Kathleen Mary Sullivan
SULLIVAN-Kathleen Mary, born March 14th, 1964, passed away on June 3rd, 2004. She is survived by her husband Joe Montini, mother Joan Sullivan, brother James Sullivan III, a niece and three nephews Blaine Sullivan, and Haley, Patrick, and Daniel Roseen, and their respective families. Kate was the beloved sister of the late Kerry Sullivan Roseen and dear daughter of the late James Sullivan, Jr. She is loved dearly by her many friends. Kate led a full and spectacular life that spanned teaching and performing in a multitude of genres. After earning a Bachelor of Music at the University of Miami, she moved back to New York where she had grown up and taught choir and jazz vocal ensemble eight years in Bellmore Merrick High School District. She went on to get a Masters of Arts in Performance at Queens College and continued teaching part-time at the New School, New Jersey City University, and privately. Kathleen was a mezzo-soprano and performed in the chorus for numerous City Opera productions, the Gregg Smith Singers, and in many church choirs throughout New York City. Besides being very active as a classical musician, she was also a wonderful performer of contemporary music as well as a gifted actress. These talents were most notably showcased when she starred in Mikel Rouse's "Dennis Cleveland" and most recently, Phillip Johnston's "Faust." Additionally, Kate composed, arranged, and produced music. As a composer, her most recent work is "Songs For Four Voices On Poems By Edna St. Vincent Millay" recorded live in concert at Spencertown Academy, Spencertown, N.Y., in 2002. Her most recent work as a wonderful arranger and producer is a yet to be released children's recording titled, "Dance On The Planet." Kate's endless talents, wit, beauty, and friendship are unforgettable and enduring. She will be greatly missed by all who were blessed enough to know her. A celebration of Kathleen's life will be held on June 13th at her home. In lieu of flowers, Kate, Joe and the family requests that contributions be made to a college fund that Kate had set up for her sister Kerry's children when Kerry passed from the same disease. Contributions made out to Putnam Investments, and mailed to Joseph Montini in Brooklyn will be deposited and split between Haley's, Patrick's, and Daniel's fund for college.
Published by Newsday on Jun. 6, 2004.
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Oh my gosh I am devastated. I was looking up Katy to talk about reviving a piece we working on together, and saw this. I am devastated. Katy was a friend and vocal coach and collaborator, I loved her dearly, and am so sad I was not able to say goodbye to her. She was so full of life, and Funny, oh my word, funny, and smart and kind. And talented. I think of her sometimes on a hike, about how she would get out of Brooklyn at least once a week go on hikes in the woods. I'm so sorry to her family for your loss. I have several recordings of her singing on music we worked on together, I'd love to send them to you. Again I am so, so sorry, she was such a light and amazing soul. It's a huge loss.
Val Viera
September 28, 2021
Think about you ....and wonder what great things you must be accomplishing where you are....changing the world I´ll bet from a different perspective
May 31, 2021
Still in our hearts! Love and miss you Kate and Kerry!
Jack Reilly
May 31, 2021
Still miss you Katy and think of you and Kerry often. Watched you grow up with my kids and think of you often. Jack R
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January 10, 2021
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January 9, 2021
Katy, I think of you as often now as I did 15 years ago when we lost you. I miss your kindness, your charm, your sense of humor, your melodious voice and most of all your witty take on the world. May you be in a place of peace and love.
June 2, 2019
Think of Kate and Kerry often and still to this day can not believe they are gone!

