Shane Nathaniel Stover

Janice and family,
I just found out about Shane's passing and am so very sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how painful it is for you and your family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Like Holly, I worked with Shane at Panera. He was one of the nicest people. He was always smiling, and joking with everyone. I'm shocked that this happened and my heart goes out to his family. And to Julie, I'm so sorry sweety! I'm still at Panera if you need anything.

Janice -
My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you at this time.

I never met Shane but some of "The Family" whom I'm close with, thought enough to send me the news. I was very touched. I feel like I knew him too. We all need a Shane in our lives. I am praying for all of you and speak peace in Jesus Name to everyone. Sincerely yours, Valerie Botts (friend of Pat & Monroe Grassi)

It’s said that there is nothing worse than losing a child. It’s certainly not natural to outlive ones kids. For our children are our legacies. They are our hopes and dreams, our way of carrying on ourselves and our heritage after we have gone. We want better for them than for ourselves and we have higher aspirations for them too. We often see them as a continuation of a story that promises a better ending than the original. So to see the unnatural conclusion of this possibility is truly a heartbreaking thing.

But what would be the alternative? In this case the alternative would be that a sweet, warm and caring soul would not have been a part of our lives. For Shane’s family he brought love and joy for 30 years. For others, the brightness shone for a shorter time, but it did still brighten their lives.

For as hard as it is and for the pain his passing brings, it is so worth it. It is worth it to have seen his smile when we harassed him at dinner. His amazing tolerance in taking good natured jokes will be missed. Yes, he would reluctantly summon the strength to issue some of his own zingers as well. But he almost seemed sorry afterward. He was always happy to help and eager to learn. He enjoyed to simplest things in life with an almost child like wonder. Something we should all do more of. Most important was his strength and support he gave others. Most notably are his Mom and Niece. This was not a chore or difficult, for in his heart it was always others first.

His influence on Julie is immeasurable and we hope that it’s an enduring one. They were very much meant to have the special time they had together. I’ve been told that Shane was never happier than he was after he found Julie. I can say that he was truly happy and that he brought joy to her life as well. He brought an understanding of life and love that she had not known before. And while it’s very sad that the time they had together was cut short, they had more good time together than some will ever have. I’m sure that she is forever changed in a positive way by the love a good man.

The alternative, then, is unacceptable. So we endure this loss and are strengthened by the joy that we had time with Shane. We know the last thing he would want is to cause anyone to shed a tear or feel any grief. He would simply hug us and say “it’s going to be OK”. So for him we say yes, in time, it will be.
The Welch Family

I only knew Shane for a short time. We worked together at Panera Bread. From the first day I meet Shane he had this smile I will never forget. He was always one to make other smile had have a good time. When I found out about Shane passing it took a while to sink in. I could not put it together that he was gone. Shane always made me smile and every morning when he came into work would say hi to everyone. He was a teddy bear, and a good man!


Shane even though your sole has reached the sky, in MY heart you will never die!

My thoughts and prayers go out to the Stover family, and Julie!


I WILL MISS YOU SHANE!


Holly M. Furman

Janice and family
Any of us that have had the pleasure of knowing and calling shane a friend are stricken with grief to hear of his passing. It has been over 10 years since i have spoken with Shane, but i can remember vividly the gentle, kind spirit that he embodied then. I am sure his character as a man was no different. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Janice and family;
So very sorry to hear about Shane's passing.Hope the many happy memories you have of him and our sweet angel Tara will comfort you and give you strength during this very sad time.Sincerly,Carolyn

Jan,

I am so sorry to hear about Shane. Although we did grow apart through the years - I'll always remember him as a great childhood friend, listening to heavy metal that he didnt want you to know he had, trading baseball cards, trying to get rich at garage sales and looking at dirty magazines under a bed or other hiding area. I am so sad that he is gone and I send my love to you and Alexis and Joey.

Jan, Alexis, Joey, Julie,
From the first time Shawn and I meant Shane - it was sort of like Tara...we all just connected. In this world it's rare to find a 'true friend' and we had been blessed to find that 'true friend' in all three of you.
Shane was one of the most sincere, gentle, honest, and compassionate people we've meant. He had a deep heart and would do anything to help you along. We've always looked forward to the time we spend with you...if it was just to come and visit, watch the kids play, have a cookout or a yard sale, to celebrate a happy event, or just to chill out and be together enjoying one anothers company. There isn't one time when we've been there - Shane wasn't there to greet us with his smile, to offer us a drink, to lend a listening ear. We are going to miss him so very much. All we can say we are better people today - because Shane was someone who touched our lives in a way - maybe he even never knew. Our hearts are broken.
Shane was 'Uncle Shane' to Phillip, Alyssa, and Nehemiah. They are going to miss him too.
Please remember that though what we feel will never begin to touch the rim of what you are facing...we share in this sorrow with you as Shane meant so much to us. Now we will do whatever we can for you - to help you. We will keep Shane's memory alive and share all those good memories in the times we've shared - as they will forever be a true treasure to us.
Julie - we thank God that Shane was able to experience such a happy time with you in his life. You truly were what he'd been waiting for.
We are so sorry.
Love you all.

