Gary HELFRECHT

Gary was always smiling and making you laugh with his great sense of humor. He and Steve Bailes bantered back and forth all in good fun. We always had a good time at their many get togethers in their home in Darien. He was a fun dad. Lee Bailes

Missing you as always Daddy. Happy 70th Birthday. You would have had a blast today!

We went to visit Uncle William in the Caymans, Daddy. I wish we could have all been together. It was wonderful. Your brother is a great guy. Missing you every day, Daddy

I miss doing business with Gary. He was a sympathetic and charming man.
Ellen Parker

Hi Gary,

It still seems like yesterday when you phoned Lou to give him a hard time about his new love. I happen to be sitting on the couch visiting at that exact moment and you told him you wanted to speak with me. He hesitated for a brief second but soon passed me the phone. You let me know what a great guy I was getting and said you were looking forward to meeting me. The next thing you told me was "if Lou likes you then I know you must be someone special!"
With time that meeting happened and I knew early on why you two became great friends! You were both characters and never met a stranger! Your work and play brought you as close as two brothers but most importantly a friendship that goes beyond words!
He asked you to be the best man at our wedding and you offered your beautiful beach house for our honeymoon!
I miss those time terribly, even more so now that he is terminally ill.
You meant so much to him that he even asked Rudi if he could take the name your grandkids called you when he found out we were going to be Grandparents,"Grumpy"how appropriate.
Gary, my heart aches terribly at the thoughts of losing him but I get a little bit of peace from knowing you two characters will be together again!
Please take care of him and make him laugh each and every day!
All my love my friend,
Shelia

Gary.....thought of you today and still miss you terribly. A good friend of mine passed away this week and I guess that's why you popped into my head. You were the best buddy to me always supportive and kind. A brilliant Boss, a fantastic friend and I will always keep you in my heart and thoughts.....Marsha

Missing you even if I haven't said it here.

I love you every day and today Happy Birthday. I miss you Daddy.

Gary, it's been a long time since we've talked. Enjoy your special day -- you know, the one where God said to your Mom and Dad: "OK! It's time to bring our new Creation into the world!" And you appeared in the flesh for the first time! Celebrating your life, here, as we remember you on your birthday!

We miss you every day, Gary.

Happy Birthday Daddy. I hope you are having a party up there with your mom, dad and brother. Missing you every day and thinking about you especially this one. Love you. Kris.

Miss you, buddy. We had some great times together.

Daddy, A friend of mine's nephew died this morning. He was a football coach. Please keep an eye out for him in heaven and make him feel welcome. I love and miss you so very much.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year Daddy. Another holiday gone by and still missing you every day. We talk about Grumpy all the time but especially this time of year. I pray you are in heaven with your mom, dad and baby brother. All our love.

Early this morning marked the third year without you Daddy. I miss you and think of you every day but I hope you are with your mom, dad and brother, in heaven. Laughing and hugging and surrounded by love.

Miss you, Dad.

Daddy, Happy Birthday. You would have been 66 years old today. Please know we love and miss you every day. Below are your grandchildren's latest school pictures. I love you. Kristen

Daddy, just because I havent' written doesn't mean I don't think about you and miss you every day. Today, I started my photography business. It was the last thing we ever spoke about before saying "I love you" and goodbye. I hope I make you proud daddy. Kris

Daddy, I found this on facebook and thought of you. Helen started Middle School today! And George began Third Grade. It's all going by so quickly and yet I still miss you every day. Love, Kris

Daddy, at just about this time two years ago we had our final conversation. I told you about a blue ribbon I had won for a photograph at the PWC Fair and you told me you were proud of me and that you loved me. I love you too, Daddy. And I miss you every day. Every. Single. Day. I love you. Kris

Daddy,

Happy Fourth of July. I hope that you have sat up in Heaven and enjoyed the fireworks WITHOUT setting fire to St. Peter's Gate. I love and miss you so very, very much.
Kris

Missing you Every day Daddy. Not a day goes by when I don't think about you.

Happy Birthday Daddy!
Today you would have been 65 Years old. The past two years have been a great empty hole without you but I've thought about you every day and prayed you are in heaven with your brother and parents. I love you so very much. Kris.

