as my sign,I saved it with the penny you sent me with your birth date.
And the wonderful dream Crystal had of you,she said it was, oh so real,and she got to hug you over and over again,it made her very happy.
I love you son,with all of my heart,I still think of you every minute of the day.And your precious son looks just like you,he has your beautiful smile,and your sweet ways.
Till we see each other again,all of my love,
Your Mom
First you pinch the heads off, then....
November 28, 2006
Father and son after a water fight
November 28, 2006
Hey Uncle Ricky, what do you want Santa to bring you?
November 28, 2006
Gay Peacock
November 28, 2006
Dearest Kyndel and Kai,
This hasn't been an easy year for the two of you. As one who cares for you both, there have been many times I wished I could somehow spared you and Kai some of the pain, or at least been able to cushion the blow a bit.
I've watched you with admiration as you have have faced each difficulty with strength and courage. And even in those times when you wanted to give up, you somehow found it in yourself to carry on, and you will continue to do so. You are a remarkable person
But even though this is your road to travel, look along side from time to time, the ones cheering you on, will be your family and friends.
Should I just leave it like this or add how much Ricky is missed? I think I will add how much I miss Ricky. I miss him so much. Ricky is thought about everyday. I miss him being a Daddy to Kai, a husband and friend to Kyndel. A sometimes irritation son-in-law that made me laugh, even when I didn't want to. I miss the way he teased me about celery being in everything I cooked and then Ricky searched the Internet and found a picture of a stalk of celery and put it on my computer as my screen-saver. Those thoughts still make me smile and even giggle a bit. I miss Ricky imitating my voice, that sounded like a country hick. I miss his teasing about Kyndel and I agreeing on almost everything. The absolute thrill Ricky got,when I said he could go thru my purse and wallet. It was like a treasure hunt to him. I miss being called a Naborian, which were Amazons from the planet Narobia. I miss the man he was, and am thinking if he had lived he would have become an even better man, if that is possible. I miss his smile, the sweet one, the loving one, and the mischievous one. I enjoy the pride he took in cooking and how important it was to him to have it just right. I miss the strumming of his guitar, and playing the piano. Ricky taught himself the song The Entertainer, and played it every time he came to my house.
How can I put all of that, and should I? Yes, I should. Ricky was and is a very special part of our family and is missed more than I thought a person could be missed. I love Ricky for being Ricky.
Love,
Mom and Bam-ma
Jennifer Danigole
August 4, 2006
Happy Birthday Ricky, just wish you were here to celebrate. I love and miss you Kyndel! Call me sometime if you need to talk
Kyndel McCurley
August 4, 2006
Strumming guitar...
Mommy and Kai singing...
One of the days I feared the most since your death has come. It has certainly been incredibly hard with tremendous amounts of tears. Kai and I went to church at St. Louis Cathedral and it was peaceful, very quiet. In fact, the house has been very quiet. I still wait for the days I remember so vividly of such great laughter. I miss your laugh. I miss laughing with you. I miss laughing at you. I just simply miss you. Kai misses you.
We went and got your favorite birthday cake from Landry's (and yes, it's still a problem buying it as a WHOLE cake, but like always, it's your birthday and it's done.) And this year, it just means so much more to accomplish this feat. The cake is pleasing as always, but this year, it just doesn't taste as good. Maybe it is because you are not here enjoying every bite and "yummy-ing" every taste. Maybe it is because you are not here picking at all the semi-sweet morsels on my plate and cracking up laughing with chocolate all over your face (like Philip from SNL.) It just doesn't taste the same.
In fact, nothing is the same. I find myself writing cards that will never be read, cried over, or laughed about. I find myself putting "2006" in the corner of all the cards knowing there will be many years to come with different years in the very same corner. And I wonder, how?... every year... am I going to be able to pull through this? Life is just not the same. I knew you had made my life so much better, I knew that, I said that. I just didn't know the extent.
Everyday we wake it's just another day without you and most of the time, it is unbearable. You also made Kai's life so much better. When we were making the book for your birthday he was answering specific questions I was asking about you. Most of his replies included "fun, love, and playing." To me, this says it all about you guys relationship. He is so much like you it is amazing. Everyday...at least once a day...I look at him and say "Ricky McCurley." He used to smirk and say, "I am NOT Ricky McCurley, I am Kai McCurley." Now he knows it is a great compliment, and he simply relishes it by smiling and thinking about you. It is by far some of the sweetest moments since your death.
Our family knows what a wonderful man you are, but when you see it in your son's face, it's absolutely irreplaceable. What a wonderful job you must have done to make such an impression on your four-year-old son in such a short period of time. Kai misses you immensely. I miss you immensely. And, we wish you the happiest birthday possible in heaven, while we celebrate your life here on earth. I love you and miss you so much it truly, truly hurts. Happy Birthday to my honey, my love, my best friend.