Jack and Judy Reilly RVC.
August 20, 2016
Thought of you today.....
April 22, 2016
You saw a person in me who was hurting. You reached out and cared. You were not only a wonderful choir Teacher, but a woman with compassion and wisdom well beyond her years. Kate you were one of a kind and my heart breaks over what you struggled with.
Christine Pagliaro
February 3, 2015
still think about you and kerry always........
October 16, 2010
What began as a pleasant request by my nephew to "search" for a favorite teacher (Joan Sullivan) now culminates in this poignant discovery. It is amazing what memories are retained years later (Mrs. Sullivan's love for Charlie Brown and Johnny Mathis). I believe I met Kate when she was a young child, while Mrs. Sullivan was buying something at Stage in Baldwin Harbor.
I am confident that the memory of this accomplished and loving young woman continues to bless and be preserved by the many individuals who signed this book.
Noel Sturtz
October 12, 2010
Dear Joe: I thought of Katy this past weekend at a memorial service for Lee Kjelson, under whose baton we both sang in the University of Miami Singers. I was a freshman the year Katy was a senior. She was the coolest person I had ever met and I remember being amazed at her seemingly effortless sense of humor. She had a way of making everything funny, but she was always warm and engaged and friendly. I absolutely worshipped her. I don't think I ever saw her again after that year but I think of her every so often and smile. I just wanted you to know that Katy had a lasting impact on my life - and I'm sure on many other peoples' as well.
Rebecca Stanier-Shulman
May 18, 2009
July 26, 2005
it's about time that i contributed to this lovely pile.katy was one of my dearest and closest people ever and now it has been a year since her moving on and here is a song that i was finally able to write that says what i mean to say:


now you're the kind of friend i can never call again,though i want to,daily.
i don't know if you see,i can't know what you hear though i whisper and i'm waving.
i'm waving.
there's never enough room for all the stories about you,you were laughing so bravely.
and the love you made with him i have never seen again though i want to,mainly.
you're my blood,my melody.i owe you to take care of me,you'd want that katy.
and looking after him to be happier in living through the hardest is changing.
it's changing.
you were the last one of your kind and forever you'll be on my mind,daily.




well,that's the song which incidently is going to close my next album and mentioning this brings to mind a few things.first of all,i would never have sang a note in life had it not been for katy's suggestion and encouragement about ten years ago.also,writing and singing this song lately has been a marker of some sort for me helping to define some progression and acceptance of her passing that is helpfull;a peace and perspective that happens only on it's own schedule.a visitation for which i am gratefull as i still am for having known her while she was here with us.as the song says,i still do reach for the phone regularly out of habit to share some laugh or need that only katy would satisfy or understand only to awaken again and again to the fact of this change like a wet little soap bubble quietly popping against my face in her physical absence.then i talk to her anyway because she said that she would be there and as i feel that nothing went unsaid between us while she was around(for which i feel truly lucky and honored)i believe her.i can only catch on more with time.what a treasure is katy.
tony scherr
June 5, 2005
Joe; Thanks for having this web site available to Katy's many friends. I went to the University of Miami with her and played in several ensembles with her including Avant Garde ensemble. I was also able to hire her for what I believe was her first 'bar gig' at the Hungry Sailor in Coconut Grove. I know that the passing of someone loved is the most difficult thing we experience. Soon after I learned of Katy's passing my son was diagnosed with Neuroblastoma. My good friend in NYC, Ted Kumples stories of Katy's strength helped me through my own difficult time and I thought of her often. My son passed the day after his second birthday.
Katy certainly will be missed by all whose lives were touched by her. Her enthusiasm was infectious and she always seemed to shine brighter than those around her.

Randy Ward
randy ward
May 13, 2005
Dear Joe,

Better late than never...

I was at the Kennedy High School website a few days ago planning for my upcoming trip to NY and I saw something that peaked my interest so I emailed the webmaster. When he responded, I asked him about a few teachers I loved, including Kate. When he responded and told me the news, I gasped in disbelief and tears streamed down my face.

I had Kate in her first year teaching after college. She was so new at teaching but had a knack for it right away. She was easily able to relate to the students and provide us with the encouragement we so desperately needed after our previous Choir Director. She had a spirit that touched so many people and her sense of humor was immeasurable.

