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Ryan Lafferty Obituary
Ryan Scott Lafferty, 27, husband of Wanda L. (Merly) Lafferty, of Allentown, died suddenly Thursday. He was an electro mechanical technician at Cherrydale Farms. He was a 2000 graduate of Upper Perkiomen High School and was a loving father and loved watching his son, Ryan, play baseball and basketball and watching both his boys go swimming. He loved seeing the joy on his sons faces when he would give them gifts. He also enjoyed playing horseshoes, fantasy football and poker. Survivors: Beloved wife; beloved parents, Michael and Cheryl (Bartholomew) Lafferty of East Greenville; beloved sons, Ryan Scott Lafferty Jr. and Tyler Evan Lafferty, both of Pottstown and their beloved stepfather, Fransheska Ortiz, of Allentown; beloved daughter, Kiara Ortiz of Allentown; beloved brothers, Michael S. Lafferty Jr. of Mertztown and Kyle D. Lafferty of Pennsburg; beloved sisters, Jamie L. Lafferty of East Greenville and Dianna Nelson of Mertztown; beloved maternal grandmother, Grace Bartholomew of East Greenville; beloved paternal grandmother, Marcy J. Lare of Green Lane; nieces; nephews, Mikey, age 7, Nicholas, age 6, Jacob, age 4, Ethan and Brenton, age 3, Baby Michael, 7 months old and Kyle Jr. on the way; many loving uncles, aunts and cousins. He was predeceased by his maternal grandfather, Richard Bartholomew and paternal grandfather, William Lafferty. Services: 11 a.m. Tuesday in Salem Bible Church, 8031 Salem Bible Church Road, Macungie, with the Rev. Richard Goodman officiating. Interment will follow in St. Pauls Lutheran Cemetery, Red Hill. Family and friends may call 5-9 p.m. Monday evening in Mann-Slonaker Funeral Home, 222 Washington Street, East Greenville and also 9:30-11 a.m. Tuesday morning in Salem Bible Church.
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Phillip m ramdeen
March 30, 2025
one of the most genuine elder cousins that us younger generation loved and respected still to this day is missed there were alott of big pivotal points in my life and ryan always gave me the time of day to give me any advice and keep me on the right path will always be loved and missed and never forgotten...miss u like. big brother
Heather
June 10, 2021
God Ryan It’s been years but I think of you every day so many good memories through our childhood and through some of the adulthood you were always the one you knew had your back any struggle any battle we knew you were there u absolutely loved your familyGod we miss you so much I just wonder what you would be like today I already know you’d be the one at the family gatherings we be excited to hang out with(u always were) I didn’t even know this was still up n now I can talk to you this way n I’ll take itI know this life is but a blink of an eye and we will have eternity to catch up I love you and i know June 11th 2009 is the day God needed you more forever 27 u gonna look all young and good when I get there:) love u
Sandy Smith
June 10, 2021
Remember when your boys held you and you felt safe?
Jesus will never let you go
Love Sandy
Sandy Smith
June 10, 2020
To the Lafferty Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you all today. Its hard to think about that day 13 years ago. So I wont pretend to understand where your thoughts are right now. So I will leave you with this.
2 Timothy 4:7 fight the good fight, finish the race, keep the faith.
You will see him again.
Love Sandy
Sandy Smith i
June 8, 2019
To the Lafferty family,
It is hard to believe almost ten years have come and gone since your beloved Ryan was taken from you and placed back into the hands of our Savior. Ryan is walking with the author of light. John 8:12', what a wonderful experience he has now and throughout eternity.
Although you all as a family are asked to live on until you yourselves are called home, you can find rest that Ryan is already there walking the streets of gold with those who have gone on before us.
Mom is there with him now. Wow! What a reunion that must of been. It brings tears to my eyes just trying to picture it.
May the Lord keep you all strong and may he prepare you all for your final curtain, when your life has come to its end and you wake to the arms of our Savior also.
With much love , you sister - Sister- in - law and aunt
Sandy Smith
Anonymous
January 11, 2016
You still remain the only 1 who's never done me wrong. I miss you terribly.My thoughts are with your family.
sandy smith
December 24, 2013
To the Lfferty family . 'I Am The light of The World, Whoever Follows Me...Will Have The Light Of Life..(John 8:12) Ryan is experiencing this light forever..and cheering each of you on until this race on earth is finished for each of you..Love you all..Merry Christmas.
sandy smith
June 11, 2013
I Believe: 'Help me over come my unbelief' Mark 9:24- It has been 5yrs. but it seems like yesterday. Life continues around you and for the most part you probably do to and then out of no where it stops! Your mind rushes back to Rye and the things he use to do. Memories no one can take from you. you get to claim them as your own. being his brother or sister, his dad and being his mother or his son! claim them today, and remember to thank God he was your brother and your child and your dad. 'Thats Special' you will see him again if you believe!
love sandy
February 26, 2013
I love you Ryan. I miss you everyday. I can't wait to see you again. I know you're my guardian angel, till then..
sandy smith
January 19, 2013
'He has sent Jesus to bind up the brokenhearted, to comfort all who mourn. 'Isiah 61:1,2' Praying for your family durung this time.
Love Sandy
Jamie
July 20, 2012
I miss Rye....sometimes its just so hard to act like this is normal...I hate it, I hate missing him! Everyday we walk around with a smile on our faces but underneath it is so much heartache...just can't wait for the heartache to be over...one sweet day.
sandy smith
June 11, 2012
Last night I sat around the tables in my basement with other mothers during Bible study the subject, Jesus and the love of a mother. We all thought on the words 'Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.' Today like every day that is what your family has his memories. some good! some not so good! 'but still his memories. I have to think that it is good we get to have this peice of Ryan, his smile, his joy, his boys, his family, all the things you all yearn to see in his face once more. And you will, Why! because you are all saved and gonna see him in Heaven. "what no eye has seen, nor ear has heard, nor the heart of man can imagined, what God has prepared for those who love Him.." 1st Coriathians 3;9. So as you come together this day, I will pray for you. as you ponder on Ryan's memories.
