Rudolph Kealoha Abafo

Hi. I served with Rudy in 97/98 at the Danville recruiting company. He was my 1SG when I commanded the company. I know this note comes really late but I just saw his obituary. At any rate I thought he was a class act and he really looked after me.

My best to Ivy and his family.

Emilio

Hi. I served with Rudy in 97/98 at the Danville recruiting company. He was my 1SG when I commanded the company. I know this note comes really late but I just saw his obituary. At any rate I thought he was a class act and he really looked after me.

My best to Ivy and his family.

Emilio

Happy 35th Wedding Anniversary to My Beloved Rudy. Yesterday the children and I celebrated our anniversay with a Memorial Service. I miss you Honey, you have left me with beautiful memories of us and the faces of your children and grandchildren.

You will always be with me and forever loved.

With Love Always,
Ivy

I really miss Rudy. He gave us wonderful memories to hang on to. He was funny, full of jokes, a great story teller, gave good advice and counsel, and was the “go to guy” when you needed help. We will always see him through the eyes of Ivy, Shawna, Charmaine, Michael and Urban who are beautiful and loving, through his grandchildren, Malia and Kamalei who tell stories of love and adoration of their Papa, and new grandchildren who will come to know him by His Legacy that will be shared, through his young nephews who honor him, and through his family and friends who continue to share their life experiences of him with love and laughter. For those who love and remember Rudy, we know for sure that His Legacy lives on.

It doesn’t seem as if the days get any easier without dad here. Every day there is a reminder of him that makes me miss him even more. What I am grateful for though is all of the wonderful memories that dad has left us with, there is no greater gift than cherished times spent and the wonderful memories kept….those live on forever. Dad, thank you for being such a wonderful father and friend, thank you for all that you did for me. I have learned so much from you just by the way you led your life, by your example I have learned many life lessons. Just by your kind ways you managed to touch the lives of many and I can only hope that in my lifetime I can give as much. I wish you could be here for the birth of your third grandchild. Michael and I will share all of the wonderful memories and stories of you so that your grandbaby knows what a wonderful man their papa was. Please continue to visit me in my dreams to let me know you will always be there. I love and miss you so much.

Dad will surely be missed and never forgotten throughout the rest of our lives. Wish you were here to create more wonderful memories. A beautiful person and more than I could of wished for in a father-in-law and friend. Miss you Pops!

There are no words that can describe the pain of losing your love, your best friend, your children's father, and grandchildren's papa. Rudy and I have been together for 37 years and each day was like yesterday. He did not have to do much for me to know how much he loved me, he was a good man and husband that through all our years together still could make my heart skip a beat. Rudy and I often talked about how our love for each other felt like the first time we met at Aiea Intermediate School, it was "Rudy and Ivy". We both knew what we wanted in life and as Rudy often said "our life together was like no other, the best." He was very proud of his daughters for the kind and loving women they had grown to be; his granddaughters for the joy and happiness they brought to his heart; and his son in-laws for being the kind of man every father wanted for his daughter.

I thank God everyday for giving me this beautiful man who together we created a beautiful family. I thank my children for loving their Dad in everything they did for him and with him. Rudy left us with his quiet strength the foundation of our love that will continue in our children. To my newest grandchild, we will keep your Papa's memory alive so you too will know him and love him.

A cherished lei woven together with the warmest of love, with the sweet fragrance of our children never forgotten. I miss you deeply my beloved Rudy with love until we meet again, together you and I at the sacred house of God.

Forever Yours, I Love You ~ Ivy

I still can't believe "My brother is gone!"
I wish I had a direct line to Heaven, I've got something funny to tell him. Bra, I miss you dearly! No words can begin to discribe our loss. However, we must carry on the legacy and love one another unconditionally. Ivy and family we love you all & will continue to keep you all in our thoughts & prayers.
Love & Aloha, Val, Amy, Kawika, Kinohi, Kaliona & Koa Abafo

In remembrance, let us reflect upon the life of our beloved Rudy Kealoha Abafo.
I truly believe that Rudy's parents knew from birth that he would be so giving of his love throughout his life; hence, his middle name, "Kealoha." Since the day I met Rudy, Ivy, Shawna and Charmaine in Nuernberg, Germany ('82), I became aware that love flourished in the Abafo family. Everyone he met regarded Rudy as a very devoted and loving husband, and a specially-loving dad dedicated to his daughters. Eventually, he extended his loving ways over to his sons-in-law Urban and Mike. His life of giving was blessed by the births of grand-daughters Malia and Kamaile to whom he devoted every bit of his love. Without missing a beat, he bestowed a great deal of respect, companionship, and a shoulder-to-lean-on to everyone else.
In essence, Rudy continues to love each and everyone of us. We, who had been blessed with Rudy in our lives, will profoundly miss his gift of benevolence.
Me "Kealoha" Pumehana...my friend, my brother.

