Winnie Wing-Kei Tso-Cure

Winnie Wing-Kei Tso-Curé This is the true story of endless Love, our love and the love she spread through everyone's heart she touched. Winnie was born in Guangzhou (Canton) China, on May 6th, 1961. To loving parents Doctor Yiu Ming Tso and Shun Po (Ida) Wong. Growing up during the "Cultural Revolution" in mainland China the family moved to Hong Kong. In Hong Kong, Winnie attended Liu Ching Middle School. During this time Winnie's love of the Piano and Chopin developed. So much so that Winnie attended the "Royal School of Music" which is part of the "Royal Academy of Music" who's President at the time was Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth, the Queen Mother. She scored highly while attending there in Music Theory and Pianoforte. This led to Winnie again scoring highly at the Hong Kong Music and Speech Festival. The family then moved to the United States and Winnie attended High School in Portland Oregon. After High School Winnie attended and graduated from the University of California at Berkley's prestigious "Haas School of Business". Winnie was a undergraduate and graduate "Scholastic Honor Society" member during her time at UCB. Upon graduation one of her first jobs was at Del Monte. When people asked what she did there……She always joked that her accounting skills were put to work at quality control counting how many seeds were in each tomato, lol. Winnie was a Certified Management Accountant, Certified Financial Manager and a Certified Public Accountant. Her financial expertise made her very sought after. With these skills and being fluent in Cantonese, Mandarin and English Winnie was courted by several U.S. Federal Law Enforcement agencies. Winnie chose to pursue corporate business as a controller. This was her best decision. Resulting in Winnie taking four companies public on the New York Stock Exchange. Two as Controller, one as Global Controller and one as the Chief Financial Officer Winnie truly loved her career and the colleague's she worked with over the years. She made a lasting impact on everyone and many personal friendships. That's the corporate Winnie. The personal Winnie…. Loves God, more than anything else on earth. God is first! When we met we talked a great deal about God. Winnie wanted a man that loved God as much as she did. I wanted a woman that loved God as I do. It was much later that Winnie told me of something her Mom told her; "When you marry, marry a Christian man. You won't be happy with someone who isn't". As I said Winnie's Passion was God first and I'm honored to say I was next. I was the love of her life and she mine. I know for a fact the best day of Winnie's life and of mine also, was the day we were married. We tried for a few years to get married in Rome. However Winnie's work schedule would change last minute and we'd be off to one of her companies offices somewhere around the world. The day we were married was the best of all days. I so love to hear her say "I Love You". She told me when she was in past relationships that the men hated hearing her say that to them all the time. Being just the opposite of them, I said well…they're idiots! Can't sugar coat that. You'd have to be nuts not to want to hear the "I love you" from the one you love. How I'd so enjoy hearing that again from her. She'd say I love you, I'd say I love you more, she'd say I love you to the "Nth" degree, I'd say I love you to the Nth degree times Pi. Then Winnie would say you always pull the "Pi" card, I'd say because that's how I love you…endlessly! Winnie and I at home was our favorite place to be. Winnie has been since I first night we met, my one and only, we truly are soulmates. She'd say "you're in my head"! Because I knew what she wanted before she'd say it, we could finish each other's sentences. Winnie's next true love was my 125lb Shutzhund III Rottweiler, his name was Rom. Winnie and I didn't have biological children, but we did have a child that was stuck in a Rottweiler body. And it was true love at first site, must run in the family. You see before I met Winnie, I prayed for someone that loved God as I did and would love my little boy as I did (people are afraid of Rottweiler's)… God brought us together as she was also praying for someone who loved God as she did. So when they were first going to meet I prepped her about him. He'll say hello and then probably ignore you (that's what he's always done in the past with other people, very aloof). Oh did I mention my prayer about "God give me a sign" I said to God I like this Winnie very much but what I've been doing hasn't worked well for me so I surrender to you Lord. Please, God remember that I need a sign as subtle as a train crash that Winnie is who you want for me. Well, Winnie walks in the door her usual bubbly self, ignores me…immediately gets on her knees with open arms and Rom runs right to her kissing, wiggling with joy and then sits on her lap. There was my sign. You'd have to see the look on his face. I captured it the next time she came over…same thing happened same look and I photographed it. Now Winnie saw what I did…it's the look of "Ok, ya get it, is this subtle as a train crash for you?"