Love you 'All'
Sandy
Sandy Smith
January 18, 2012
Lafferty's
In this journey through life we face many trails, Mike and Cheryl, I believe, You have faced one of the biggest "the loss of your child" I have been praying for healing and comfort for all of you. "I have loved thee with an everlasting love.' Jeremiah 31:1. I Know the only thing we can be certain of is God's love. So I pray you will allow God to continue to prove this to all of you.
Happy Birthday Ryan, You are loved and truly missed. BUT! We will see you soon.
Love Sandy
July 22, 2011
A thousand times we needed you
A thousand times we cried
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died
A heart of gold stopped beating
two twinkling eyes closed to rest
God broke our hearts to prove he only took the best
As I sleep you roam through my mind
Sweet loving cousin of mine...
Ryan i miss u so much..i miss ur smile and laugh...ur personality..i miss having u around to talk to...
never a day goes by that you’re not in my heart and my soul...its hard to understand why God puts someone on this earth to take them so early but i guess ur not supposed to question it but its hard not too...u are just missed so much...i will never forget anything about u...i will remember everything...i just wish we all could go back...but we cant and it hurts...i think of ur family everyday and all the pain and i know u are watching over them trying to comfort somehow..because with out u there is a empty space...u mean so much to everyone...I love u always...Heather...
July 14, 2011
I can not believe you died I never got to say goodbye So many emotions i can't hide Ours not to question why?? Oh brother i miss you so I feel like apart of me is gone A friend and your sister too Somehow i must go on.... I could always talk to you... You were always there. Now i don't know what to do Full of loneliness and despair. My brother you are gone now.... But when i'm sad and all alone I will still talk to you anyhow In my heart instead of the phone
June 12, 2011
Your family mourns but the angels sing.
We are lonely but we know you are with our King.
The tears do fall throughout the night but you are joyful in God's Holy light.
The days are long and hard to bare but you are in eternity where hope and love is always shared.
We remember your death and prayed you could stay, but God called you home because it was your birthday.
We miss what you did and all that we done but you are in glory now with God's precious Son.
Are burdens are heavy and our hearts are broken in two because when you left us here apart of us went with you! Miss you always
sandy smith
June 10, 2011
1st Peter 5:7- "Cast all your anxiety on him, because He cares for YOU! Praying for all of you. love Sandy
jamie lafferty
June 9, 2011
June 9, 2011
I look at pictures of you and just break down...I miss your face sooo much rye!! I wish I could hug you...god what I would give for a hug from you:( It will be 2 years in 2 days and when the pain arises it still hurts just as bad as the day you left us. Whenever I look at pictures of you I can feel that stabbing feeling right in my heart...my hearts stops and its hard to breathe cause I miss you so much and I know how much better all of our lives would be with you here ....we still are incomplete and we always will be until the day we are all reunited in heaven....I can not wait for that day!!!! I love you Rye----your sister forever
January 19, 2011
Happy Birthday Ryan! I miss you so much. I can't wait for the day I see your big loving smile....xo.
January 18, 2011
ryan the pain in my heart is like a toothache it never leaves i miss you rye so much i miss your phonecalls i miss your hugs i miss your smile i just miss everything about you my son its hard to comprehend that i won't be able to see you or talk to you like i did for years.my prayer is that the Lord will tell you from your mom below happy birthday and i love you .as long as God gives me to live nothing i mean nothing could hurt me more than waking up and facing another day
sandra smith
January 18, 2011
Praying for all of you. I know today 1/19
you must really be questioning God. I have been holding on to this verse and would like to share with you. Isaiah43:2- "When you pass through the waters...they will not sweep over you." (God won't let you go, so don't let go of Him) I am crying out to God for your pain. Someday God will give you the Why? love all of you
Sandy
Teon Higgs
January 12, 2011
Missing you bro, it's been a while, Don't gotta remind you of the crazy times we had @ UPHS! You are Never forgotten. Much love.
-T. Higgs
January 2, 2011
Another year is starting without you~ It just doesn't seem right. Missing you.....
December 28, 2010
Merry Christmas Ryan and give Jesus and grandpop, Bart and Justin a big kiss and a hug from me. Miss you and i will see you soon. love ya
sandy smith
December 26, 2010
"I am the bread of life, He who comes to me will never go hungry.." John 6:35-We celebrate Jesus birthday with sharing gifts. The gift I would like to give the Laffery family this year is "I AM PRAYING FOR YOU" I know you will see Ryan again and the Lord will bring restoration to to your family. Love you all.
Sandy
December 24, 2010
Gone but never forgotten ..I pray the LORD comforts your family even more then HE already has over this Christmas season we love you very much and miss you more then you will every know.I pray the LORD let you reach down and give your family that hug and kiss that we all miss sooooo much.That is my Christmas wish ..LOVE YOU ALL.
December 22, 2010
I had a dream last night with all of us there with you and I remember being happy but yet I was scared Rye...I miss you God knows I do:(....
December 4, 2010
The pain never goes away and the tears never stop falling~ i miss you.
