Thomas A. "Tom" Karas

1946 - 2001

Thomas A. "Tom" Karas

1946 - 2001

BORN

1946

DIED

2001

Thomas Karas Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jan. 26, 2001.
Thomas Anthony Karas was born March 28, 1946 in Buffalo, NY. He was the eldest of four children born to Anthony J. and Carrie M. (Bieniek) Karas. His father was a steel worker at Bethlehem Steel and his mother was a stay-at-home mom. Both sets of Tom's grandparents were immigrants from Poland. He was followed in birth order by John, Karen, and Donna.

Tom went to elementary school at Transfiguration School and St. Luke's School, where he graduated from 8th grade in 1960. He was a member of the St. Luke's Boy Scout Troop 209. He completed the 9th grade at Canisius High School and graduated in 1964 from Bishop Turner High School.

Following high school, Tom attended Bryant Stratton Business School and graduated in 1966 with an accounting degree. Tom worked as an accountant for a few years, but soon decided that accounting was not for him. Next, he spent several years in the rental car business, but realized that was not his calling either. Eventually, he gravitated toward his life profession - insurance.

During this transition period, Tom served in the Army National Guard. He was stationed in Fort Sill, Oklahoma and Fort Campbell, Kentucky, as a paratrooper. His reserve unit was sent in to help restore calm in the infamous Attica Prison riot in the early 1970's.

Tom grew up on the East side of Buffalo, a close-knit, predominantly Polish neighborhood, in the house his parents continued to own for over 30 years. He was raised Roman Catholic, in a strong religious environment. The influences of Tom's religious upbringing are clearly evidenced by the genuine kindness, love, and concern for others that permeated everything he did throughout his life. The Karas household was always filled with pets; most of these were dogs, but hamsters, parakeets, and rabbits were also present.

Very early in his life, Tom determined that he was not going to wind up in the blistering hot coke ovens of Bethlehem Steel where his dad toiled. Tom's mom encouraged him to play the accordion, and his brother John to play the clarinet. Tom took his first accordion lessons at Edwin's Music Store from Johnny Johnson, one of the original New Yorkers. By the age of ten, Tom was already so involved in music that he organized his first band, called the Tommy K Trio. After the Tommy K Trio, Tom became the bandleader of Tommy K and the Little New Yorkers. By the time Tom was 11 and John 9, they were appearing weekly at the Glen Park Casino and Town Casino in Mrs. Dunn's "Stars of Tomorrow" showcase of the finest young talent in western New York. Throughout high school, the brothers could frequently be found performing at Polish clubs, lawn fetes, and weddings.

Tom and John were both original members of the G-Notes of Buffalo, a group which came together in 1966. John left the group in 1979 to join The Jimmy Sturr Orchestra, while Tom remained with the G-Notes until 1981. While with the G-Notes, Tom perfected the "triple bellow shake", an accordion maneuver that few players can master. For the next two years, Tom developed his own band, called New York Sound. In 1983, he was reunited with his brother John, as a member of The Jimmy Sturr Orchestra. Between 1983 and 1989 the group won five Grammy Awards. In 1989, Tom temporarily retired from the music and performance business, because he felt that holding a full-time job and performing almost every weekend had become heavy a load. After one year, however, Tom realized he could not stay away from his music. He played for a short time with Fred Bulinski and the Brass Works. When Fred retired in 1993, some of the members decided to regroup and form TKO (Tom Karas Orchestra). Their first job was in December 1993. Tom stayed with the group for a little over a year. In 1995, Jan Lewan called and asked Tom to join his orchestra, an offer that Tom gladly accepted. Tom played with the Jan Lewan Orchestra for the next six years. He also became the booking manager for the orchestra. Throughout a musical career that spanned forty years and over 8 bands and orchestras, Tom music was recorded on 28 albums and CDs.

Music was not only a major source of enjoyment for Tom, but also served as his ticket to see the world. Along with his music, Tom's travels included trips to Carnegie Hall, Lincoln Center, 2 Grammy award ceremonies, Gilley's in Houston, Texas, Las Vegas, Frankenmuth, MI, Action Park, NJ, The Corn Palace in Mitchell SD, and Yankee stadium. He was booked onto several Caribbean and Mediterranean cruise ships and toured Eastern Europe, including Poland, Denmark, and the Holy Land, visiting countless Polish homes along the way. Ironically, but not surprisingly, it was music that took Tom on his final trip to Florida, a trip originally scheduled for 10 days, but one that ended up being eternity. In the early morning of January 26, 2001, the Jan Lewan bus was making its way through Dillon, South Carolina en route to Florida. The bus driver fell asleep at the wheel, and the bus ran into a cement abutment, which ripped through the right side of the bus. Tom and John Stabinsky (a trombone player for the band) were killed on impact. In all likelihood, Tom never knew what hit him. Most importantly he died doing something that he truly cherished. For as Tom always said, "Music is the greatest part-time job in the world. You get paid to do something you really love."

Tom's love of music was not limited to playing accordion and keyboards. He was a member of the Chopin's dance society in Buffalo, NY, performing dance concerts at Kleinhan's Music Hall. He was also a DJ for a short while on a local radio station in Buffalo. Nor were Tom's talents limited strictly to music. Since he was always a "people" person, Tom entertained some serious aspirations for a career in politics. After completing college, Tom had toyed for a short time with the idea of running for assemblyman, but eventually decided that since music had always been his first love, he would not be able to pursue both careers effectively.

Tom's love of music also allowed him to meet his wife. Tom and Beverly met in 1984 at Seven Springs, a ski resort near Pittsburgh, PA, where Tom was performing with the Jimmy Sturr Orchestra. Shortly after meeting, the two knew they were destined to be together. Tom and Beverly wed in 1987, and their first son, Brandon William Anthony, was born three years later. In 1996, Beverly gave birth to a second boy, Thomas Anthony William, and their family was complete. In addition to his family role as a husband and father, Tom also loved to cook. He derived pleasure in trying different recipes and experimenting with old ones. Once, he spent over 4 hours creating a turkey with a champagne sauce!

Tom was incredibly devoted to his children, especially in the area of athletics. He coached every baseball team that Brandon ever played on, starting with T-ball. Due to his insurance background, he was asked to serve on the Board of Directors as Safety Officer for the New Windsor Little League. Thomas had started T-ball several months ago, and Tom had planned to coach both Brandon's and Thomas' teams, to be there for his kids. Tom may have been the most dedicated little league coach of all time. Two years ago, Tom suffered a heart attack. As Tom was being wheeled into the ER, Brandon's team was about to begin a playoff game to determine if they would qualify for the league championship game. While in the Emergency Department, hooked up to the cardiac monitor with doctors and nurses hovering around, Tom was more concerned about giving Beverly the correct line-up for the game, than for his own health. The team did go on to win that game, and Tom was awarded the game ball in the hospital the next day. Inspired by the spirit of "Coach Tom," the team then went on to win the championship game. Actually, Tom's coaching career had begun years earlier in the Scajaquada League in Buffalo. Tom's daughter, Kim, by a previous marriage played Little League, and Tom demonstrated the same fatherly dedication to her athletic endeavors as he later did for his sons. Tom's involvement in his daughter's league enabled his younger sister Donna to meet her future husband Bob.

Even though he moved from Buffalo to eastern New York in the mid 1980's, Tom remained a die-hard Buffalo Bills fan. On many late autumn Sundays, he would go to a local bar with Brandon to watch the Bills game. Other times, he would listen to the Bills game broadcast over the Internet. He ordered "Shout" (the official Bills magazine), to keep up with the current stats and trades that the team made. He was always angered by our local newspapers and their lack of coverage for the third New York football team.

In addition to love of music, and love for his family, Tom's third passion in life was insurance. He was in the business for over 20 years, working his way up to Vice President for NIF Services of NY, an insurance brokerage firm in Manhattan. In 1995, Tom was caught in a corporate downsizing process and was laid off from his firm. Never daunted for even a moment, he made the courageous decision to start his own insurance agency at age 50. The name Tom chose for the new agency was the essence of the man: IPS (Integrity, Professionalism, Service)/Karas, Corp. In the five years Tom ran the agency, it grew to serve over 200 clients. Tom became an active member of the Orange County Chamber of Commerce. He joined the Ambassador group, served on the Chamber Ball and Small Business committees, was team captain for the 2000 membership drive, and had volunteered to be a team captain for the 2001 membership drive. As remembered in a Chamber of Commerce memoriam, Tom "was most known for his ready smile and willingness to lend a hand."

One of IPS/Karas Corps clients is Terri Scott, proprietor of The Olde Plank Inn in Walker Valley, NY. Terri recalls that Tom had suggested she add to the Inn's menu the delicious "Kimmelweck" sandwich that he remembered so well from his youth in Buffalo. The Olde Plank Inn is now offering a "Karas Kimmelweck" sandwich on their menu in memory of Tom. Terry Scott promises you'll love the sandwich as much as we all loved Tom.

