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Patty Libed
February 17, 2011
Dear Sweetie,
They have very strict rules up here in heaven for "crossing over" and communicating with the other side. However, because our Heavenly Father loves you so much and has heard your cries of desperation he decided to make an exception and allow me to connect with you one last time. As I read your wonderful letter it warms my heart and makes me smile, but there is something that I want you to know. As perfect as our love was in the brief time we knew each other, now that I am up here and I am in the presence of God Himself, I see that our perfect love was only a shadow of things to come. Perhaps one of the reasons that they have allowed me to communicate with you this one last time is to give me an opportunity to share my newfound perspective. I think it will help you in the normal grieving process. Heaven is a wonderful place. Remember when I was sick and I got weaker and weaker? In Heaven you only grow stronger and stronger each day. All of the horrible causes of "The Fall" are reversed up here. Things don't get weaker, they get stronger. Experiences don't get old, they are new every morning. Love never grows cold, instead it grows exponentially each day. We never get older, only more youthful.
On earth I remember reading a verse that says, "Life is but a like a mist, it appears for a while and then it vanishes." I know now that I really never understood that verse in my human, mortal understanding. Now I get it and I want you to get it too. It won't be long before your time is come, like mine did. It won't be long before you are in the presence of The Father. And when that day comes He promises that He will "wipe away every tear and there will be no more crying." This is the promise I want you to cling to. For now you must carry on God's work for the both of us. I wish I could be there to work alongside of you but I know and trust our Heavenly Father and He would never had taken me if it wasn't the best thing. He never would have taken me if He knew you could not be strong on your own - He always does what is good and right and perfect. On earth I kind of knew that in my head but now I am up here all my doubts are gone. I know it to be true. So, you need to take me at my word and believe it is true as well. I believe it was Paul who wrote in one of his letters that on earth we "see through a glass darkly," which means we don't really understand what God is up to. However, when you get up here you will see things clearly - I promise.
The wisest man who ever lived, King Solomon wrote in his writings: "There is a time to weep and a time to mourn." I am proud of you, my dearest Patty, for being willing to close our "Legacy Book." Its time. Although on earth you will always be sad, you cannot escape that emotion, I want to ask you to close the book on your grief and mourning. Life is but a mist. I want to look down and see you from up here living the little time you have left with joy, laughter and meaning.
I release you to love again.
I release you to find new experiences.
I release you.
King Solomon also wrote, "There is a time for laughter and a time for joy."
Now is your time honey.
With a true everlasting love,
Daniel
Patty Libed
February 14, 2011
Daniel, "I Love You" so much
I miss you more each passing day, it's been a year and where do I began to explain what life for me has been like living without you...when you left, you took our Hopes, our Dreams and a huge part of me, if not all of me with you...I can't believe your gone, I still can't comperhen that, it's bigger than I am...I have lived in a fog this last year...Life without you is so painful, the uncontrollable tears have not stopped and life has become so very, very difficult...Our "Love" was nothing short of "Amazing" so my loss and my grief is huge, a lifetime is not long enough to recovery from this...What you brought into this relationship and gave me in only 4 short years will last me a lifetime. Your unconditional love for me, your beautiful smile, your loving hugs, and the way you made me feel safe, secure and presious, and how I mattered, and how I felt and what I said was important...how you listen to me, truly listened and explained things I didn't understand...I miss the wonderful smell coming from the kitchen when you were in there cooking and the excitment in your eyes when it was time to eat, the little weekend road trips, our vacations in Hawaii, fishing in Utah and looking at the stars, Santa Cruz, San Franciso, the Grand Canyon and Oatman what "Great Times" we had...the quite moments together, just being home surrounded by the peace and serenity that filled our home, and our 4 hour naps on Sunday after church...I miss everything about you, and so very much more. You brought stabilitiy in my life, you helped me stay focus, grounded and balanced, you showed me a love and life I've never known before, loving you and sharing my life with you was one of the "Greatest" things that's ever happen to me, I Thank "God" for that everyday for you...A once in a lifetime love connection, so "Amazing" so Huge there are no words to explain it...and nobody understands it except you and I...I would do anything to change the way things are...I'm not understanding God right now, why did he take you and left me here alone in so much pain? Why did he bring you in my life only to take you from me so soon? I have so many questions and no answers...I'm lost without you...I don't know what to do, I get through each day a minute at a time...I don't know anything anymore, I have been in survival mode for the last year and nothing seems important, nothing matters anymore. My foundation has been stattered and my world is in pieces, and I don't know how to even began to put it back together, or if I even want to...I can hear you saying to me, Patty stop being so selfish, you have so many things to be "Grateful" for...your mother needs you, your children and grandchildren need you, and my children need you...But I need you, Daniel...I dont know how to do live without you, I don't no if I'm even trying, all I know is that I have no choice, and it's one step forward and two steps back and I'm going nowhere...I want to be with you so badly sometimes, I can't see pass the moment...Why did it have to be this way? I surely can understand why God would want you, your an "Amazing" Man but in my own mind and life, I need you so much more...we need you...nobody can really understand the heartache your death has cause all of us, people say life goes on...How do you do that? How do you go on when a huge part of your heart and life is no more, I don't know how...I don't even know if I want too...All I know is I love you so very much, and I miss you so much, I can hardly stand it...How does life go from being so "Wonderful" to unbearable in the blink of an eye, how do you go from happier than you've ever been in your life to beyond broken hearted instantly, how do I repair my broken heart, when you took the pieces with you? Memories of our life together flood my every thought...I miss you...and I'm surrounded by your presents in our home, I miss your physical presents and the way you made me feel when we were together...I miss watching the crazy funny way you would dance, I miss your sexy french accent and I miss hearing you laugh at me because of my Pidgon English...I miss our cup of coffee in bed and our 4:00 am conversations, Thanking "God" for our "Wonderful Life" What happen?