November 19, 2010
i miss you Ryan more and more everyday...i still can not understand any of this. Why god took you from us?? You were my rock...whenever i needed anything ide call you, whenever something goes wrong in my life i wish i could talk to you or when something good happens i wish you were here to share it with me. i miss your smile..you had a great smile and laugh..it would light up a room. its been almost a year 1/2 since i seen that smile but it feels like its been forever...i cant remember what its like to hug you or talk to you, thats so scary to me....i never could picture a world without you and now its hard for me to remember what it was like when you were here...i guess after feeling like this for so long it becomes normal....i know i was complete when you were here. im sorry Rye that your gone...i would give anything for you to be here...for mom and dad to hug you again, they miss you so much, we all do:( I know i will see you again in a much better place...i cant not wait for that day! I love you Rye.
November 16, 2010
missing you:(
October 22, 2010
ryan days turn into night and night turns into day and i am so looking forward to when i can see you again i just keep praying to the Lord for our reunion to be soon.I miss you........... so much.........love mom
sandra smith
October 9, 2010
In something I was reading. "The greenest grass is found wherever the most rain falls.' (Isaiah 30:18-The Lord longs to be gracious to you; he rises to show you compassion.)I know you don't feel it! but just for a moment close your eyes let your tears fall,ask him to carress you "He longs to show you his compassion" As we leave another season and move onto another I am reminded of how wonderful God really is. He has created all of it. YES the SEASON, YES His LOVE, YES even a NEW DAY. So I wright this to you, but most of all to Daddy Mike. Close your eyes, ask him to touch you, He feels your pain' each and every day."I knew you in your mothers wound." We never stop being his children and He never stops being our father. Go back to him. Run into his arms. let him show you how to move on each day and to show your family how to. "the Lord is my strenght" We miss you at church Mike. You know how a father loves, so you can know how much God loves you. and how much more he loved Ryan. Lafferty's come to the Lord. He is waiting. I'm am so... thankful for my sister. she has shown me a new strenght. "forgiveness' I am so grateful "she has returned to God". many years ago when she laid on a bed being wheeled away to surgery. Her family stood in amazement at her! "peace and her faith" God healed her tumor. and now he will heal her heart. never to forget BUT to heal. I love you all and always pray for you.
Love Sandy
October 7, 2010
As i was reading my daily bread today my thoughs go to you all as most of my days ISAIAH; 41;10,-13 MY love to you all ryan is very much miss and thought about everyday.
September 10, 2010
the pain doesn't ever go away ryan I miss you with all my heart I wish you were here every second of everyday.I have to say I broke the mold when I had you no one is or ever could be as loveable and huggable as you............all my love MOM
sandy smith
September 10, 2010
It has been a few months since I wrote down my thoughts to all of you. Even though I am not at your home as often as before, it does not change my prayer for you. I know pain like yours is the deepest. But God is faithful and just and he is holding you up even if you don't know it. Years ago I laid on my floor often crying out to God, sometimes my prayers were selfish ones "why me" but most of the time they were for God to help me through the situation I was going through because I certainly did not understand. "and I still don't". But God has always held me up even when I didn't feel him. I am a new creature in Christ Jesus. I thank him for that. I will continue to pray for all of you. You may never know the reason God took Ryan home until you see God face to face, but when you see Him you won't care "if your standing in the presence of the Holy of Holy. so here is a verse I found try it He is a God of his word (Jonah 2:2-In my distress I called to the Lord, and He answered me.) Call out to him daily He will answer you.
Love you all so... very much,
Sandy---Aunt Sandy
jamie
September 9, 2010
For My Mom....
Right now I'm in a better place,
and though we seem apart,
I'm closer than I ever was...
I'm there inside your heart.
I'm with you when you greet each day
and while the sun shines bright.
I'm there to share the sunsets too...
I'm with you every night.
The rainy days that we endured,
the joyful times we shared--
Just look inside your loving heart,
and you will find me there.
And when that day arrives
that we are no longer are apart,
I'll smile and hold you close to me...
forever in my heart.
September 2, 2010
TO my sister and family I think of ryan most everyday he is in the music i listen to he is in my memory.. he is in all of your faces i miss his beautilful smile and how he always made me feel like he care about how my health was and he always told me how good i look ...but always said my mom looks the best..yaaaaa ryan was a sweeties one of a kind i miss him dearly and i just wanted you all to know that he is on my mind everyday and you all are too my prayers go out to the LORD everyday for you all... I love you all so please hold on our LORD is coming soon..LOVE YA
September 1, 2010
I CAN'T WAIT TIL I SEE YOU RYAN THE WHOLE IN MY HEART IS SO BIG I JUST WISH TIME WOULD HURRY UP
jamie lafferty
September 1, 2010
I want to lie my head down,
And cry almost endless tears.
My heart is aching,
Overcome with fears.
I miss you like crazy.
As I look up at the moon
I hoped inside, silently,
That I'd see you soon.
Told myself that you'd come home,
You're only gone for a while.
Now it's beginning to set in,
And I miss your smile.
The sound of your voice,
The touch of your hand.
You're lost, so far away,
And I'm struggling to understand.
My reality is getting clearer,
Growing sharper in my mind.
Slowly, everything is disappearing,
As I'm forced to leave you behind.
Honestly, I can't believe it,
Although I'm surpassing the pain.
It's ripping me to pieces,
Almost impossible to explain.
And I can't see you,
I know I never will.
Not breathing again anyway,
You sleep with a place to fill.
A place only you have,
That you've taken away.
So I continue to hold you close,
As in my heart you lay.