Daddy,
Summer has started and I still miss you so much. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you and miss you. All my love Kris

Daddy, I have been missing you more and more these days. I am trying really hard to keep up my spirits but as I watch the auctions I feel I am losing you and Grammie & Grampie Helfrecht all over again. George and Helen are doing well in school and both are now in the gifted program. Iain has written a second book and is starting a proposal for a third. We got a dog you would just love. It was (indirectly) a gift from Rudi. The Hanover house has sold. End of an era but my love for you will always burn brightly in my heart. We miss you every single day Daddy. All the time.

Many friends and family members will have a "Blue, Blue Christmas" without you! I know of at least 2 here in NC...

Daddy,
I remember all the times we went down to Richmond for Halloween. Good Times. I think of you every day and miss you in every way. Loving you always, Kris

Gary was a great and intelligent guy. He always reminded me of a Viking raider- - big, hairy, gregarious. I'd sometimes say to myself, "Thank god I met Gary in these gentler times as he'd be a tough one to handle back in 900 A.D."

Daddy, Rudi is having so much trouble. Please help her. I miss you so much. Love, Kris

An industry obituary I only just found. Daddy I am so proud of you. http://mesalliance.org/blog/2010/08/26/industry-veteran-gary-helfrecht-dies/

Daddy, My birthday is coming up. The second one without you. I want to enjoy the day but still have little interest in it. I miss you so much. I know you want us all to be happy but I'm still sad without you. I love you Kris

I am lighting this candle for you today. I just found out you left us. I hope this helps to light your way. I am sorry I didn't know that God had called you home. I am sure that you are watching over your love ones as I know how much you loved your wife, your girls and your grandchildren.

Daddy, school is about to start. Can you believe Helen is in 5th grade and George is in 2nd?!? We got a hamster for George and a Budgie for Helen. I call them James' snack which I think is hilarious but the kids don't like. I guess I am your daughter afterall. I love and miss you so much. I just pray you are watching over us and know all this stuff already. Kris

Gary, I'll always remember you as one of my parents' hippest friends. You taught me to do a back flip when I was little by grabbing your hands, climbing up your legs and flipping over backwards... I thought that was the coolest thing! You also kept us laughing with all the practical jokes you played.... I'll never forget you Gary.

Daddy, we toasted you yesterday and I did cry a little but mostly I remembered you. I remembered your love for me and my sisters. You love for your grandchildren. And your love for Susan and Rudi. But most of all, I remember the safety I felt with you that no matter if we fought or laughed together, you always loved me with all your heart. It makes me miss you all the more. I prayed for you the other day while looking at the night star. A few moments after my prayer ended, I saw a shooting star. It made me feel better about missing you so much. Love Kris

We shall always remember Gary for hhis welcomes, his sense of humour and his delight in his grandchildren.
Pat and Jim

Gary, you inspire me and I miss you. I enjoyed the times that I shared with you and the whole family. You taught me a lot, even though at the time I didn’t always know that I was learning. You were consistently good to the people around you, and you were loved by so many. I will strive to be as good to my daughters as you were to yours. I miss you.

Gary, I will always remember the time you took me on the back of your motorcycle...it was the first and only time I was on one...you told me back then to keep it a secret from my mom, and after many, many years, I just told her yesterday (I guess you are off the hook, lol)...you also had the bushiest beard I had ever seen out of my parent's friends and always a huge smile..you are missed :)

Hey buddt, Just got the word and I'm in shock. We were really close when I lived in Darien and used to play tennis every week. You always made me laugh and I cinsidered you one of my closest friends. Althoughj er've been apart for years I'll never forget you. Take care. Steve

We were all so young when we met in Darien at the Newcomer's Club. Gary and Steve hit it off. They would make puns and jokes that made us all laugh. It was a fun time. Beach parties, gourmet dinners, Indian princesses and guides led the parades down the Post Road. Watching the children grow-up.
Love to Gary
Lee Bailes

Gary....I still can't believe you're gone! You were the best buddy since the day I met you in 1981. I have pictures of you at Jeff's Bar Mitzvah. You gave the best advice, always made me laugh and supported me through hard times. I miss you terribly. I feel guilty thinking you were just too busy to call.....I didn't know you left us and should have called you more often. Will always cherish our friendship....Marsha

As the old saying goes, "You only live once." And that is precisely what you did -- LIVED -- and continue to do in the hearts and minds of so many people. You had a great zest for life and it shows in your children and now theirs as well!