Tom is survived by his wife, the former Beverly Schambura of Pittsburgh; two sons, Brandon and Thomas; two daughters from a previous marriage, Kim Ode and Tracy Karas; three grandchildren, Christopher, Amber and Cory; a brother, John; nephew Johnny (Godchild); a sister, Karen Howard; her husband, Jim; his nephew, Dmitri; another sister, Donna Rogalski; her husband, Bob; his niece, Ashley; his nephew and godchild, Robbie; father-in-law William J. Schambura; and numerous aunts, uncles and cousins, most of whom still reside in the Buffalo area. He was predeceased in death by his father, Anthony Karas; mother, Carrie Karas; and mother-in-law, Agnes Schambura.

You said, "I'm leaving, I'll be back in 10 days."
You never said it would be forever.
You were gone before we knew it, and only God knows why.
It broke our hearts to lose you, but you did not go alone,
For our hearts went with you, the day God called you home.
A million times we've needed you.
A million times we've cried,
If only our LOVE could have saved you, darling, you never would have died.
It doesn't seem possible you're really gone,
As we search for answers and fight back tears.
Things were so much better when you were here,
Every memory a good one, so vivid, so clear.
We know you watch over us, but it's just not the same.
The emptiness overwhelms us, and so does the pain.
But when God called on an angel to expand heaven's nest,
He left living hearts broken, because He chose only the BEST!

Tom, it's hard to believe we've come this far without you.
You have two beautiful sons who feel daily the wonderful foundation you gave them for their lives. They miss you dearly, but not a moment goes by that they are not told what a wonderful man their Dad was. Please give us the strength to carry on. We miss you more than you could possibly imagine, and we want you to know that you're on our minds, in our dreams, and burned into our hearts forever.

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February 17, 2015

Beverly Karas-Irwin posted to the memorial.

February 15, 2015

Daniel Lewan posted to the memorial.

January 27, 2015

Darlene Brandt posted to the memorial.

Beverly Karas-Irwin

February 17, 2015

Dear Daniel,

Thank your for having the courage to post this heartfelt message for Tom, the boys, and me. Your message is extremely powerful. Your kind words continue to help us on our healing journey. Although we do not post as often as we once did, I can assure you that Tom is never far from our thoughts. As you surely know, cherish your loved ones. I am happy to hear that you are now married. Thank you for vowing to remember Tom and your continued prayers for us. Hello to your mom and sister.

Daniel Lewan

February 15, 2015

Tommy, I laid here this morning looking over all of the comments your family & friends have left in your honor over the years. Your boys & your wife Bev are so strong; they carry on & keep you so close to their hearts. I always really respected you; when you were here it was mainly due to your friendship with my father, the fun we had performing together plus all the behind the scenes stuff with the JLO. Really I was too young then & never had the chance to learn so much more about you, so much more behind your character that made you so special. I was so wrapped up in the lights & the party that the bigger picture wasn't clear. You had so much more to offer, you were taken too soon & will live on now in our memories forever. I love watching YouTube videos of us playing at the onion festival or musikfest; you were so charismatic; so talented! I want you to know you're remembered, deeply missed & often talked about.

Bev, why did I survive? Even 14 years later I ask myself. Tommy left so many behind, had so much built, where as I wasn't even around long enough to begin. I promise to remember him & you and the boys forever. I will pay forward my blessing in every possible way everyday of my life in the name of your loss & strength becoming who you are today. Tommy is still with us, in fact, I have told my wife Amy so many stories about him that she feels like she knew him too. We will continue to pray for you & your family forever.

Darlene Brandt

January 27, 2015

Hi Tom. I feel so sad all over again every year when this time comes around. You were a shining light on earth and I know you're a shining light in Heaven, reflecting the glory of God. Still love you and miss you--it seems like forever, and it IS forever since I last saw that beautiful sunny smile of yours in person. I am so glad I'll get to see it one day again and hear your beautiful music in person. Till then, please watch over us and pray for us. With love, Darlene

Beverly Karas-Irwin

January 26, 2015

Hi,
It is hard to believe that 14 years have passed. Thinking of you today. I am sure you are able to see the accomplishments of the boys. Keep your watch over us. With love, Beverly

Darlene Brandt

March 29, 2012

Happy Happy Birthday in Heaven, Tom. I'm a day late, but it still means the same. Your birthdays now are much more joyous celebrations, in the presence of God. Your children (as you already know!) are doing you very proud, carrying on their lives the way you would love them to. I know you're watching them (and us all) and beaming at their accomplishments. Love to you as you continue to intercede to Our Lord for us. We will always love you.

:)--Darlene

Kimberly Ode

March 28, 2012

Happy Birthday Dad! I have been thinking a lot about you this week, and I know you are still watching over all of us. I miss you so much, dad. As time goes by, I am more grateful for the lessons you have taught me, and what a great example you were to every life you have touched.

Continue to watch over us, dad. I love you and miss you.

Love,
Kim

Darlene Brandt

January 29, 2012

Dear Tom, It doesn't seem possible that 11 years have passed since that terrible day I received a phone call from Millie, telling me that one of my most loved friends had been lost to us all. Yet it seems like too many decades ago that it happened, because you have been so sorely missed for such a long long time.

Although I wish I had had the opportunity to spend many more hours with you, I knew of you and knew you long before we ever met. I had heard your recordings with The G Notes that very first night I was introduced to polka music in Michigan before my Sturr audition by Dan Harbiburda. And I instantly recognized your amazing musical talent. Then I met your brother John and realized that this talent and love of music had been shared as brothers. When you joined our band and I got to know you, the circle was completed. I never really got the chance to tell you how much those recordings of you influenced my understanding of what great polka music should be. But it did. My respect for your musical talent grew as we played together, and my respect for you as a person as well. My profound respect for you in all ways continues to grow as I read the entries posted here by your family and friends.

I will always remember you, as your example in music and in life continues to guide me in my choices in my own life.

Sending love to you and the message that we miss you more than ever. Also sending thanks for watching over our loved ones in Heaven and us still here on earth.

:)--Love, Darlene

Brandon Karas

January 29, 2012

Hey Dad,
Just been thinking about you the past couple of days and wanted to say hi. I wanted to thank you for giving me the opportunities in life that I have now, I plan to take advantage of what I have and move forward. I love you dad. If you could do me a favor, and look out for Stef for me? She's having some major parental problems, and with the way things are going for me, I believe she could use the help more than I right now. Thank you for everything!

-Brandon

Kimberly Ode

January 26, 2012

Hi Dad,
I cannot believe it has been 11 years since you were taken from us, it seems like an eternity, yet like it was just yesterday.

I occasionally search on youtube to see if there are any videos on there with you in them, just to catch a glimpse of you, to see you, to watch you doing what you enjoy: playing music. I finally found one, and it has a close up of you lasting about 25 seconds, and you look like you are having so much fun....

This year, Brandon and I have been talking and giving each other our opinions on the Bills, both the good, bad and ugly, but we are still loyal Bills fans!

Please continue to watch over all of us, and guide us through everything life throws at us.

I love you Dad, and miss you so much.
Love, your daughter
Kim

Donna Rogalski

January 26, 2012

Hi Tom,
I was driving Robbie to religion last night, and Ronny D's Polka Show was playing a 15 minute mini-concert of the G-Notes. Ronnie D ended the show by saying "That was the G-Notes - a blast from the past. One of the best bands we had in Buffalo with their unique sound." He went on to say that some of the musicians are still around today. I don't know if it was a tribute to you and Lenny. I don't know if Ronnie knew that today was the anniversary of your death, but I just found it ironic. It brought a smile to my face, singing along with the songs, and telling Robbie that Uncle Tom and Uncle John are on the radio. Even though I was young at the time, I remember so much and it brought back alot of memories. It also made me sad, thinking that 11 years ago last night was the last time you would ever see your family again. I can't tell you how many times I get in the car, turn on the polka show, and a G-Notes, TKO, or Jimmy Sturr song comes on. Is it a coincidence or is it your way of telling me your ok? Whatever the reason, it's a way of remembering you, your talent, and the good times we had. A way to show that your music and memories never fade. Our thoughts and prayers are with you today and always.
Love,
Your sis Donna (Bobby, Ashley & Robbie too)

Darlene Brandt

March 30, 2011

Happy Birthday in Heaven, Tom. I'm sorry I'm two days late. I've been keeping up with your beautiful daughter Kim on Facebook and she reminds me of the fabulous example you set for your children and for all of us on living life to the fullest and being the very best person and musician one could be.

Although you're another year older, I know that, unlike us, you haven't aged past that handsome, boyish face I saw last, and in Heaven you will stay eternally young and as beautiful on the outside as you were. You were always beautiful on the inside too.

I look over the photo of us in Nashville at Jimmy's party, and remember our many good, long talks about life in general and music too.

Missing you on your birthday, as always. You're doing a wonderful job of watching over us all. And I know you've already welcomed my dear friend and old dancing partner Bill Stilwell into Heaven on March 16th. He has the perfect music to dance to forever now.
Love you forever.

Love, Darlene

Kimberly Ode

March 28, 2011

Happy Birthday Dad! 41 years ago today I was your birthday gift, coming home from the hospital a newborn bundle of joy to the best father ever known. I miss you dearly dad, but love you so much and know you are celebrating your life in Heaven.

Please continue to watch over all of us, and give us the whispers of encouragement we need during our difficult times.