July 7, 2010
it's unthinkable how long you've been away~ i miss you each and everyday, but when my life comes to an end~ i know i'll see you my sweet friend......
sandy smith
June 15, 2010
to the lafferty family
i am sorry and continue to pray for you. at the funeral for my mother-in-law. the family used 1st cor 13 (better known as the love chapter)unusual for a funeral but fitting! why, jesus is the author of love. who can even come close to loving us like jesus but a mother(i love you cheryl). the moment she feels her baby inside her there is a love that can not be known but through a mothers heart. im sad for all of you. but i will pray that you will relize that ryan is being cradled in the arms of the author of love jesus christ. i am also praying for your families restoration. the sad part of loving is losing (but would anyone trade one moment of their love, their memories of ryan) i would think not. for anyone who has place his trust in our savior jesus christ will see ryan again and will also be in the arms of our savior who loves you.
love sandy
June 14, 2010
When I think of Ryan, I have a smile on my lips and a tear in my eye..I smile because Ryan always had a smile for me and a tear in my eye because I miss his smile so much... Laffertys, no one can feel the pain that each of you endures, but you do know that Ryan was a large part of my life and I know that all of us will see that smile again.. I love all of you and I am here praying for you... Love, Linda..
Heather
June 11, 2010
It's been one year since I been gone but don't cry I will see you soon it won't be long.
Please don’t mourn for me
I’m still here, though you don’t see.
I’m right by your side each night and day
And within your heart I long to stay.
My body is gone but I’m always near
I’m everything you feel, see and hear.
My spirit is free but I’ll never depart
As long as you keep me alive in your heart.
I’ll never wander out of your sight.
I’m the brightest star on a warm summer night.
I’ll never go beyond your reach
I’m the warm, moist sand when you walk on the beach.
I’m the colourful leaves when winter comes ‘round
And the pure white snow that blankets the ground.
I’m the beautiful flowers of which you’re so fond.
The clear cool water in a quiet pond.
I’m the first bright blossom you see in the spring.
The first shiny raindrop that storm clouds bring.
I’m the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine
And you see that the face in the moon is mine.
When you start thinking there’s no one to love you
Talk to me and I will listen.
I’ll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees.
And you’ll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze.
I’m the hot salty tears that flow when you weep
And the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep
I’m the smile you see on a stranger’s face
Just look for me………
I’m every place!
To the Lafferty's Im thinking of you all and I love you all and I do believe Ryan is all around us...
Ryan all I can say is that I love you and miss you so much...its a pain that will never go away..still so many questions with no answers...till I see you again...
June 11, 2010
A life is not measures by the length of time in which it is lived, but by the memories that life touch, Ryan's life was full of great loving memories for all who loved him and miss his great smile and laugh and his loving ways. May our Lord comfort all who love him and miss him so, and may we all keep him in our hearts and cherish his memories forever. Uncle Rick
jamie lafferty
June 11, 2010
one year....10 years....til the day i see you again it will hurt the same. i love you ryan.
cheryl lafferty
June 9, 2010
june 11,2010 rye today its been 1 year and the pain I feel has me in tears and my life does not feel real.My heart is broken intwo without you.When I get up out of bed to face another day I ask the good Lord how do I go on without my son,my baby,my joy,my boy.I need the Lord to comfort me and to let me know rye that your doing o.k.All I can do is wait and pray for when I come to heaven and see your beutiful face awaiting me at Heaven gate.Ryan you are tatoo on my heart,mind and soul.You will always be with me.I love you............mom
Jamie
June 8, 2010
One Year Ago Today
One year ago today You came to my house and picked Me and Nick up.One year ago today I got in your truck and said "Whats Up".One year ago today
We went to watch little Ryan play.One year ago today I seen that beautiful smile that I had seen almost everyday.If I knew One year ago today would be the last time I'd ever see you I would have kneeled down to pray and beg God please don't take my brother away.I didn't get to say everything i needed to say I would of said to him "I love you Rye" so please God give him another try.He doesn't deserve this,he can not die.If you can't answer this for me just promise me you'll take him peacefully.Kiss him for me every night and hug him tight with all of your might.There is one more thing I need you to do whisper in his ear your baby sister Jamie loves you..
May 19, 2010
I miss you too Ryan... The memory of your laughter is heavy on my heart....
I can't wait to see you again...
May 18, 2010
I miss you so much Rye, I would do anything to go back:(....
May 14, 2010
just one more LORD PLEASE
May 14, 2010
A Prayer For My Sister:
Her yesterdays are gone like an unsung song.
Her tomorrows are yesterdays since he's been gone.
Her today is just another day with
empty tomorrows and tearful yesterdays.
Lord where does she go, what can be done,
Can forever last if she doesn't have her son?
Can her yesterdays return so she can catch a moment in time?
Will her tomorrow hold what yesterday left behind?
Why does her today’s hold so much pain and so many tears,
Will tomorrow be any better, will she be able to face her loss and fears?
Lord, I am crying out on bended knees,
Give my sister just one more yesterday and set her free.
May 11, 2010
my heart is where my treasure is and that is with you..............love forever......mom
May 7, 2010
i miss you more and more everyday~ i don't want to just think of all the memories...i want to have more! it's not fair!! i love you and i can't wait to see you again to tell you!! xo!!
April 11, 2010
constantly on my heart and mind these past 10 months are killing me more and more i wish time would hurry up now my heart can't take much more love you......mom
March 11, 2010
It feels like forever:(.....
March 11, 2010
it's been way to long since i seen your smile. everyday is unfair.
March 11, 2010
these past 9 months have been agony but i know people are praying for us because i can feel it and i will see you in heaven son with the lord i can't wait to see you again i just hope it is soon.love you..........mom
March 3, 2010
everyday its the same thing over and over why do i wake up i know i will never understand why you were taking from me
February 12, 2010
you know I pictured my life a lot when I was younger and what it would be like when I got older...all of us being together laughing arguing and then laughing again just like we always did...well I don't picture what my life would be like anymore...