! I did get it! He never did that before, he'd walk up look at them turn around and leave, pretty rude little guy lol. From then on "Winnie" was now known as "Mommy Winnie" still. He never left her side. And when Winnie first cooked for him (stir fry beef), the joy in that little guys face. You'd expect him to wolf it down; nope small bites and chew savor the flavor. About a year later he got sick with the exact same fibro sarcoma that Winnie had. Thank God she knew what to do. You think everything is coincidence? Think again God is in control. We had the best board certified surgeons but we lost him. If you got our black and white Christmas card that year, now you know why… Winnie loves to travel. Over almost six years we spent half the year out of the country, two weeks to a month at a time. Winnie's career took us all over the globe; Greece, Great Britain, Italy, France, Beijing, Shanghai, Hong Kong. Typical Winnie not thinking of herself; was worried about me, putting my career on hold for hers. That's just how considerate and loving she is. I told her; "I love you and my place is by your side supporting you in all you do, keeping you safe wherever you go. Being and doing whatever you need whenever you need it". Love isn't selfish. And where ever we went around the world both of us were always drawn to the Churches first. To always give thanks to the Lord our God. I can't imagine traveling without her, can't imagine most anything without Winnie. We planned on growing old together. For someone so petite she'd take command of a room. Such a bright star, always smiling, bubbly and happy. Our ten years together passed in the blink of an eye. Winnie also enjoyed shopping, and I was a good husband pack mule when she shopped. I so enjoyed shopping with her, always fun. She loved her handbags and clothes. Especially from Paris and Milan. Along with good food, we have our favorite places around the world. But when we're home, home is where we like most. There's a lot of love in our home. We always cooked together switching roles as Chef and Sous Chef. But always together! Anyone who knows Winnie knows her favorite color is PINK! Pink anything, if she had a Ferrari, yes it would be pink… Something else about Winnie is that growing up in Guangzhou (Canton) China. She never had dolls or stuffed animals, perhaps a homemade doll. Well she made up for it surrounding herself with them. Which made it easy for me for presents buy "pink" and something stuffed and there's a home run in gift department. Winnie wasn't into watches or rings, jewelry etc. Winnie was also a photography model in Hong Kong and Taipei in print ad's for the photographers. The camera loved Winnie. She always thought of herself as Snow White and loved her special Disney large stuffed dwarfs. I was the Prince that kissed her. And Jingle Bears, every year we'd go out in October sometimes, I see the boxes in the over head storage pull 'em down and Winnie would go through dozens to find the best boy/girl pair. Carefully checking their faces, eyes etc. for the cutest ones, it was really fun for me watching the little girl in her come out. And she was a happy as if I spent 100,000 dollars on her gift. Here favorite TV show or movies were cartoons mostly and I too enjoyed them. She always wanted happy positive shows most of all. Winnie loved to laugh and her laugh was infectious. As I said being home together is what we liked most of all watching her favorite shows such as Star Trek Next Generation (STGN), NCIS, CSI Miami, James Bond films and especially cooking shows like Jacques Pepin. Back to the stuffed animals…knowing she really liked Star Trek one Christmas I had Patrick Stewart, the STNG Star actor sign a photo for her. Had it framed when she opened it Christmas morning…well it was a "so what". Winnie said all I want on our walls is us and family. Good thing I bought a super large pink stuffed elephant! Yes, that's right Winnie loved that! All during these years of travel and fun at being home was best. Enjoying what was truly important… each other. No time was wasted, we both knew time was short and being together is most important to us. I think the first year we were together was