Sweetie and Kai
Carol Dudenhefer
August 4, 2006
Today is Ricky's birthday,he would have been 34,These past few days, leading up to this day, were very hard.
Now that it's here,I not sure what to do,I'm missing you so much.
I'll still bake a chocolate cake,light a candle,send a balloon up to heaven.Maybe go to church,have some masses said for you.No matter what I do ,you will be on my mind,as you are always.
Happy Birthday Ricky,We love you,please send us sign today.
Love,Mom,Dad,Crystal,and Callie
Gay Peacock
August 3, 2006
Dearest Kyndel and Kai,
Tomorrow, the 4th of August, will be a difficult day for everyone who loved Ricky. He would have been 34 years old. We will still celebrate Ricky's Birthday with chocolate cake, chocolate icing and chocolate filling. Kai loves chocolate almost as much as his Daddy did. The other day Kai was in the living room walking around and saying "I NEED some chocolate." Then he went into my bedroom and I heard dresser drawers open and close. I ask what he was doing and he said "I KNOW you have some chocolate in here someplace." We all laughed at Kai, and how much he is like his Daddy. Not just the love of chocolate, but the way he walks, the way he can "Tune Out" everyone when he is busy, his sly little smile, and many many other things. Ricky's memory will be kept alive by many, especially Kai. He is a wonderful mix of his Mommy and Daddy. There will be many years of laughter and wonderment provided by you and Ricky's son, Kai.
Love,
Mom and Bam-ma
Carol Dudenhefer
May 29, 2006
I'm writing this, on Memorial Day, as if Rickey,is still here,as I feel he is in spirit.
Rickey,there is not a moment in my life, that I'm not missing you.
I go through all of your childhood pictures,and I'm thankful for all the memories you gave me.
You always had that wonderful smile, it stayed with you into adulthood.
You made me so proud,I was truly blessed to have a son like you for 33years,if only it could of been longer.
You were suppose to bury me,it's just not fair,my life is forever changed,the minute I put my feet on the floor,when I wake up,till the time I go to bed you are on my mind.
I look up at the sky alot lately,and wonder where you are and if you are happy and ok.
I know what your beliefs were,so I know you're with God,and Jesus,it's just sometimes, I wonder.
I will never let you be forgotten,I talk about you to everyone I meet,I tell everyone I have two children,my daughter here,and my son, who graduated to Heaven.
Rickey,the only thing that keeps me going,is believing,that I will be reunited with you one day.Please let your beautiful face,be the first thing I see when I die.
Dad had a very vivid dream of you that brought him to tears,he said he will never forget how beautiful you looked,you were absolutely glowing,and very happy.
I've had many people that have lost children,tell me that you will come to me,and let me know that you are ok,they have all experienced this, in time,you have sent me many signs,hearts,pennies,blue birds,and a rainbow in my car,but I'm still waiting for that special dream.
I love you son, with all of my heart,I will keep your memory alive till the day I die.
And I truly love and miss Kai.
I am so heart broken.
Love,Your Mom
Kyndel Peacock-McCurley
May 4, 2006
To those who loved Ricky,
I have wanted to write something for such a long time now, but the time never seemed appropriate. If it is appropriate now, I really don't know. The feelings Kai and I have had about Ricky's death is overwhelming and putting it into words seemed hopeless. It is still so incredibly raw.
I really would like to thank those of you who have said kind words about Ricky and what he meant to each of you. He meant so much to so many different people. Now I would like to express what he meant to me and Kai. The world. He meant the world. He means the world. He meant laughter, happiness, comfort, love, oh and did I say laughter? There are so many of you who have written about Ricky's ability to make a person laugh. Well, thankfully for ten years we had laughter. Everyday. Every single day. Not a day passed that we didn't have laughter, and now that daily laughter is gone. I know it will be back someday when I think of the things he did to make me and Kai laugh, but now there isn't much laughter.
And, thankfully we had happiness. Certainly I had experienced happiness in my life, but the three happiest days of my life were spent with Ricky...our wedding, the birth of our beautiful baby boy, and the day we reunited after not seeing each other for six days after Hurricane Katrina. I had spoken with him on day three (thanks to Alan Boisdore on top of the Bellsouth Building holding onto a pole--thanks Alan.) Alan said, "Kyndel, he's not the same Ricky." I was thinking "Oh gosh, this hurricane thing really did him in...great...now he's a cynic." I should have known better. Ricky would never be a cynic. What Alan meant was that his beautiful head of hair that once graced the top of his information-filled head was now gone. Shaved. All of it. And, that was how he was different. He wrote of that conversation in his journal. It simply stated, "I talked to Kyndel, she cried. I cried. I've never been so happy to hear her voice." Reading that made me cry.
