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Rod BARRY Obituary
This obituary was originally published in the Herald Sun.
74 Entries
October 13, 2013
A year ago you left us, our hearts were broken, but we will never forget you Rod.
love J&P
Jacinta Barry
October 12, 2013
I can't believe it's been a year since you were torn away from us Daddy, I'm sitting here thinking, but words can't describe what I'm feeling right now. Except that I miss you and I wish you were still here.
Kellie Hill Clark
October 12, 2013
12 months ago you were taken from the people that loved, honoured and respected you, not a day goes by that not one of us is thinking about you, we love and miss you dearly R.I.P. Rod ???, love you Deanne Barry and Jacinta Pegler-Barry my heart is with you today and every day.
Lindsay Clark
October 12, 2013
It's hard to believe that a year has passed since you've been gone from us all but I can and will never forget the best mate that I've had even from that moment we met at school we found our way only to be away from each other but still found time to speak to each other about anything and when we got together it was like the conversation s we had was like they never ended I am proud to say that yourself,Deanne and Jacinta are more than friends but great mates and will always cherish that
Deanne and Jacinta we love you both and rod we will meet again one day so have a beer for us on those stairs mate miss ya heaps
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Ryan Jusep
October 12, 2013
A year ago today an amazing man was taken away from us, he was the quiet guide and mentor for many of the younger members of our family, and the one that we could always come to if we needed to talk to someone and thought no one would listen, to me this man was like a second father to me in many respects, helping me out in life when no one else would and kept me going.
That man is my Uncle Rod, I miss you so much and wish you were still here with us, one thing I can say though is I bet the gardens and flower beds have never looked better up there.
Rip Rod we will never forget and we will always miss you.
Debbie Ebbage
October 12, 2013
One whole year has passed since we lost you Rod! You are never far from my thoughts. Neither are you Deanne 'Jusep' Barry. You truly are one of the strongest and most giving and amazing people I know. We owe you a great debt of gratitude for what you did for my brother in his final months and I could not have asked for a better SIL. Now it is time to help you Dea get through today. You deserve a future full of happiness and love and you are constantly in my prayers.
David Sutton
October 12, 2013
This last year has by far been one of the hardest I've ever had to go through. A year ago today I lost my brother to cancer. I love you Rip Rod, I miss you every day. I've luckily got such an awesome circle of family and friends that have helped me though this, and hopefully I've been there for them when they need a shoulder. Rod: you were my silent advisor in many things, you helped me more than you know. Deanne 'Jusep' Barry you have been this family's absolute rock, you have done so much for us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Jacinta, you amaze me with how well you have dealt with this. I know he would be proud. To all my family, friends and loved ones that helped us through this year, words can't express the gratitude I feel.
Deanne Barry
October 10, 2013
This time last year i lost my husband, soul mate, best friend and lover which has left a big empty whole in my heart. My life is so empty now you are not in it. I miss you every day, I love you with all my heart and time will never change that. I know you are looking over me and helping me to be strong. Always in my heart R I P Honey.
August 17, 2013
The day I will only drink VB beer is on your birthday mate. It will be always your 40th my dear brother.
August 16, 2013
Happy Birthday for last Tuesday.
Rod it only feels like last Month that we having your 40th . Peter and I miss you a lot, will speak to you in October. love Jeannette and Peter. xx
August 15, 2013
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
Deanne Barry
August 13, 2013
I wish you were here today
even for a little while
so I could say Happy Birthday
and see your beautiful smile.
The only gifts today will be
the gifts you left behind:
The laughter, joy and happiness...
precious memories...the best kind.
Today I'll do my very best
to try and find a happy place...
struggling to hide my heavy heart
and the tears on my face.
I'll sit quietly and look at your picture
thinking of you with love:
hoping you're doing ok
in Heaven up above.
May the angels hold you close and
sing you a happy song.....
and I'll be sending wishes to you
today and all year long.
x o x o x o x o x o x
My best Friend made this poem for me today it is the most beautiful thing I have ever read and so fitting for your Birthday. Love you Honey
Deanne Barry
August 13, 2013
Happy Birthday Honey.
I wish more than anything in this world that you were here today with me to help me celebrate your birthday.
I miss you more than ever. I love you more than ever.
I hope you have a great day where ever you are now.
I love you with all my heart.
Happy 40th again honey, you will stay 40 in my heart for ever.
Deanne Barry
April 12, 2013
I can not believe you have been gone 6 months not sure if it has gone quick or slow the pain is still as strong as the day you died. I wish you were here with me I just want to hold you and never let you go and tell you how much I love you.