It's 2011, you should be in your last year of school right now, and we should be making plans and getting ready to move to Hawaii...all these things we should be doing, but we never will, you are in "Heaven" now and I wonder what you do all day up there? Are you golfing and fishing? Are you doing all the things you loved to to here? Do you have a endless supply of candy and cookies and ice cream? Will you remember me "Sweetie" when I get there some day? Will you come and get me and take me home with you and Jesus? Everything is so unbelieveable, it's like a horriable nightmare, and when I see husbands an wifes together, I feel cheated, so very cheated, it's so not fair. I spend many years like you alone and not wanting to be in a relationship...and then "God" has other plans for both of us. Plans so truly "Amazing" it can't be decribed in words...How 2 became one, with a "Love" so "Amazing" I sit in "Awh" thinking about it...Blessed, we had been Blessed like no other...and now I sit with my head spinning in a fog so thick, I'm unable to see or understand anything and wondering why all this had to happened? The life changing circomstances are unbearable, I just can't accept it, your never coming home again...and never ever is a very, very long time. I can't comprehen that word...except that there will "Never" be anyone like you, or I will "Never" love this way again, or I will "Never" really know why this all came about and you will "Never" truly know how sad I am without you...how days just roll into the next and have no meaning right now...how a whole year has gone by so quickly...and how my eyes have shed so many tears it seems impossiable...how I fall asleep every night with you on my mind, and wake up every morning without you...how our whole life runs through my mind all day everyday, like a movie, a "Beautiful Love Story" with such a horriable ending...how my heart breaks when I think about how much you suffered and never complained...how you told me the night before you died, I love you, I love you, I love you... in a little whisper with all of the strenght you had left in you...I miss hearing you say that...I miss everything about you...everything...the way you loved everybody, the way you loved me, the way you lived, the way you thought, the way love "Honored our "GOD"
the way I could see into your loving heart through your beautiful eyes...I miss everything about you...Daniel. I miss being in Church with you, walking into GVCC or New Hope Las Vegas without you brings me to my knees, it's so difficult standing in Church alone without you, there's so much history there, that's where we meet and that's where our lifes began together, so now I've been seeking a new home church because the overwhelming pain is almost unbearable in our churches...Nothing is the same anymore and never will be again...and when I died and come to "Heaven" we will no longer be married, because there is no more marriages in "Heaven". I remember when you first told me that, I was so sad and disappointed, I wanted to be married to you forever, and you said, it "Sucks" that we won't be married, and that says to me...you loved me so much you wanted to be married forever to...life is no longer a bowl of "Sweet Cherries". Without you it's been a very dark place, full of tears, pain and an emptiness in my heart that I can't even explain...how do I go on without you? How do I find the "Joy" that once filled my life? Where do I find the
"Peace and Serenity" that surrounded my life not to long ago? I build my whole life and world around you...what am I going to do now? People say life is to short, but there are so many days when I feel like life is to long...I've been working on this letter for a few days making sure I get all my thoughts and feeling down before I send it in. This will be the last entry before the Legecy Book is closed forever...it is January 31, 2011 it's our wedding aniversary, 2 years ago today...I've called in sick at work, the memories are overwhelming and my tummy is in knots...we started our life together as one on this day. What a simple and "Beautiful" wedding it was, on the beach at sunset surrounded by people we loved and who loved us. The ocean filled with turtles looking on. A blanket of Peace, Serenity and Happiness covered us, along with
"Gods Blessing" I had never been so Happy..."You" had made my life "Great" and now as I sit here in our home surrounded by all the things you loved and the good times and memories this house holds, I wonder what it all means...what truly is "Gods Plan" for all of us? Am I so wrapped up in my own grief that I can't hear, I can't see, I'm not listening, I'm not seeking God and his answers and his plans for my life without you? The words "Without You" cut so deep, that it leaves me paralyzed and reaching back in time for what once was, that is no more...I'm so broken without, you can't even imagine...the tears are uncontrollable and I am drowning in my own saddness...The impact you made in my life is "Huge" and the impact of your sudden death is even "Greater"...everyday I ask myself what do I do without you? How do I find the strenght to get up and go to work, only to come home to an emepty house? I just can't believe any of this...I just want to talk to you again...even if it's only in a "Dream" The only person who understands this pain and struggle is Danielle, she is in the same position I am, everyone is struggling but they have found some inner strengh to cope and move forward, Danielle and I have not been able to find that...we are devastated beyond comperhention, trying to look to "God" for what we need and getting through each day because we have to, not always wanting too...trying not to let our grief and saddness bring others down into this dark place we are completely stuck
