Mr. Robert H. VanDevender

44 years ago, my whole life changed when I set my eyes on this handsome man across the room in a red shirt at Patapsco Inn. When he made his way to the bar behind me, my heart started to flutter. I thought to myself if his voice is as sexy as he looks, it's time to engage him in conversation. Well he spoke with a very deep voice and chills went up and down my spine. I could barely control myself dancing with him. When the lights came up for last call, I knew I wanted to spend more time with him. Double T Diner was our destination and we spent all night talking and laughing and steaming up his car windows. I knew then that I wanted this handsome stranger in my life. The rest, as they say, is history. I enjoyed 39 years with this handsome guy until he had to leave. Worst day of my life. I treasure all the memories we shared. From that love, came a wonderful son who has his Father's handsome looks and personality. Thank you, Bob, for loving me and changing the course of my life.

Have been dreading this anniversary. Thought it would get easier, but I still have this giant hole in my heart that only you can fill. Haven't gotten our furniture here yet, but I'm working on it. Matthew and Ashley have been a godsend. They still laugh often. Matthew looks and acts more like you than ever before. I'm sure you're loving our new President! Went to see Joy a while back and she seems to be having a hard time being the only sibling left behind. Told many Bob and Bonnie stories and laughed a lot. Please keep watching over us. Love and miss you like crazy.

Angels from Heaven sent me this and it describes my feelings perfectly.
The moment that you left me, my heart was split in two; one side was filled with memories; the other side died with you. I often lay awake at night when the world is fast asleep; and take a walk down memory lane with teas on my cheek. Remembering you is easy; I do it everyday; but missing you is a heartache that never goes away. I hold you tightly within my heart and there you will remain; you see, life has gone on without you, but will never be the same.

Your not being here hasn't gotten easier after four years. I have moved back to Leeds and I do find comfort in our home where we shared so much for 30 years. Our home is 90 years old now. Do love being here with Matthew and Ashley. They have been a blessing. It's unreal how much Matthew is so much like you. He loves working in the yard and likes his job in MoCo. His personality is right up there with yours. We went to Stone Harbor this year for the family reunion. Not the same without you though. We shared lots of Bob stories and warm memories. Hard to believe that you, Frank and Ed are together again. Bob, I miss so much and it hurts so bad. Think of you every day and all the memories we shared. You and Matthew are the very best things that ever happened to me. See you later, Hooch. Much love.

I found you late in life but our times together will never be forgotten. Rest well my beloved brother and may the peace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your soul and comfort your family

Norae and Matthew...
I am so sorry to hear about Bob's passing. I have been thinking about you since Gloria has kept me posted the entire time about Bob. All of us had many great times together and now he too is with Francis telling jokes and having a good time. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you...
Love,
Pattie