You see, he offered me comfort. A comfort no one else could ever possibly offer or give. Just sitting on the sofa beside me without saying anything, he gave me comfort. Seeing him with Kai and me never worrying about either of them when they were together gave me comfort. The look on his face when we locked eyes gave me comfort. Reading his journal gives me comfort. Everything about Ricky was comfort.
And love? I had never known a love so strong. I had never felt a love so strong. I had never even seen a love so strong. I know I was fortunate to be with him for ten lovely years. Of course I wish there would have been the rest of our lives. We used to talk about when we'd turn gray and sit on the porch, with him playing the guitar and me singing, Kai coming home from college saying he needed more money and us telling him to grow up...he was 40 already. He had already started turning gray...he blamed it on me and Kai. He never gave me a reason to turn gray. Personally I think it was the real reason he shaved his head. He was compassionate and loving and sweet and tender and thoughtful and adoring and most of all, he was my absolute best friend, my truest soul mate.
I will certainly miss him for the wonderful husband he was to me and the adoring father he was to Kai. But more than anything, I will miss my best friend...forever. How many people are lucky enough to say they loved and married their best friend? I was one of the lucky ones.
I am so angry at God for taking away our life and our happiness, but something that Ricky wrote in his journal rings in my head everyday. "God never gives us more than we can handle." At this very moment I totally disagree. But then I think, Ricky was always right. In time, "God never gives us more than we can handle."
Carole Hebert
April 4, 2006
Dear Kyndel, Kai, and Sis,
Not a day goes by that you all are not in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you so much for sending me the DVD Ricky made of the storm. He was such a remarkable young man. Kyndel, the love Ricky had for you and Kai was beautiful to see. I remember when I came to see Kai, shortly after his birth, Ricky wanted to make sure that I, a mother of four children and a grandmother of eleven, knew how to hold the most precious thing in the world, his son. I still smile when I think of how gently he placed Kai in my arms. I know you all are heartbroken and I grieve with you and for you.
Love,
Aunt Carole
Laura Lee
April 1, 2006
Peacock,
I cant imagine how you and your family must be feeling. I heard about Ricky and thought I had been punched in the stomach. I remember the news about the firefighter that died but I had no idea it was your Ricky until Sandra told me. Kyndell, I am so sorry. Please call me at 318-606-2449. I'd love to talk to you. I remember you and Rickys wedding was the most beautiful I had ever seen. Your dance said it all. The way you looked at each other, it was so evident the mutual love. I am so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.
Laura
Ann Edmonson
March 22, 2006
Kyndel,
I recently heard of the death of Ricky and my heart just sank. Please know I have thought about you and Kie everyday since. My immediate thoughts went to you and Ricky frying catfish in the breakroom at Charity hospital for your birthday. That Fry-Daddy got us in serious trouble, but it wasn't the last time. From the birthday book that Ricky made you to the many times he came to see you at the hospital, it was obvious how much in love the two of you were. You were so proud of him and always spoke of him with such high regard. Reading these memories and entries only skims the top of what a true individual he was. He was true to you. He was true to Kie. He was true to his family. And, he was true to his job. I truly hope and pray that you, Kie, family, friends, and co-workers find some peace in knowing that Ricky was so well-respected and loved. Just the way he looked at you said it all. Unforunately, I never had the opportunity to know Ricky with Kie, but I can only imagine by the words I have read about him. My deepest and most sincere sympathies to you and your family.
Ann
Ben Teabout
March 18, 2006
Maw Maw Carol and Paw Paw,
I am so very sorry I am late writing something. I know Ricky and I were not as close as I always wanted but I do want you both to know that I always looked up to him. I wanted to be so much closer to Ricky because I knew that we related on many levels. I am so sorry that I did not get to see him on Thaksgiving like I had wanted to. I hope he understands. I miss him so much and think about him all the time. I miss you guys and am so glad I got to see you for Christmas. I always looked up to Ricky and will always think about him through life. I always wonder "What Would Ricky Do"? I know how much he touched everyone he came into contact with and how much he made this world a better place. I love him now always and forever.
Nick McManus
March 16, 2006
Dear Kyndel,
I know this is little late but there are a couple of us guys that wanted to do something
for you and Kai. I (like Leo) had the privilege of meeting Ricky while we were in New
Orleans back in September/October. I came down for Ricky’s funeral with Kevin
Swanson and Greg Stoffel. I got to speak to you briefly but with everything going on I
wouldn’t expect you to remember.