I love you
Kim

Karen Howard

January 26, 2011

Dear Tom,
Your legacy has been so eloquently expressed by so many today, this tragic anniversary of our loss. As I am writing this there is a huge snowstorm outside and it just thundered- are you trying to tell me something? My heart aches,we all recall that day verbatim,wish it was a bad dream. But I smile when I think of all the memories I have,too numerous to mention. Tomorrow is 1/27, as I recall, you and I were driving home from Florida that day into what became the infamous Blizzard of 77. I still don't know how we got past Syracuse.
When I cried as I received the call from Bev,I remember Dmitri asking what was wrong. When I told him he asked if you were right handed or left handed. Confused as to why a 7 yr old would ask me this, I said,right handed, then he responded, there is an angel sitting on your right shoulder. Out of the mouths of babes.
I truly believe you are our guardian angel now, along with mom and dad, and either you are trying to reach out to me as it continues to thunder, or you guys are having a heck of a bowling game up there.
Please continue to be the angel on my shoulder. Miss you but will never forget you.
Love,
Your sis,
Karen

Thomas Karas

January 26, 2011

10 years ago today, my dad father of 4, died in a car accident. i was 5 at the time but i still remember being home, getting a phone call from one of the band members wifes, i can remember exactly what happened
me: "hello?"
lady: "hi thomas is your mom there?"
me: "yes hold on"
mom: "hello?"
...next thing i no my mom started hysterically crying
me: "mom what happened?"
mom: "your dad has died in a car accident"
i dropped to the floor saying "my daddies dead"
too much in shock i didnt cry all i wanted to do is go to my brother Brandon Karas and cry my eyes out in his lap. i just wanted to go up in heaven and say bye 1 last time. last words he ever said to me were "i love you, make me proud son". dad, 10 years later i write this note/status about you to tell you how much i love and id do anything give anything just to see you one last time and to hug you and to say i love you, have lessons on baseball and soccer with you. dad i love you with all my heart and soul and nothing will ever change that, we all miss you and i hope your having fun with grandpap and grandma drinking a beer or something. you will always have that special place in my heart and you will NEVER be forgotten

R.I.P Tom Karas

I love you dad

Kimberly Ode

January 26, 2011

Dad

10 years. An eternity, yet feels like yesterday. A whisper in time. Remembering every detail of when I heard the news. The feelings still raw, the regrets I still hold, yet can hear you say "it's ok, I know you love me" in hopes to soothe me and release the regrets I hold onto so tightly.

You have been an inspiration to me to be a better person, a better parent, a better spouse, and friend.

I have caused disappointment, yet you showed nothing but love and forgiveness. You never held a grudge, you just held us closer to your heart. You would sacrifice all to protect your family, and act like it was nothing. How can anyone hold a candle to that?

I am blessed to have you for a father, and blessed for the family I have.

Today I am not acknowledging today as they day of your death, but a celebration of your life. Your loyalty to the Bills, your sense of humor, your constructive criticism, your music, your love for life.

You have left a light in the hearts of many people that will never fade away. Your legacy is your love, compassion and friendship.

I love you dad, and I know when we meet again, you will embrace me because you never gave up on me. Thank you for all you have taught me.

I love you
Kim

Donna Rogalski

January 26, 2011

Hi Tom,
Reading Brandon's, Thomas' and Kim's entries on Facebook breaks my heart. I too remember distinctly that tragic call 10 years ago today. Karen explaining the accident to me, hoping she was going to say that you were in the hospital. When she said you died in the crash, I too screamed hysterically. I couldn't believe it. I didn't want to believe it. I just couldn't understand why. I still wonder and think to myself - if you only didn't switch seats at the 3:00 rest stop. Like Brandon said, things happen for a reason. Hopefully you will be able to explain it to us when we see you again. You should be so proud of your kids. They turned out just like you would have wanted. I'm sure you know how you are truly loved and missed. We had a wonderful Christmas together. I'm sure you were looking down and smiling at all of us -- pleased to see our family together. Please continue to guide all of us. Until we meet again, brother. Love, Donna

Beverly Karas-Irwin

January 26, 2011

Hi B,

It is coming up to that hour that I received the call that would rock my foundation and forever change my world. It is incomprehensible to me that 10 years have passed. This morning I started to look back at some of the guest book entries that have been posted over the years. What a legacy you left. I am sure you can feel the imprint you have left on us. I hope that you have caught up with my Dad and are watching over us.

I thank you for the great life we shared together. I thank you for the memories, but most of all, I thank you for those two wonderful boys – Brandon and Thomas. For without them, I don’t know what would have become of me. For without their presence, their love, I doubt I would have had the strength to go on. Words cannnot express how proud I am of them. My heart breaks over the fact that you are not here to bear witness to what great human beings they are. What great musicians they have developed into. Hopefully some day, when we cross over, we will understand why you had to be ripped from our lives so soon.

May you rest in peace. You will never be forgotten.

Lv,
B

I would like to also thank my husband Jeff for his care and love of Brandon and Thomas. He has embraced them as his own and continues to guide them along their journey in life. For without his continued love, support and forgiveness, life would return to the blackness for me.

Brandon Karas

January 25, 2011

Dad,
It's been a whole 10 years, and I cannot believe that it has gone by this quickly. I still remember that tragic day ever so vividly, it haunts me just thinking about it. Sometimes it's hard, I just feel like giving up. I would give any possession of mine, anything that I have achieved in this lifetime, where I am currently in my life, to spend one more day with you as father and son. To wake up, go to breakfast, have a nice conversation, then go to a park and have a catch, come home, watch the bills game (although now all they do is lose), have some wings and pizza, have a few drinks together, and then go out and just enjoy life. You are the sole reason I am who I am, I try to be the best human being I can. I know I'm not perfect, I know I have plenty of flaws. But that's okay, because I strive everyday to be just like you. You are my inspiration, my guide, my guardian angel. When I'm feeling down, I can feel you, I can sense your presence rushing into me to try and help me to continue to fight in this epic battle we call life. 10 years ago today, my life was changed forever, I lost my father due to a tragic accident. Now 10 years later, I sit here on my computer, typing to you on this very same webpage that I did so long ago, telling you my feelings. Times have changed, I am now grown up, I'm in college, I can express my thoughts much more thoroughly than I could when I originally lost you. Now I want you to know exactly how I'm feeling. Everything happens for a reason. While I cannot say I prefer this life, I definitely know why this tragedy was bestowed onto me. Despite losing what is the greatest inspiration in my life, by losing you, that only made you even more of an inspiration in my life. I feel that I wouldn't even be close to the man I am now if you were still here by my side. Yes, I would much rather have that, but I see now in retrospect why you had to be taken away from me. I now leave you this legacy.com posting not with a good-bye, but with a till next time, with an I miss you dearly, and the second I see you in heaven, you better have 2 baseball mitts in your hand, because there is nothing more that I want to have a catch with you.

"My heart is bleeding bad, but I'll be okay, Your spirit guides my life each day" - Dream Theater "The Best Of Times"

I love you dad

kimberly ode

December 27, 2010

Merry Christmas Dad! It still doesn't feel like Christmas without you, but things are getting better. I saw the pictures Brandon had posted from Christmas and it brought both warmth and sadness to my heart. The warmth was seeing everyone together, you can see the love they have for each other. The sadness comes from a feeling within me that I don't totally belong anymore...I've turned into a stranger so to speak, to my own family. I wish and pray i can change that, but maybe too much time has passed.

I miss you so much Dad, sometimes I feel deep within me that you were the only man i can trust completely, and now with you not here, i doubt everyone and I know that's my own doing.

Please continue to watch over all of us, we love you dad!

Kim

Darlene Brandt

December 26, 2010

Merry Christmas in Heaven, Tom. I thought of you when I played for Midnight Mass this year. I always think of you when I hear or play music.

I see you in the light of every candle at church and feel your spirit in the music. I know you're smiling down on your family and friends, as you always had a smile for all of us in life.

I had the pleasure of meeting your beautiful daughter, Kim, on Facebook. I had some photos of you in the Sturr Band on my page and Kim contacted me. I was thrilled to be able to send her those pictures because, as always, you were smiling and looked so happy.

I know you continue to pray for us, who know not any of what has been revealed to you in the glory of God, and we send our love until we meet again one day.

:)--Love, Darlene

C B

September 17, 2010

Dear Mr.Karas,

All though i did not have the chance to meet you, I know your sons. They are great young men. You would be so proud of them. Thomas is one of my great friends and he is the only one who makes me laugh when I'm down. You left this world to young and I wait for the day I get to meet you.

Sincerely-
C.B.

Brandon Karas

September 13, 2010

I thought i entered this when I got it however it appears to me that I didn't. On March 28th I got my first tattoo, and it reads "My Heart Is Bleeding Bad, But I'll Be Okay, Your Spirit Guides My Life Each Day. R.I.P. Dad". It is a lyric from my favorite song "The Best Of Times" by Dream Theater, the tattoo also has clouds behind the words with sun rays beaming down. I miss you dad, and just thought it would be nice to tell you personally.

