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Arland Selner Obituary
Selner, Arland "Arl", 77, of Middletown, husband of Patricia (Popielarz) Selner, passed away Monday, May 26, 2025. Born in Hartford, he was the son of the late Evelyn (Siebert) Selner and Arthur Selner.
Arl is a graduate of Berlin High School and attended Paul Smith's College in New York. He served in the United States Army recognized with multiple service medals for his time in Vietnam, and as an Expert Rifleman. He was a longtime employee of Connwood Foresters, Inc., until his retirement. Arl was an active outdoorsman enjoying fishing and hunting, enjoyed his gardens of flowers and vegetables, having one of his dogs by his side, he worked hard, always up for a visit and to talk, and usually made those around him laugh with all his sayings, banter, expressions, and stories.
He is survived by his daughters and son-in-law, Sarah (Selner) Tierney and John of East Hampton, Lisa Selner of Albuquerque, NM; and grandsons Mason and Connor Tierney. Arl also leaves his sister, Babette Wrobel and husband John, sister-in-law Betsy Selner; as well as many nieces and nephews.
Along with his parents, he was predeceased by his brother, Clyde Selner.
Family and friends may pay their respect on Tuesday, June 3, 2025, between 11:00 a.m.-12:30 p.m. at the Doolittle Funeral Home, 14 Old Church Street in Middletown, CT. A graveside service will take place at 1:00 p.m. at the State Veterans Cemetery on Bow Lane in Middletown where full military honors will be accorded. In lieu of flowers, those who wish to make donations in his name may do so to the Connecticut Forest & Park Association at https://ctwoodlands.org/support/ways-to-give/honorary-memorial-gifts/. Special thanks to the Middlesex Hospital Hospice Comfort Care Unit, and staff of MapleView Health & Rehabilitation Center, and for all the love and support from family and friends. To share memories or send condolences, please visit www.doolittlefuneralservice.com .
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Jack Miller
November 28, 2025
I just found out about Arl´s passing and I´m deeply saddened. We hunted and fished together for many years.
I will miss him and his gentle nature. Fellow Vietnam Veteran welcome home to our Lords Kingdom.
Jack Miller
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Blandin Karabinos
July 21, 2025
To the daughters of Arl Selner, please accept the condolences of the Troopers of the 11th Armored Cavalry's veterans of Vietnam and Cambodia. Arland was a dedicated and hard-charging warrior, one of us, one of our own. He served courageously with the Legendary Blackhorse Regiment with @nd Howitzer Battery. Your father will be remembered as an honorable trooper whose very presence brought comfort and support to his fellow troopers. He will be included on the Honor Role of our combat veterans as his service highlighted his bravery and valor and was guided with the Vietnamese Cross of Gallantry. As grateful Americans we should all pause and salute a man who was willing to put his life on the line for his country. As our burial liturgy states: “ his life has not ended, merely changed ..." and as we were together then in Vietnam, we will be together again in the life hereafter, warmly embraced in the arms of our Heavenly Father. Chaplain Bill, 11th ACVVC (Vietnam 71-72)
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