My only regret is that we were not able to get together as often as when we were younger and living just a few miles from each other. But I know that even though the miles separated us, our kindred spirits were always together and are so even to this day.

Rest well in God's loving arms and know that He will keep us all safe until we meet again on the Other Side!

Gary: From Sao Paulo to Hong Kong, from Vienna to Barcelona, cocktails and insights about an amazing industry that you knew better than anyone else, and you were always willing to share that wisdom. RIP, buddy.

This is the beginning of the week leading up to the Annivesary of your passing, Daddy. I can not tell you how much I miss you and I want you to know we still remember you each and every day. I love you so much.

Daddy, I'm going to visit mommy on the anniversary of your death. I'm happy to be with family on that day but am still dreading it too. I miss you so very, very much. How could you leave us? I love you. Kris

Daddy, We visited Jessica and saw all the grandkids together as a sort of mini-family reunion. Just isn't the same without you. I took a whole bunch of pictures of the grandkids together but without your smiling face, it's a bittersweet moment. I love and miss you so much. Kris

Gary my dear friend sleep well, humour was never far away when you were around, we all loved your spice for life and your family values, anybody who had the honour to spend time with you like me will find a huge gap in their world that non other could fulifil.

Happy Father's Day Daddy. Your advice, your (limited) patience, and great humor made you a wonderful father and a good man. My heart aches with how much I miss you. Love, Kris

I am very sorry to hear about Gary. We kept in touch for quite some time. Gary and I went to the World's Fair together when we were in High School. My condelences to his family. I will always remember him fondly.
Margaret Cesta, Ocean County, NJ

I'm very sad to hear of Gary's passing. He was a very nice person...always had a smile and a look in his eye that he knew a secret! The World is a little emptier without him. My warmest regards to his family, Marsha Wermuth

Gary was in my homeroom throughout highschool. A great personality, very friendly and someone everyone knew. He always had a laugh and a smile. Sincere condolences to his family. So sorry to just here of his passing.

Gary and I were friends since grammar school in Livingston -- first Monmouth Court and then Roosevelt. And our friendship continued throughout High School. I was stunned and deeply saddened to learn of his passing only today. He was my friend because he was a terrific guy -- filled with talent and kindness. Hope he finds unimaginable happiness riding his motorcycle through the lush green hills and valleys of heaven.

Daddy, Yesterday we celebrated your life. We went to the pool because we were always at the beach on your birthday. Then in the evening, we continued celebrating your wonderful dad-ness by eating one of your favorite meals with good friends, drinking a toast to your memory with your favorite wine, and making a birthday gift donation to the American Heart Association in your name.

I did cry, Daddy. I miss you so much. And let's face it, you would want me to cry a little (shows how much I miss and love you). But I also know how much you love me and Iain and Helen and George and how you would never want us to be sad for too long. So we chose to celebrate you by doing all the things we know you would do.

Happy birthday daddy. I love you.

We remember Gary as a very friendly person who made us welcome to his family. He always came to see us when we visited Kris, iain and the children. We will never forget him.
Pat and Jim. (Iain's parents)

My sincerest condolences to Gary's family. I knew Gary at LHS and saw him at many reunions. He was always such a gentleman and friendly to everyone. He was someone well liked by all. I'm sorry for your loss.

Today I learned of Gary's passing and I extend my deepest condonences to his family. My memories of Gary are from Livingston High School; we went through all the years there together. I remember what a great history student Gary was - enjoying Mr. Ransignola's teaching style and wit. Gary was a wonderful classmate - so sweet and kind and always ready with a smile. I also remember seeing him many, many times at Don's Drive-in in Livingston `` a place where LHS students met and spent a lot of time socializing and eating french fries. I also remember Gary at yearbook signing parties-- he was very social and talked to everyone. His smile and easy going ways made him a friend to all. It was my pleasure to know him.
I have read many of the entries posted here and see that Gary continued to have a blessed life - filled with a loving wife, adoring chidren & grandchildren and many wonderful friends. May you find comfort in the love and memories you have.
With prayers,

Gary was one of our Montgomery Road gang. What a wonderful childhood we shared with long summer evenings playing hide and seek with one another! There was a very special bond that was felt between us all....even at class reunions. It's evident from the photos and writings that the kindness and playfulness seems never to have left him. It sounds like his ending was full and loving, just as his beginnings.