I rode with Ricky on Ladder 13 while working at the central station on Decatur Sr. I
instantly knew Ricky was someone special the first day we worked together. I was
assigned the officer in charge of Ladder 13 that day and Ricky never mentioned the fact
that he was a Captain. Eventually someone told me he had recently been promoted.
When I asked Ricky why he didn’t tell me he was a Captain, he said it wasn’t really a big
deal. I told him it was a big deal and offered him the position of being in charge of our
company and of course he declined. From that point on I always called Ricky “Captain”.
he would always smile and say he wasn’t used to being called Captain. It was evident in
a very short time that he had earned the right to be called Captain by his performance on
the street and his positive attitude in the fire house.
In the short time I knew Ricky I could tell he was a devoted husband and father and
overall a great guy. I will never forget the many stories he told about New Orleans
and the tours he gave us of the areas affected by Katrina and the flooding (including your
home). I received Ricky’s DVD of the storm on the day of the accident. Two days later
I got the news of Ricky’s passing and was crushed. I always felt bad that I didn’t
get to thanks and how much I appreciated his kindness.
I’m writing this letter because I though you would like to hear how Ricky affected so
many lives and someday you will tell Kai how much his father was liked and respected.
by firefighters throughout the country.
If you ever come to the Chicago area please looks us up. You and Kai would have a place
to stay and we would be happy to show you around.
Sincerely,
Nick McManus
Carol Dudenhefer
February 26, 2006
My son,Ricky,what was he all about?
What was his purpose on this Earth?
As his Mother,I think I know him better than anyone.
Ricky,was about unconditional love,their wasn't the word ,hate, in his vocabulary,and he had an extensive vocabulary.
He was about peace,he was a peace maker,he hated conflict,even as a little boy.He just lit up the room,you just knew he was special.His smile, he always had that wonderful smile.
He was so intelligent,the teachers loved him,he sometimes got in trouble,when he asked questions,that they couldn't answer.
He had a quest for knowledge that was with him all of his life.
And his love of chocolate,well,he inherited that from me.I'm so glad I baked him a chocolate cake for Thanksgiving,the last one I would bake for him.
And his cooking,he liked to cook,he came from a cooking family.
His Maw Maw,was a great cook,we both tried to cook,red beans,like her,never could get them to taste like hers.But, he made a great pot roast.And his turkey,a couple of Thanksgivngs ago,he made Thanksgiving dinner for us,the turkey was perfect,he was so proud,he even took pictures,of the turkey,of course.
There are so many stories,to tell about Rickys life,there is not enough space here.
He was always my little hero,as he was to his little sister,Crystal,he took on the role of big brother with a passion,it was amazing how nurturing,caring,and protective he was,him being only 11 years old,just as he would be with Kai someday.
I believe,that he will Kai's guardian angel,and will guide him through life,to become the kind of man that he was.
Yes ,Ricky's life on this Earth,was meant to teach love,and peace to all who knew him.Ricky was the same age as Jesus,when he crossed over,that says something.
What brings me some kind of comfort,is that I know Ricky,believed in God,and he is in heaven with his Maww Maww,Paww Paww,Grandma and Grandpa McCurley,and his cousin Raoul,and there having a good old time,Maw Maw's teaching him her secret,for her red beans.
I know my dear son,I'll see you again when it's my time.
We love you with all of our hearts,till we meet again.
LOVE MOM,DAD,CRYSTAL,and GOD DAUGHTER CALLIE
Dee Looney
February 24, 2006
Kyndel and our sweet Kai,
I have thought and thought about what we could possibly say to embody Ricky and what he meant to our family, but words are simply not enough. We loved Ricky. We loved him for the husband and friend he was to you, and we loved him for the father and playmate he was to Kai. We loved him for the wonderful uncle he was to Timmy and Taylor, and for the fun-loving brother-in-law he was to me and Troy. When I think of all the words and phrases that have been used to describe Ricky, I think "yeah, those are all so true." But, something is still missing. The truth is is that there is no single word or phrase to describe exactly what Ricky meant on so many different levels to so many different people. I know you and Kai grieve daily, but the one thing that sticks out in my mind more than anything is when Joe, his friend and fellow fire fighter, said "whatever the angels didn't know about you and Kai, they know now." And trust me, they knew it all in about two days. He spoke of you and his love for Kai like he had never known that type of love before. Complete unconditional, undeniable love. We love you and are here for you and Kai whenever you need us.