February 11, 2010
i am sooo thabkful for the menory i had with ryan here on earth..And for what i have to look forword to the day i see him again .... i am a better person for just being is anut LOVE YOU RYAN and miss you give your mom a hug even if it just in her dreamns she need it
February 11, 2010
LIFE SEEM SO UNFAIR AND IT IS.YOUR DAD HAD A SNOWBALL FIGHT WITH YOUR BOYS YESTERDAY,I LOOKED OUT THE WINDOW AND WAS REMEMBERING WHEN YOU AND YOUR BROTHERS AND SISTER WERE YOUNGER AND YOUS HAD FORTS AND HAD SNOWBALL FIGHTS AND WENT SLEDDING DOWN THE HILL AND DAD MADE THAT SLED AND WE ALL WENT ON IT TOGETHER great memories rye and THATS ALL I HAVE LEFT I AM SO EMPTY WITHOUT YOU I MISS OUR PHONECALLS OUR TALKS I MISS EVERYTHING RYE BUT MOST OF ALL I MISS YOU.THESE LAST 8 MONTHS HAVE BEEN AGONY WITHOUT YOU WHEN WILL THIS TORMENT END WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN................MOM
SANDY SMITH
February 11, 2010
HERE TODAY GONE TOMORROW. WE NEVER KNOW WHEN GOD WILL CALL EACH OF US HOME, SOME SOONER THEN WE EXPECT. SO WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE EACH OF YOU. HEAR ON EARTH TO LIVE ON AS A LEGACY. MAKE BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES. "I STAND AT THE DOOR AND KNOCK, THOSE WHO HEAR MY VOICE WILL LISTEN AND ENTER IN." ARE YOU LISTENING, HE IS KNOCKING? LIVE FOR JESUS, LIVE FOR YOUR FAMILY, BUT MOST OF ALL LIVE! THEN YOU MAY KNOW YOU WILL SEE HIM AGAIN.
LOVE AUNT SANDY
February 9, 2010
my heart is so broken without you.I wish i could talk to you all them phonecall i wish i had them back.sometimes the pain is to much rye.I miss you.............. mom
February 1, 2010
when is this nightmare over when am i going to wake up and this was all a dream.i wish i could see you and hold you ryan life is so hard without you i just wish i could hold you and tell you how much i love you.thinking of you always and forever, mom
January 20, 2010
since you been gone my worlds been dark and gray
dianna
January 19, 2010
i wish you were here to say happy birthday to. you're always on our minds and forever in our hearts. xoxo.
January 19, 2010
the tears keep falling ryan and a big part of my heart and life has gone to,i love you and miss you more than words can say.can't wait to be with you.the happy in birthday is gone since you been gone,i just wish i could turn back time.love forever mom
Heather Ramos
January 19, 2010
I'm spending my birthday in Heaven this year,
with Jesus and Angels singing birthday cheers.
I feel so happy and peaceful here,
so try and wipe away those tears.
My birthdays on earth that I spent with you,
are my happiest memories, I hope you know that's true,
all your love and support really helped me through,
I'm in Heaven now and my love shines on you.
I know you'd rather I be with you today
it's a special day for us all, it's my birthday,
but I am not really gone away,
Smile, I'm celebrating in Heaven for our special day.
I'm with Jesus now, so don't despair,I know you feel that it is not fair.
I love and miss you, you must be aware,
I'm celebrating in Heaven,
and I'm celebrating with you there.
Till we see you again Ryan...I Love You and Miss You more then words...Happy Birthday.
January 18, 2010
on june 11 we lost a whole family life will never be the same
January 12, 2010
life just don't seem real i feel like this is someone elses life my love for you is everlasting i love you ryan for ever and ever my heart is so broken i am just sailing through life hopefully this ship will dock soon and will be together
January 11, 2010
ryan i wish i could see you
SANDY SMITH
January 11, 2010
TO THE LAFFERTY'S
PRAYING FOR YOU AND ASKING GOD TO RESTORE YOUR FAITH IN HIM AND TO FORGIVE HIM FOR TAKING RYAN HOME. I KNOW HE LOVES ALL OF YOU. AND SO DOES YOUR FAMILY. IF I DON;T GET A CHANCE TO SAY THIS, ALTHOUGH RYAN WON'T BE HERE TO CELEABRATE HIS BIRTHDAY WITH ALL OF YOU. HE WILL BE WITH JESUS-DAD-AND OTHERS. PLEASE TRY TO REMEMBER WE ARE BUILDING A FAMILY IN HEAVEN. WE DO HAVE A CHANCE TO SEE HIM AGAIN.
LOVE AUNT SANDY
December 24, 2009
I'm dying inside Rye:(...
December 22, 2009
Lafferty Family,
Your entire family has been heavy on my heart and mind. Even though you all are more than a thousand miles away, I want you to know that my children and I pray for you every morning before we eat breakfast. No one can tell you why, but I can tell you that renewing yourself with the promises of God each day will help to remind you that God does what he says he will do. Even when you don't want to, read verses like Hebrews 4:14-16. He sympathizes with us and provides help in our time of need. And something that has helped Eric's family in dealing with their loss on a day to day basis is to talk frequently about Roberta. We keep her memory alive and we are clinging to the promise of being united in glory with her one day. Until then we continue to love and be loved. May your family not only remember the gift of Salvation through Jesus, but also the gift that Ryan was and will continue to be as His love lives on in each of those who He touched. Talk frequently to his children about what you loved about him and the crazy things he did when he was their age. Talk together and cry together....it helps. We love you all and pray that the joy of Christmas who is Christ the Lord will give you peace, strength and hope.