I'm very sorry for your loss. We did not know Shane personally, but he always said "hi" with a smile when I walked by with my dog. He was such a nice person. Please know you are in our prayers.
Sincerely,
Sandy and Mike Shattuck(205 Harding)

Janice-
It's been probably about fifteen years since I've seen Shane but I remember like yesterday the great times and trouble we you used to get into as little kids. When I heard the news of his tragic passing I was in shock. My heart goes out to you and your family in this hard time. Shane my always a great friend and a huge part of my childhood memories.

I was so shocked to hear the news of the passing of Shane. I am ever so sorry for your loss. Shane was a great guy, brother, son and Uncle. I am ever so sorry to hear of your loss. If there is anything that I can do...please let me know. My heart goes out to your family at such a time. My heart aches for you all.

Jan,
Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sandy Dahulich

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. Shane was an exceptional and exceptionally good young person.

Jan and Alexis,
Our hearts go out to you and your family during this difficult time. Shane was a wonderful young man who will be missed by many. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

we never met but have heard of you in the past from your mother. sorry to hear of your loss. you are in our prayers

uncle howard & meta

Jan,
Words cannot express my heartfelt sorrow for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Janice, Andrea, Bob and Laura,
We were in total shock when we heard the news about Shane. We can not tell you how sad we feel for all of you at this time. We have no words that would express our sadness all of you must be going through at this time. Please know, Pat and I will be praying for all of you. We are out of town until May, or we would be with all of you at this time ... God Bless You All...

Janice and family, we are so deeply saddened to hear about Shane. Words are not adequate to convey our deepest heart-felt sympathy.
We love you,

I have no words, only feelings of immense sadness at your loss. You and your precious family are in my heart and prayers.

-Margaret

Jan and Alexis, I wish I had the right words to express the thoughts inside..... I do not. So I will leave it at this. May the comfort and love of those around you bring you a sense of peace. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. The Landry Family. Rebeccas in Alexis girl scout troop

I am soo sorry for your loss. Shane was a great person and a good friend. We will all miss him.

Dear Jan,
While I didn't know Shane, I do know you and Alexis, and I care about you both so very much. It is my hope that you will find strength and peace during this difficult time.
I have come to realize that "Uncle Shane" was loved very much not only by his family but by the neighborhood, particularly children in your neighborhood. The kids felt loved by him, and had fun with him. He will be missed.
I am so very sorry for your loss and that your time with him was too short.
You are, and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Please call on me should you need anything. Whether you need an errand run, or a meal, whatever it is, I would be pleased to help.

Janice and family,

I am so very sorry to hear about Shane's passing. I would never be able to express in words how saddened I am by this. Janice, you were as close to your children as any mother I have ever seen. They loved you so much and everyone knows how you adored them. I don't know why this happened, but I do know that the world will never be the same without Shane or Tara. Shane, I told you when Tara died that you were such a good brother to her. I know that she's telling you the same right now. Please hug her for me and tell her that I love her and ask her to please watch over my new baby girl Grace Tara. And please both of you watch over your mom... she loves you both so very much. God speed.

My heart goes out to you Janice, and Alexis and family. My sincere sympathy and prayers for you all.

Mrs Stover and family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I can't begin to imagine everything that is happening in your lives. I want you all to know that if you need anything, my husband and I are here to help. I know Tara is looking after Shane now.May all your memories bring you comfort during these rough times.
Colleen Naylor (formerly Donald)

We are still in shock. He was a sweet young man, and we were looking forward to many years in his company.

I am deeply sadden at the tragic loss of Shane. It is impossible to comprehend that he has joined his dear sister, Tara, in heaven. May God give you gentle peace and strong courage. My deepest sympathy.

Jan, you and your family are in my prayers. If you need anything, let me know. Hope Reese

Jan,Alexis.Joey, and Julie
We are so sorry to hear about shane,You have been through so much and our prayers and love is sent your way, please feel free to call whenever you need to talk or visit we will be here. Your friends

Janice and family-I am so very sorry for your loss. I will pray that some kind of peace can find your heart. I didnt see him much, but do remember being little and around you all at Uncle Ang's, and he was such a gentle soul and happy little kid. Uncle Ang & Tara are taking good care of him now. Im so sorry for your huge loss.

Janice, Alexis, Joey and Julie,
I am truely saddened to hear about the passing of our beloved Shane. My greatest childhood memories included Shane and Tara as we ran through the house, played on the playground and roller skated in the basement. My heart goes out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. I want you to know that I am here for all of you in your time of need.