Deanne Barry
December 29, 2012
Christmas is over and so is my birthday it was so hard without you here I miss you so much i just want to back here with me please come back. I know you cant but i don't know how i am going to keep coping without you.I miss you so much.
Merry Christmas Honey
Deanne Barry
December 15, 2012
Jacinta Pegler-Barry
December 11, 2012
Dad, I miss you so much. In my dreams, I see glimpses of your face and that's enough to help me carry on with the following days. I love you xx
Deanne Barry
December 10, 2012
At this time 2 months ago you pass away. You are forever in my heart, dreams and thoughts. I will never stop loving you honey.
Sharryn Toull
November 19, 2012
Rod you will be missed. We have our beautiful frontyard garden to look at everyday and we all walk around and remember special things about you. The roses are growing like crazy.
Love Sharryn, Andrew, Andrea & Brittney
Deanne Barry
November 18, 2012
Honey I brought a locket yesterday so I can put some of your ashes in so now I can have you near my heart forever. I love you and miss you so much.
Alison Sutton
November 14, 2012
I would like to thank you all for coming to help celebrate Rod's time with us.
I also want to thank Deanne who cared for Rod on every step of his journey.
She has kept Rod out of hospital and coped with his needs and sometimes unusual requests.
Last Tuesday he wanted to go to fountain gate to buy fruit for fruit salad.
Somehow Dee got him into the car and then into a wheel chair in which Rod slept while they shopped - Dee we love you, you will always hold a special part of our family.
Jacinta - Dad was proud of you, to have you here to support him was something you will never forget!
Now to Rod - What can I say about a gardener who didn't like roses? Those of you who know me know of my love of roses - he was always threatening yo pull mine out!
Rod was a cheeky kid who played football for Croydon in his beloved west coast.
He was a good looking teenager who had girls around him constantly. As the kids got bigger the house became crowded so I bought a caravan which Rod made his room - I never knew who he had out there with him. He then met Deanne who stopped his wandering ways.
Rod we will miss you - you battled your illness so bravely. It was a hard one for you and us as we watched you.
I was with you when you left us last Thursday morning at 11am. You looked so rested.
Sleep peacefully
I love you
Mum
John Barry
November 14, 2012
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Ruth Sampson
November 14, 2012
Memories are a treasure
time cannot take away
So may you be surrounded
by happy ones today
May all the love and friendship
of countless years well spent
Come back today to fill your hearts
with beauty and content
And may you walk down Memory Lane
and meet Rod as you loved
For while he cannot touch you
he'll be watching from above…
And if you trust in dreaming
your faith will make it true
And if you listen with your heart
He will come and talk with you
So for his sake be happy
and show that all his love
Has proven strong and big enough
to reach down from above
And you will never walk alone
when Memory's Door swings wide
For you will find that Rod will
always be at your side.
Jacinta Barry
November 10, 2012
Dad, you were the bast father a daughter could ask for, not a day goes by where I'm not thinking about you every second. I think about what you would say to certain things I do and I can still hear your laugh when I do or say something stupid. I really miss you and I wish I could give you one last hug, but this time, not let go. I love you R.I.P. Daddy
Rods Reading
November 10, 2012
He Is Gone
You can shed tears that he is gone
Or you can smile because he has lived
You can close your eyes and pray
that he'll come back
Or you can open your eyes
and see all he's left
Your heart can be empty
because you can't see him
Or you can be full of the love you shared
You can turn your back on tomorrow
and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow
because of yesterday
You can remember him
and only that he's gone
Or you can cherish his memory
and let it live on
You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what he'd want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
John Barry
November 9, 2012
Firstly
On behalf of our parents Bob and Alison also our family we would like to thankyou all for your support you have given .
In Rod early childhood he loved the movie Bambi then he moved on to Star Wars which he thought was the best thing in life.
As he grew up into his teens he found the love of music. It all started with ABBA and he was forever singing there song. Then he heard a song called Behind the Green Door by Shakin Stevens which he would bellow out loudly all around the house.
As the 80's era started music became his life and as we all know he loved Wham and George Michael.
At the approximate age of 13-14 Rod moved to Adelaide to live with Dad and Dell. He started going to school. Dell used to take him. As Dell watched him walk in the gate. But he would keep walking to the other gate and walk out.
He became a coach to Laurels netball team which he loved doing and all the girls he coached loved him.