Dee, Troy, Timmy, and Taylor
Patti Steagall
February 24, 2006
Dear Kyndel and Kai,
It is difficult to put into words how much my family and I admired and loved Ricky. He made everyone feel welcomed to your home, whether it was a crawfish boil or a birthday party. We have been unable to finish watching the Katarina DVD you gave us. Just knowing that Ricky made it was heart-wrenching. The picture you gave me with the DVD will have a place of honor in my home when it is rebuilt. We are all so proud of Ricky and all of his accomplishments. But, his obvious love and devotion to you was a pleasure to see, and his tremendous love he had for his "little man" was heart-swelling. It was such complete adoration for the two of you everytime you spoke with him and even saw him look at you both. My heart aches for you, Kai and all that knew and loved this exceptional young man. All of you are in my daily prayers.
Love,
Patti
Pat Cruz
February 23, 2006
Kyndel,
Not a day goes by that I don't think about Ricky. He was a good man and a wonderful husband and father. Kai will grow up to be as noble and good looking as his daddy. You know we are always here for you and Kai.
Love,
KARA MARINELLO
February 19, 2006
KYNDEL AND KAI YOU HAVE KNOWN RICKY AS A HUSBAND AND A FATHER.BUT I HAVE KNOWN RICKY AS A COUSIN, FRIEND, PLAYMATE, AND LIKE A BROTHER. RICKY WILL BE GREATLY MISSED BY HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS. HE WAS SO COMPASSIONATE ABOUT HIS DREAMS AND SUCCESS AND YOU SHARED THAT WITH HIM. GRIEF CAN MAKE SO MANY OF US ANGRY. BUT I HOPE THAT THERE WILL BE NO ANGER BUT COMPASSION FOR HIS LOVED ONES. HE SO LOVED YOU AND HIS FAMILY AND I HOPE WE ALL CAN SHARE IN THAT LOVE. AUNT CAROL UNCLE BOB AND CRYSTAL I PRAY THAT THE HEARTACHE OF THE LOSS OF RICKY WILL SOON EASE KNOWING HE IS WITH JESUS AND HIS FATHER. I KNOW RICKY WOULD NOT WANT US TO LIVE IN SADNESS. AS HE HAD HOPES FOR THE FUTURE, YOU WILL HAVE HOPE IN YOURS. I LOVE YOU DEARLY AND KNOW IN MY HEART RICKY WILL ALWAYS BE THE HERO AS WE PLAYED COPS AND ROBBERS WITH ROAUL, A BROTHER THAT WAS ALWAYS THERE, AND A SON THAT WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS MOTHER'S SIDE. FOR MANY PEOPLE HAVE SEEN RICKY AS A HERO THAT SAVED MANY LIVES IN AUGUST OF 2005. WE LOVE YOU RICKY
Ricky with childhood friends, Billy and Vic.
February 15, 2006
love at first sight
February 15, 2006
Pround moment in Ricky's life
February 15, 2006
Ricky's love of music started early
February 15, 2006
Rehearsal Dinner
February 14, 2006
Ricky being welcomed into the Peacock family
February 14, 2006
Taking Kai to his first Mardi Gras
February 14, 2006
Are you sure he won't break?
February 14, 2006
Ready or not here we come.
February 14, 2006
Ricky sharing his love of reading with Kai
February 14, 2006
Best friends
February 14, 2006
Ricky and Jennifer, his godchild.
February 11, 2006
In Memory of Ricky tattoo
February 11, 2006
The Families
February 11, 2006
Vacationing at Universal Studios with Spiderman
February 11, 2006
Ricky and his mom, Carol
February 11, 2006
Honeymoon in Italy
February 11, 2006
Ricky and Ho Ho
February 11, 2006
The "guys"
February 11, 2006
Sleeping with his baby
February 11, 2006
Ricky and Kai
February 11, 2006
Shirley Gill
February 6, 2006
I am so deeply saddend when I chatted with Gay today and found out the lost of your Husband. Am so sorry for all the heart break you and Kai and Gay have had to endure for the last 8 months. Trying to think of some comfort words but can't....just wonder why God lets things happen, there must be a reason.
God Bless you and all of your Family.
Shirley Gill
Jenny McCormick
December 27, 2005
Kyndel,
My heart breaks each time I think about the loss of my dear friend and when I see the sadness in your eyes. Words may do little to comfort you now, but may they bring you peace in expressing how exceptional Ricky was and just how deeply he impacted all who knew him. To merely say that Ricky embodied what it means to be a perfect husband and father is not enough; you had to be one of the lucky ones who got to see him interact with you and Kai to truly appreciate how happy he was with his life. I remember watching him countless times reach for you to simply hold your hand or watching while he playfully tickled Kai just to hear him laugh. There a hundred things I can think of that make me smile when I think about Ricky, from his utter embarrassment when we “strutted” through Beau Rivage to his incessant teasing about our trip to Houston during one of the worst storms ever. His ability to make people laugh was incredible, as was his genuine interest in helping those he loved. There’s no way to explain or rationalize something so unfair, but I believe that Ricky had no regrets about the way he lived his life. All of his pursuits were achieved with perfection, and his hard work and dedication always paid off. Although the hurt is overwhelming right now, in time your memories of Ricky will make you smile and fill your heart with happiness. You know how much I love you and Kai, both of you own a very big piece of my heart. The days and maybe even years ahead may be filled with hardship and heartache, but I promise that I’ll be there every step of the way to help keep Ricky’s memory alive and to make sure Kai knows how very much his daddy loved him. With all my heart, I love you.
