Robert Perry Barksdale

Robert Perry Barksdale obituary, Lafayette, CA

Robert Perry Barksdale

Robert Barksdale Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 7, 2023.
We are saddened to share the passing of Robert Perry Barksdale, Bob. While visiting family in Tucson, Arizona the holiday season of 2021, Bob suffered a traumatic brain injury from a fall at home. The past year and a half Bob and his wife Shirley, have been living in Tucson while Bob received treatment and care.

Bob was a native of Arizona, born in Florence January 23, 1935 to parents, Perry Alonzo Barksdale and Dorothy Elizabeth Barksdale nee Burke. Bob was the eldest of three, brother to John Thomas Barksdale, Tommy and Donna Simonson. During Bob's young life his family moved from one engineering-construction project to another, taking them from Arizona to Palo Alto, California and Bridgeport, Washington just to name a few. It was during his father's work on Davis Dam on the Colorado River that Bob attended Kingman High, where he met his wife Shirley of the Stephens ranching family. As a child, Bob took inspiration from his maternal grandfather, John Thomas Burke and his own father to pursue a degree in Civil Engineering from the University of Arizona. He later added a Masters of Business from University of California Berkeley.

Bob's life work as an engineer with Bechtel took him all over the world putting him in contact with world leaders and some of the most important projects of his day. He was proud to work on rapid transit systems like BART, MARTA, WMATA and that of Buenos Aires. Airports, bridges, dams, hydro-electric projects an infrastructure like the Jubail Project the largest project in the world in its time, were just some of his accomplishments. Whether working in Beirut, Kuwait, Saudi Arabia, Iran, Bahrain, Iraq, The United Arab Emirates, Jordan or Egypt, Peru, Chile, Brazil, or Argentina, China, Singapore or one of the Capitals of Europe, his motto for work and life was; patience, persistence and a sense of humor and most importantly never, ever, ever give up.

Bob was a proud member of many professional and social organizations such as the Engineers Club and The Commonwealth Club. His two favorite affiliations were The Olympic Club of San Francisco, where he was one of the original founders of the Golden Jocksters and a member for over forty years and The Beavers; Heavy Engineering and Construction Association. He served on the Alumni Industry Council to the University of Arizona's Civil Engineering Department and was a member of The President's Club.

Above all, Bob loved his role of father, grandfather and great grandfather and was affectionately referred to as Papa. He loved to walk, travel, research history and explore his family genealogy. His love of travel allowed him to consider places like Argentina, London and Switzerland second homes. Even with his adventurous spirit, he was never happier than when he was at home with his wife of 69 years Shirley in Lafayette, California.

Bob was survived by his wife, Shirley, Daughters: Jennifer Waite and John Waite (husband) , Roberta Kelapire and Stephanie Barksdale, Grandchildren: Zane Waite his wife Kayla Waite, Amanda Boblett, Sophia Waite, Justin Kelapire and his fiancee Ashley Lauderdale and Ryan Kelapire, Great Grandchildren: Zariah Waite, Kinsley Waite and Penelope Kelapire.

At the request of Bob's family, please no flowers or donations - Thank you!

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July 18, 2025

David Smith posted to the memorial.

September 10, 2023

Lori Lane posted to the memorial.

September 9, 2023

Donna Simonson posted to the memorial.

David Smith

July 18, 2025

Bob took care of me and my career when I worked for Catalyst Energy back in the 80s out of the East Granby office - what a giant of a man and a gentle soul. He will be missed by all who had the chance to be in his orbit.

Lori Lane

September 10, 2023

Bob will be missed! We always enjoyed the `Springhill Road Traffic Report“ from Bob! He had witty comments about the number of cars going up and down the street.

Shirley- good thoughts for you and your family.

Lori & Warren Lane (Springhill neighbors)

Donna Simonson

September 9, 2023

Bob was my older brother and protector when I was growing up! He was a kind, giving person and while distance was difficult I still miss him a lot! I hope his family finds peace in knowing he did just what he wanted to do and lived life to the fullest! I remember what an infectious smile he had. He adored his mother, Dorothy!

Diane Aldrich

September 9, 2023

I met Bob when we both worked in S. D. Bechtel, Jr's office back in the early 70s.
He was always a very positive guy with a great sense of humor. You couldn't help but like him.

Terry Farley

September 9, 2023

Bob achieved some wonderful goals in his work career but my favorite was a hydro electric project that he had to rebid with the competition knowing his bid price and still won the award--unheard of

Thomas Draeger

September 9, 2023

Bob was a mentor to me, and he always said never do something that you would be embarrassed to read in the newspaper the next day.

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Sumner and cynthia seibert

September 8, 2023

We will always remember bob as our wonderful neighbor who lived across the street from us in lafayette . We always enjoyed hearing all about his travels and great insight into so worldly matters ! Shirley and bob were very special to us and will always have a special place in our heart!

Rob Edinger

September 8, 2023

Bob was a towering figure and inspiration in my young adult life. I was fortunate to spend several years dating his incredibly kind, intelligent, and beautiful daughter, Stephanie, with whom I am still friends to this day. Bob's imposing presence upon meeting him was daunting. But, he was also kind and welcoming. I knew that, as long as I treated his youngest well and respected her he would always be kind to me. His example changed my life and inspired my work to this day. I am so glad that I was able to play a small part in his life, and the life of his precious family. Thank you for everything, Bob. You will be missed. Prayers and much love to the ladies that will forever be in my heart, Shirley, Jennifer, Roberta, and especially Stephanie.

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