In His Love,
Sherry Williams, Port Orange FL
sandy smith
December 20, 2009
To the Lafferty's
The Christmas dinner took place and those families who planned did a great job. Your notes meant alot to me but I would of loved to of seen you there. When I looked into the face of Ryan's kids my heart breaks. When I look into the face of Dad and Mom my heart breaks. When I look into the face of each of you my heart breaks. When I look into the face of his Wife and her children my heart breaks.Im sorry for you because I know you what him back and that can't happen. My prayer for your family is that you will find a way to search scripture, Ps.90:12-"Teach us to number our days aright that we may gain a heart of wisdom." turn too Jesus! Not away from Him. He loves you even though you may not feel it. We lost Ryan please don't let us loose all of you. We love you all deeply.
Love Aunt Sandy
cheryl lafferty
December 19, 2009
ryan today was grammom christmas dinner and it was terrible i kept telling myself you just couldn't make it this year everything is falling apart and my heart is dying life seems so unfair i know i will never understand why this happened.this life just don't seem real.people say everything happens for a reason but i see no reason for what i am going through.I love you and can't wait to see you again.love you forever....mom
sandy smith
December 11, 2009
Dear Lafferty's
Went over to visit Ryan's resting place the other day. Donna, Sharon, Myself and Cheryl. As strong as we all hoped to be for our sister the pain overwelmed all of us as we began to cry together we took hands, then spent sometime talking to Jesus. We sent our reguest to him to give Ryan our love and to let him know we will see him soon and we will always love him and miss him. If there is one thing I can be sure of is Jesus is there in Heaven with Ryan, along with those we love who have went before him (Dad, Joshua, Bart and Joseph). Although we carry the pain of loosing him here on earth, there is a good feeling of knowing we are rebuilding our family in Heaven with the one who made it possible "Jesus". As hard as this Christmas will be for all the the Lafferty's please try to remember there would be no Christmas to celebrate if Jesus didn't come to earth and make it possible for us to believe in Him. Now Ryan will sit at the table with Jesus this year and have birthday cake with him and watch our Savior celebrate his birth and you know what one of his precious gifts he will be looking at around that table will be Ryan. I love you and I will be praying for you
Love, Sandy and Aunt Sandy
cheryl lafferty
December 10, 2009
rye its 6 months and i still can't believe this is true i tell myself over and over again i will see you tomorrow and that how i get through a day but it getting harder and harder.christmas will be here soon and my heart mind and soul are with you i have no idea how we are going to get through this i feel it is impossible my heart is so broken.i know how much you loved christmas and how you loved to give gifts especially to your kids.ryan i don't know how the lord expect me to handle this .i remember last christmas you ask me what i wanted and yous all got me a necklace and you looked at me with your big brown eyes and said mom is that necklace big enough,little did you know everything you did was enough because you did it from your heart and no one had a heart like you.i love you ryan more than words can say and i will always be thinking of you forever...............love mom
November 19, 2009
ryan..... if only i could tell you one thing it would be come back and hug your mom. tell her you are ok and that HEAVEN is everything she said, and soooo much more... love you and miss you aunt sharon
cheryl lafferty
November 17, 2009
ryan life just goes on and i don't want it to I miss you so much.I think of all my wonderful memories of you and all the love you gave and had to give and it seems so unfair for all of us.I woke up today hoping I can make it through but its getting tougher and tougher.whoevers says time heals all pain didn't know you.You always lit up the room when you came in.You had the warmest,gentleness and loving and sentimental personality and you show it to everyone and everyone you met.The holidays are coming up and I have no idea how we are suppose to get through them without you.The last holiday we were together was Easter up at michaels and you made a ham and potato filling and you couldn't even eat.that day my heart broke seeing all the food you made and couldn't eat it.Ryan you made that food because you wanted to put a smile on our face but ryan you always put a smile on my face.ryan the love I feel for you is so bonding and undying its a love that a mother has for her child.This love hurts so much it feels like my heart is crushing.I keep telling myself you are not gone I just haven't seen you today,if I didn't do that I don't think I could make it.Ryan your my baby and to me you will always be my baby.My arms are stretching to you grab them and give me that hug that only you can give.I love you and miss your beutiful smile and face. mom
sandy smith
November 11, 2009
today-11/11/09
Dear Laffery's
The sadness you are facing! You are always on my mind. It has been 5 months and your family must face another great sadness. Today this verse came to mind -Ecclesiastes 3:1-"There is a time for everything, and a season for everything under heaven. Where is God in this! I pray He is holding all of you in his arms, I don't begin to understand His way, but you need to hold on to "His ways are not our way. And He is a perfect God. I know you need to greive you have a right to. BUT! Boys, Jamie please try to remember you cannot go back only foward, today is the next day to making your past really count for something. please love your spouses and your children have beautiful memories like your mom and dad do. Yes they are living this today but they had a beautiful life together. raising the 4 of you with no regrets. I love you and I pray you all can live again some day. Love Aunt Sandy
Kyle Lafferty
November 11, 2009
Rye, just sitting here at working wishing I could talk to you, wishing I could see that smile....I find it getting harder and harder...I just miss you and love you so much:(..