Let me share some fond memories with you... She showed up to school one day and we were waiting outside the classroom. Her books were covering her sweater (oversized and hanging to the knees). She uncovered her sweater to reveal a HUGE dark coffee stain in the middle of her WHITE sweater. We all laughed so hard, including Kate. The accompanist, Mead Margulies, wrote a silly song about it called "Stain". One day, after school, myself, Mead, Kate and Alysia Ross, met in the choir room and prepared to record "Stain". It was hilarious!!! We called ourselves, "Mead and the Choirettes". I still have our "Official" photo and the tape we made and I listen to it often. It makes me laugh hysterical. I can email you a copy of the picture if you'd like to see it.

We went to Washington, DC that year and competed in a competition where we came in second place. The next year, we went to Boston and came in first place. Kate felt a huge sense of accomplishment and was SO proud of us. Those trips were SO MUCH FUN!

I remember how much Kate taught me about using my voice properly, overcoming my stagefright, and being a good person. She was a WONDERFUL singer. I remember her voice very well and I always wished I had her talent.

After I had moved to Florida, I wrote her a letter that I hope she received. I told her how much she helped me and changed my life and how I would not be the person I am without her.

Joe, I am glad that she found you and that you were able to love each other so deeply. I am so grateful that she had you in her life because after reading your posting, I realize that you truly loved her and your family truly loved her. I'm sure the strength of your love was drawn upon heavily in her last days.

I can't believe that she is gone but I know that her spirit lights up heaven and shines down upon all of us who knew and loved her. She will be greatly missed!
Michele Cohen
January 27, 2005
Dear Joe,
My name is Kerry Anastasi. Kate was my high school choir teacher at JFK and was an inspiration to me during my teens (definantely a rarity for a teen!). She was the most upbeat, fun "adult" that I knew and was not much older than the students in my class when she first started.
I just received this shocking news from my sister who went to Calhoun who had looked on the Calhoun website recently. I couldn't believe it when she told me and was deeply saddened to find out that such a great person was gone. Please accept my sincere condolences and know that I think about Kate often. I am so glad to know that she married and even though I never met you, I know you must be a very special person to have won her heart.
Kate was always looking out for others and had such a way about her that you just felt better being in her presence. She inspired me to pursue music in college and pushed me throughout highschool to be the best that I could be. I still play music now and performed with her in the city at a production as the Andrew Sisters. She was kind enough to recommend me for the part and I was ecstatic! I have to say that she is the one teacher that I had that made a difference. I will always think of her and smile and I hope my children will one day be as lucky to get that 1 special teacher that changes their life. I wish you the best and hope these memories can bring a smile to you face.
Take care,
Kerry Anastasi
October 16, 2004
Joe: I went to school at the university of Miami with Katy. We sang in the University of Miami Singers together and went on a couple overseas tours. I lost touch with Katy over the years, but never forgot about her. Her spirit and love for life was infectious. She always made me laugh and was a musician I looked up to. I am now a middle chool chorus teacher and know that the children she taught were blessed. Please accept my condolences and know that Katy's memory will always live on in her friends!

Love, Sally Cummings
Sally Cummings
September 17, 2004
Dear Joe, My deepest condolences for the loss of Katie, I am so sorry, but I just recently found out through a Baldwin Newsletter, that my Brother gave me, about Katie and Kerry. I was sad to see both their names and couldn't believe it was true. My Mother use to babysit their Brother, Jimmy, when we were kids and I always just knew Katie and Kerry. I remember how Katie was so talented and since I had no sisters I always looked up to her. I played soccer with Kerry and perhaps knew her a little bit better as we got older but lost touch so many years ago. I am still in disbelief with reading the memorial and just wanted to let you know how deeply sorry I was to hear. God Bless.
Maureen Kelly
September 16, 2004
Dear Joe,
I arrive at this news rather late, but the shock and sense of deep loss are not diminished. Joe, I am so deeply sorry at your loss, and for Joan as well.

It has been some time since I had been in contact with Kate; she was such a busy, active and driven soul that she seemed to pop in and out of my life only every few years. Even so, she was always--and will forever remain--a good, true friend.

