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ROY SCHAFER Obituary
psychologist, psychoanalyst, writer, and teacher, beloved husband of the late Rita Frankiel, died Sunday, August 5, in Pompton Plains, NJ. He was born on December 14, 1922, in the Bronx, and lived much of his life in New York City. He is survived by his daughters with his first wife and their husbands, Laura Schafer and Gavin Black, Amy Schafer Boger and Joshua Boger, and Sylvia Schafer and Michael Dintenfass, and five grandchildren. No services. Family requests donations to the ACLU, Poets House, or Macular Degeneration Research, in lieu of flowers.
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Stephen W. Hurt
September 16, 2024
Roy taught diagnostic testing at Cornell's Westchester Division in the late 70s. I was an intern at the time and appreciated his approach to diagnostic testing I first learned from his colleague Philip S. Holzman. It's an approach that has gone out of favor but was widely practiced and of great value in the era before diagnostic criteria reshaped psychiatric diagnosis.
Dale Godby
July 16, 2023
Just seeing this now. Roy gave an all day workshop in Dallas, Texas many years ago. He helped me with a particular case that provided insight into much of my work and still does. Thanks Roy. Your efforts continue to be used in the service of healing.
Barbara Mahl
August 28, 2018
We have memories still, stories of Stockbridge days and New Haven. I will always have a clear picture of my very first babysitting job with a toddler and a very new baby!
Ian Miller
August 26, 2018
I am grateful to Roy Schafer not only for his clear insight, but also for his demonstration of compassionate action.
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Mark Blechner
August 24, 2018
I am grateful to Dr. Schafer for the clarity of his psychoanalytic thinking and for his courageous and generous presentation at the 1993 NYU conference on sexuality.
Paul Klein
August 15, 2018
I'm a psychologist who learned a lot from Dr Schafer's books. My patients benefited from Dr Schafer's brilliance. I am grateful and will always hold his memory in highest esteem.
Rosemary Balsam
August 15, 2018
So very very sad to hear of our beloved mentor and teacher's death. Deep condolences to all the family. Love from Rosemary and Paul
Amy Sternhell
August 12, 2018
Roy Schafer was good man. I am deeply grateful to him and I am sending my warmest wishes to his children. I am so sorry you lost your dad.
Penny Peet
August 12, 2018
I am so saddened by your death and forever grateful to you for your deep insight and understanding of the help I needed to find the way to rewrite my narrative and your forbearance
in keeping the silences for me. I will continue to hold close to me the wonderful way you embraced the air around you.
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