sandy smith
October 1, 2009
My thoughts were on ryan today, the impact of what happen less then four months ago. the pain that has taken control of the lafferty family. the why? how do we go on? it hurts to watch you all go through it. BUT! i can not believe that a perfect GOD did this for no appointed reason. he loves to much for that. please search for his rest and comfort. please run to his arms, let him carry you all for awhile. the world would love to destroy what your family has. please remember this. come to god together. i know you need to be angry and hurt. BUT! try to remember to let the lord finish your days. HE LOVES YOU. (John 14:1-4"-Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, trust in me. In my fathers house are many rooms, if it were not so,I would of told you. I am going there, to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you. I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am am going.")
ryan is with the lord and some day each of you will be with him to. BUT! for now you must live.I Love you all Sandy.
cheryl lafferty
September 13, 2009
ryan my love their isn't a moment that goes by I am not thinking of you.what we[your family]are going through is killing us.life without you is unfair I really don't know how God expects us to handle this.The only thing that gets me out of the bed is knowing your sons need me and that you would want me to be their for them I wish I could stay in my room and forget about life but I can't.I promise me and your father will always be their for them and never let them forget how much you loved them.please ask jesus to help us get through this agony we are in.ryan you were always special and always will be.Thankyou for showing me how to love because you deffinitely showed it to all of us everyday and everyway.I will love you til the end of time.mom
Jessica Bartholomew
September 12, 2009
If tears could build a stairway and memories were a lane,We would walk all the way to Heaven, to bring you home again. No farewell words were spoken, no time to say good-bye. You were gone before we knew it, and only God knows why. Our hearts ache in sadness, and secret tears will flow.
What is meant to lose you, no one will ever know.
cheryl lafferty
September 11, 2009
these last 3 months just don't seem real.the lost of you is tearing us inside and out.you were the core of the apple wether you knew it or not you made us all complete.life is getting harder and harder.I miss you so much.Hopefully it won't be to long intil I see you again.you were and always will be the apple of my eye.we are so incomplete with out you.I love you forever,mom
cheryl lafferty
September 3, 2009
ryan my love life without you is killing me inside.its not fair that God took you he should of took me.I'm your mom I am suppose to go before you.i WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY THIS HAPPEN and how we are suppose to go on without you.you were the talker of the family just like your dad.you were dad mini me.I wish i could see you.buckets of tears from a broken heart.love mom
August 28, 2009
I remember when I met Ryan when he was 18 years old and since then I have been in love with him. We had a short relation that we had to end because of the circumstances at that time. After 4 years of not seeing each other Rye came back into my life and this time was for good as he asked me to married him. The day of our wedding he made me the happiest woman in the world, it was the best day of my life, and our wedding was awesome! Ryan was the most loving, caring and romantic man that I have ever met in my life, it was hard to to fall in love with him. We shared a lot of good times and a lot of bad times together; I only keep in my heart the good times. Ryan was a wonderful father and a incomparable step father. Ryan showed me what Christmas was about and how to enjoy life. Ryan was proud of his family specially his Mom and Dad for him his mother was the most beautiful woman in the world and his father was his hero. Ryan had a good sense of humor he would always make you laugh. The love we shared has not ended and I'm so glad that I always told him how much I love him. I can not put in words how big of a heart Ryan had. He would always forgive and never hold grudges. I wish I could go back on time to that morning to give him hugs and kisses and never let him go. My life is so incomplete since he left, and I pray to the Lord to let me see him again. I can understand that God decided like that but I will never understand why we could not be with him during his last minutes of life. I hate to remember that day at the hospital, my husband was still warm but he was gone. It was so painful. Life is so unfair last year for our anniversary he came home with a big smile and beautiful flowers for me, this year I was at his grave with flowers and tears on my eyes. I'm not sure what God's plans are for me but one thing I know, no one will ever replace Ryan in my heart. He is my true love the only one that makes my heart stop and beat at the same time. Ryan will be in my heart and mind forever, as I continue on with my life my faith gives me my hope that I will be with him again someday. Babe I can't wait to see you again...
Love for ever and ever...
Your wife, Wanda Lafferty???
cheryl lafferty
August 27, 2009
ryan i can't see our lifes going on without you.i don't know how much longer i can keep telling myself it didn't happen i miss you so much my heart aches.when i look at your kids and all the wonderful things you did with them, no one can take your place you were a great dad.time just seems to make all of our lifes more harder.I miss you my love and truly can't wait to be with you again.love mom
Heather Ramos
August 19, 2009
Ryan our hearts are broken forever,
People tell us that in time the pieces will eventually come back together,
If this is true, though hard to believe now, there will always be a space,
The piece to which has your name on its place.
Tears have been falling now for so long,
When we think of your beautiful face it all seems so wrong
You had so much to look forward to and so much left to do
But God needed somebody in heaven who is as special as you.
Nothing is the same now and we doubt it ever will be.
You have been released from pain and suffering, you have been set free.
And from life as we knew it, it was time for you to take your final bow.
We miss your voice, your infectious laugh but God needed you now.
The world has lost a wonderful man, all we can ask is why, answers we need to know,
but maybe his goodness was needed to help and to heaven he needed to go.
Ryan you are always around us, engulfing us with your love.
Giving us strength, keeping us close and watching over us from above.
I love you and miss you so much....
Love you always,
Your cousin
sandy smith
August 18, 2009
Dear Lafferty's
Cheryl with all my Love I write to you. There is a verse in the Bible im sure you know. "Psalms 139:13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb." Jesus was carried in the womb of His earthly mother, do you think God used her just to carry the savior, I believe not! Jesus needed a mother to Love him and to take care of his hurts and pains and to help Him grow(these are the things a mother does) she would sit with him a have talkes, play with him as a mother would. BUT! He grow up and she watch Him suffer a horrible death)her heart was broken with an unbearable pain. "on that cross He told John, here is your mother take her and care for her."
