Ronald Paul Treleven

Ronald Paul Treleven, 72, passed away peacefully on June 26, 2025, after a short critical illness, comforted by his husband, William MacElroy, and his devoted siblings, Robyn Torres and Gregory Nullmeyer.

Ron lived a life full of compassion, curiosity, and wit. He had a gift for seeing the world through a slightly sideways lens-always ready with a dry remark or observation that could make you laugh and think. His heart, though, was the most memorable part of him. Ron was the friend you could call with any small trouble. The listener who never rushed you. The voice of reason when you needed truth told with care. We all relied on him for wisdom, guidance, and support.

His professional life began in public relations at the College of Marin and later Kaiser Permanente. He eventually became head of finance and human relations at Socratic Technologies, a firm co-founded by his husband, Bill.

When Ron and Bill retired, they didn't slow down-they bloomed. Together, they built Monte-Bellaria di California Lavender Farm in Sebastopol. While Bill tended the shop, Ron devoted time to keeping the books and volunteering at local nonprofits like the Ceres Community Project and Sonoma Family Meals, continuing his lifelong habit of showing up for others.

Ron's love for food was legendary. He collected cookbooks like treasures and delighted in exploring complex recipes-always to the benefit of lucky friends and family. He built a whole library of cookbooks inherited from his uncle John Treleven.

Born in Marin County on October 17, 1952, to Ralph John Treleven and Carole Jane Burman, Ron grew up in Fairfax, Huntington Beach, and Terra Linda. He later made his home in San Francisco, a city he adored.

He is survived by his husband and partner of many years, Bill MacElroy of Sebastopol; his sister Robyn Torres of Point Reyes Station; his brother Greg Nullmeyer (Pamela Nullmeyer) of Henderson, Nevada; and his cherished nieces: Jacqueline Torres (Nathan Slavik) of El Cerrito, Mandy Torres (Nicolas Colomb) of Novato, and Alison Jackson (Kyle) of La Habra Heights. He will be missed by his brother-in-law Mark MacElroy ofAtlanta, GA, his sisters-in-law Dawn MacElroy ofRaleigh, NC and Barbara Klein ofAshland, OR/ and cousin-in-law Robert Whiteman ofHenderson, NY. He also leaves behind four grandnieces, one grandnephew, and many cousins, with especially close family ties with Kathy Treleven of Seattle and Claudia Rinker of Napa.

We miss Ron more than words can say, but we carry his spirit with us-in the kitchen, in the garden, in the quiet moments when a friend needs a kind word. His love still surrounds us like the scent of Sonoma summer on a warm breeze.