Thomas E. Murray, III

1946 - 2025

Thomas E. Murray, III obituary, 1946-2025, Santa Barbara, CA

Thomas E. Murray, III

1946 - 2025

BORN

1946

DIED

2025

Thomas Murray, III Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 15, 2025.
Thomas E. Murray, III passed away peacefully on August 31, 2025, surrounded by his family. He was born in Bronxville, New York on May 16, 1946. He grew up in a large family with six children in Westchester County, NY.

When he was 14 years of age, Tom went to work at the 34th Street Heliport in Manhattan and that was the start of his long and successful flying career. Tom learned to fly before he learned to drive and actually taught flying from the age of 17. He continued to teach flying, even while he attended Georgetown University and also while he served in the Army. Tom was an excellent pilot and he enjoyed a full career as a Pilot Instructor, not just in New York and Washington D.C., but also in Los Angeles and Santa Barbara.

Tom was very proud of his time serving in the US Army Old Guard at Ft. Myer in Washington, D.C. Later in life, he was active in helping disabled Veterans in Napa, California.

In 1991, Tom met Gail and they were married a few years later. Tom was a devoted husband and stepfather and they had a full and happy life together raising Gail's two sons in Santa Barbara.

A people person with a wonderful sense of humor, Tom never met a stranger and had many lifelong friends. He enjoyed meeting friends for lunches or taking walks. He was an active part of the Santa Barbara community and member of the YMCA for decades, making many friendships there.

Tom had a great sense of humor and a big heart. He often took family members, as well as friends and neighbors on local training flights, which they all enjoyed immensely.

Tom leaves behind his beloved wife, Gail, of 34 years, their two sons and three grandsons, his sister, nieces and a nephew and many extended family. He is greatly missed.

A celebration of Tom's life will take place at a later date.

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Gwen Kelley Curran

October 19, 2025

Dearest Tom, I will certainly miss your smiling face and welcoming hugs at every family holiday. You were a wonderful husband and parent to Gail and the boys. Thanks for taking me flying and getting us back on the ground safely. Now you can fly the heavens forever. With love, Gwen

Rose Kern

September 18, 2025

Fly high Tommy! Thank you for being such a devoted life long friend to my father. He thought of you like another son. Your adventures flying were the stuff of legends! You were loved and will be missed. Rose, Dana and Lee

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