Thomas McAlexander

Thomas McAlexander obituary, Santa Barbara, CA

Thomas McAlexander

Thomas McAlexander Obituary

Obituary published on Legacy.com by McDermott-Crockett & Associates Mortuary on Jan. 11, 2023.
Obituary of Thomas McAlexander
Thomas Hartley McAlexander
4/26/1941 – 1/6/2023
It is with great sadness that we share the passing of Thomas Hartley McAlexander on January 6, 2023, in Santa Barbara, California.
Tom was born in Los Angeles, California on April 26, 1941 to Marian Rebecca McLean and Lilburn Chandler McAlexander. He attended Freemont High School and served in the Naval Reserve from 1958-1960 and 1962-1964. While on active duty from 1960-1962, he served on the USS Pritchett as a Gunner's Mate (GMG3). He volunteered to replace a sailor who was sick for a short period of time on a submarine, something not surprising as Tom was always willing to be of service to others. Upon completion of honorable military service, Tom worked his way to a supervisory position at a company in Los Angeles known for making soap products. In 1981, he moved to Carpinteria where he worked as a painter and handyman, developing many diverse skills. As a jack-of-all-trades, he was able to work for many local homeowners, businesses, and a family-run business on rental properties, impacting many people around the Carpinteria, Montecito, Santa Barbara, and Los Angeles area for nearly 40 years. In 2020, Tom started having health issues which slowed him down. A medical procedure in late July of 2022 then led to a series of complications and a massive stroke. He was cared for at home after his release from hospitalization in September.
Tom was known for his strong faith, wisdom, honesty, integrity, hard work, love of family, kindness, compassion, wonderful singing voice, love of scripture, patience, understanding, and strong ethics. He was handy, hardworking, and "could fix or do anything." He was known as "Tom the Toolman," and "Mr. McMayonnaise". He would put mayo on anything, including spaghetti. His favorite way to start the day was over coffee and reading the bible with his wife Chris. He was very involved in his local church, Carpinteria Valley Baptist Church, where he led the worship services and served as a deacon.
He is survived by his wife Chris McAlexander, sisters Mary Kerr and Sharon McAlexander, brother Norman McAlexander, daughters Rebecca Gottlieb and Katy Olivas, stepdaughter Kristy Trujillo, and seven grandchildren.
A memorial service will be held at Carpinteria Valley Baptist Church (800 Maple Ave) on Friday, January 13th at 2:00 pm. In lieu of flowers, please make donations to Carpinteria Valley Baptist Church or the United Service Organizations (USO), a nonprofit-charitable organization that supports our military.
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March 26, 2025

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Dave BRamseN

March 26, 2025

John Evarone in Mission Villas care home mentions Tom, a good guy who taught at Mt. Hermon; (...mentioned 3/26/25 to Dave Bramsen ...my Dad went to Heaven from Mt Hermon Sun. church service in 1990. )

Jim Sandman

January 12, 2023

Dear Chris, family and friends of Tom,
On behalf of the United States Submarine Veterans, we offer our sincere condolences at Tom´s passing. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. We are always saddened whenever a fellow "Bubblehead" departs on Eternal Patrol. He served with honor in the U.S. Submarine Force.
To our "Brother-of-the-Phin" we say, "Sailor, rest your oar. We have the watch. Fair Winds and Following Seas." Thank you for your service to our country.
Chris and family... "may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times in every way. The Lord be with you." 2 Thessalonians 3:16 (ESV).
Jim Sandman, FTC(SS) Ret,
National Chaplain, USSVI.
www.jimsandman.com

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