He was a typical boy that got into trouble but he had this special knack thought of fluttering his eyelids and escaping punishment most of the time.
As i turned 18, Rod was about 16 I started going to nightclubs and so he coming too. He got into these nightclubs without getting asked for ID. But he I was pulling my ID out just to get in.
He was the king of the dance floor and he would be there dancing with all the girls.
There is probably 100 more stories about Rod I could tell. But he is a brother to Myself, Debbie, Laurel,David, Michael,Roger, Katie and Wayne who is in Canada and could not make it.
He was a typical Barry. Stubborn and always had his point to say. But besides all that we all need to learn by his morals. He has a wonderful strong wife Deanne he loved dearly and fanastic daughter who meant the world to him. Even Rod and I discussions over the last few weeks all he wanted was for Deanne and Jacinta to be ok.
There is one song that comes to me that I have been playing for the last 2 weeks is. “ He ain't heavy his my brother” sung by the Hollies. One thing I suggest we all hear it as some of those are about Rod and how we shared our life with him
Loved you mate
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Rods Service
November 7, 2012
Life Celebration
Rodney James Barry
‘Rod'
10am Monday 15th October 2012
Born: 13th August 1972
Died: 11th October 2012
Aged: 40
Welcome everyone, my name is Paul Atherton I am the civil celebrant joining you in today's service for Mr Rodney Barry James known to you all as Rod. Today is about remembering the good times of a life shared, a life lived full, and a life that has touched us all here in some way. A celebration of a great mans life.
Please turn off your mobile phones
On behalf of you all I pass on your heartfelt condolences to Deanne, Jacinta and all of Rods family at this very difficult time.
Following today's service the family invites you all to continue sharing the memories at Auntie Ruth's Home.
We are all united today as family, and friends of Rod
Loving Husband to; Deanne
Father to; Jacinta
Son to; Allison Sutton and Bob Barry
Brother to; John, Debbie, David, Laurel, Michael, Wayne, Rodger and Kate.
Loved Brother in Law and Uncle to his family
And good mate to many over the years.
Eulogy Life Sketch
Rodney James Barry born to Allison and Bob on the 13th August 1972 in Mitcham, Victoria. Growing up in Croydon the second eldest of eight there were many good times had.
Rod went to Croydon Primary and then Maroondah High, he went to Scouts in his early years, and loved his footy, playing for the Croydon footy club. He also enjoyed cricket, playing indoor cricket for a few years. School wasn't for Rod, his mum would drop him off at the front gate, and he would walk straight though the back gate.
He moved to Adelaide to be with his father in his late teens and moved back and forth to Melbourne in his early twenty's.
Rod started his working life as a Training manager at Safeway, and then the manager of the Garden Department at Big W.
Rod became a proud Dad with the arrival of his daughter Jacinta in 1992, and a year later returned back to his life in Melbourne. He settled in Ringwood and on a night out at Peppers in Ringwood he met Deanne. It was love at first sight, Deanne asking her girlfriend to go over Rod who was standing at the bar and tell him that she thought he was cute. This she did and as they say in all love stories the rest is history.
They moved to Rosebud, and married in 1996 in the gardens at Croydon Hills. Together the ran the Frankston Caravan Park for 18months, they then moved Mulwala in NSW and managed the caravan park there for a few years. And then the Caravan Park in Karratha QLD. They became homesick and Jacinta was missing her Dad.
So the time came for them to move back to South Australia, Rod worked as a manager of a Nursery until they found a Caravan Park to manage, they found one and managed that for the next four years.
Deanne's Mum became unwell, so they made the decision to move back to Victoria to be closer to her, they settled in Frankston and it was here that Rod started his own gardening business. “Rods Complete Gardening Service.”
Things got tough and he decided to leave the business and become a grounds keeper for Woodley College a Private School in Frankston. During this time Deanne and Rod built their home in Pakenham. He left Woodley College and worked as a grounds man at Fulton Hogan.
Rod always determined to succeed and wanted to provide a better life for his family, made the decision to give his business another go.
Rod loved life and his family, sadly in July this year Rod was diagnosed with Heart and Lung cancer; in Rods true life sprit he approached his treatment with optimism, always worrying about his family's needs before himself. Rods time with us was shorter than we all thought with his passing on the 11th October 2012 with the love and support of his family. We will forever treasure our time spent with Rod.