As we had been out of touch for a few years, I did not know she was married to you, but I am so, so happy that you found each other and hope I will meet you one day soon. Though you may not have had a lifetime together, I am certain the time you had was wondrous, and will stay with you for a lifetime. I know my time with Katy will always be treasured deeply, but honestly I find it hard to imagine she won't "pop in" just one more time...

Though Katy and I had not seen each other since 2000, she was one of my life-long friends. We could've gone 10 years without seeing one another and when we finally did, it would be if not a day had passed.

Kate and I became instant friends upon meeting at U of Miami; back then I was known by my first name, David ("DAAAVE!!", I can still hear her say). I think I had inexplicably been elected (or "volunteered") as Treasurer to Music Student Council, of which she was a member and VP, I believe. We also had an unforgettable year in UM Singers together, had classes together, and, though she had seemingly hundreds of friends, we remained nearly inseperable until she left FL quite suddenly (and to my deep sadness) one Christmas Break to take a job back home.

After college we only saw each other sporadically, but each occasion was an adventure (or sometimes, misadventure) of hilarity and great memories. It seems when I was with Kate I would end up in some of the wildest, most lampoonable, hilarious situations. Whether it was spending the night in her car in deepest Harlem (don't ask), or dancing the night away at Palladium, what a zany, wonderful time she and I always had!
Katy was truly one of the funniest people I have ever known, and I have known a lot of funny people.

She and I seemed locked into the same script, and if one started a silly thought, the other would finish it.
Kate was always up for just about anything, and one of my favorite memories was of one of our (countless) trips to Dadeland Mall. We passed by a shoe store and, at the time ( this WAS the 80s, Joe) they were selling sequined pumps. One pair was red in color and looked just like the Ruby Slippers in Wizard of Oz. So I dared her to go in the store and ask to try a pair on, then go to the mirror and, so that the salesman could see and hear, click her heels 3 times and say, "there's no place like home".
Well naturally Kate was up for it, and by God, in she goes, as nonchalant as could be, deadpan poker face fully in place, and politely, ever-so-daintily points & asks to see the "lovely red" shoes in the window. And as I watched from outside, she casually strolled back and forth in front of the mirror a few times, and, with a voice as if she had something caught in her throat, swept back her hair and coughed, "there's no place like home", while subtlely clicking those heels together, as dared.

And this was what I so loved about her---that spontanaeity, that gift of laughter, the sarcastic wit, the brilliance of her mind. But just as important to me was her serious side, and the trust she placed in me over matters that had her concern.

I'll never forget that phone call in spring of 1999, when she first learned of the cancer. We cried together, and cried some more, and then eventually found something to joke about (as always), and just laughed and laughed.

I wish I'd have had some of those years in between with her, but I am glad to know it didn't defeat her then and that she had some terrific years and that she found you, Joe.
I am so pleased to read about all she did with her life, especially in these last years we were out of touch.

It doesn't surprise me at all to see so many names I don't recognize, as Kate made friends easily and had a heart as big as the ocean. I am sad, so sad, that I didn't at least get to see her once more, but so glad to see she spent these years doing what she loved and was so damn good at.

I will listen to my band's old CD's and hear her voice doing backups and perhaps shed a tear but then smile; I will get out my old answering machine tapes just to hear her say, "great message, Dave, real original...NOT!" again, I will dig out my pictures of our kooky trip to the Far East and laugh.

I will always love you Kate...my good friend; I am eternally grateful for having known you and shared my youth, my life and laughs with you; I am honored you shared your life and laughs with me.
I hope, somehow, somewhere on that great cosmic plane, we will meet and laugh again, I will see those sparkly eyes and never-ending smile again, for to imagine otherwise is unbearable.