I was friendly with Gary during HS and am deeply saddened by his loss. He was a genuinely "good guy!" That says a lot.

My best goes to his entire family, as I'm sure he will be missed by all.

Gary - I hope you can feel my anguish at realizing you won't be reading my birthday wish on Facebook. I didn't know and I am saddened by the thought that you are no longer with us and I won't be seeing you at our 50th reunion. I hope, for your sake as well as your family that you were spared pain and suffering. I echo Bob Flynn's sentiments about your impact on our LHS days. You will be missed.

I just learned today that Gary has passed on and I am very saddened for his family. Gary and I weren't "friends" at Livingston High School, but he was a presence in my time there and never was the experience unpleasant. There are some young people that you just know will grow tall and straight in their ability to love and empathize with those they meet. Gary was one of these. Gary's family have probably never heard of Don's drive-in in Livingston, but it was one of Gary's favorite places and it was a place where a large portion of our generation socialized and took their first steps into adult relationships. He liked a good sausage sandwich in those days, was athletic, and could shoot a good game of billiards. From what I've read in the messages left here, Gary fulfilled the time he had on this plane with a big and loving heart and he retained the ability to make nearly everyone feel welcome and appreciated in his presence. From his wife, children and grandchildren, to his friends old and recent, and to his coworkers and neighbors Gary was apparently a jewel in the crowns of their lives. I know he waits patiently for you all and hopes you can find comfort in your memories of him.

Gary...I just found out that you're gone. I'm devastated. You were such a great friend, supportive, compassionate and you always had my back. Will miss you for the rest of my life. I got through it all with your help. There will never be another friend like you. I know how much you loved Rudi and your daughters and grandchildren. So sad to think you're not with us. It's a terrible void for me. I would like to think that you're in a better place. Rest well buddy......Marsha

It's getting harder and harder because I miss you more and more.

Happy Memorial Day Daddy. It hurts so much that this time last year we were planning a visit to the beach for your birthday. We all miss you so much. I pray every day that you are in heaven and happy with your parents and brother but I still, selfishly, wish you were still here with us. I know it's supposed to hurt and keep hurting for a long, long time but the pain of missing you like this is just awful. I love you, Daddy.

Daddy, I didn't have a very happy Easter without you. I tried my best for the kids but I did cry. Always missing you. I love you, Kris

Daddy, It's been hard without you. I miss you and wish you were here so much. All these issues because you're gone. It's overwhelming. I want to do what's right but it is so, so hard to accept that you are gone. I want my daddy back so badly. We did the Cherry Blossoms again this year. Look how big your beautiful grandchildren are! They miss their Grumpy. I love you.

Daddy, I miss you so much. Helen is going to be in the Gifted Program and George is improving every day. Iain has finished his second book and, well, I'm trying my best to muddle through. I know you are so proud of us all but I wish you were here. I miss you every day. I still can't believe you're gone.

You will always be my daddy.

Daddy, Rudi reminded me that you've been gone for six months now. It feels like forever but if that were true why do I miss you so much? I love you and still can not believe you are gone.

Just missing you so much. Every day. It is still unimaginable that Gary Helfrecht, my daddy, is no longer here. How could you go daddy?

I've thought about you every day and cried, missing you, nearly every day. It still takes me by surprised how devastated I am by your absence. How can I still have this sense of stunned disbelief that you are no longer with us daddy? I miss you, always.

Daddy, yesterday was George's birthday and today was his birthday party. You came to nearly all of his birthdays - even when there was a blizzard. I miss you so much.

Daddy, I couldn't wish you a Merry Christmas because I missed you so much. And now, on New Year's Eve, your absence still hurts. I pray you are celebrating with Grammie and Grampie, Uncle Richard, Grammie Leadbetter and all our loved ones. I hope you are looking down on us because I am looking up for you. All my love. Kris

Daddy, I miss you so much. It's been a while but with Pat having been in the hospital and now Rudi currently in the hospital, I've been a total stressball. Not that I haven't thought about you each and every day. It's geting closer to Christmas and tougher and tougher to be without you. The kids were good about it but I started weeping when we hung the Christmas ornaments you gave us on the tree and rediscovered the note you wrote on the box. A stupid TV ad of a grandfather and grandson fishing set me off the other day. I miss you.