Words of Comfort
Today we have heard tributes to Rod. When special people touch our lives then suddenly we see how beautiful and wonderful our world can really be. They show us that our special hopes and dreams can take us far, by helping us look inward and believe in who we are. They bless us with their love and joy through everything they give. When special people touch our lives, they teach us how to live…” Rod was the essence of this.
Although Rods time with us was short, he lived life to the fullest, and embraced every moment.
We have heard many tributes to Rod
He was always there for those he cared about, nothing was ever a problem. A loyal and loving mate. A wonderful son, brother and uncle he was well respected and loved by them all.
Rod and Deanne shared over 16 wonderful years together, they have both built a life . They share a love that will forever continue.
In Jacinta's own words “He was an amazing Dad”
Rod always put others before himself, making sure they were all ok, as we start to say farewell to Rod, all these memories shared are the essence of life lived true, a life lived well. He lived a life we can all take example from in every aspect. Rod was truly a great man, loved by so many and will be greatly missed.
As we start to say our final goodbye, the family has arranged flowers as you exit the chapel, the family invites you to take one and let it remind you of the times you spent with Rod.
The Committal
It is now time we say our final good bye.
Rod James Barry, we thank you for the wonderful life you lived, a great man in every sense of the word. A loving Husband, Father, Son, Brother, Uncle, and Mate.
Rod, a man that gave so much, always there for those that needed him. Putting other people's needs before himself, we admire his hardworking approach to life, never afraid to give anything a go. Rod a passionate, easy going man that the take me as I am kind of man.
We will always remember his love of the outdoors, and the way he embraced life and made the lives of so many all the more fun for him being part of it.
But above all his loyal and absolute devotion to Deanne and Jacinta, they were his world and meant everything to him. May his greatest legacy be the wonderful family and friends he leaves here today. As Rod now makes his final journey home may you all have peace in your hearts just as Rod is now at peace and may his journey continue on in the lives of you all.
deanne barry
November 6, 2012
I want to start by saying thank-you honey for loving, caring and supporting me.
You are the love of my life.
We had our fare share of ups and downs but they only made us stronger.
I love the way you made our house a home so quickly with our beautiful gardens.Like a friend said on facebook "Heavens gardens will look alot better now you can work on them".
Just recently you turned 40, you always wanted to be 40, (even before you turned 40) now you will be 40 for ever.
You were taken from far to soon but I know you will be watching over me.
I love you with all my heart.
Until we are reunited one day I say goodbye.
I love you
David Sutton
November 5, 2012
Rod, you were the best brother i could ask for. Missing you more each day but holding you closer. Love you mate.
David Sutton
November 5, 2012
Everyone's been saying
Everyone's been saying in the last couple of weeks, there is no right way. No right way to grieve, to handle this, or to behave. But I think that sums up more than just the last couple of months and how everyone's been feeling, it sums up Rod and how he lived his life. Rod never did things the normal way, if there was a different way to do it, he did it that way. Always outside of the box. I was trying to think of a particular memory that sums up my time in rod's life. But it all is what it is, we all have our own memories of rod. I wouldn't change a thing about my time in rod's life. I am so glad, and honoured to have been a part of it. (Not that he had a choice!) He was always there for me when I needed someone to talk to, guide me, or help me. I'll never forget all the times we had together, all the talks without talking, it all helped make me who I am today. Love you mate.
Love, Dave Sutton & Belinda Bishop.
Katrina Clark
October 29, 2012
Hey Rod,
Missing you more and more everyday, you were always apart of our family, but that will never change. you were always encouraging me to follow my dreams and heart, you were a great loyal man, who everyone loved! Not a day goes by that i'm not thinking of you, just remember its not goodbye, it's see ya later. Love ya Rod, always and forever. xoxoxox
Kelly Sampson
October 29, 2012
Thinking of u rod. Hope ur having the time of ur life in ur never ending garden of love xx
Kaylen Clark
October 25, 2012
Hey Rod I miss you alot you will be always in my heart and never forgotten. You will be in my heart forever. You are a wonderful husdand and a great friend and dad. Your like family to me and always will be. I can't still believe you have passed away. You are in a good place. I love you with all my heart and sole. It was so good having you in my life when I was growing up and you will still see me grow up. You can see all of us from up there to see what we are getting up to. love you Rod and miss you xoxo
R.I.P Rod
October 24, 2012
October 23, 2012
Rod you were one of a kind.We are very greatful for looking after our Girl, (Deanne) so well. WE will never forget you. love always.