Lori Bell
December 19, 2005
Kyndel & Kai, may God comfort you in this time of need. I am so honored that Ricky was a part of my life. His kindness, love of life and humor will be etched in our hearts forever. I love you "Kandel & Kai "curley-q". Lodie Bell
KELLI & DAMIEN BOURNE
December 18, 2005
Dear Kyndel and Kai,
I am so sorry to hear of your unfortunate lose, my family and i will continue to pray for you and kai, so that you both remain strong through your time of grief and pain. Eventhough i've only had the pleasure of meeting Ricky once, just being in his presence you can tell that he was a sincere and loving person, and i'm sure he was one of a kind husband and father. Right now it may seem hard because it happened so suddenly, but just know that you have God and your family to help you threw these trying times. FOREVER IN OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS, KELLI AND DAMIEN
O'Donovan Christopher
December 18, 2005
Dear kyndell and kai.
I know this is a tough time for us all. With God's help, you and I will make it. It was a pleasure working with and knowing Rick. He will be missed.
Love O'D
vickie guercio
December 17, 2005
Dear Kyndel and Kai,
Our prayers and thoughts are with you. We will miss Rick, your neighbors at 311 Sharon Drive.
Roy,Vickie and Remy Guercio
Tim and Taylor Looney
December 17, 2005
Dear Kyndel (Choo Choo) and Kai,
We will miss Ricky too. We loved and admired Ricky as an uncle and as a friend. We will be here for the two of you.
Love,
DAUTERIVE FAMILY
December 15, 2005
TO OUR SISTER,AUNT,(CAROL DUDENHEFER)
YOU BROUGHT RICKY INTO THE WORLD AND WE ALL THANK YOU. RICKY NOW BELONGS TO ALL WHO LOVED HIM. NOTHING IS MORE TRAGIC THAN TO LOSE HIS CHILD, AT ANY AGE OR CIRCUMSTANCE. HE TOOK A WIFE, BUT NEVER LEFT YOUR ARMS. HE VOWED TO CARE FOR YOU, IF NEEDED IN YOUR OLD AGE, AND HE WILL KEEP HIS PROMISE. HE IS HERE WITH YOU AND OUR WHOLE FAMILY TILL WE ALL JOIN HIM. YOU WERE AN AWESOME MOM, AND HE LOVED YOUR DEARLY. HE IS A TESTAMENT OF YOUR LOVING CARE, AS A MOM, AND WE ALL CAN SEE THE RESULTS. GOD BLESS YOU CAROL, AS WELL AS BOB,FOR A JOB WELL DONE
Arlene Fairchild
December 15, 2005
Our deepest sympathy. Our prayers are with you. Arlene Fairchild and William Morton.
William Morton
December 15, 2005
Our sincere condolences. Our Prayers are with you. William Morton and Arlene Fairchild.
Trent Meche
December 15, 2005
Dearest Kyndel,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the family. I know Our Blessed Mother took Ricky home to the loving arms of our Lord and he is now a Saint in heaven praying and waiting for us to join him. May Our Lady keep you under the mantle of her protection and the love of Jesus sustain you and all our family in this time of grief.
All of our love and prayers,
Trent and Iran
Kevin Swanson
December 14, 2005
Words cannot describe how sorry I am for your families loss. I am lucky enough to have worked with Ricky after Katrina. He was an outstanding man. We kept in touch via telephone after I returned to Illinois. He shared many stories of family and friends and I feel lucky to have gotten to know him. His personality and attitude was something to look up to. I feel lucky to have had the pleasure of his friendship, and wish all the family the best in the future.
You are in my families thoughts and prayers.