Well Daddy, Jessie, Courtney and I cleaned out what remained in your beach house and in two days it will be sold. It was so bittersweet to say goodbye. We scattered your ashes there so you could be with Grammie. It was a beautiful sunset moment. But I am still so sad and miss you so much. And now Iain's mom is very, very ill. I wish you were here to comfort me because I feel so lost without you. I don't want you to live in my heart or in heaven, I want you here, alive, now. Oh daddy, I miss you so much.

Daddy,
Your beach house has been sold. I know that's what you wanted so I'm not sad and I am looking forward to collecting your stuff with my sisters so I will always have something to remember you by. It's gonna be hard but good too. Yesterday was the Two Month Anniversary of your death and it still feels hard to think of you not being here with us. I still can't believe you're gone. I feel like a little girl, I miss you so much. Love Kris

I have some pictures of Daddy, his brothers, and his father's WWII photos on my facebook page, please feel free to visit it here. http://www.facebook.com/kristen.h.murray#!/album.php?aid=233966&id=613288201&page=2

Jessica made an amazing Day of the Dead shrine in memory of Daddy. It is a beautiful labor of love. You can watch a video of it at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K3jLnW8zFbY

He was such a good daddy.

Daddy,
George went to Scouts in his official Boy Scout uniform. I so wish you could see him. You'd have loved it. I miss you. Kris

Daddy, George and I lite a candle for you last night at church. I told George to say a prayer and he prayed for you to come back. It was like he heard what was in my heart. I miss you so much. I love you so much. And I am so grateful you were and are forever my daddy.

Finding it extremely difficult to express my sorrow about Gary’s untimely death I thought I’d let the grieving process run a bit before trying to do so. Alas that’s not the case and I’m still at a loss to adequately express my feelings about this truly unique guy. Simply put, one of a kind, and I consider myself fortunate to have been able to call myself his friend. Always synonymous with laughter and good times, a big guy with an even bigger heart and a passion for getting the most out of everything he did. He loved his family and extended circle of friends and unabashedly demonstrated his affection for each and every one whenever the opportunity permitted. I’ve lamented the limited contact over the years and now mourn all the more that even that will no longer be. Still, the mere mention of his name brings a smile (now perhaps a tear) to my face and he will remain forever in my heart and mind.

Don

Daddy, I miss you. I still can not believe you are gone. Like Rudi, I still imagine you are on a business trip. When, for the first time in my life, I do not hear your voice on my birthday.... Well that will be a very bad day. My heart aches, breaks, still. I got angry at you, frustrated, annoyed, but you were also always a place of love and safety. My world is now imperfect because you are no longer in it. I miss my daddy. And worst of all, I can NOT believe you are gone. I touched you cold. But my mind and heart can not accept it. Daddy. Daddy Daddy. Please sing me to sleep with Sea of Love. Please come to me daddy and tell me it will be all right. My broken heart needs you. If only in my dreams.

Dear Helfrecht Family,
We are so very sorry for your loss. Your father was a wonderful man. I am so glad we got to see you all in July. We are so sorry we did not know sooner; we certainly would have come pay our respects. We love you all so very much.
Love, the Hapgood family

The setting of the memorial tributes at the funeral home was dominated, appropriately, by the giant red Harley and a blow up of a delightful photo of Gary and Rudi with his six grandchildren at the beach house and a well-stocked bar at the other end of the room. These trappings reflected a man who took great pleasure in the good things of life and especially in his wife and family, a man who, in spite of determinedly slimming down, still seemed larger than life, like a large cuddly bear with a loud bellow of a voice that left you in no doubt that he was pleased to see you! Modesty was not generally his strongest suit. When I wrote last summer to thank him for sending me a copy of the same photo, saying how sweet or adorable all the children looked, he replied, “Rudi and I look pretty good as well.” He was extremely dismissive of his own brother’s relatively recent beard, - no competition with his own elegant whiskers. As they were leaving Cayman Gary announced that he was leaving behind a swimsuit that might well fit his older brother, but was now far too large for him. He would always insist that he was the “handsome” one of the family.