Love,
Brandon

Darlene Brandt

September 10, 2010

As I was looking through three huge albums of photographs of my days as a polka musician, I came across so many photos of your handsome smiling face as well as that of your brother John. The pain of your loss is always felt all over again whenever I see you in those photos, although I know you're now in the glorious presence of Our Lord, and even happier than you were here on earth.

I was going through photos to put together a tribute album on my facebook page to honor Jerry Darlak. I found out that Jerry was gravely ill only hours before he passed away on September 7th.

I know you, Marion Lush and Junior Wozniak, among so many others, welcomed Jerry into Heaven with open arms and much happiness. Although we're so sad that you are all not with us, we know you are happier with God than our mortal brains can imagine, and very happy together.

I know you'll continue to pray for us all and watch over us and guide us here. And I know there must be some very beautiful polka music in Heaven playing right now.

God Bless You.

:)--Love, Darlene

Darlene Brandt

June 21, 2010

Happy Fathers Day (a day late again, I apologize!) Tom. I know what a terrific father you were and that you're still being a great Dad, watching over your children from Heaven.

A good friend of mine will be joining you there. His name is Jack Bergacs and we lost him June 16. He had an aneuryism after aortic surgery and was way too young to leave us, like you were. You will like him. Like you, he was the salt of the earth. A truly great man. He was a musician and my contractor in the Edison Arts Orchestra. I feel safe knowing you and he will both be watching over us.

Reading the entries of your children here is a joy and shows how fantastic a Dad you were and how well you taught your children how to live. You continue to be and will always be an inspiration to me.

:)--Love, Darlene

Kimberly Ode

June 20, 2010

Happy Fathers day dad! You are deeply missed, though the lessons you have taught me continue to be practiced. Please continue to watch over all of us. We love you so much and miss you!

Love
Kim

kim ode

March 28, 2010

Dad
Happy Birthday! You are so deeply missed, even after so many years. Please continue to watch over all of us. We love you dad!

Love
Kim

Darlene Brandt

January 27, 2010

Hi Tom. I apologize for being a day late. My sadness on learning the tragic news on that horrible day is just as deep as it was nine years ago.

Herman and I thought about you not long ago, as we saw a documentary on Jan Lewan's life. Scenes of the band playing were interspersed throughout and it was bittersweet--so happy to see you playing like old times, and so very sad to know I can't go to a polka dance and see you and hear you play again. The retelling of the tragedy made fresh new wounds in my heart and I miss you more than ever.

I do know that you are in God's glorious presence and are interceding for us with Him and watching over us until we all may experience the glory you know.

Please pray for us as we pray for you.
We love you and always will.

:)--Love, Darlene

Kate Blondin

January 26, 2010

Mr. Karas- 9 years ago today you were taken from this earth by God. He decided it was your time to go. We all miss you and I'd give anything to have you here just for one day to see how amazing your kids are growing up to be. I really wish I was able to meet you....but even though I didn't I feel you have influenced me. Thank you Tom....RIP with love Always and Forever

January 26, 2010

Tom,
miss you so much. Time passes but the ache lingers. You should be so proud of your children. Brandon's tribute to you on Facebook is awesome. He's quite the musician and young man.
You are always in our thoughts and prayers. Had a glass of wine for you today.
Love,
Karen

Amber Karas

January 26, 2010

Grandpa,
I know we really didnt get the chance to get to know each other, but I just wanted to let you know how much I really love you and miss you. You are always in my heart and memories.

Brandon Karas

January 26, 2010

Hi Dad,
It's been 9 years since the worst day of my life, and it has been rough, but everyone including me is pulling through. I think about you and the morals and guidance you've given me every day, and i try to apply them to everyday life, whether its from doing my homework, to making my girlfriend kate happy, to just enjoying myself and having fun. You are the biggest influence of my life and i try my hardest everyday to show that to any and everyone who comes in contact with me. I've become much more influenced by music since that tragic day, and i would like to share a lyric that really sticks out to me and speaks about the bond you and me had .
"These were the best of times, I'll miss these days. Your spirit lit my life each day. My heart is bleeding bad, but I'll be okay. Your spirit guides my life each day."

If anyone would like to listen to this song that i have just quoted, it is called "The Best Of Times" by Dream Theater, (it is 13 minutes long so beware)

I Love you dad, and there is nothing more i want in life is to make you, mom, grandpap, and grandma proud of me.

kimberly ode

January 26, 2010

Hi Dad. Just a quick note to let you know that you are still in my thoughts and prayers, and I miss you so much! I can't believe its been 9 yrs, the pain and emptiness are still like it just happened. Please continue to watch over each of us, and know how much we love and miss you.
Love you Daddy
Kim

Donna Rogalski

January 26, 2010

Hi Tom, Just to let you know that you're in my thoughts today, the 9th anniversary of that tragic day you were taken from us. Time may ease the pain, but memories will never fade. You are truly missed and never forgotten. Love, Donna

Darlene Brandt

June 24, 2009

Happy Belated Fathers Day, Tom. Reading entries from your kids, it's very obvious that God gave you as much talent for fatherhood as he did for music! It's absolutely inspiring to read the entries of your children and read between the lines to see that you gave them all EVERYTHING they ever needed to become the kind of fantastic person you've been all of your life.

Kim's entries are especially moving, because she's now a parent. I love reading her expressions of gratitude to you for being the kind of father you were and the understanding and appreciation of what you went through raising her as she's now going through the experience of raising her children.
Her insight comes from what you taught her, and, although I've never met her, it's very clear to me that Kim is following your example and doing a beautiful job loving her children and raising them as you raised her and her siblings.

So, you deserve the best belated Fathers Day ever, and the happiness of knowing you were the best Dad possible, because you were and still are the best Dad possible.

:)--Love, Darlene

Kaitlyn Blondin

June 22, 2009

Hi Mr. Karas I know I'm a day late and I'm sorry but I'm just here to wish you a happy Fathers day =]You are very loved and missed today just like every other day. Hope your smiling down on us because I know we're all looking up at you =] Love Kaitlyn

Kim Ode

June 21, 2009

Happy Fathers Day, dad. Just wanted to write a little note letting you know I am thinking of you and still miss you terribly. Please continue to watch over us and guide us.

I love you dad,
Kim

Tracy Karas

April 16, 2009

Hi Dad!
I's been a while but you're always with me and in my thoughts. I wanted to share the news which is long over due, I don't think anyone thought it would ever happen, yes I'm pregnant.
I've had a very rough year, everything went bad. I feel like I've lost almost everything. So just when I felt I was at my all time low, everything happens for a reason, I found out that I'm pregnant. I found out shortly after Christmas, (Mike left me about a week later) and I'm due on Mothers Day, May 10th. It's a Girl! I have some incredible pictures of her, ultrasounds are very different now. I had one done yesterday and there she is one eye wide open looking at you, very wierd. She has our nose and lots of hair. I guess her stomach is a little small, almost 2 weeks behind. So far she is 4lbs 15oz. & 18in. long. I'm on bedrest to make her stomach grow. I'm not having a baby shower because I really don't know anyone out here. I can't believe I'm due in less then a month, time sure flew but I only found out when I was 5 mo. prego. I want to name her Tracy Lynn Karas Jr.- T.J.! So what do you think? Is that crazy to name her Jr.? I'm keeping the TK's in the family.
I know you're up there (so is Mike's mom who died 5 min. after mothers day last year) watching over me and helping me through this, Thank you.
You're finally a Grandpa from me! I know it's about time, I'm 35.
I miss you! I love you Dad!!!
Love,
Tracy

Darlene Brandt

March 30, 2009

Dear Tom,
Happy Belated Birthday in Heaven. You're now in the presence of God's glory and all things have been revealed to you that we can only wonder about. I know you're continuing to watch over and bless your family and your brief time with me in the Sturr Band has touched me much more than you know.

Reading here all of the beautiful expressions of your family about their love for you and yours for them strengthens my belief in the values of love and family that really matter and make us all better people on this earth.

Back when we were in Nashville, talking about music and life in passing, how little I ever dreamed that I would come to know you even so much better through this beautiful Guest Book and that you would touch my life and make me a better person and musician so many years later.

Please pray for us as we pray for you.

:)--Love, Darlene

Donna Rogalski

March 30, 2009

Hi Tom,

Happy Belated Birthday! I just wanted you to know that you were not forgotten over the weekend. We were celebrating Bobby's birthday as well, but you were close in our thoughts on Saturday. I just wanted to take a moment to send my belated wishes and let you know that we are thinking about you. Love, Donna

kimberly ode

March 28, 2009

Happy Birthday Dad! I have tried writing in here a few times the last few months and what I have written never seems to post...so hopefully this one works!

I cannot believe it's been ove 8 years since you left us. So much has happened! The kids have grown up so much. With Amber away at college, Christopher out on his own, and Corey, well, he's still stubborn and head strong. You would be so proud of them!

I keep in touch with Aunt Donna and Aunt Karen as often as i can. It also seems like Brandon is doing quite well also.

Well, dad, please continue to watch over us, I miss you terribly. Love you dad!

Karen H.

March 28, 2009

Hi Tom:

Happy Birthday. It's just not the same with you gone. I long for funny (and sometimes just stupid) jokes from you. Time goes on and things change but the people who have carved out our lives one way or another are never forgotten and always in our hearts.