Gay Peacock
December 14, 2005
Dearest Kyndel and Kai,
There are many words that have been used to describe Ricky, and they are all true, but one that your Dad and I are fortunate to be able to use is son-in-law. Ricky was the son-in-law that every parent dreams of for their daughter. Not only did he adore you with all his heart, but he was also a wonderful father to our grandson, Kai. Ricky knew what it meant to love unconditionally and to give of himself wholly and without reservation. You and Kai were always at the forefront of his mind and he acted accordingly. Whether it was as simple as letting you sleep-in, or taking Kai to get a chocolate chip cookie after church on Sundays, his actions always reflected his love and devotion for his wife and son. With Ricky as your husband, I took comfort in knowing that there was no better man to love and care for you. As a father to Kai, I took pride in knowing that my grandson would grow to be a gentleman like his father, a man whose virtues are true and pure. And as a son-in-law, I took pleasure in knowing that my life was blessed with Ricky’s compassion and steadfast devotion to my daughter and grandson. He was so much more than a son-in-law, a husband, a father, a brother, a son, and a firefighter. He was also a teacher, a musician, a scholar, a friend, a cook, a comedian, a handyman, a photographer, a leader, and a motivator. I know I have been blessed with having Ricky in my life. Physically he may no longer be a part of my everyday life, but emotionally he will remain a part of our family. Yes, he will be missed and remembered by many, but his memory will be my inspiration for leading an honest and fulfilled life. In Ricky's absence I mourn, but in his memory I thrive. God bless you my dear, Ricky.
Love,
Your Mom and Kai's Bam-ma
Elsie Stratton
December 13, 2005
Dear Gay, Kyn, and Kai,
I was deeply saddened to hear of your loss. May the Good Lord Bless you and keep you through these trying times. My thoughts and prayers will be there for you.
Karen Emoto
December 11, 2005
Dearest Kyn and family,
I am sadden to hear of Ricky's passing, he was a hero to all and although I have never met him, I do know Gay Peacock. She was very proud of him and of you, Kyn. May God be with you and your family, peace be with you.
Aloha ke akua, Karen Kim
Terrie Blaine
December 11, 2005
I feel so deeply saddened for Kyndel and that sweet little boy Kai. My heart goes out to you and my sweet dear friend Gay, I know how much you loved him and he loved you back just as much, it always showed in the way he spoke to you and treated you I know this through your mail dear friend., You were all so blessed with his presents as he were blessed with all of you, I ache and mourn with you, God will shine his light of Angels on all of you and help you find the strength to see you through this horrible time, I pray that each day you can find something to smile about if only for a few, you all deserve some goodness, laughter, and happiness in your lives at this very moment, God Bless you all, I love you from the bottom of my heart and soul, I hope you feel my hugs, I'm squeezing tightly.
Terrie.
Carmen Harber
December 11, 2005
Kyndel,
You are constantly in my thoughts and prayers.I think the song i can only imagine expresses how i feel for what you are going through,I can only imagine! Through it all I hope you remember you are so loved and supported,and we are all here for you.
Love,
Carmen
jamie fultner
December 11, 2005
kp sorry for your lost, but you and your son are in my thoughts i love you both
Denise Lewis-Anderson
December 11, 2005
Dear Kyndel, Kye and Rick's extended family: My heart bleeds for you because of your great loss. I got to know Rick because he worked with my fiance', O'Donovan Christopher (O'D) at Engine 4. Rick welcomed O'D with full arms and a full heart at Engine 4. He also welcomed me and my children there. We all will miss him greatly. My children remember "Mr. Rick" fondly. My heart and prayers will continually be with all of you. I was glad God gave me the opportunity to meet you at the funeral Kyndel. I felt your beautiful spirit. May God comfort your broken heart.
Denise
Carol,Bob,and Crystal Dudenhefer
December 10, 2005
We are Ricky's,Mom,Dad,and sister.
Ricky was not only a wonderful husband,Father,and Firefighter,but he was also a devoted Son,and Brother.
Words cannot express the heartache we are feeling right now,at the loss of our wonderful son.I will never again hear ,"Hi,Mom what"going on.We talked almost everyday,even if it were just for a minute,cause he was tending to Kai.What a devoted father he was to that little boy.He was 11 yrs older than his sister Crystal,but they were still very close,she looked up to her big brother.I am so proud to have brought this wonderful young man into the world,and I will love him and miss him to the day I die,when I will be with him again.
lana frappier
December 10, 2005
to my dear friend and all the family.. my heart aches for you all . give that little one lots of kisses, loves daily and youll all be reminded why we all keep going. ricky may be out of site but hes not far from you, hell watch over you all from up in heaven as all our departed angels do. you are all in my prayers.
Gail Russell
December 10, 2005
To Kyndel & Kai - Allow memories of Ricky to be your guiding light. He will be missed dearly as a beloved member of my extended family & as a true friend. It was an honor to be in his presence, as his integrity was unblemished. Ricky had an insatiable thirst for knowledge & a craving for chocolate, which made gift giving easy. A trip to B&N & Godiva was the perfect combination to satisfy both. I will honor him in death as I did in life.