On his last visit to Cayman this year Gary reminisced a great deal about his childhood, with stories of cars and fishing, staying with grandparents at Point Pleasant, scraps with brothers, minor run-ins with parents, - very simple things. His elder brother was the one person who could share most of these memories. When I asked Gary why he recalled all this now, he stated the obvious, that it was a happy childhood. “Idyllic” in fact was the word we used. It was a simpler life; expectations were lower; boredom did not feature. Some of these idyllic memories he seemed to be recreating in the summer gatherings with children and grandchildren at the beach house, where Gary and Rudi had preserved some of his mother’s possessions. They loved relaxing there together, but clearly the rather less relaxing summer holidays with all the little ones represented a peak of happiness.


Gary clearly saw his childhood as a great start in life, though once he tried to convince me that being the middle child put him at a disadvantage and left him scarred. (I do not think he sincerely believed that. Imaginative explanations were part of his make up).


He retained many of the values and lessons learned from his upbringing. Obviously none of the three brothers became a carbon copy of their dad, but Gary seemed to have been inspired by aspects of his father’s life. He particularly admired his father’s courage as a WW2 bomber pilot and lovingly compiled photographic and documentary tributes to him. He was inspired by books like Tom Brookaw’s The Greatest Generation, - a generation (his parents’) “united not only by a common purpose, but also by common values – duty, honor, economy, courage, service, love of family and country, and, above all, responsibility for oneself.”1 This was part of the legacy Gary and his brothers inherited, even though he made some discoveries about his father only after both parents were dead. Bill senior had been very unassuming about his role in shaping history. Gary had basically similar values, but his own courage showed more in the way he was prepared to go out into the world and face new challenges with confidence.


Gary was fortunate to escape the draft in the 60s, but had to assume responsibility for himself and growing family at a very early age; this he managed to do capably with the support of his first wife, Susan. The girls clearly benefited from still youthful parents. Gary could continue to act childishly with them when the occasion allowed and loved being a father who was closely involved in his children’s lives, although he would occasionally complain to us – humorously of course - about the trials of living in close proximity to “four girls” when the daughters were growing up.


All three brothers adored their mother, but in her last years it was particularly to Gary that she turned for emotional support after she lost her husband and soon afterwards suffered the bitter blow of losing her youngest son, Richard. Gary seemed to be able to cheer her up with his phone calls and his visits were highlights she looked forward to. Gary ‘s warm, affectionate nature and his charm seem to have come largely from her. His affable manner and sense of humour were important assets for smoothing the path to business deals, to which he also brought intelligence, clear-sightedness and determination. Richard’s death was a bitter blow to both his brothers. Gary and Bill became closer in the fifteen years or so following their mother’s death. They saw each other more frequently after Bill moved to Cayman.


I got to know Gary better when he was working for Nimbus in the mid to late 90s and making quite regular stops in the UK, where I was mainly based at the time. This coincided with his blossoming relationship with Rudi; they adored each other and Gary’s life seemed happy and complete. Despite a certain amount of enforced separation from her it was clear that he thrived on the love and support she gave him and delighted in the home she so artistically and lovingly created. Over the past few years he proved his devotion to Rudi and they hoped for many more years together.


Gary’s loyalty to family extended beyond his own beloved children and grandchildren and he had a wide circle of friends in different parts of the States and abroad - from business relationships, neighbours, Harley enthusiasts, gourmets, gym members. He never mentioned falling out with anyone. He was a much loved uncle, who made efforts to keep in touch with Richard’s sons and would make time whenever he could on business trips to meet up with his niece, Alex, in California or his nephew, William, who was at boarding school in England from the age of nine and who more recently spent time with Gary and Rudi in the States. To me he was a most supportive and caring brother-in-law, friend and confidant and a highly entertaining companion. We disagreed on all sorts of topics – music, TV and films and politics in particular. He and his brother formed a formidable duo of scabrous political incorrectness, when discussing the progress of the creative epistolary work with its references to Nigerian scams, for instance. Both of them enjoyed winding me up, but Gary’s teasing was always amusing rather than cruel and he had more political insight than he pretended.


Just a year before Gary’s sudden death we all, (including Roger Ellis) had such fun on the Atlantic crossing on the Queen Mary, after which Gary took Rudi all over London. It was all so successful we hoped to be able to do something similar again. Sadly it was not to be and we must be grateful that we did it last year and that we persuaded Gary and Rudi to visit us in Cayman again this year. Coming to terms with the loss of such a brother, uncle and friend will not be easy. Our hearts go out to Rudi and to Gary’s children, Kristen, Jessica and Courtney and their families.


Lymington, September 2010

I still miss you Daddy. I still miss you so much.