in...it's been a whole year and everything is as fresh in our hearts and our minds as if it were yesterday, but even more painful because reality has set in and the truth beknown to us...you are gone Daniel, and it hurts so very much...this letter could go on forever without a doubt...where do I start and where and how does it all end? I am alive in my own world, but I've stopped living, because I don't know how to do that anymore...it's been one huge pity party for the last year and people are tired i'm sure of listening to me, but you always listen but even greater than that you understood like no other...and now that your gone I feel like my voice is locked inside of me because nobody really understands...the one regret I have is we didn't talk about death or you dying, I believed you would be "Healed"and "Restored" to perfect health, my faith was in abundance and I truly believed you and I would have many, many years together...OMG!!!! the thought of you dying never crossed my mind the whole time you were sick...I "Believed" God was going to heal you... Dr. Gollard words, that you were dying was not real to me, the disbelieve and pain through out my mind and body was indescibable, as it is right now...How can this be? The "Love of my Life", the one and only person who every really loved me for me, unconditionally...and would do anything to make me smile...who only saw the good in me, who thanked Jesus for the healing and miracles in my life and wanted me around 24 hours of the day...my husband, my spirital leader, my best friend, my partner in life, my lover, my shoulder to cry on, and the loving arms that held me close letting me know everything would be allright....he would be soon leaving me forever... and how would I ever live without him and how did I ever live before him...I am so "Grateful" for you, and all the things you've taught me, you've showed me, you've given me, you've shared with me, you've been my insperation and you've seen me through alot, never leaving me to take it on alone...I'm "Grateful" for your love for me, your encouragement, your support, your wisdom, your endless knowlegde that you shared with me, I'm "Grateful" for the way you watered and nourished our marriage and how you would not settle for a complacent relationship, striving everyday to make it better than the day before, "Grateful" for the goals you set for our lives and our marriage, to be filled with a abundance amount of "God" family, great fun and great times, with nothing but thankful hearts, happiness, peace, love, sernenity, contentment, laughter, smiles with the most wonderful life ahead of us, letting no body steal our "Joy" Thats the kind of "Man" you were...God worked miracles in you, and you were so "Special"
I've never meet anyone like you in my life and I don't think I ever will, God don't make men like you...you are not of this world, but you left a legacy of what a "Man" a Husband, a Father, a Son, a Friend, a Child of "God" truly is, the way "God" intended "Man" to be, and all the people who's lifes you touched in your short time here on this earth are truly "Blessed".... What a
"Wonderful World" this would be if it was filled full of "Daniel's"...then maybe people would understand my deep saddness, my great loss and my unbearable pain...I will never forget you and all that you are and all that you've done...I love you more than I can even explain and more than you could even understand...this is not goodbye, we will someday, one day be together again forever...untill I see you again, I will "Love" and "Miss" you longer than forever...
Forever your wife,
Love, Patty
Patty Libed
January 8, 2011
I miss you so much, I love you so much, life is different and never to be the same without you again, it's more than a daily struggle, but everyday that I live is a day closer to the day I will see you again....I love you, Baby...this is the New Years wish you had for me and the family last years, as sick as you were, you took the time to write and email this wish to all of us...I love you forever, thank you for loving me, for me...
Subject: I PRAY THAT YOU ALL HAVE A PROSPEROUS YEAR, MATURING IN THE WORD OF GOD
From: Daniel
Date: December 30, 2009 12:08:05 PM PST
To: Patty Libed ,
Subject: I PRAY THAT YOU ALL HAVE A PROSPEROUS YEAR, MATURING IN THE WORD OF GOD...