You may never have known it, but I am the person I am partly because of your influence on me when we were young, big Bro.

Please know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers, especially on special days like today.

May you rest in peace and have a wild birthday celebration up there with all our loved ones who are with you today.
Love,
Karen

Kaitlyn Blondin

March 10, 2009

Hi Mr Karas. It's me Kaitlyn. I have been thinking about you ALOT lately. Brandon and I are very happy and he has just helped me get through the loss of my uncle. Things are going pretty smooth. I get to meet the family when Brandon comes home for spring break...I just wish I could've met you. Brandon continues to keep me entertained with his stories about you. I have so many questions that I hope I can ask you one day. Please continue to watch over all of us. I'm sure I'll write in here again soon.
Love,
Kaitlyn<3

Beverly Karas-Irwin

January 26, 2009

Hi,

Well it has been 8 years. It is hard to fathom that it is possible. I can say one thing for sure. It is not as brutally painful as it was in the past. I guess what they say is true, that time heals. Not that it is ever gone, but the raw ache has passed. Please know that you continue to be in our hearts and thoughts on this day. We can only hope to catch up with you when we cross over. I am sure you have organized many a jam sessions and probably started your own chamber chapter.

Thank you for your gift of two amazing boys. I would not be here if it was not for them, Mary Jo, Carol and my dad. Of course, I now have the love of our blended family. I am so blessed with their presence and it is more than I deserve. Although I get frustrated at times with the chaos and follow-up, I am grateful for them to have blessed my and the boys lives.

May you rest in peace. You will never be forgotten.

Lv,
B

Kaitlyn Blondin

January 26, 2009

Hi again Mr. Karas. Today is the day a lot of people lost someone very valuable to them in 2001. We all miss you dearly Mr. Karas and I kept checking in on brandon today to make sure he was feeling okay...hes staying strong for you and for me and the family. He has been telling me about the family and I get to meet everyone over the summer. I can't wait they sound like amazing people. Today is not an easy day for a majority of people and I cried too because I know how much losing you had a HUGE effect on many. I'm just writing to say we miss you Mr. Karas...and I'd give anything to bring you back just for one more day. Rest in peace...see you soon...Kaitlyn<3

Megan Irwin

January 26, 2009

Even though i never got the chance to meet you i know you're a very much missed man from the way beverly, thomas, and brandon talk about you. You're very still alive in the household and i can feel your presence and your spirit never dies. I never got a chance to thank brandon for his experience with concetta not only did you come through which was a very overwhelming and touching experience for me but you let my cousin come through which to me was the biggest relief i never thought i'd get to experience and the most heartfelt moment i've ever encountered. It's the one thing I'll always always always remember and for that i can't thank you and brandon enough and what you did for me will never be forgotten. Your family carries your spirit on with them and i couldn't ask for a better stepfamily. Beverly is such a strong woman and the boys bring such a happiness to my life that i never had. You're still part of the family and i can tell you you're a very loved man and you'll never fade in anyone's mind.

Donna Rogalski

January 26, 2009

Hi Tom,

Thinking about you on this 8th anniversary of the tragic accident that took you from us. It's amazing how much time has passed. Reading the entries on this guest book just shows how much impact you've had on everyone's lives. You're still a big part of us, even after 8 years, and will always be. Brandon's entry is very touching and shows how good of a role model you have been to your children. Beverly and John make it a point for us to get together, and we had many great visits during 2008. They visited Buffalo in May for Robbie's communion, then we traveled to Newburgh to surprise John for his birthday, Thomas traveled with John to Buffalo in August for the Owl Picnic, and we were together at Karen's in Philly for Christmas. I keep in touch with Kim through email. All the kids are doing fine -- they've grown into such fine individuals. It's sad that you can't be here with us but I know that you're above watching and smiling on our entire family. Say hi to Mom and Dad and know that we all miss you! Love, your sister Donna

Brandon Karas

January 16, 2009

Wow, its been over 4 years since ive written an entry O_O, anyway.

Hey dad,
listen, i cant thank you enough for the person i have become. I am now in college, i have a great social life, and i have met a girl that i just simply cant put it in other words except that i love her, she even posted in here and calls you her own dad, mainly because of the way you raised me. I realize that sometimes i need to sit back, and remember just you and me, i remember all the great times we had. I will never forget you.
I wrote my college memoir on my memories of you, and the inspiration and guidance you gave me. You really have changed my life for the better, and i cant be happier.
I wasnt one of those few people who wanted to be a fireman, or an astronaut, i wanted to be just like my dad. Because of that, i will achieve everything i set out to do in life, because you did just that. When you came through during my meeting with Concietta, that was the first times in years that tears came to my eyes. Mom tells me to let it out, but i dont want to, because letting out my feelings makes me feel like im letting out you, and i want you to stay with me throughout life, and keep me safe.
I will never forget you, i know you have led me in the right direction, you made me an eagle scout, you made me pick up the guitar, you made me acquire such amazing friends as Matt, Joe, Ryan and Kate, who i promise to love for the rest of my life without question. You got me into college. You will make sure i graduate, you will make sure i marry the love of my life, and start a family that i will love and care for just the way you did, you will make me get a good successful job that will allow me to provide for that family. Because your my dad, and id do anything for you, and you'd do anything for me.
I know you are resting well in heaven, and when my time comes, i want to see you up there with a baseball and two mitts.

I Love You with all my heart,
Never Forget It
Brandon

Kaitlyn Blondin

January 16, 2009

Hi Mr. Karas,
My name is Kaitlyn Blondin and you don't know me but I am proud to say that you're son Brandon is making me the happiest girl alive right now. He has told me so much about you and you sound like the most admirable person in his life. I thank you greatly for making him the young man he is today. He is so polite,respectful,he has a great sense of humor and hes just such an amazing young man I'm proud to be with him. I wish that we could've met because the way he describes you, there are not enough words to describe what an honor that would have been. I'll keep you're son safe I promise. R.I.P Mr. Karas
Love,
Kaitlyn<3

Darlene Brandt

January 3, 2009

Hi, Tom. Happy New Year in Heaven.
I'm missing you as always and thinking of you every time I play.

I'm so glad I got to know you when you played with Jimmy Sturr. In just the short time, you inspired me and you still do. Your family continues to inspire me with the example of love you shared with them and they still share with you. That's why I come back to your Guest Book time and again.

Please continue to pray for us and guide us. We still love you and miss you.

:)--Love, Darlene

The Karas, Howard, and Rogalski family during Christmas in 2000

December 31, 2008

Tom & Beverly on New Year's Eve in 1987

December 31, 2008

Tom at 10 years old with his brother John (left)

December 31, 2008

The man and his accordion

December 31, 2008

A fellow musician

September 17, 2008

I came back to this Guest Book and read the writings of many family and friends of Tom. Truly, one can say, he was one of the most loved persons in the world to keep this guest book going all these years. Yes, it only seems like yesterday to me too when I think about the news that came across that day. I will surely look forward to meeting Tom in heaven one day, too. Yes, life is short...and we must remember that by His grace, we are saved, through faith. We will see HIM, face-to-face.

Your Friend

September 16, 2008

Mr. Karas,

Even tho i never really knew you, you sound like a great person. I am one of brandon and thomas's step-sisters. I wrote to let you know that your family is doing very well. brandon beverly and thomas always talk about you and i know they all love you very much. And, even tho I sometimes yell and argue, i could never ever ask for a better woman for my father to marry. My dad loves beverly very much and i love her to. i truly do think of bev, brandon and thomas, and all of their family as my own family, and i love them just as i do my family. also, your kids are great people and yes sometimes we do get mad at eachother but in the end we are ok.I know that brandon, thomas, and bev love you very much and they are always thinking of you. goodbye,

Wash King

September 12, 2008

You are one of the greatest. Life cut short, but we will play together once again. Herky

A Friend

July 21, 2008

Tom, we never met but I know you through your daughter Tracy. She greatly needs your help. If there is any influence you can provide to give her a lift, please do so.

kim ode

June 15, 2008

Happy Fathers day dad! As you probably know, it has been a very exciting and active year so far. Amber graduated from high school on June 7th and of course I cried my eyes out, she has graduated with many honors, for her high grades and all the scholarships she has recieved. She leaves in 2 months to go to college...she is going to attend Peace College in Raleigh, NC to take Pre med. Jim is having a hard time letting go, he feels she should take a semester off before leaving, but we know it's because he has become so overprotective of her he is afraid to let her spread her wings and grow. He may not be her biological father, but you would never know it. I believe that is a quality in him that you would like about him.

Christopher is doing well too. He is no longer at Job Corps though, he lives here with us, works full time and is registering for classes at CVCC next week..so he is going to college as well. I think he will do just fine.

Corey is such a free spirit. He has his struggles with school and rules/bounderies, but I gess thats what a 15 year old gos through, I think he will be ok though.

Dad you have taught me so much on values and being a resposible parent, and though when I was younger I made it appear that you didn't know what you were talking about. But be confident that I was paying attention to what you were saying and doing as well as the reasons behind those lessons, and you have made me the parent I am today by those examples. Thank you dad.

I love you dad and I miss you so much, but I know you are watching over us and hope you are smiling down at us with every challenge life throws at us and we successfully get through.

