Nancy Lou Nielsen

Nancy Lou Nielsen obituary, Whiting, ME

Nancy Lou Nielsen

Nancy Nielsen Obituary

Published by Direct Cremation of Maine - Belfast on May 25, 2016.
WHITING - Nancy L. Nielsen, 85, died Monday, May 23, 2016, at home. She was born August 28, 1930, in Indianapolis, IN, to Miriam Fitzpatrick and Theodore Fredriks. Her childhood was spent in Indianapolis and in Elsmere, NY. She attended Syracuse University as a New York State Regent Scholar. In 1951, she married Reinald Nielsen, with whom she raised two children. After her marriage, she lived in Windsor, NY and several other places before settling in Carlisle, MA in 1960. In Massachusetts Nancy worked as a school librarian, environmental educator, wildlife rehabilitator, and naturalist, and as Operations Manager for DeCordova Museum.

Nancy began summering in Maine in the mid-1960s and in 1980 moved full-time to her beloved Stone Man Farm on Straight Bay in Lubec. It was there that her talents as a poet and her commitment to conservation and community flowered. Her poems have been published in the Beloit Poetry Journal and other magazines, with collections published by Slow Dancer Press in England and by Stone Man Press, which she co-founded with her partner and fellow poet, Alan Brooks.In 2011 she and Alan started a blog for their poems, Salt and Stone Poetry, which Alan will continue after her death.

Nancy and Alan started the Straight Bay Association in 1981 to fight development projects harmful to the Cobscook Bay ecosystem. She also served as President of Audubon Expedition Institute. In 1987, she co-founded Quoddy Regional Land Trust (now Downeast Coastal Conservancy), serving for many years as board member and volunteer staffer. She donated QRLT's first conservation easement, on Stone Man Farm. More recently, Nancy and Reinald gave an easement on their land in Whiting, and also gave the remainder interest in Stone Man Farm to DCC while retaining life estates for themselves and Alan.

Nancy became well known in Maine land trust circles for her vision, commitment and conservation values. At the end of her life, she found joy in knowing that she had done so much to help conserve so many of Downeast Maine's most special places forever. Nancy lived and acted with the awareness, as expressed in her poem, "Spring Tide," that "it is no small thing to live in a holy place."

Nancy was an avid and knowledgeable botanist, gardener and landscaper who made every place she lived more beautiful. She was especially attuned to the use of native flowers, trees, and shrubs for their interest in every season and for their wildlife value. She shared her knowledge freely and took pleasure in the gardens of others. She also delighted in her house plants, which surrounded her in her final home.

Nancy was predeceased by her parents, by her brother, Theodore (Ted), and by a child lost before birth. As well as her husband, Reinald, she leaves behind a sister and brother-in-law, Judy and Montcalm Strever, of Rexford, NY, and their children, Cynthia and Starr, and families; her very special daughter, Christine (Chris) Nielsen, and son-in-law, George White, of Head of St. Margaret's Bay, Nova Scotia; a son, Dreas, and daughter-in-law, Jamie, of Issaquah, WA and their children Caitlin and Hannah; and her dear friend and life partner, Alan Brooks, of Lubec.

The family would like to thank Laurie, Sam, Carol and other current and former staff of Sunrise County Homecare Services for their help and kindness during her final years.

Nancy made the world a better place. Her life and spirit will be celebrated at a memorial service to be announced later. Memorial donations may be made to Downeast Coastal Conservancy, PO Box 760, Machias, ME 04654. Memories and condolences may be offered at www.directcremationofmaine.com.

This obituary was originally published in the BDN Maine.

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May 21, 2024

Bo Yerxa posted to the memorial.

May 20, 2024

Larry Brown posted to the memorial.

May 19, 2019

Holly Fisher posted to the memorial.

Bo Yerxa

May 21, 2024

As long as our name is spoken, we live.

Larry Brown

May 20, 2024

Nancy will always remain in my mind and heart forever. She was an environmentalist and always worked for a cleaner, caring world.
She and Allan were a special force for Washington County and their work will always be felt.

Holly Fisher

May 19, 2019

https://vimeo.com/293538796 follow this link to a recording of Nancy reading her poems to filmmaker Holly Fisher. With photos of Nancy and Alan. recorded summer, 1990 in their home in Lubec, Maine

Aunt Nancy - always and adventurer!

Starr Strever Stevens

July 26, 2016

There were many special memories of Aunt Nancy. I always enjoyed our visits to Massachusetts and swimming in the "ice tea" colored spring fed pond, making homemade root beer, always lots of unique animals, good cooking, and experiencing a lifestyle that was exotic in my eyes. My husband and I had the wonderful opportunity to bring our children to visit Aunt Nancy and Lubec in 1991 (we had not seen her since our wedding in 1979 where she was our photographer) and she spent her time taking us to Campobello Island, the beautiful coast, and the best little roadside stand for clams and Maine lobster. I will cherish the memories of Aunt Nancy and my times spent with the Nielsen family. The picture attached is one I have discovered in a box of old photos that my mother (Nancy's sister) had. It really shows Aunt Nancy's passion for life! Rest In Peace Aunt Nancy. Love, Your Niece, Starr

Julie Routledge

May 30, 2016

I never got to meet Nancy, either. I'm a friend of Alan's, and knew her through his letters and e-mails since the '80's. Nancy's was a life well-lived. I can only hope all of our lives are remembered with such purpose and legacy.