HE HAS DONE EVERYTHING WELL
So at the end this year we want to talk about every week,about every hour that has passed. We want to go to prayer with this word until there is no longer an hour about which we do not want to say "He has done everything well" (Mark7:37) The days that were heavy for us, that tormented us and made us anxious, the days that have left us with a trace of bitterness, are the very days that we do not want to leave us behind us today, before we also confess about them, thankfully and humbly "He has done every well." We are not to forget but to overcome. That happens through gratitude. We are not to solve the unsolvable puzzle of the past and
to fall into torturous brooding, but to let even the incomprehensible stand and return peacefully to God's hand. This happens through humility."He has done
everything well."
But the most terrible thorn remains: mea culpa mea culpa!.....The evil fruit of my sin keeps working without end. How can i bring it to an end? And yet you are no Christian- rather, you became harden in your sin-if you cannot say about your guilt:"He has done everything well !"One thing it does say is: we have done
everything well.......
This is the last and most astonishing perception of Christians, that they may finally say even about their sin : "He has done everything well"
Patty Libed
August 18, 2010
I Miss You My Sweet Love,
August 19, 2010 you have been gone 6 months and it feels like 6 minutes, I am still in the "I Can't Believe Stage" My life is forever changed...and I just can't believe you will never walk through the door again, I just can't believe you will never wrap your arms around me and hold me close to you, I just can't believe I will never hear you say the words...I love you so much I can't even explain it, I just can't believe I will never see you smile or hear you laugh again, I just can't believe we will never move to Hawaii or walk on the beach together again ,I think of the things we use to do, and realize how much my world will never be the same...you made all of my "Dreams" come true. and you loved me for me, a unconditional love that was "Amazing" you were a rare human being, molded by "GOD" himself, and I was so "Blessed" to beable to share in your life...I just can't believe any of this, it is to much for me to comprehend...the children are strugging right along with me and doing the best they can, living a life that always make you proud, Trusting "GOD" to make all things right...we would look to you for things thats we couldn't understand, and you always had the right answers and took the time to explain and always made sure we understood..I miss the children coming to vist, the house was full of kids and laughter and it was "Wonderful" and we would cook and eat like there was no tomarrow, and just spend Great quility time together...And now I am overwhelemed by the changes and the things I depended on you for, you were the "Leader" in this household, and you were a "GREAT" one at that... I never worry about anything, you made our life perfect... I could write for a year and still not finish writing about all the the things I love and miss about you...I remember you once told me, everything changes, nothing ever stays the same, people, places, lifes circomstances change, nothing is permanent.... How I wish that wasn't true, how I wish there was a cure for cancer, how I wish you didn't have to suffer, How I wish "GOD" would have given us more time...How I wish you were right here next to me at this very moment...
Oh "GOD" how I wish....I could just have one more day..everything is still in it's place just the way you left it, your tools, your bike, your computor, your clothers, your car, your toys, your motors you built from scratch pictures of you fill the house, everywhere I look I see you...but your not really here...Instead I have the most "Wonderful Memories" and in my "Heart" I can see your smile, and I can hear you laughing, I can hear your voice when I read my text messages from you...And when I look out the kitchen window I can see you riding your bicycle on your way to the the gym, and when I look up at the "Heavens" I wonder what are your doing up there all day, and I think about what if, you were given the choice to stay or come home, what would you do? I think you would choose to stay in "Heaven"...and wait for me there....Why would you come back here? You are in the most "Wonderful Perfect place", no suffering, no saddness, no tears and no sin....I think about the dream I had not to long ago, and you were there telling me to..."Live With Purpose"
I am searching once again, and waiting on "GOD" to reveal that purpose to me...and to give me the answers to help me understand what the heck happen, how in the world did this all come about? The one thing thats gives me peace is that you are "Healed" and your mom is with you, it broke all of our hearts when you left us, but it was just to much for your mom and her heart couldn't take living without you...and its where she's want to be...Right now life is so difficult without you...and I know this is not where you want me or the children to be, overwhelmed in grief and so very sad, spending every moment in survival mode...but this the hardest thing we have ever had to do, and we have no choice's here we are powerless and at the "Mercy" of our "Lord"...Next to "GOD" I wrapped my whole life around you, perfectly intwined, two had become one, with a "LOVE" so "Wonderful" it couldn't be explained... and now that your gone a huge part of me went with you, a void, a hole in my
"Heart and in my Life" that only you can fill... Uncontrollable tears that have become a way of life, and a saddness that overwhelms me while im awake...I don't understand how or why this happened, it's all "Unbelieveable" to me.... I hear the words....
"Life Goes On" but thats for the people around me, my life came to a screeching halt on Febuary 19, 2010....when "Jesus" took you home with him...Dying is hard on the living...and words cannot discribe the pain that fills my heart from losing you... I don't know how I ever lived before you, and now I am struggling to live without you...it feels like an Impossible Journey, it feel like being under water and not being able to come up for air...it feels like being in a bubble, and watching the world go by and your not in it...if not for
"GOD'S" Amazing Grace...I don't know how I would get through each day...