I am thankful God gave me you as a father.

All my love
Kim

Darlene Brandt

March 30, 2008

Happy Belated Birthday in Heaven, Tom! As I played for the Easter Vigil on Holy Saturday this year and we played "Jesus Christ is Risen Today," I thought of you and my family, who are our true guardian angels, and knew you were all truly celebrating Christ's resurrection, and all has been revealed to you. Those of us still here on earth only have partial knowledge, so we're eternally grateful for the way you all watch over us.

Seven years hasn't lessened your loss at all--it's heightened how long we've all been without you. As time passes, I think of you more and more, but know you are truly in God's care, as we all shall be someday.

All of your children and your family still continue to inspire me to be the best I can be and to appreciate each day of life with those I love.

Happy Easter and may you celebrate and be celebrated in Heaven as you watch over us all.

Love, Darlene

Donna Rogalski

March 28, 2008

Happy Birthday, Tom. Just want you to know that you're especially in our thoughts today. May you enjoy your special day above and continue to watch over us.
Love,
Donna (Bobby, Ashley & Robbie too)

Donna Rogalski

January 27, 2008

Dear Tom,
Please know that you are especially in our thoughts being this the 7th anniversary of your death. It is hard to believe that so many years have gone by without you. Our family remains close to each other. I believe it's because of our loss of you that you have showed us how important family really is and life can be too short. Although miles keeps our entire family apart, we still make it a point to get together and keep in touch. Bobby has his back surgery on Tuesday. I pray that all of our loved ones above watch over him and that all goes well with his surgery. Ashley is now 13 years old and Robbie is 8 years old. Ashley is very involved with cheerleading and plays trumpet in the 8th grade band. Robbie plays hockey and loves it. He does his best and wants to keep learning. We miss you dearly and want you to know that you'll always have a special place in our heart.
Love,
Your sister Donna
Bobby, Ashley, and Robbie too

January 26, 2008

Dear Tom:
Thinking of you, as always. It's still so hard to realize that you're no longer with us. You'd be so proud of Brandon and Thomas, what great kids. Bev's doing a great job with them. Can't believe Brandon's going to college next year.
I believe you are watching over all of us. There is a song called "Angel" and I always think of you when I hear it.
May you rest in peace.
Love,
Karen

January 26, 2008

Dear B,

I it almost hard to believe that you are gone 7 years today. It almost seems like yesterday that I began to worry because I did not recieve a phone call from you in the am.

For an update on the kids:
Brandon was accepted into the Art institute of Pgh. for a bachelors in graphic design. He starts in Sept. That is the first and only school he applied to. I will miss him so. He is the coach for Thomas’ team for indoor soccer. He is doing a great job and the kids really respond to him. Brandon continues to play the guitar and is taking guitar lessons.

Thomas is no longer involved in karate. After about 9 months he lost interest. He is still taking guitar lessons and plays clarinet and sax for the school. He made second chair with the clarinet in the All-District band and will have his concert in March. He was awarded Student of the Month in December. He continues to be interested in boy scouts. He now has advanced to the rank of First Class.

The three of us have had a rough go of it this week, in our own ways, anticipating today. I am sure you are enjoying yourself on the other side and hanging out with all the others who have crossed over. May we meet again someday?

Love,
B

Darlene Brandt

January 6, 2008

Happy New Year, Tom. As I am in my 40th year of teaching public school strings, I am reminded how quickly time flies (as in the title of the beautiful Polish Waltz you used to play with us in the Sturr Band) and I am once again drawn to this site. It's a source of strength and a constant that reinforces my faith. To see your beautiful daughter write about her experiences as a parent and lovingly pass on the wisdom she learned from you and to read Bev's reports on your beautiful, strong and wonderfully talented musical sons, I'm reminded how much good there is still in an uncertain world and that you are up there watching over us all.

Just being able to see your beautiful smile in your picture here is reassuring.

You've touched so many lives in a beautiful way and continue to do so and reaffirm our faith on this website. Happy New Year in Heaven.

Love, Darlene

Kim Ode

December 25, 2007

Merry Christmas!!

Hi, dad! Yet another holiday has come and I can only think of all the large family get togethers we had on Christmas when we were growing up...those were the days, and though times have changed, the memories stay fresh in my mind and heart.

The kids are doing great. Christopher is 19 now, and no longer lives at home. He is in Asheville, NC attending job corps where he is learning a few different trades: landscaping, carpentry and electrical. They help with budgetting, and teaching the kids how to learn independantly and become successful adults. We are proud of him and have faith that he will succeed in this phase of his life.

Amber is 17 and a senior this year. She has been applying for colleges since September and have gotten accepted into most of them. She was disappointed to not get accepted into Duke, but decided to go to Peace College in Raleigh for her pre med and reapply to Duke when she is in her final year at Peace. She was offered a $46,000 scholorship to Peace (which had a lot to do with her decision to go there, I may add) She is studying to be a neonatal physician. She definately has your brains so we are sure she will succeed.

Corey is 14 now. He is very head strong and very into guitar hero, skateboarding and roller blading. School, unfortunately is not high on his agenda and his grades are showing that, but hopefully he will have a change of heart in that department..especially if he wants to be a chef on cruise ships when he gets older...

Jim and I are doing really well. He treats me like a queen, just like you have always said I deserved to be treated. I work at the post office now. Its a stressful job but pays really well. I am glad that I finally got a job that will take me somewhere in life.

Well, thats how things have been on this end. Please continue to watch over us. You are always in my thoughts and I miss you dearly.

Love you Dad
Kim

July 4, 2007

Dear B,

Happy 4th!

After talking to Liz yesterday about the sudden loss of her sister’s husband, I mentioned legacy.com. I found myself reviewing your guest book and realized it had been quite some time since I had written to you. I really should not have let this much time elapse, but some days it is still too incredibly painful to think about that January morning when I received the call - and life after that. I don’t feel your presence as often as I used to, but I am sure you are not far. You would be so proud of the boys. If only . . .

Let’s start with Brandon. He is now 17. He will be a senior in high school. Brandon is interested in visual design and graphic arts. He passed his driving test earlier this year on the first try. Driving was pretty uneventful after his first attempt behind the wheel in the school parking lot. I rearranged the seat and mirror so Brandon had to re-set them for himself. Brandon went to adjust the rear view mirror and pulled the mirror off the front windshield. We never let him forget that one. We now call him “soccer mom” due to his shuffling everyone back and forth from sport practice, games, ccd, karate, clothes shopping, bank, boy scout store, cleaners, movies and he even does the grocery shopping. Brandon is playing baseball for the twelfth year. Little League extended the cut off date and Brandon was able to play again this year. His team, the Yankees, won the Senior Division Championship. Brandon was catcher. He also walked a few times and hit a double. They won 14 – 3. Brandon pitched the playoff game that lead to the championship. He pitched the full 7 innings of the game and the Yankees won 6-4. It was so exciting. Additionally, Brandon made the Senior All-Star team this year. He made the All-Star team last year, but they lost in the first round. We are keeping our fingers crossed that they will advance a little farther this year. He has his first game this Friday. He also plays town soccer in the fall and winter season and referees games as well. He has come such a long way from the days of old when he would cry if he lost a baseball or video game. Yes, he still has broken a few play station/guitar hero controllers due to his anger/frustration, but he is nothing like he used to be. If you sat down to talk to Brandon today you would not recognize his personality. These days, he is a different person. He is the jokester of the family. Even when I am so frustrated with life, he is able to make me laugh. We watch comedy shows on his laptop over and over. It is so helpful to have a good belly laugh at times. Brandon has such a strong sense of himself. He wears aviator glasses and, occasionally, orange and green “fuzzy” mad hatter hats. He has a few very close friends that he spends most of his weekends with.

One of the highlights of 2007 was Brandon’s elevation to the rank of Eagle Scout and the celebration of his Eagle Scout Court of Honor in May. All the Buffalo/Pittsburgh relatives traveled to share this event. It was a great weekend! If only you were there to share that day with him. He got a late start in boy scouts, but he was able to achieve Eagle Status – with some minor nagging on my part :). I had a flag flown over the Capitol building in honor of his 17th birthday and is achieving Eagle. One area that does need some improvement is his homework/interest in studies, but I do not want to dwell on this. Could you possibly put some pressure on him from that side? I will try anything at this point.

Next, Thomas. Thomas is now 11. He will be starting the 6th grade in the fall. He has finished his 6th year of baseball. This year was not as action packed as last year. His team, the Braves lost in the last round of the playoffs. He also was catcher in the game and had a double and single. Last year, Thomas was on Errol’s team and his team won the Minor League championship. Thomas was selected to play on the all-star team and they almost made it to the championship game. Thomas plays soccer in the fall and winter session. He has a knack for getting goals. His most goals in one game were six. He should be starting to referee soon.

Thomas started karate earlier this year. He passed his first advancement test and is now 9th gup. He should be testing for his next rank later this month. Oh how I miss it. I still have not had the knee fixed. I can walk/run on it and that is fine with me. I hope he stays interested in karate and advances to black belt. It will help to provide protection for him should he need it in the future in school, or life.

