Jamison Lyndsey Paris
1986 - 2021
Jami was born August 15, 1986 in Modesto, Ca. and spent the first thirty years of her life in Tracy, Ca. She graduated from Tracy High School in 2005 and continued her education at Delta College. In 2016, Jami & her mom moved to Lodi, Ca.
Survived by her Mother, Janelle Paris (Lodi, Ca.); Grandparents: Bob & Jane Paris (Lodi, Ca.), Buck & Donna Buckner (Timberlake, N.C.); Aunts and Uncles: Krista & Dick Torpey (Hilton Head, S.C.), Juliana Buckner (Timberlake, N.C.), Eric & Kari Paris (Modesto, Ca.), Jonathan Buckner (Timberlake, N.C.), David Yniguez (Timberlake, N.C.); Cousins: Ryan Torpey & Amy Tyler, Colin & Abby Torpey, Lauren Torpey; extended family and friends.
Predeceased by her loving Father, Robert Paris Jr., who was killed in the line of duty April12, 2012, and her adored Aunt Jill Buckner (Titi) on September 23, 2020.
To most, it was a day that seemed no more or less remarkable than any other, the 23rd of September, 2021; But it was this day that Earth and Time stood still, as a small, quivering flame flickered and silently died. For those who knew and loved Jamison Lyndsey Paris, it is the date when life as we once knew it was yanked like a rug beneath our feet and that irreplaceable light and warmth went out of this world.
From a tender age, Jami faced countless physical challenges that only grew more complicated as the years passed. Always refusing to be limited, she embraced each new trial with uncommon courage, determination and grace (and perhaps a slight pinch of obstinance when she'd had enough). She was resolutely determined to pursue the interests that gave her happiness, no matter the obstacles that might present along the way. A very creative soul who beautifully expressed herself through poetry, ceramics and glass-working, Jami trained herself to write and paint with her left hand after a stroke restricted her control on the right side. She diligently applied herself, though such detailed work required great focus and concentration and took much longer than it did for others. Ever the creative perfectionist, she eventually became so adept that there was no perceptible difference in her painting skill with regards to dominant hand. In recent years, Jami was learning the art of glass-working. She loved spending days with other artists and hobbyists at the studio when she visited North Carolina. Her beautiful pieces usually became personal gifts, imbued with thoughtfulness and love. Her talent, tenacity, curiosity and desire to learn and then adapt new techniques was inspiring to everyone. The little glass studio was a place where she could express her individuality and also be amongst a community of friends who not only accepted her just as she was, but also truly liked her and encouraged her artistic endeavors. They appreciated all the specialness that Jami brought with her everywhere.
Not only creative, Jami had diverse interests, some of which began as a child. She always loved being a Girl Scout and dreamed of being a troop leader. In middle school, she was a member of the science club, which grew into a lifelong love of frogs, lizards, cute little geckos and all types of turtles. An animal lover, she always insisted on touring whatever educational facility was nearby to observe and learn more about the species being cared for in that place. It was her ultimate joyful experience to spend a day with the keepers behind the scenes and just maybe get to interact with the animals housed there. In spite of the physical demands of such a venture, she would so happily commit to a really exhausting day with the marine biologists and trainers at the Atlantis resort, or at the Duke Lemur Center-all for the chance to spend time with the animals. She was an enthusiastic supporter of the ground-breaking Turtle Hospital at Topsail Island, NC, and loved returning to visit whenever she could. An avid shopper, she also bought out the little gift shop there. Always giving! Naturally, Jami adored the animals in her life, especially her little white fur-ball, Carson. You can be sure the world is no longer the same for him either. Whenever Jami was away from home, she was sure to call and video-chat with him, which was always heartwarming to overhear.
Ever ready for a gathering of any size, Jami loved being among her family and friends anytime, especially on holidays. The 4th of July and Christmas were her favorites. She was a generous giver who derived great pleasure from selecting the perfect presents for everyone. Some of the most thoughtful, surprising and wonderful gifts would come from her beautiful, soft hands, with a mischievous smile on that face. She enjoyed musical theater; countless movies from Madea to Hallmark -- especially the Christmas movies, in both July and December; and she was really good at putting puzzles together. Her Christmas was always merrily prolonged, since she celebrated with family on both coasts. She could decorate cookies, make her seven-layer dip, and wrap packages all with that special left hand. She would decline offers of assistance, insisting she could do things herself. She was quietly inspiring.