I love you Daniel, more than I can even explain, I miss you so much it hurts.. you made my life so very "Wonderful" and worth living, waking up next to you every morning filled my very "SOUL" with so much "JOY" I cant even explain it...now my morning are full of "Precious Moments" and hundreds of
"Wonderful Times"
Memories I will carry and cherish for the rest of my life, all because "God" Blessed me with you...
I have never been so happy in all my life, so content, so at peace and so much "In Love"... I had found the person that I was to spend the rest of my life with when I meet you...Thank you for loving me for me...you are "Special" beyond words, and you saw the world through "GOD'S EYES" and you always looked at good in everyone, regardless of how they lived or what they struggled with, you would say...it's so simple all they need is "GOD"... and I see all around me the work you have done and the lives you have touch, and the seeds you have planted, and there growing like weeds, you are and always be an inspiration to me and everyone who's life's you have touched...I will miss you longer than forever, and love you all days of my life...I look forward to the day we will be together again and spending eternity with each other in... GOD'S GLORIOUS KINGDOM
>Patty Libed<
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Stan Espinosa
March 16, 2010
Goodbye My good friend,I will really miss you. We have been friends for over 30 years, as kids in Seacliff beach, ran into each other again in recovery, we became roommate and years later I found in in Vegas. In all the years you never changed and always had that crooked smile and heart of gold. The last couple of years I could see that God had taken over your life and what a great change it was. I will alway remember your prayers, it was like God speaking out of your mouth. I will alway remember that last fising trip with your son Danny, we all got a marlin and how we talked about going for that 100pound Ahi. I will miss you very much. I was so glad you found Patty and the way you always talked about her and the look on your face when you did. You will always be in my prayers.... Rest My Friend.
March 12, 2010
I know that you're in heaven with the rest of our family....God bless you...and God bless Patti for being a part of your life..Love you, Auntie Simmie
Beverly Bautista
March 11, 2010
We love you so much Danny! And will be sincerely missed always.
Serena Tuaolo
March 8, 2010
Hi Patty! I was really touched by the celebration we had for Daniel. It was truly a celebration. Actually, its ironic to say that it was one of the nicest funerals I have ever been to. I just felt the love & comfort from our Savior knowing that Daniel is now at peace with Him. I do miss Daniel & think of him often. These pictures brings me tears because I always see him like this. When I see you I'm still thinking Daniel is right with you. I know he is...just not in the physical. I love this Guest Book...such an awesome idea!
Daniel: We miss & love you & know that your Patty & children are being taken care of by our heavenly Father & those that are around them. God Bless you & we all know we will meet again in Heaven.
Serena Tuaolo & Family
Patty Libed
March 6, 2010
Patty Libed’s Speech
Davis Memorial February 27, 2010 – 5pm
Hi my name is Patty Libed, and before I get started I would like to thank all of you for coming tonight and celebrating Daniel’s life with us. The love and support has been nothing short of amazing! From the moment Daniel got sick. God’s grace has rained down on us. He opened the flood gates and provided for all our needs. Daniel’s last day of work was September 3rd and I took a medical leave of absence for 3 months without pay to care for him. We had no income. Trusting God we put it in his hands.
Like everybody else we had rent, car payments, credit cards, insurance, power, gas, cable, cell phones, water, etc. etc. etc. and no money coming in. and that’s just the overhead; what about food, gas, medicine, Doctor co-pays etc. etc. etc. And then God delivered. He moved in such a huge way, that Daniel and I would sit down, shake our heads and throw our hands up in the air and say…Unbelievable…. Every week there was money in the mailbox. God had touched many people’s hearts. All of our bills got paid every month. And we had more food in the house, more money in the bank, and a little extra for anything else we wanted, Absolutely unbelievable, amazing. We had more now than we did when we both worked. How does that happen? God happens.
So what I would like to share with you tonight is a little part of our lives behind closed doors.
I met Daniel at church 4 years ago in a Celebrate Recovery meeting. And we were married on January 31, 2009 at sunset, on the beach in Hawaii with no shoes on, surrounded by family It was beautiful, simple but beautiful.
Our home was filled with love and joy, happiness and laughter, peace and serenity. Both Daniel and I were more than content. There was never any fighting, no screaming, no yelling, no drama, no dysfunction or chaos. We have learned through our walk with the Lord, Celebrate Recovery, many growth groups, and one of the greatest classes I ever took, Love & Respect. That God has given us the tools to be able to live our lives in this life. Daniel would always say, “Patty if I don’t put God 1st then I have nothing to give you. We learned how to put our own selfish needs aside and put each others needs before our own.