Candi Lottinger
December 10, 2005
My thoughts and prayers are with you & Kai.
Kellie Vorhes
December 10, 2005
Kyndel,
You are the strongest woman I have ever seen girl. Please keep in touch since I'm leaving for Memphis. If you need to get away - email me & come visit, you're more than welcome. Love you, Kellie
Sandra L. Moser
December 10, 2005
Please except my deepest sympathy and prayers for the Family.
Carolyn Page
December 10, 2005
You and your family will forever be in my prayers.
Shantelle Porter
December 10, 2005
My prayers are with you and your family. May God be with you during this time.
bruce mills
December 10, 2005
tne death of any fireman deminishes us all. my wishes go out to the family.
A Family outing
December 10, 2005
Ricky fixin Burgers for everyone
December 9, 2005
Stephanie LeBlanc
December 9, 2005
Kyndel & Kai,
My heart hurts so much for you at the loss of Ricky. This is such a tremendous loss for you and Kai. But it is also a great loss for the City of New Orleans and everyone that lives or works in the area. May God bless you and Kai and give you the blessing and peace that you deserve.
Stephanie,Robert,Nicole Tony and Chris
Wendy Zarry
December 9, 2005
My thoughts and prayers are with the family.
Elaine Mills
December 9, 2005
Words cannot express what the loss of this fine young man means to all of his family and friends.
Melissa Naquin
December 9, 2005
Kyndel,
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Please call or e-mail me if there is anything I can do for you and Kai.
Love to you,
Melissa Scandaliato
888-6428
Dorothy Bird
December 9, 2005
Dear Kyndel and Kai,
It is with great sorrow for you all that I sign this book. I only knew Ricky through my dear Internet friend Gay. She was, and will remain, so proud of Ricky, and all of you. God bless you all. Love, Ms. Dodie
Dr. Bill & Judy Stout
December 9, 2005
Our hearts ache for all of you with the passing of your "Hero". May God bless you and comfort you at this sad time.
Our Love
Bruce Hurley
December 9, 2005
Kyndel,
Ricky will be surely be missed by all of us with the NOFD.You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
BRUCE HURLEY
Firefighter
N.O.F.D.
Brien Ruiz
December 9, 2005
Local 1468
Bob Darcey, Dist. Chief (retired)
December 9, 2005
As I am a retired NOFD member, I did not know Ricky well, but our paths crossed many times. I was impressed by his dedication to his "calling". It was more than just a job for him. It was a chance to do something good for his neighbors, to give something back to his community. In my eyes he is a true hero!
Kyndel & Kai, I pray that our Lord will ease your pain and sustain you in your time of grief and that fond memories of Ricky will bring you peace.
David Zeringue
December 9, 2005
My sincere sympathy to the Family
of Capt. McCurley, Thank You for sharing him with the community and all the hard work that he done during our darkest hours..(hurricane K.)
He now has his reward with Our Lord.. You are all in my prayers..
I pray you find PEACE in GOD during this time of the year.....
Try to have a very Blessed Christmas !!!!!
Tina Talbert
December 9, 2005
My thoughts and prayers go out to the family of Ricky McCurley. I am the daughter of retired Captain Amos Smith who worked with Ricky at Engine 4 for many years. Although I never knew Ricky personally I was deeply saddened by his death. My dad has always talked highly of Ricky as a fireman and as a friend. He will be deeply missed and will always be remembered in our hearts forever. He was a true Hero. God Bless his family.
RONNIE & JANET DAUTERIVE
December 8, 2005
TO KYNDEL AND KAI:
MY NEPHEW RICKY DIED A FAMILY HERO, AS HIS GRANDMOTHER WHO IS NOW WITH HIM, LOOKS ON. SHE AND DAD ADORED RICKY, AND WOULD BE SO PROUD OF HIS ACHIEVMENTS IN THIS WORLD. HE TOOK YOU KYNDEL AS HIS WIFE, AND MOM LOVED YOU ALSO, AND OH, IF SHE COULD ONLY SEE KAI GROW UP. BEST WISHES FOR YOU AND YOUR SON, AND RICKY WILL ALWAYS BE IN OUR LIVES. HE WAS SPECIAL.
buddy bell
December 8, 2005
As a father and husband he is ir-replacable. As a friend and brother in law, he will deeply missed. Luv ya Brat rat and Kai.
you brother
Buddy
David Stubbs
December 8, 2005
Kyndel,
I had known Ricky for years, but had just started to get to know him. I deeply regret that. He was a great man, a wonderful father and loved you more than anything. He will be sorely missed.
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