It is an honor to have Rudy as a friend and to serve with him in the US Army. He was truly an inspiration to many. Mission driven, but had a sense of humor to soften the stress of recruiting. Definetely a patriot, so proud to wear the uniform. Ivy, there is no words that can make the pain go away, but deep within you, Rudy will always be there in your heart. You and the girls are always in my prayers.
Love, G

It's truly amazing how one man can touch the lives of so many just by doing what came natural: treating everyone with love, dignity, and respect. His presence is still felt in many ways and his legacy brings about the pure and gentle kindness in which we should all interact with one another. What a privilege to have known such a kind man.

How fast the days has gone by, a year is up and still I miss my bradda. Every time I golf he is there i make sure I wright his name on my ball, not any ball the best that money can buy titleist pro-v 1. But to RUDY it didn't matter I gust wanted to honor a hero a bradda a friend a wonderful father and husband. Bradda RUDY thank you for your advice it payed off, God has used such a wonderful man to shape my life. So lets not forget such a wonderful man that only knew how to love and give of him self.

ALOHA AND MAHALO FOR A GREAT HAWAIIAN I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU.

My papa was the #1 grandpa in the world. i liked it when he took me golfing and other places. he bought me everything i wanted. he would protect me from scary things. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!

As the one year anniversary of my dads passing quickly approaches, the pain of having him not here is still very difficult. I miss my dads gentle and giving spirit. I miss his smile, laughter, and big hugs! I see your beautiful face in my dreams and wish that we all were together again!
I love you dad!

Today is a sad day for me as MSG Abafo was Station Commander when I joined the Army. I was fortunate to replace him as Operations NCO of the Sacramento Recruiting Battalion 12 years later. I learned so much from him as he was a man of few words but tremendous deeds. I know we will all miss him. My condolence to his Family as I know you were so dear to him

Dear Shawna,
I am sorry to read about your father's death. I am sure that he gave you lots of father/daughter love. I remember you as being a sweet and kind student in the Spanish class at Fairfield High that I taught. My condolences to you. I know that you will miss him. Ms. Sheeley

Ivy, Shawna, Charmaine, Michael, Urban, Malia and Kamalei:
I will miss Rudy for all that he was and what he stood for. A man of strength and much love. He had enough love to go around for everyone and he showed it in his quiet subtle ways....simply by lending a hand, being available when we needed help, cooking a favorite dish for the family, telling a story, and making us laugh. A true role model for all the young men in our family to follow. Many hearts are broken and saddened for the loss of Rudy but the joyful memories of all the good times spent with him will be kept alive through his legacy. I love you all.

Dearest Ivy,

My most heartfelt condolences for your untimely loss. I only knew Rudy from our conversations--enough to determine his kindness and strength. I know that your own indomitable spirit will weather this storm. My prayers are with you and your family. Take care, dear Ivy. Remember the good times and push forward--for your road is still ahead of you and full of promise.

Abafo Family: Rudy will be missed. I worked with Rudy at the DAV here in Oakland and he also helped my husband and I with our home loan. He truly had a special heart with people. He always spoke of his family with such love. God bless you all as you celebrate his life.

Abafo Family,

May the Lord look over you all during this time. Rudy was a great man, a soldier, husband, father and friend. His absence is felt by all that know him. He is looking over all of us at this time. He will be missed

Dear Ivy,

Many of my fondest memories come from spending time at Aunty Florence's house over 35 yrs ago. One of those include meeting this strong , silent man. I've always admired the Love & Closeness that you and Rudy shared. On behalf of the Suguitan Family our thoughts and prayers are with You, Charmaine, Shawna and Family.

Love Miles.

Ivy and Family,

We are so very sorry for your loss. Rudy will be missed by all who had the pleasure of crossing paths with him. I was fortunate to have an opportunity to know Rudy and learn from him. Sam and I have fond memories of both you and Rudy at past ATC's. I always considered Rudy a mentor and value everything I have learned from him. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Ivy, Charmaine, Shawna and Ohana,
My heartfelt condolences goes out to the Abafo Ohana during this time of mourning. Even though his bodily presence on earth is not with us, his memory will live on in each and everyone who had the privilege to meet Rudy. Rudy's Aloha spirit will live on in fond cherished memories. God Bless Rudy.
Aloha, Audrey Morales and Ohana

Ivy, Charmaine, Shawna and Ohana,
Rudy will be greatly missed by all who knew him, the life he led here on earth will live on in fond cherished memories that we have of him. My deepest sympathy goes out to you all. Aloha, Audrey and Ohana

Ivy, Charmaine, Shawna and Ohana,
Rudy will be greatly missed by all who knew him, the life he led here on earth will live on in fond cherished memories that we have of him. My deepest sympathy goes out to you all. Aloha, Audrey and Ohana

Aunty Ivy, shawna, Chamaine and the rest of the family. I wish I could be there with you but my heart goes out to the whole family there in California. Even though I may be far away here in Hawaii I will always remeber the great times and awsome aloha that Uncle Rudy has shared. Take care and God bless and all my love to the whole family.