Jill Blondin

May 27, 2016

I never met Nancy but felt I knew her through my brother-in-law, Alan. After I sent a note upon being told of her grave illness two or so years back, she sent me a note of thanks in a card inscribed with one of her poems: Now Rises April: "as from a winter sleep, as from a dark constellation, April rises: birdsong, watersong, green shoots, promise of flowers, saltmarsh perfume, call of shorebirds as from a dark sleep, I rise, surprised, take a step toward rising light, toward the promise of flowers, an old woman, singing, fair, fair is the morning." No doubt because of fading health, Nancy clearly never took for granted waking up to another day. All of us should be similarly inspired by her example and use them wisely.

May 27, 2016

Nancy was a friend, mentor, and beacon to many Downeast, including me. Nancy was a force of Nature, and a force for Nature, a woman of great intelligence, great commitment, many passions, and, always, always, a love of words and writing and poetry. Many of Nancy's poems resonate for me, even years after I've read them, but this one sticks in my mind more than others.
There May Be A Bear, May, On The Trail, Be a Bear
by Nancy L. Nielsen
Remember, first, that you stink in the nose of the bear.
Sit quietly.
Sit by the side of the trail, quietly.
Remember that the bear is not awed by erudition.
Cease prattling of French restaurants and Jung.
Remember that the bear speaks in a low voice.
Sit quietly and listen.
At the end of the day,
You may have seen a bear, or you may not;
even if you have not, you should make a mark
three sticks, three stones
this is the Place Where I Waited For The Bear.
This will be your place, always.
On the other hand, you can rush home
nervously, write it down,
write it up but then
you'll have to live with that counterfeit bear,
misshapen, smelling bad, a sullen shape in the corner,
eyes flickering with your small red fears.
This will be your bear, always.

Sam Benigno

May 26, 2016

I felt blessed and very thankful to know Nancy and Allan. These two enlightened people who could strike a meaningful conversation everything under the sun without prejudice. O how I will missed talking to you guys. My heartfelt gratitude for sharing your lives to me, your experiences, beliefs, creeds and reasons to live will be treasured in my heart forever.

Sent with Love and Remembrance.

Joel Pickelner

May 26, 2016

She was a wonderful person and left an enduring legacy. My best to Alan and Reinald - I miss you all!

Bo Yerxa

May 26, 2016

I sit this morning in my Grandfather's chair in my treetop library, grateful for the life of Nancy Nielson, life artist, environmentalist and extraordinary poet, who passed on Monday. Her work has infused my life, with three of her publications within my sight as I write. As she aged, I feel her writing became leaner...keener...and impacted me on so many levels.

Nancy allowed me to utilize one of my favorite of her poems Sweet Sovereign Root, first published in the Beloit Poetry Journal 32 years ago in the Spring 1989 issue of the Maine MOSAIC, which was devoted to culture and health. I chose it because it resonates with my own family history, being raised in an extended Aroostook County farm family in the 1950s, with grandparents who knew how to use muskrat root and poplar bark. A poem of passing, I literally take it off my wall to share in her memory today.


Sweet Sovereign Root

My mother died in the Spring.
She died of thick blood. That grieved me
and I thought it astonishing; I thought
of her death as caused by a successful transition
to the middle class. I knew, without looking
behind the fruitwood veneer doors of her cupboards,
what I would not find.
No fever root, toothache root, sweet sassafras.
No sassafras. Mama, I thought, we've come a long way
from our childhoods, from black salve and sang
and spikenard to an empty cupboard
and you dead of thick blood.
No spicebush, flower of melilot, rose gold sassafras
tea of Spring, to thin the blood. Mama,
you never let me down; your paper packages
of bark followed me to college. You had never read
Proust, you only knew that it was dangerous
not to quicken wintry blood, but when I brewed
your roots it was suddenly Spring, even there,
among the unbelievers.
No more. The palm trees outside my mother's room
denied the existence of Spring. I thought, if there are ghosts
(yes I hope there are ghosts) they will be wise women,
with aprons full of comfort, and they will take her home
to chamomile, star root, sweet sovereign sassafras.
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Love, love and more love to all beings who loved Nancy.

Tim Butterworth

May 25, 2016

You have been in our thoughts over the last few years, Alan, and especially now. Nancy was such a big part of your life,for so long, that your world must feel turned upside down. We hope to see you often in the coming months.

Love, Tim and Kay

May 25, 2016

So sorry to hear of Nancy's passing. May your precious memories of this wonderful lady sustain & comfort you.

Larry Brown

May 25, 2016

Nancy, was a tremendous inspiration to me. She and Alan were always working for the betterment of the world and specifically Washington County. As a State Senator in Maine for 3 terms the both of them were always examining legislation and evaluating it for it's impact on the environment. She was a close and trusted friend. She will be missed.

Holly Fisher

May 25, 2016

My deep thanks and gratitude for sharing your exquisite poetry, thoughts, and memories within the making of (feature film) Bullets for Breakfast those many years ago. You have my promise that your poetry will live on. With much much love, Holly Fisher
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