Barbara Cassani Closs
Feb. 19, 1943 - Feb. 2, 2024
NAPA - Barbara Cassani Closs, age 80, passed away peacefully in her sleep on February 2, 2024, following a lengthy illness. She was born in Napa on February 19, 1943, at Parks Victory Memorial Hospital to John and Shirley Cassani.
Her maternal great-great-great-grandfather, Captain John Grigsby, came to the Napa Valley by wagon train from Missouri in the 1840s. Captain Grigsby was a member of the famous Bear Flag Party with his wife giving a portion of her petticoat to form part of the original Bear Party Flag. Her paternal grandfather, John J. Cassani, immigrated from Italy in the late 1800s to Santa Rosa.
She attended Shearer Elementary, Ridgeview, Napa Junior High and graduated from Napa High School in 1961 as a proud Napa Indian. Go Indians! A social and outgoing individual, Barbara was heavily involved in high school activities. In addition, she was active with Jobs Daughters where she became Honored Queen in 1959. One spring day during archery class, she caught the eye of Gerry Closs, whose family owned and operated Butter Cream Bakery. It didn't take long before they became high school sweethearts and later married on February 18, 1962, just one day shy of her 19th birthday. They enjoyed 62 years of marriage and raised three beautiful daughters.
In her early years she worked at Basalt Rock Company and Crocker Bank; however, she spent most of her life as a homemaker and mother. She and Gerry shared ownership of the Riverside Lounge, Napa Valley RV Resort on Lincoln, and reopened Butter Cream Bakery and Diner in 2002.
They enjoyed over 20 years of festivities with the Napa Active 20-30 Club where Barbara frequently entertained in their home. A creative and generous entertainer, many of those parties will go down in history. To those friends who shared in these memory making adventures (you know who you are) ...your secret is safe with us!
Barbara had a great fondness for animals, homing over 20 dogs throughout her life. She enjoyed tennis, gardening and boating but her true joy was Tahoe. She was an avid snow skier and took pride in welcoming friends and family to their Truckee home. If you were looking for Barbara, you could find her in the red Hummer somewhere on i-80 headed to Truckee. Her favorite Tahoe story was the morning she awoke to discover a bear sitting on the kitchen counter. An opened pink box beside him, and a maple bar in his paw, she was horrified!
In addition to her many hobbies, she enjoyed extensive domestic and international travel with Gerry.
She was predeceased by her parents, John and Shirley Cassani; her brother, Nathan; and sister, Paula. She is survived by her husband, Gerry; daughters: Alexis, Nicole, and Tasha; brother, Dr. John Cassani (sister-in-law, Starla Cassani); and sister-in-law, Kathleen Closs; as well as numerous grandchildren, great-grandchildren, nieces and nephews.
In her last year of life, when Gerry could no longer be her primary care giver, she was provided outstanding care by Alice, Corina, and Rose.
To describe Barbara in a word is impossible. She was a force... and those who knew her would tell you as much. Charismatic, energetic, fun loving, hardworking, welcoming, stubborn, heartfelt, bossy, Italian loud, devoted, controlling, sentimental, adventurous, thoughtful and generous beyond words.
A private family graveside service will be held at Tulocay Cemetery on February 20, 2024. A celebration of life will be held at a future time.
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Jennifer Inman Bear
February 28, 2024
Barbara and I have been friends since Ridgeview Junior High days, we were in Job´s Daughters together and remained in contact over these many years, in spite of the fact that I now live in Georgia. My sincere condolences to Jerry, their girls, her brother, Johnny, and the entire family.
karen zachry
February 21, 2024
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Jane Negri
February 16, 2024
What a perfect tribute to a magnificent Barbara Closs! She was one of a kind and made everyone feel we were her very special friend.
I met Barbara and Gerry when I was dating their High School friend Lee Negri. They welcomed me with love and laughter. We had many memorable times together with Tom and Janis Lowenstein included. I enjoyed their close comradery.
Barbara was always the instigator of our adventures ! She had the most loving heart. She has called me for 16 years to wish me a Merry Christmas after Lee went to Heaven. What a loyal friend. Praying for all the family and friends as we will miss this amazing woman we all loved. Jane Negri
Ken and Rosemary Tubman
February 16, 2024
We will miss Mrs. Butter Cream - always came out to see how the customers were doing - made you feel like an important person.
We had one occassion where we RVed together with other Elks Club members. She and Gerry were the life of the party.
RIP - Ken and Rosemary Tubman
Molly P Towey
February 16, 2024
I'm so sorry to read of Barbara's passing. She was a wonderful, strong, and very kind woman that I enjoyed waiting on during my 26 years working for Vallergas Markets. I loved to see her and Gerry together, it was a beautiful relationship to witness. Later I found out that her and my Mother knew each other from Napa High, class of 1961-go Indians! She was so thoughtful with my Mom in her declining years-she always made sure to have my Mom's favorite pie, egg custard, waiting for her at Buttercream Bakery. I will miss her beautiful smile and giving personality.
Jonette beck
February 14, 2024
Johnnie & I have been friends with Barbara and Gerry for years. We shared many good times together over the years. Lots of laughs and fun for sure.
Her passing is hard on all her family and friends for sure. By the way, after reading the obit, there is no other words to describe Barbara except to say
that was the perfect description. great job!! Rest in peace, my friend.
Don Vanderschoot jr.
February 14, 2024
There was a time when Gerry and Barbara were close friends with my parents. We shared many dinners and relaxing evenings together. My condolences to the Closs family. Love, Don Vanderschoot Jr.
Miss Terri
February 13, 2024
How many years ago I used to do Barbara`s hair she was always so much fun and always look forward for her to come in and tell me a story it was great so sorry to hear this, but I think she probably had a great life!
Sharon Sanders
February 13, 2024
Our dads worked together at Basalt Rock Company where mine was the shovel operator in 1945. Loved the story about the pink box and the spot-on description of Barbara! I'm also a proud 1961 Napa Indian. May you be comforted by your memories.
Sharon Quinlan Sanders
Stanley D. Waggoner
February 13, 2024
Worked with her Dad at Basalt Rock Company. He was a great guy. Butter Cream came later.
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