Pastor Kent said one day in one of his messages, “ The grass is greenest where you water it. I was so blessed to have a husband who believed that, and who watered and nourished our marriage every single day. If we had a problem or a misunderstanding it was usually small and they were few and far between. But Daniel would say, we need to sit down and talk to clear the air, apologizeand forgive one another and let it go. This way we take no baggage from today into tomorrow, so everyday was brand new, just like the first time we met, even though we had been together for 4 years.
I still got butterflies in my tummy when it was time to get off work, cause I knew I was almost home and he would be there, and what was even greater is he felt the same way. It was great, we did everything together, and the only time we were apart was when we were working. But when we were home, I didn’t clean house, paint my nails, or talk on the phone for hours, and he didn’t wash the cars, or work on his motors, or whatever guys do in the garage. We spent our time together.
Daniel loved to cook, and he cooked everynight. (THANK GOD!!) Because Betty Crocker I am not! (I was like what a blessing, OMG, he cooks too! That was just one of the ways Daniel expressed his love. I’d call him and let him know I was on my way home from work, and when I got home dinner was cooked, the table was set – although it looked like a train wreck just happened in my kitchen - it was OK he was the cook and I was cleaner upper – And it just worked.
God blessed Daniel with some thing special. I remember something that happened early in the marriage. In the morning we had 30 minutes together while he ate before he went to work. This particular morning I left his breakfast on the table and I was busy in my bedroom. 5 minutes went by and and he came in the bedroom and said, “Can you come here for a minute?” I was like “Yeah, Ok.” He then asked, “What are you doing?” I said I am looking for my gift cards, I can’t find them and I want to get my nails done. He said do you see what’s happening? (I was oblivious) I said no, what’s happening? And he said do you see what your doing? (again oblivious) He said I don’t ever want our relationship to become complacent. I said come-what? I had no idea what that meant. So he explained. If your over there and I’m over here, or I’m over there and your over here. I never want us to be in the same house and never see each other. And I thought what a great husband. I was blessed to be married to a man who recognized little things like that and who understood and knew that it takes work daily, it takes compromising, friendship, trust, communication and love to keep a relationship strong, and we both knew this marriage was worth giving it all we had. And we watch our marriage bloom and God blessed us with a love for each other and a once in a lifetime connection that was not of this world, along with an amazing gift of Happiness.
I’m really trying to focus on the quality and not the quantity of the life Daniel and I shared. Some people never experience that even after 50 years of marriage. Daniel was a great son, a great father, and a great husband. But he was also a great teacher with an abundance amount of patience. He was also like a sponge and his knowledge was unbelievable, and me I’m not like that, I take longer sometimes.
I’m a customer service manager, and I come across some not so nice people daily (ok hourly). I would come home and tell my husband what someone did or said to me, and he would say, “it’s not about you Patty.” I’m like what the heck does that mean. He would say it’s their issues, their struggles, you just happen to be there. Don’t get sucked into other peoples mess. Don’t own their stuff. Don’t give people control over your emotions. Don’t give anyone that kind of power over you………. I remember when I got this concept, it hit me like a lightning bolt about 6 months later. I told my husband I got it, I got it I finally got it. He just looked at me with this little grin, I could tell he was saying, Thank you Jesus she finally got it….and it took her long enough. But what a great teacher so patient never giving up on me, always teaching me always supporting me, always encouraging me. Just always loving me. I could tell him anything. We talked about everything. We had no secrets, we knew everything about each other. The good, the bad, and the ugly. I remember having to give my testimony from the pulpit of my church last year. It is a requirement if you are in leadership with Celebrate Recovery Ministry. And like everyone else I’ve done things in my past that I’m not proud of, and my testimony was not pretty. When I was done Daniel said to me, “You are amazing, you write good stuff and then he looked up and said. Thank you Jesus for the miracle and the healing in Patty’s life.
I miss him so much. I miss hearing him say, Patty your so goofy. I miss hearing him say, hurry up and come home, and I haven’t even left yet. I miss hearing him say, I love you so much I can’t even explain it. I miss hearing him say, whatever you want sweetie, whatever you want. I miss hearing him say, when your not home I’m lost without you….and now your not home, and I’mlost without you. I miss getting up at 3am on our day off and going to buy a dozen doughnuts and locking ourselves in the house and eating every single doughnut together.
I miss the way your eyes light up like Christmas trees when I walk in the house with a chocolate shake in my hand, And one day I said to him, hoe come you don't you look at me like that, and he said I do…..every time you have a chocolate shake in your hand.