Michael Barry
October 23, 2012
RJ, we miss you every day that passes. Although we didnt hang out as much as we should. All the time we shared will be remembered and cherish forever. We love you mate and until the time we meet again goodbye. We love you.
Kerryn Jusep
October 23, 2012
To our loving Brother in Law and Uncle
Rod you are now resting peacefully and pain free.
Sadly our path together has come to an end far to early, however the path has been filled with fantastic journeys of laughter, fun and wonderful memories.
May your star forever shine brightly above us all until we meet again.
Deanne, Jacinta, Allison, Debbie, David and families our deepest sympathy.
Lots of Love as always
Wayne, Kerryn, Ryan and Brianna.
John Barry
October 23, 2012
Over our childhood we shared journeys that we worked through together. We argued alot but we know we could have a beer and move on. But you were my support when I needed you and you were there. We grew closer in the last three months and we talked about things that we have never talked about. You will always be remembered as the rock of the family and our memories will never fade. My little brother... R.I.P
Ashleigh Clark
October 23, 2012
A few weeks ago you where taken, you where like a second family to me you still will be, your always gonna be in our hearts.
love you.xo
Sooooo Handsome
Deanne Barry
October 23, 2012
Sooooo Cute
Deanne Barry
October 23, 2012
1 proud Dad
Deanne Barry
October 23, 2012
Allways the clown
Deanne Barry
October 23, 2012
Allways daddy's little girl
Deanne Barry
October 23, 2012
So young and sweet
Deanne Barry
October 23, 2012
deanne barry
October 23, 2012
Honey remember this poem i wrote you on our 10th wedding anniversary.
Remember when we first met
I didn't really expect
For you to answer my call the very next day
But I was glad in everyway
Our love grew fast
Who would have known it would last
10 years on our love is still strong
And grows stronger even when things go wrong
I love you with all my heart
And I never ever want to be apart
The way you care for me makes me feel
Certain we can make it through any ordeal
Thank you for loving me
So unconditionally
10years may have past
So quick and so fast
I look forward to the next 10 years
And more as I hold back the tears
Tears of happiness and love for you
I love you, I love you, I love you.....
Kellie and Lindsay Clark
October 22, 2012
Hey Rod needed to say hello to you today and let you know we have decided to make a garden in your honour, we all know how much you loved being outside and how proud you were of your garden. Your favourite plants will be planted and a garden seat added might even add a can of VB for you,, Love always The Clarks xo
Bob & Adela Barry
October 21, 2012
For having you in our lives we've all been blessed.
But now the time has arrived for you to rest.
We promise to cherish our memories of you.
You shall live in our minds and all that we do.
Make a hot pot of coffee for us to share; and make sure you maintain those gardens upstairs so we can sit and talk when we are reunited once again. We will miss you son.
Love Dad and Dell
Belinda Garner
October 21, 2012
Was a pleasure to have worked with you Rod.Now you are walking Sheba in a huge Native garden where no allergies and bees will annoy you.I will walk in your garden 1 day till then R.I.P Big Rod.
best mates forever
Lindsay Clark
October 21, 2012
You were the best friend anyone could of had. We miss you dearly and you wont be forgotten. Our condolences to Deanne and Jacinta we are always here if you need us.
Kellie Hill
October 21, 2012
To a wonderful man and a great friend, you will always be in our hearts, I feel honoured to have known you and been apart of your life, until we meet again. I say see you later not good bye, Love always Kellie xoxo
Katie Barry
October 21, 2012
You're my big brother. I love you so much every time I think of you I cry a little. I wish I got the chance to know you a little better. xoxo i love rod. I promise to tell my girls what a great guy their uncle was. You will never be forgotten. I can only hope that my garden would one day look as great as yours. i miss you. Forever loved from your baby sister xoxo
Brett Davis
October 21, 2012
So sorry for your loss .DJ taken way to soon. Our thoughts and prayers are with you xx
Deanne Barry
October 21, 2012
I miss you so much Honey. My days are just empty now. I wish you were here I love you so much.
Belinda Pooles
October 17, 2012
Rod, you were taken from us to early. We will never understand why. Deanne Loves you dearly and misses you so much. I will look after her for you. R.I.P
October 13, 2012
BARRY. - Rod. Loved son-in-law of Peter, Jeanette and family. You have left our sight but will always be in our hearts. Rest in Peace
October 13, 2012
BARRY. - Rod. Passed away peacefully on Oct. 11, 2012 after a short illness. Rod, we will miss you. We all love you. Rest peacefully after your battle. Love - Mum, John, Debbie and David.
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