Thomas excels in school. He has made the high honor roll every semester that it has been in effect, except one. That was not due to his grade, but a chatting issue. His school’s theme is sports. He won a silver metal in a basketball shoot off and won a national fitness award. He is striving to win the Presidential fitness award next year.

Thomas is now in boy scouts. He crossed over in February. He achieved the Arrow of Light award in Cub Scouts. He went on the quickly receive his first merit badge – First Aid. I was the merit badge counselor. He recently advanced to the rank of Tenderfoot. So far, he has gone on 3 campouts with the troop and will be attending a week of summer camp in two weeks. He should be able to complete most of the requirements he will need to advance through Second Class to First Class scout by the end of the summer. He goal is to become and Eagle Scout as well. In the fall we will attend a camporee in Canada. If you can believe I now go camping. We are all into patch trading. This trip to Canada is a patch trader’s heaven.

And now to the music. Brandon played the clarinet through 6th grade, but gave it up in 7th. Thomas started to play the clarinet in 3rd grade and now continues to play clarinet and has added the saxophone in school. Both last and this year, Thomas made the all-district band. He even played a saxophone solo in a concert with the Jazz band this year. I am thrilled to share with you that both boys are playing the guitar. They started at Ruth’s last summer and now take lessons. They sit in their rooms for hours to learn new songs. I had Brandon tape one of my favorite solos he does for me and I have it as his ring tone on my phone. Thomas is learning the guitar rendition of Pachabel’s Cannon. I sometimes have a difficult time watching them play a song together. Listening to them harmonize. Watching them look at each other and know what the other is going to do. Letting each other take solos. It brings me back to the early Sturr days when you and John would play together at an after party. They traveled with Uncle John to a gig this weekend. Hopefully some day they will play on stage with the band. If only you could see them. You would be in your glory. That is the saddest part of all.

My dad is doing great. He does not get the chance to visit as much as he used to. He is an expert at visual arts on the computer. He spent months editing pictures for Brandon to put together a memory album for his Eagle Court of Honor. If I could only have 1/10th of his talent, maybe some day I will be able to tackle that.

I successfully completed my 2nd masters program. I am now an adult nurse practitioner. I work a few hours a week in an internal medicine practice. I also continue to work at the hospital. I will be there 18 years in December. I am remarried now. I know you remember Jeff. One of Brandon’s 3rd grade football coaches and Asst scout master in his Boy Scout troop. He is great with the boys. He treats them as one of his own. I can’t ask for more than that. I thought I would never smile again, yet be happy and be able to share my life with someone again. Jeff makes me laugh and helps provide a sense of calm with 5 children in the house. He comes from a large family. His family has been wonderful to me and the boys. They welcomed us with open arms.

Our dream is to travel to Egypt. To see the pyramids that you were able to visit when you were here. We have visited Egyptian exhibits in NY, Chicago, Wash, DC and Philly. Some day . . .

Well, I guess it is time to go for now. You are never far from our thoughts. May we meet again one day.

All my love,
B

Darlene Brandt

April 21, 2007

Dear Tom, This will be late, but Happy Belated Birthday in Heaven. I played Haydn's Mass In Time Of War at a Concert for Peace at Monmouth University last night. The music was incredibly beautiful and I thought about you. You would have loved the caliber of musicianship the players had.

I have faith that you are interceding for us and watching over us.

Love, Darlene

Wash King

April 15, 2007

Wash King. Although 6 years have gone by, I still think of Tommy. He was a great friend and will be missed forever. One great musician.

Karen

March 29, 2007

As always, was thinking of you on your birthday. Would have loved to hear you roast bobby on his 40th.
I miss your jokes.
Always in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,

kimberly ode

March 28, 2007

Dear Dad, Today is your 61st birthday, and i just wanted to tell you how i am thinking about you. I know that you probably wouldn't like this but a couple months ago i got a tattoo on my left shoulder in your honor.... it has helped me in my own way in coming to peace with losing you and having so many things left unsaid to you. I love you dad, you have been the foundation to all i believe in and hold dear. You were always honest with me, even if the words were going to hurt, and I respect all you have done to help mold me into the parent i am today.
Happy birthday Dad, please continue to watch over all of us until we all will be joined together again.
Love
Kim

Donna Rogalski

March 28, 2007

Hi Tom,

I didn't want the day to go by without saying "Happy Birthday." You're in my thoughts today and always.

Love,
Your sister, Donna

Darlene Brandt

January 30, 2007

Dear Tom, It doesn't seem like 6 years since you left us when I think of your warm, vivid smile--I keep thinking I'll see you at some polka dance. In another way it seems like an eternity ago that I got that terrible call from my friend Millie, because you've been gone far too long.

I think of you more often as the days go by. You taught me to appreciate how precious life is and how it can all change in one tragic moment. And I miss you terribly, because there are some friends who stay engraved on your heart even though you don't see them often. You are one of them.

Every Christmas when I play at Midnight Mass, I sing a song for you, I play for you and I cry for you. You're in a far better place than we are, and I ask that you watch over all of us who love and remember you until we meet again.

Love, Darlene

Dave and Arlene Gawronski

January 28, 2007

Always enjoyed your company when we saw you in Buffalo and Ocean City.. You never realized how many people really thought the world of you.. You were one heck of a nice guy.. and a great talent,, you will never be forgotten..In our thoughts always...

January 28, 2007

I have not forgotten our loss 6 years ago this past Friday. In fact, I could not stop thinking about it. I felt I lived it all over again when I found out on Friday that the son of very good friends of ours suddenly died of unknown causes Friday morning.He left behind a son who turned one the day before Thomas' birthday.He was 27.
How many times can we be reminded to appreciate the now, and not worry about the future?
You are always in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Your sis,
Karen

Brian Reese

January 27, 2007

Miss playing with you Tom! Everything's changed. It'll never be the same w/o you!
Your Friend
Brian Reese

Kimberly Ode

January 26, 2007

Dad,
Yet another year has passed since we lost you. Nothing is the same without you to share our experiences with. I communicate with Brandon, and he is such a fine young man, and he definately has your musical talent.
Christopher graduates this year, and already has been accepted into one college but is anxiously awaiting acceptace into NC State, for horticulture. Amber got braces last week, and even though she's a junior she has applications into many premed colleges..she wante to go into neonatal medicine...she has definately gotten your brains. And Corey, well he will be 14 next week, and he's definately headstrong..you would be so proud of the kids, they talk about their grandpa all the time, especially since I bought "the G-Notes At Last" album off ebay. They love the 'kimmy polka' as well as the other songs.
As Uncle John and Aunt Donna stated, you dont realize what you have until its gone and how there is such a void without you here with us.
Please continue to watch over us Dad. I love you and miss you so much sometimes its hard to believe its been 6 years.
I love you
Kim

Patti Ann Jakubiak

January 26, 2007

I think of you often and especially at this time when I got the tragic phone call. You are missed. Always a friend,
Patti Ann

Donna Rogalski

January 26, 2007

What can I say, Tom. Another year has gone by since we received the tragic news. It's unfortunate that you are not able to be here with us. We had such a wonderful gathering at Karen's house at Christmas, and I thought of how much you are missing out on. Brandon and Thomas have grown into such fine young men. Beverly is doing such a good job with them. You would be so proud. It was so fun to watch all the kids playing their musical instruments -- the Karas talent continues with our children. And we were able to see Johnny and Kelly's baby, Avery. She's such a cutie. It's at times like this we realize how much you are truly missed. Just remember, you're always in our thoughts and never forgotten.
Love,
Donna

John

January 26, 2007

It's 6 years and almost to the hour that I was informed of the accident and our loss. It is true that we don't completely appreciate what we have until it is lost.

The world is not the same without you in it.

Your brother

Darlene Brandt

November 24, 2006

Dear Tom, As we had Thanksgiving dinner and gave thanks for our blessings, the love of departed family and friends was the greatest of these. You certainly are a friend I am extremely thankful to have known.

I feel so lucky to have had the parents and relatives I have, and to have been able to count you as a dear friend. Just knowing you has enriched my life, and I am so glad we spent happy times together in the band. I remember Nashville most warmly because that's where I really got to know you.

Although we may not have had our friends and loved ones as long as we would have wanted, I'm convinced that it's the quality of time spent together that counts, rather than how much time we've had. It's how brightly a candle shines, not how long, that really matters.

You shone brightly in my life as a friend, and I am very thankful for that. :)--Love, Darlene

Kimberly Ode

November 23, 2006

Well, another thanksgiving is Upon us, and i am thankful for all you have taught me, as well as thankful for my family and the relationship Brandon and I are starting to have. He ss such a fine young man, and he misses you so much, as do all of us. Please continue to watch over all ove us.
Love you Dad
Kim

kimberly ode

June 18, 2006

Happy Fathers Day dad! I was thinking about you a lot today and am so grateful to have you as my Dad. You have taught me so many lessons in life that I could not possibly understand until I grew older and wiser and I love you even more for all the wisdom you have passed on to me. Please continue to watch over all of us and now that Bobby's dad has joined you I know that you two are surrounded by those who love you and will watch over all of us until we are all reunited again. I love you dad, Kim

Darlene Brandt

April 22, 2006

Dear Tom, I know your Easter was glorious. I played an Easter Vigil service and, playing the Hallelujah Chorus and "Jesus Christ is Risen Today" made me cry and think of you, up there in His full glory.