In February 2006 I met Daniel and he changed my life. Now in February 2010 he has changed my life again. I love you Daniel and I miss you so much I can’t even explain it. I don’t know the reason the Lord took Daniel. But I do know this. As God’s plans for my life begin to unfold, one day I will understand that this is the way it had to be. There could not have been any other way. I love you Daniel, and my life will never be the same with out you....
Before I wrap this up and Pastor Kent closes in prayer. I would like to say to all of you-----------
Love each other, take time for one another, enjoy every moment and hold it close to you. Because tomorrow is promised to no one.
I will love you forever, Daniel
Your loving wife, Patty
March 6, 2010
Patty Libed’s Speech
Davis Memorial February 27, 2010 – 5pm
Hi my name is Patty Libed, and before I get started I would like to thank all of you for coming tonight and celebrating Daniel’s life with us. The love and support has been nothing short of amazing! From the moment Daniel got sick. God’s grace has rained down on us. He opened the flood gates and provided for all our needs. Daniel’s last day of work was September 3rd and I took a medical leave of absence for 3 months without pay to care for him. We had no income. Trusting God we put it in his hands.
Like everybody else we had rent, car payments, credit cards, insurance, power, gas, cable, cell phones, water, etc. etc. etc. and no money coming in. and that’s just the overhead; what about food, gas, medicine, Doctor co-pays etc. etc. etc. And then God delivered. He moved in such a huge way, that Daniel and I would sit down, shake our heads and throw our hands up in the air and say…Unbelievable…. Every week there was money in the mailbox. God had touched many people’s hearts. All of our bills got paid every month. And we had more food in the house, more money in the bank, and a little extra for anything else we wanted, Absolutely unbelievable, amazing. We had more now than we did when we both worked. How does that happen? God happens.
So what I would like to share with you tonight is a little part of our lives behind closed doors.
I met Daniel at church 4 years ago in a Celebrate Recovery meeting. And we were married on January 31, 2009 at sunset, on the beach in Hawaii with no shoes on, surrounded by family It was beautiful, simple but beautiful.
Our home was filled with love and joy, happiness and laughter, peace and serenity. Both Daniel and I were more than content. There was never any fighting, no screaming, no yelling, no drama, no dysfunction or chaos. We have learned through our walk with the Lord, Celebrate Recovery, many growth groups, and one of the greatest classes I ever took, Love & Respect. That God has given us the tools to be able to live our lives in this life. Daniel would always say, “Patty if I don’t put God 1st then I have nothing to give you. We learned how to put our own selfish needs aside and put each others needs before our own.
Pastor Kent said one day in one of his messages, “ The grass is greenest where you water it. I was so blessed to have a husband who believed that, and who watered and nourished our marriage every single day. If we had a problem or a misunderstanding it was usually small and they were few and far between. But Daniel would say, we need to sit down and talk to clear the air, apologizeand forgive one another and let it go. This way we take no baggage from today into tomorrow, so everyday was brand new, just like the first time we met, even though we had been together for 4 years.
I still got butterflies in my tummy when it was time to get off work, cause I knew I was almost home and he would be there, and what was even greater is he felt the same way. It was great, we did everything together, and the only time we were apart was when we were working. But when we were home, I didn’t clean house, paint my nails, or talk on the phone for hours, and he didn’t wash the cars, or work on his motors, or whatever guys do in the garage. We spent our time together.
Daniel loved to cook, and he cooked everynight. (THANK GOD!!) Because Betty Crocker I am not! (I was like what a blessing, OMG, he cooks too! That was just one of the ways Daniel expressed his love. I’d call him and let him know I was on my way home from work, and when I got home dinner was cooked, the table was set – although it looked like a train wreck just happened in my kitchen - it was OK he was the cook and I was cleaner upper – And it just worked.
God blessed Daniel with some thing special. I remember something that happened early in the marriage. In the morning we had 30 minutes together while he ate before he went to work. This particular morning I left his breakfast on the table and I was busy in my bedroom. 5 minutes went by and and he came in the bedroom and said, “Can you come here for a minute?” I was like “Yeah, Ok.” He then asked, “What are you doing?” I said I am looking for my gift cards, I can’t find them and I want to get my nails done. He said do you see what’s happening? (I was oblivious) I said no, what’s happening? And he said do you see what your doing? (again oblivious) He said I don’t ever want our relationship to become complacent. I said come-what? I had no idea what that meant. So he explained. If your over there and I’m over here, or I’m over there and your over here. I never want us to be in the same house and never see each other. And I thought what a great husband. I was blessed to be married to a man who recognized little things like that and who understood and knew that it takes work daily, it takes compromising, friendship, trust, communication and love to keep a relationship strong, and we both knew this marriage was worth giving it all we had. And we watch our marriage bloom and God blessed us with a love for each other and a once in a lifetime connection that was not of this world, along with an amazing gift of Happiness.