To Cheryl's sons!
Take care of her, because you were knit together in her womb to and you are now men a she needs you to be a "John".
Look at the fine example you have in your Dad. He will wake up each day and do the things that need to be done. "this is what men do!" you have to because women are the weakier of the two. so take your Wives and your Sister, Ryan's wife (their chilren) and your Mother. "BE a John."
Here is a verse for you to place into memory (Phil. 4:13-I can do all things through Christ who gives me Strenght.")He gave it to "John" and He can give it to you. JUST ASK!
"Have you been outside" today, Look up and tell God! He is Good.
Because it is what it is. Love your Aunt Sandy.
cheryl lafferty
August 16, 2009
ryan i miss talking to you so much i wish you were here to talk to,to hug,i miss that big smile,i miss your personslity.when i had you i broke the mold.no more talks,no more smiles.no more hugs.no more anything life is worthless without you my baby.i am so broken and i don't know how to mend.this is agony and i don't know how to go on.i love you ryan forever,mom
Dianna Nelson
August 11, 2009
These past two months have been the most painful, unbearable months I have ever faced. And I know it wont get any better, just worse. It still doesn't seem real. It's just better to tell myself you just haven't called today. Words can't even describe how much you are missed. I wish I would've told you how much I love you and how much I loved you being around, How you were a great friend, but more like a brother. It hurts to know that my children have lost such a loving uncle who they loved so much to be around. So many memories we were suppose to share, they won't be the same. Nothing will be the same without you. It hurts when you realize how someone meant the world to you, but it's too late to tell them. I love you forever Ryan.
cheryl lafferty
August 11, 2009
ryan 2 months without you,I don't know how to go on I keep thinking I am going to wake up from this nightmare,I miss you so much,you always knew how to make a bad situation good and make me laugh,you were the light of my life,you were tmy baby,our family is falling apart without you.LOVE FOREVER MOM
cheryl lafferty
August 3, 2009
as day turns into nite life gets harder with each waking moment without you my son.i need to see you i need to touch you i need to hear your voice.i need to tell you how much i love you.please lord tell him these things for me and give him a bearhug for me.in heartache love mom
cheryl lafferty
July 31, 2009
grace thanks for your words ryan loved his family very much and he told us all the time.i can picture him watching us dance with that gleam in his eye and that great big smile,he was such a loveable teddybear,i wish he could hug me now.i would hug him harder and not let go forever
July 30, 2009
Mike, Cheryl, and family,
I can't tell you how very sorry I am for the loss and emptiness that your family is feeling.. A large piece of your puzzle will always be missing.. I asked the Lord to give me the words to bring you peace, but I know there are none... I will tell you that I am here for all of you, if you need me, no matter what time of day or night.. I love you Cheryl, you are my big sister and I want to be there for you, like you were always there for me throughout our childhood. People will tell you that time heals the pain, but I say that it only gets stuffed down deeper into your soul...You will learn how to laugh, feel, and think again. Try to find the pleasures and blessings that life has to offer, because that is what gets you through the years. At Kyle's wedding, Ryan was standing on the side lines of the dance floor, holding onto his wife Wanda and he was looking at his Mother and her sisters dance to "We are Family". He had a huge smile on his face and all the love in his heart was showing in his eyes as he watched and sang with all of us....I love you and please keep the Faith, that we will see our beloved children agin...
Love Grace and Joe Stoddart
Shae Reinhart
July 27, 2009
Mike, Cheryl, Michael, Jamie, Kyle and family,
It is hard for me to write to you because I too have experienced a deep loss recently. It hurts, I know, and I think that this is why you and your family are on my mind day in and day out. Believe in God's promise and look forward to the resumption of your life with Ryan and your life eternal. I met Ryan when he was a young little guy, probably no older than my boys now, six or seven years old. When Crystal and I would babysit for the Lafferty's, well, you were always guaranteed an adventure and make no mistake - they always stuck together. I have faith that this is what you will do now. Find strength in one another. It will not be easy but it is what Ryan would want for you. Knowing this helps me to get through each and everyday without my brother too.
Mike and Cheryl,
You will forever be in my thoughts and prayers. It is all so hard to put together and understand, especially when sometimes it just plain hurts you to the core. Ryan continues on his journey and you continue on yours. It seems unfair, but your faith in God will sustain you. "For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known." 1 Corinthians 13:12
Michael, Jamie and Kyle,
Know our hearts go out to you. A piece of your life is missing. Someone who has shared your life since the very beginning is gone. There are many "I should haves", "what ifs" and regrets. Ryan will forever love you just as you forever will love him. Memories of Ryan will bring smiles and tears but in the end it will be the love that remains. Remember that love that you share with your brother. He still feels it and you do too.
I give you this one thought to keep-
I am with you still - I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone-
I am with you still - in each new dawn.
It is the love that remains.
Thinking of you always,
Shae, Matt and family
sharon landaverry
July 21, 2009
Cheryl & Mike you hurt, so we hurt. We feel incomplete (Jamies words) we are your sisters and we love you, we miss your beautiful smile and punuhes on the arms and mike's sense of humor. Your dying inside and there is nothing we can do. We pray and try to hold on to the promises of God. He will never leave us or forsake us. Your The first thing on our mind when we wake up and the last thing on our mind when we close our eyes to try and sleep. We just want you to know we love Ryan, We Love you and your family.
to your family, Hold your mom & dad close and never let them go they need your embraces and tell your mother how beautiful she is. We believe Ryan would want her to know that. You are a good family and your love is what will get you all through this.
Pop would say! stick together and love each other and always remember a family that pray's together, stay's together.
with love your aunt's
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