Even as physical movement became more difficult for her, Jami loved to travel, and she had so many places near and far that she wanted to see. In recent years, she cruised the Caribbean, experienced the matchless and magical Christmas season in NYC; fulfilled a lifelong dream of seeing her namesake, Paris, and Eiffel Tower with her Mom; and she was tickled to have romped around the aquariums with the trainers at Atlantis in the Bahamas. She loved room-service and nice hotels. Even though it had to be exhausting, she was happy to join in any type of walking tour in new places. She was also up for a ride to almost anywhere-- the beach, Walmart or a nearby food truck. And if you happened to mention Taco Bell or Olive Garden....well, she could beat anyone to the car!
As the surviving daughter of a fallen officer, Jami looked forward to the annual Police Week in Washington, DC., when those police who died in line of duty are honored and memorialized with great pomp and circumstance. While the sudden and violent loss of her father in 2012 deeply affected her, an unexpected hand in the darkness was extended to her in the form of a healing and supportive retreat held yearly at the YMCA Trout Lodge in Pitosi, Missouri, facilitated by C.O.P.S. In this little corner of the world, Jami met others who had experienced the same devastating loss and found there a place where she felt "normal" and understood. She came to love this group and immensely enjoyed traveling on her own to meet with them in the summers. There, she felt accepted, appreciated and cared for by this community and enthusiastically looked forward to attending every year. As one of her favorite places, there is a memorial fund in Jamison's name to assist the camp to keep reaching others as she had been helped.
Words are too inadequate to convey the fathomless grief felt by those who love Jami. She had been precariously ill so many times, but she always miraculously bounced back. She just kept going. She was fearless and always anxious to do what might be beyond her "ability", no thought of failing or being seen as different. Though plagued with headaches of varying degree every day of her life, she valiantly held that head up, ponytail in place, and just kept going. She zip-lined, flew in a hot-air balloon and started taking horseback riding lessons. She was amazing, sensitive, feisty and beautiful. She loved to laugh. She was especially close to her Aunt Jill (Titi) and was bereft when she suddenly died last year. Perhaps it is a heartbreaking but befitting irony that one year later to the day, while in her mother's arms, and Kitty by her side, Jamison slipped from this life into forever.
Borrowing a quote from one of Jami's camp friends: " The only reason we feel such profound loss is because we had such a profound blessing." And so she will always be our blessing and gift from God. It is our great expectation and hope to see her again one day and to hear that laugh once more fill the air.
Published by Lodi-News Sentinel from Oct. 30 to Nov. 5, 2021.
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Jeff, Cindy, Phillip and Grace
December 8, 2021
I was a lucky one to witness the beauty of Jami´s enthusiasm for life! Her struggles in life were not obstacles, but incentives to experience a more amazing one. Her love for adventures never ceased to amaze me! I will miss her sweet spirit
Luana Whitford
November 6, 2021
Blessings to you, Jan. We are always here for you. By the way, what's for dinner? Mark and Kay Reindl
Mark and Kay Reindl
November 4, 2021
So sorry that your magnificent daughter has gone.
Steve Battilana
November 1, 2021
I have never met Jami but I feel like I know her after reading her life story. What a wonderful tribute to a remarkable young woman. I would have loved to meet her and learn from her determination and perseverance. I´m not young by any means but I know Jamie could have inspired me to try new things and encourage me to never give up. I fell in love with Jami´s Spirit. I wish we could have met in this lifetime. Perhaps we´ll meet in the next chapter. God bless you as you mourn the loss of this amazing young lady.
Claudia Woltkamp
October 31, 2021
First of all, I never met Jami. My condolences are to her family and friends. This obituary introduced me and others who never met her, to get to know her a little. What a remarkable story of one´s life! Most obits are not the REAL story of that person. We are important as any celebrity! Most likely more important. Thank-you for this writing. May God be with all of you in your mourning for Jami.
Lee Fortner
October 31, 2021
Heaven's gain...so sorry for your loss of your loved one
October 30, 2021
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