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Mary Stoddard Barnard Trigg
1933 - 2025
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Mary Stoddard Barnard Trigg
March 1, 1933 - November 19, 2025
TRIGG, Mary Stoddard Barnard "Toddy," 92, died peacefully at home on November 19, 2025, surrounded by family. Born March 1, 1933, in Louisville, KY, to Horace and Mary Dunklin Barnard, both of Alabama, she grew up in Richmond with her brother Robert Dowling Barnard, who predeceased her in 2024.
A St. Catherine's School graduate, Toddy earned a degree in religion from Hollins College in 1955. During her senior year, Landon White Trigg spotted her at a party and introduced himself. Smitten by his charm and his "cute little ears," she married him one year later at St. James's Episcopal Church, sealing a bond that endured through their 57 years together.
Young at heart, beloved for her ageless wisdom and unvarnished humor, Toddy instilled in others the importance of family, the value of being true to oneself, and the simple power of kindness. No one appreciated these traits more than her children, Mary Alston "Honey" Trigg Sachs (Lenny), William "Billy" Robertson Trigg (Susie), Susan Reid Trigg, and Edward "Ned" Barnard Trigg (Leigh), who survive her.
She loved Thanksgiving, the Fourth of July, and any excuse to gather her grandchildren, William, Landon (Annie), Lana (Kelsie), Mamie, Jack (Emily), and Emory. For the six of them, a visit with Grandmommy was a joy, never a duty. A recent visit from her first great-grandchild, two-month-old "Wally" of Golden, CO, brought her sheer delight.
Even after her beloved Landon's passing in 2012, Toddy lived and loved fully. She was devoted to her special friend, Paul Hontz Gerber, who survives her, and with whom she shared many happy years.
Toddy found her peace in gardening. Like her mother, who once pulled a weed as they toured the grounds of Windsor Castle, she was most at home kneeling by a flower bed, hands in the soil, her trusty clippers close by. When she could get away with it, she was known to weed the yards of perfect strangers.
Guided by intuition and spiritual curiosity, Toddy turned dreams into reality, for herself and for others. For years, she gathered with her Dream Group to unravel these subconscious messages, calling herself "an old-fashioned dreamer."
She loved travel, art, film, and books, insisting that she alone propelled the Outlander series to success and eagerly awaited its final volume. She embraced sailing and river life at Bon Harbours and Hardings Wharf where she and Landon spent many happy decades.
A quiet community servant, she cherished simple pleasures: steamed crabs, spaghetti, sangria, family, friends, and long talks with her "Texaco neighbors."
A graveside service at Hollywood Cemetery will take place on Monday, December 1, at 11 a.m. Those wishing to make memorial contributions in Toddy's honor may consider Capital Trees or the Chesapeake Bay Foundation.
To know her was to love her.
March 1, 1933 - November 19, 2025
TRIGG, Mary Stoddard Barnard "Toddy," 92, died peacefully at home on November 19, 2025, surrounded by family. Born March 1, 1933, in Louisville, KY, to Horace and Mary Dunklin Barnard, both of Alabama, she grew up in Richmond with her brother Robert Dowling Barnard, who predeceased her in 2024.
A St. Catherine's School graduate, Toddy earned a degree in religion from Hollins College in 1955. During her senior year, Landon White Trigg spotted her at a party and introduced himself. Smitten by his charm and his "cute little ears," she married him one year later at St. James's Episcopal Church, sealing a bond that endured through their 57 years together.
Young at heart, beloved for her ageless wisdom and unvarnished humor, Toddy instilled in others the importance of family, the value of being true to oneself, and the simple power of kindness. No one appreciated these traits more than her children, Mary Alston "Honey" Trigg Sachs (Lenny), William "Billy" Robertson Trigg (Susie), Susan Reid Trigg, and Edward "Ned" Barnard Trigg (Leigh), who survive her.
She loved Thanksgiving, the Fourth of July, and any excuse to gather her grandchildren, William, Landon (Annie), Lana (Kelsie), Mamie, Jack (Emily), and Emory. For the six of them, a visit with Grandmommy was a joy, never a duty. A recent visit from her first great-grandchild, two-month-old "Wally" of Golden, CO, brought her sheer delight.
Even after her beloved Landon's passing in 2012, Toddy lived and loved fully. She was devoted to her special friend, Paul Hontz Gerber, who survives her, and with whom she shared many happy years.
Toddy found her peace in gardening. Like her mother, who once pulled a weed as they toured the grounds of Windsor Castle, she was most at home kneeling by a flower bed, hands in the soil, her trusty clippers close by. When she could get away with it, she was known to weed the yards of perfect strangers.
Guided by intuition and spiritual curiosity, Toddy turned dreams into reality, for herself and for others. For years, she gathered with her Dream Group to unravel these subconscious messages, calling herself "an old-fashioned dreamer."
She loved travel, art, film, and books, insisting that she alone propelled the Outlander series to success and eagerly awaited its final volume. She embraced sailing and river life at Bon Harbours and Hardings Wharf where she and Landon spent many happy decades.
A quiet community servant, she cherished simple pleasures: steamed crabs, spaghetti, sangria, family, friends, and long talks with her "Texaco neighbors."
A graveside service at Hollywood Cemetery will take place on Monday, December 1, at 11 a.m. Those wishing to make memorial contributions in Toddy's honor may consider Capital Trees or the Chesapeake Bay Foundation.
To know her was to love her.
Published by Richmond Times-Dispatch on Nov. 23, 2025.
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