Betsey Swire Frumin

Betsey Swire Frumin obituary, Greenwich, CT

Betsey Swire Frumin

Betsey Frumin Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Aug. 11, 2024.
Betsey Rae Frumin (nee Swire) died peacefully with family by her side on July 31, 2024, after a second battle with cancer. She was 82 years old. Born in Bridgeport, Connecticut on August 27, 1941, to Esther and Max Swire, Betsey and her sister Beryl grew up in Bridgeport and both attended Skidmore College, where Betsey majored in mathematics. After graduation, Betsey was a computer programmer for American Electric Power in New York City. Betsey met Arnold Frumin on a blind date in 1963 and they were married in September 1965. Initially living in Brooklyn, the couple eventually settled in Greenwich, CT in 1969. Betsey and Arnold raised three children: Gregory, Kenneth and Amy.

Family was always Betsey's primary focus. She was a loving, kind and adventurous wife, mother and grandmother. In addition to being the heart and soul of the many family businesses, Betsey was an engaged and thoughtful listener with sparkling blue eyes and an infectious smile. She cared deeply for her family and her friends, even while interrogating them with her boundless curiosity. Betsey was willing to engage her sharp, insightful mind on any subject or issue. She had a sense of style all her own. She cared not what others thought of her jewelry, shoes, scarves or broaches and pins. If they were interesting or she found them "fun," she wore them proudly. She loved all animals and had many, many amazing dogs throughout her life (though thankfully only one at a time). Betsey was obsessed with training her dogs and in fact learned to throw a frisbee in her late 70s as part of dog agility training. She also had birds, ferrets, cats, and a bunny. We are certain that she is happily playing with all of them in heaven at this very moment.

When she volunteered, she did so with gusto - always giving 100%. She was active in her children's lives and schools, participating in the PTAs at Glenville School, Brunswick, Greenwich Country Day and Greenwich High School, where she was the PTA president. She also volunteered for Kids in Crisis, Hotline and the Red Cross. Betsey spent a great deal of time working with and volunteering at the Port Chester Obedience Training Club (for dogs, not husbands). She was also a proud elected member of the Greenwich Representative Town Meeting (RTM) where she served for many years in the 1980's and 1990's and then again for the past many years when she served as the chair of District 9.

Betsey was predeceased by her parents Max and Esther Swire and her sister Beryl Novitch. She leaves behind her husband of nearly 59 years, Arnold, three children, and nine grandchildren: Gregory and his wife Audra (Greenwich, CT) and their three children: Alexandra, Joshua and Cole; Kenneth and his wife Michelle (Galisteo, NM) and their three children: Chandler (and her wife Kate), Remy and Drew; and Amy (St. Petersburg, FL) and her three children: Annapurna, Serafina and Bowen.

The family is devastated that she is gone but hope you will join them on August 24th at their home on 53 Shady Lane, Greenwich, CT 06831 at 2 pm to celebrate her wonderful life.

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March 21, 2025

Catherine Faulds (Rene Pedicano) posted to the memorial.

August 27, 2024

Tasha Baylis planted trees.

August 27, 2024

Tasha Baylis posted to the memorial.

Catherine Faulds (Rene Pedicano)

March 21, 2025

Loved your mom. I had so much fun growing up with you guys. Your mother made the house so welcoming even at young age , I felt comfortable hanging out over there all the time!! Sorry for your loss.
She was a wonderful lady.

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Tasha Baylis

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Tasha Baylis

August 27, 2024

An amazing hostess and a kind, fun and funny lady!! So many fun times at the Frumin house :).

I did always love how she treated Hobbs as a Queen - we do the same with our cats :). A legend :). Lots of love.

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Herb Krackow

August 18, 2024

Mrs. Frumin ( I never could get used to calling her Betsey) was always a smiling, positive presence in my childhood on Shady lane. Either keeping a very loose eye on us after school, or driving the gang of us to school in the Blue Wagon. She was always open minded, and had a great laugh. I will always remember the few block parties she organized and a few haunted houses at the barn she made such a cool home. She was welcoming and warm to all. Her 7 layer dip was legend! We remember you lovingly Mrs Frumin. Your spirit lives on in your children and grandchildren.

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Diane Noyes

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Randee jacobs

August 14, 2024

Loved her sense of humor and her commitment to family! She will be missed by all who had the opportunity to know her.

Mike Pearl

August 12, 2024

Betsy was a ray of light that will stay lit forever!
She will be missed.
Respectfully, Mike Pearl

David

August 12, 2024

I´m so sorry for your loss. I miss my favorite Aunt who always welcomed me in Connecticut whether it was the Thanksgiving feast, or a stay for the summer in Connecticut. Always so much fun.

Greg LaVersa

August 12, 2024

Staring around 1974/75, Mrs Frumin was my Cub Scout Den Mother. We had weekly meetings at the house and she always made great cookies or something for the meeting. I remember when she was pregnant with Amy at that time, but that didn´t stop her from having the weekly meetings or slow her down at all.

Very fun, selfless and so warm and inviting when she saw you. Mrs Frumin always had a smile and was interested in what you were doing. I can still hear her saying, "Hello Greg LaVersa, what have you been up to?" I have been fortunate to know and be friends with the whole Frumin family for most of my life. There were Bar Mitzvahs a Bat Mitzvah, Seders and just hanging out at The Frumin´s house were always filled with fun and great food that Mrs Frumin so generously prepared. Fortunately, there is a lot of Mrs. Frumin in each of her 3 children so she has left this world better for having been such a great wife, mother and friend to everyone that was blessed to have known her. Condolences to the Frumin Family. Love Greg

Chandler (Frumin) Irvin

August 11, 2024

Chandler (Frumin) Irvin

August 11, 2024

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