the only year without Winnie having surgery, major surgeries. Sometimes twice a year on her arm, major with free flaps, skin graphs etc. Brain surgery, surgery on her thigh to remove a growth. The amputation of her left arm above the elbow around this time 2016. With a clear margin we were told she was cancer free, thanks be to God. However within three months it was back, lymph nodes and another surgery to remove them. It metastases into her lung and brain. Now chemo, targeted therapy etc. More suffering for my sweet wife and I. All the while through all the years, all the surgeries, hospital stays ICU etc… This is very important, Not once, not a single time did she blame God, get made at God, ask "why me" etc. Through it all I was her nurse, changing bandages and anything else right up to the end. Again Winnie says to me she'll hire a nurse, that I wasn't supposed to be her servant. I reminded her Jesus came to serve not to be served. My place is taking care of you I said and no one else could do better. Winnie healed quickly and I know its from all the love she received. I continued to take care of her as always 24/7 right up to the day when Winnie passed away at home with me, in my arms July 21, 2017. And you something right up to the end we both believed God would bless us with a miracle and save her life. Winnie always said it's up to God and …..We have to pray more. Winnie saved my soul by pushing me to find my church and get close to God. I don't know what I'd do right now if I wasn't so close to God. If I didn't have my parish, the good people around me…all because God blessed me with Winnie. Winnie is the love of my life, and loved by so many of you that knew her. Our time together passed too quickly, too fast. I wish I could go back to live it over again... Life with Winnie was "A Wonderful Life", ten years of heaven on earth. One piece of advice...don't take anything for granted. Life can change in the blink of an eye. If someone would have told me a year ago that this is what I'd be faced with a year later, widowed. I would have said they were crazy.... A dear Priest told me once...Pain and Suffering God allows bringing a greater good. Personally I couldn't find anything good in Winnie's passing...until I took my selfishness out of the equation (not so easy, try it sometime...) All I wanted was Winnie hear with me, I didn't care she couldn't walk anymore, I didn't care about anything but the love of my life still here sharing life, and Winnie wanted to stay. Watching TV in bed she always had her foot on mine, great feeling for us each others touch. The "Good" is that my beloved is with God, where in our belief we all want to be one day. Winnie Wing-Kei Tso-Curé had an "E" ticket straight to our Lord. The pain and the suffering are left for us here on earth... the suffering is much, great in fact.. There is a lot of truth to "only the good die young" for they are God's best, and his best are attacked most violently by the evil one. Cancer is an evil. We who are left here have much work to still to do. Winnie has gotten her wings and heaven as a new Angel. Winnie's favorite part of the Bible is the Book of Job. Fitting as she never gave up, never quit regardless of what was thrown at here. Winnie told me the only reason she was fighting was because she didn't want to leave me, her husband. Her last spoken words were to me, a couple days before she past. I was fixing something for her in bed and asked her to move a little, she did and as always trying to encourage her and be positive. I said "perfect see we make a great team" She responded "we did" 1st time she ever used past tense, I said its "we do, we're not done yet, I'm not giving up miracles happen" she said to me "I Love You!" I said the same right back to Winnie "I Love You". Did you know Winnie's Name "Wing-Kei" means "All Glory to God!" She lived up to that name very nicely. Winnie loved us all, Family and Friends. She touched everyone in a very special way, Please always keep her in your prayers, through out everything Winnie said Prayers are what she needed most. Her prayer warriors are great, and prayer is the is most powerful. God bless my love, my wife Winnie Wing-Kei Tso-Curé Thank you for loving me, for being my everything, my world. Such a pure heart, a God like heart I've never known anyone like you, and am honored God blessed me with you! You are the love of my life, and I will see you again when God brings me home to you, I know God says of you "This is my love daughter, with whom I am pleased" I Love you to the Nth degree times Pi! Your husband, Robert Et nos debmus Deo semper fidelis. And we must always be faithful to God! Winnie always was....