Whenever I hear or play music, I think of you. I know you're watching over all of us. Be happy.



Love, Darlene

Kim Ode

March 28, 2006

Happy Birthday Dad! I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday, and how often I think of you. I can't believe the time that has gone by since we lost you. You are constantly in my prayers and I know you are watching over all of us. I miss you so much dad, there is so much I wish you could share these experiences with the children, you would be so proud. Both Christopher and Amber are in this years Who's who among High school students book and both are semifinalists for scholorships to college...can you believe Chris will be a senior next year and Amber a junior? Corey is doing well too, though he is having some problems, typical of a 13 year old. Please continue to watch over us and I know you are never that far away. I love you.. Kim

Donna Rogalski

March 28, 2006

Hi Tom,



Happy Birthday. To think it would have been your 60th birthday today. It's amazing. Just wanted to let you know we're thinking about you, especially since it would have been a special birthday this year. We will have an extra candle on Bobby's birthday cake tonight so we can sing to you as well. We also had a mass for you this morning, wishing you extra blessings. As always, you're in our thoughts and prayers.

Love,

Your sister Donna

(Bobby, Ashley and Robbie too)

Amber Lewandowski

February 26, 2006

Hey Tom,

Even though you are not with us today we will never forget the great times we had while you were in my dads band you were like a brotherto him. We love you and we miss you Tommy.



Love always,

Amber Lewan

Darlene Brandt

February 15, 2006

Happy Valentine's Day, Tom. Having an opportunity to write to you on the holidays I used to take for granted has underscored how very important they are to celebrate with family and friends. Reading your family's entires, especially those of your children, gives me an ideal for which to strive in keeping relationships strong and loving. Yep, you've given me all of that through your sisters' and brother's thoughtful dedication of this website to your memory!



So, this is a a valentine to you for all you've done, all you've given and all you've been and continue to be: Thank you, and Happy Valentine's Day.



:)--Love, Darlene

Thomas Karas

February 8, 2006

Hey dad its me Thomasi really miss you. its very hard to be without you. Moms going to get married again.im getting very good at clarinet. i sort of know the guitar.im going to learn the alto sax. its very hard without you dad. also im in the fourth grade.just learned long division



from your favorite son,

Thomas.

kim ode

February 1, 2006

Dad,

Five years have gone by and it seems like yesterday that you have been taken from us, and though the pain is still raw, it has gotten a little easier to deal with.

I am always thinking about you Dad and know you are watching over all of us. I catch myself listening to your advice so often now. Its funny, even though Jim never met you, he knows when you're around, because he told me that when things get rough around here he suddenly gets the "Bird Dance" stuck in his head and he knows its You telling him tha he 'better take care of his little girl' and that things will be ok. You still have that sense of humor i see..haha.

Well, i just wanted to tell you we are thinking of you always and Love you will all our hearts, and I know you are constantly watching each of us.

I Love You Dad

Kim

Karen

January 30, 2006

Dear Tom:

You are always in our hearts and minds. It's hard not to relive that horrendous week 5 yrs ago, but time eases the pain a little. You are in a better place.

Peace be with you.Guide us with your eternal wisdom.

Love always,

Your little sis,

Karen

Donna Rogalski

January 26, 2006

Dear Tom,



Here it is -- another year that has gone by since you left us 5 years ago. It's hard to believe it's been 5 years already, because everything that happened that tragic day is so fresh in my memory. We've had so many family gatherings and events, that at each one you have been thought about with wonder on how things would have been with you there. Even though the pain has eased with time, we still truly miss you. We now have comfort knowing that you are at peace and with family members that have passed on. You are in my dreams quite often, including last night, but I feel that is your way of telling me you're ok. Some day we will all be together again. Till then, may God bless you, and please continue to watch over all of us.

Love,

(your baby sister) Donna

and Bobby, Ashley & Robbie

Darlene Brandt

January 1, 2006

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, Tom. It doesn't seem possible that yet another year has passed since you left us. So much has happened to each of us here on earth since you left, and we change a little bit with every passing year, but not only do we still remember you as the years go by, but we miss you more every year.



As more of my elderly relatives join you in the glory of God, even as I grieve, I'm grateful for such beautiful "angels" to watch over us.

With you, I know my parents, relatives and friends are in the best company.



I'm grateful for this wonderful living memorial to you, because I can visit it and see your picture once again. I take comfort in that radiant smile and am thankful that I got to know you. My life is so much richer for having done so.



Love,

Darlene

kim ode

December 24, 2005

Merry Christmas Dad!

Yet another Christmas is upon us, and though we celebrate this holiday, it is not the same without you here. You have taught me the importance of family especially around the Holiday's, and I put on my happy face, trying to continue with tradition, but it all seems empty, because you are not here.



I remember when I was maybe 5 yrs old and Grandpa came over after midnight mass dressed as Santa, and I insisted it was him, but you, Aunt Donna, Aunt Karen and Grandma swore it wasnt, because Grandpa was an usher at the mass, he was tired and went home. I remember making you call him, since they just lived down the street, and he just walked through the door, though i didn't know it, answered the phone, grumpy saying i woke him up. Than I went to the window and seen one of those towers blinking red light and swore, in awe, that it was rudolph!!! This is one story I will never tire of telling the kids.



I know you are with grandma and grandpa now celebrating the birth of Christ, and are all sitting together watching all of us celebrate. We all may be miles apart but our spirits keep us closer than ever.



Thank you dad for teaching us the importance of family, and that a family's love is eternal. I miss you dad, more than you will ever know.



Merry Christmas dad, and tell Grandpa he was a very convincing Santa!!!!! (haha)



I love you and may you continue to keep watching over all of us.



Love

Kim, Jim, Christopher, Amber and Corey

Darlene Brandt

June 21, 2005

Happy Father's Day, Tom. Nobody deserves a Father's Day wish more than you do. I'm reminded of that whenever I think about you or read your Guest Book, because the writings of all of your children reflect what a fine father you've been. I'm especially moved when I read Kim's entries--she's a mother herself now, and her thoughts and concerns for HER children are a reflection of what a beautiful Dad you were to her. I always knew how much you loved all of your kids, but the best evidence of that is how they are living their lives as a reflection of everything good that you taught them. Happy Dad's Day. You TRULY deserve it.

Love, Darlene

kimberly ode

June 19, 2005

Happy Fathers Day dad! We are always thinking about you and miss your words of wisdom and comfort. Though you have been away from us in body your spirit is in our home and hearts always. There have been many of circumstances where I haave to stop and ask myself "what would dad do/say about this?" and then i know exactly what to do... especially now that I am raising teenagers in hopes they will be productive members of society with good morals and responsibility. Just like you have always taught us. Thank you for being the great roll model you have been in my life, even though i often didn't take your advice and learned the hard way i always learned the lesson you hoped I would. As my tasks as a mother get a bit harder and the kids get a little more hard headed I remember what I put you through at that age and it helps me be more rational with them. these are lessons most valuable to me. Thank you Dad. We miss you dearly. Please keep all of us and all of the entire family safe. I love you. Happy Fathers Day. All my Love, Kim

Karen

March 28, 2005

Dear Tom:

Especially remembering you on your birthday today. You are always in our thoughts and prayers.

Love,

your sis,

Karen and family

kim ode

March 28, 2005

Happy Birthday Dad. Today is a bittersweet day. Kind of ironic that your bithday is Dingus Day this year.....gotta watch for those squirt guns and pussy willows hahaha. I bet you are up there just showing everyone the true Polish tradition. We miss you so very much dad. I know you are here watching over us, and I am a stronger woman than I thought, thanks to you. Easter brought back so many good memories. We had beef on wheck (sort of) you see, they don't have Webber's horseradish nor do they know what a kimmelwheck roll is...but we made due. Just wanted to let you know you are constantly in my thoughts and hope you continue watching over us.

We love and miss you dad.

Kim

Donna Rogalski

March 28, 2005

Hi Tom,



I'm writing to wish you a Happy Birthday. Ironically, your birthday falls on Dyngus Day this year. Many polka festivities are planned throughout the day over here. Unfortunately, I have to work and can't take part in all the fun. I had a mass for you this morning at 7:00 a.m. May God's blessings be with you today and always. Happy birthday!

Love,

Your sister Donna

Bobby, Ashley and Robbie too

Darlene Brandt

January 27, 2005

Dear Tom, I am always very sad when the anniversary of the day I received the phone call from Millie and read my computer in shock comes around. I feel as though I have to tell you once again about the panic, then heartbreak I felt. I sat at the computer so many hours, just trying to figure out how such a thing could ever have happened. The heartbreak is still there, but I get a chance, through the love of your family and their generosity, to talk to you when I need to.

Your children are more wonderful than you could ever have hoped for, but that's not surprising, considering their Dad. I never play a polka, or sit in with a band, without thinking of you and wishing you were on the stage with me. You may not be here physically, but are present in our hearts more than ever. You're in our prayers. Your family and friends are doing well because you are watching over everyone.

Love, Darlene and Herman

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