I’m really trying to focus on the quality and not the quantity of the life Daniel and I shared. Some people never experience that even after 50 years of marriage. Daniel was a great son, a great father, and a great husband. But he was also a great teacher with an abundance amount of patience. He was also like a sponge and his knowledge was unbelievable, and me I’m not like that, I take longer sometimes.
I’m a customer service manager, and I come across some not so nice people daily (ok hourly). I would come home and tell my husband what someone did or said to me, and he would say, “it’s not about you Patty.” I’m like what the heck does that mean. He would say it’s their issues, their struggles, you just happen to be there. Don’t get sucked into other peoples mess. Don’t own their stuff. Don’t give people control over your emotions. Don’t give anyone that kind of power over you………. I remember when I got this concept, it hit me like a lightning bolt about 6 months later. I told my husband I got it, I got it I finally got it. He just looked at me with this little grin, I could tell he was saying, Thank you Jesus she finally got it….and it took her long enough. But what a great teacher so patient never giving up on me, always teaching me always supporting me, always encouraging me. Just always loving me. I could tell him anything. We talked about everything. We had no secrets, we knew everything about each other. The good, the bad, and the ugly. I remember having to give my testimony from the pulpit of my church last year. It is a requirement if you are in leadership with Celebrate Recovery Ministry. And like everyone else I’ve done things in my past that I’m not proud of, and my testimony was not pretty. When I was done Daniel said to me, “You are amazing, you write good stuff and then he looked up and said. Thank you Jesus for the miracle and the healing in Patty’s life.
I miss him so much. I miss hearing him say, Patty your so goofy. I miss hearing him say, hurry up and come home, and I haven’t even left yet. I miss hearing him say, I love you so much I can’t even explain it. I miss hearing him say, whatever you want sweetie, whatever you want. I miss hearing him say, when your not home I’m lost without you….and now your not home, and I’mlost without you. I miss getting up at 3am on our day off and going to buy a dozen doughnuts and locking ourselves in the house and eating every single doughnut together.
I miss the way your eyes light up like Christmas trees when I walk in the house with a chocolate shake in my hand, And one day I said to him, hoe come you don't you look at me like that, and he said I do…..every time you have a chocolate shake in your hand.
In February 2006 I met Daniel and he changed my life. Now in February 2010 he has changed my life again. I love you Daniel and I miss you so much I can’t even explain it. I don’t know the reason the Lord took Daniel. But I do know this. As God’s plans for my life begin to unfold, one day I will understand that this is the way it had to be. There could not have been any other way. I love you Daniel, and my life will never be the same with out you....
Before I wrap this up and Pastor Kent closes in prayer. I would like to say to all of you-----------
Love each other, take time for one another, enjoy every moment and hold it close to you. Because tomorrow is promised to no one.
Your Loving Wife, Patty
My life will never be the same without you...
March 5, 2010
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March 4, 2010
Danny,
It was nice talking to you last year...
Registered Nurse
March 4, 2010
I was lucky enough to care for Daniel during his stay here at one of our hospitals. The love that he and Patti shared gives me hope in my future and it was so refreshing to see that, that type of love does still exist in 2010. Patti, thank you for sharing your story with me, and thank you for your advice.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Patty Libed
March 1, 2010
I Love You, and I Miss You so much I can't even explain it. My life changed when I meet you. And on February 19, 2010 you changed my life again....God blessed us with a love for each other and a once in a life time connection, that was not of this world, along with an "Amazing Gift of Happiness"...I miss hearing you say... I love you so much, I can't even explain it....I miss hearing you say, when your not home I'm lost without you... And now your not home "Daniel" and I'm lost without you...I was so "Blessed" to have you... always supporting me, always encouraging me, always teaching me... Always, just loving me. "God Blessed" you with something "Special" and my life will never be the same without you....Thank you, for loving me... And rest in the "Lord" my "Sweetie"..... You are Free...I Will Love You.... Forever.....
Your, Loving Wife,
Patty
Debbie Leonard
February 25, 2010
To Daniel's Family, I work at Lloyd's and I would pass Daniel in the office and he always had a smile. Daniel will be missed very much.
February 25, 2010
Love you Cousin Danny. Say Hi to my brother Rodney...R.I.P.
Cousin Stefanie
You surrendered it all to Him and now generations on our family is His.
Danielle Reader
February 25, 2010
I love you. Thank you for being my father, my teacher, my encourager, my friend...although I am sad, not just for me but for you, I am even more so joyous. I know that you were escorted by Jesus himself to Heaven and I will rest and be assured that you will spend eternity with Him that loves you...
I love you, Dad.
Glenda Frye
February 25, 2010
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