Love Always,
Ben

ALOHA TO THE ABAFO FAMILY, JUST HEARD THE SAD NEWS. SO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR LOST.MY TIME WITH RUDY GOES BACK TO OUR SCHOOL DAYS AT HALAWA ELEMENTARY SCHOOL AND POP WARNER FOOTBALL. THEN LATER ON IN LIFE AT THE RACQUETBALL COURTS.ALTHOUGH I HAVE NOT SEEN HIM SINCE HE LEFT THE ISLANDS, I KNOW HE'S IN GOOD HANDS NOW. GOD BLESS YOU ALL ALOHA FROM HAWAII

To The Abafo Ohana,
With our Heartfelt Sympathy on the loss of your loved one. May the Lord be with you all during this difficult time.

May you find peace and solitude with the help of our Almighty Lord at this very difficult time of your life. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Take Care and God Bless you all.

to aunty ivy & the entire abafo ohana,
we would like to extend our deepest sympathy on your tragic loss. uncle rudy was a quiet, kind, & generous man. you are all in our thoughts & prayers. aloha.

Ivy,
we are so sorry for your loss. Rudy was a good man and will be missed dearly. we hope these words will some comfort to you and your family.
If there is anything we can do for you please let us know.
May God bless you and your family in these difficult times.

Dear Ivy: My heartfelt, deepest sympathy to you and your family. Your husband was too young. Even tho' it's been years since we've seen each other, please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Ivy and family,

The love, kindness, & warmth shown by Rudy to all who knew him will be treasured in our hearts forever. Rudy will truly be missed. Our sincere condolences.

Love and God’s Peace
Andrew, Maxine, Brooke, and Mackenzie

I worked with Rudy for 5 years and he was one of my 1SG's in the toughest recruiting company ( East Bay) in the Sacramento Bn. He also served as my Senior Ops NCOIC. He will be truly missed and never had quit on anything.

Dear Ivy & family,

My clearest memories of Rudy were his strength, patience and calmness in the demanding recruiting environment @ Fort DeRussy. He ALWAYS led from the front……a true leader.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

In parting, we toast our glasses of Scotch whisky to him. He will be greatly missed.

Aloha and Peace,

Auntie Ivy, Shawna, Charmaine, and family....

We are truly sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in the days and weeks ahead. If you need anything, do not hesitate to let us know.

Love you all,

If 1SGT Abafo is the Rudy Abafo I knew at Aiea High School in the early 70's, then all who do not know him from that time are now being deprived of truly understanding the greatness and inspiration of his achievements. My condolensces to all family and friends.

I have many fond memories of Rudy. He had all the attributes of the great leader he was. I always admired his ability to stay calm under enormous pressure. I appreciated his humor and conversation. He will be missed.

I worked with Rudy off-and-on for almost 10 years. He was a pleasure to be around. I enjoyed his perceptions, his unique way of seeing things.

Ivy,
I am very sorry for your loss and and the loss to everyone Rudy ever touched. He was a great guy and one of the all-round best soldiers I have ever had the pleasure of working with.

One of my fondest memories was a time that I invited Rudy to play racquetball with one other soldier while we were TDY in Reno. I didn't give him any advance notice and so he came to the Reno YMCA without any equipment. He used a raggedy borrowed racquet, wore flip-flops and beat us badly! Always with that mischievous grin we were all so fond of.

We will miss him terribly. Please let me know if I can do anything for you.

Rudy,
It was great working with you, you will be missed my thoughts and prayers go out to your family!

Rudy was an irreplaceable member of our winning team when Sacramento Battalion was #1 in Recruiting Command in 1997 and 1998. Although his East Bay market was arguably the toughest of the six battalion districts, Rudy always approached his job and his soldiers with uncommon energy and optimism. He never gave up and managed, as only he could, to find humor in even the most trying of situations. Rudy was an inspiration to me, to his peers and to the hundreds of soldiers over the years that depended on him for guidance and leadership. He will be sorely missed . . . .

I am really sorry for your loss. When I met Mr. Abafo I was going thru an awkward time. Simple conversations outside at the barbeque pit or at the gym at Travis have made a lasting impression on me. He was the only male influence I had and I looked up to him with great honor and respect. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Ivy:

Sorry to hear the sad news. You are in my thoughts.

I remember when i was about 9 or 10 years old Rudy worked with my dad at the Ft DeRussy recruiting station in Hawaii. he was an outstanding recruiter and didnt mind a little rugrat like me around the office. now over 13 years later i still remember Rudy. He will be missed by all who had the pleasure of meeting him.

Ivy and family,
Thank you for sharing Rudy with us. We will miss him dearly, but together we can allow him to live on in our hearts and our stories about him. Love you plenty!

Rudy was a good natured, easy going friend and co-worker and will be greatly missed.

aloha oe my bradda !!!! you are a freind a bradda a golf parter and a great father and wife to a great family !!! aloha and malama pono.

best dad and friend a son could ask for, you will be missed. aloha

Rudy was a great man! So sad, Just as we were reconnecting as old friends and surfing buddies, something so unforseen would happen, life at times seems so unfair. He'll always be in my memories and my heart goes out to his family.