God Bless You, Kathleen, I will miss you and cherish you always.
Brooks Haydn
September 15, 2004
Dear Joe,
My name is Bob Kelly and I am writing to offer my condolences to you, your family, and Kate's family on the occasion of her passing. I was an assistant principal at Kennedy HS and I had the pleasure of working with Kate for a number of years when she first came to Kennedy.
Sue Fagan called to tell me the tragic news and I can only tell you that my heart goes out to you for your devastating loss.
Kate is unforgettable - for her beauty-those eyes, that smile- as well as her talent and enthusiasm. She also had a very rare and exceedingly important quality as a teacher, which was a remarkable ability to sense in some students the almost desperate need to feel connected to someone who truly valued them as people. In a very real way, Kate was a bridge to sanity for more than a few students at Kennedy HS whose lives were greatly enriched by her loving concern and profound caring for them as human beings.
In reading what you wrote in the legacy pages, I was happy to know that Kate found a deep and abiding love with you. I'm certain she drew heavily on that love near the end and that you were a source of great comfort for her. In this most unfair of circumstances, for this we can all be grateful.
Joe, please know that I will keep you and Kate in my prayers.
Bob Kelly
Bob Kelly
August 22, 2004
Dear Joe,
Our hearts go out to you over the loss of Katy. How she loved you and what joy you brought her.
We feel so lucky and happy to have known Katy. We have never met a singer/performer/composer/conductor more in touch with the ecstasy of performing or the complete pleasure singing can be.
Katy was a binder...she could take disparate cast members, foggy directors, disgruntled conductors and gracefully blend them all through her charm and great instincts for performing. In starting the chorus assignments for next year, I kept placing Katy in the most difficult assignments, because not only could she make it work, she would make it work for others.
Despite all of Katys' challenges and problems, she refused to be defined by them, preferring always to be defined by her joy, her great talents and her love. We will miss her so much, but we're so happy to now know you- our friend.
All our sympathy, comfort and love to you Joe.
Gary Wedow
Chorus Master for New York City Opera
Gary and Larry
August 22, 2004
When I asked my guitar teacher, Mike Barry, for a name of someone who could help me learn how to sing, he recomended fellow New School-er Kate Sullivan. He told me that not only was she a great teacher but I'd end up being friends with her as well. How right he was. Kate knew her way around a set of vocal chords like very few but as important as that was, Kate's true talent was in her ability to inspire her students. She was one of those people who had a light around her and when she got sick, that light got brighter. I always felt this was the way Kate fought against cancer. In the liner notes of my first record, I reffered to Kate as an enlightened mentor. She was that but she was so much more. Rest easy Kate and bask in the glow of a life well lived.
Pete Veru
August 12, 2004
I can finally talk. One of my most enjoyable times with her was when we worked on my CD. She sat with me and went through every song to help with vocal arrangement. She even went as far as to write my backing vocals. We had a whole class that day on how to arrange backing vocals and she did it perfectly. I went from being her student at The New School to a private student, to a friend. I couldn't have been more fortunate.
I think I'll have to drink my water from a Mason jar from now on in rememberance.
Stephen Dale
August 6, 2004
Just found out today. I loved her so much and I'll miss her even more. There isn't enough room to tell what she not only did for my voice but for my life. You were such a good friend. I miss you beyond belief Katie. My heart aches so much right now I can't even put it in words.
Stephen Dale
August 5, 2004
I met Kate when I was a staff member at the Guitar Study Center. I remember her as a vibrant, warm, life-affirming person. She was great with her voice students and had a way of grounding them in a very straightforward, humane manner - and they clearly worshipped her for it. Kate also had a fabulous sense of humor and was genuine and vivid when sharing stories about herself and her work. One day, idly chatting in the office between lessons, a few of us were comparing notes on how far one tries to stretch funds when times are tight. We talked about cutting back on shampooing, walking more, etc. Kate said that for her, the biggest flat-broke signal came one morning when she got her scissors to cut open her nearly-empty toothpaste tube, in order to scrape out the verrrrry last bit of paste. We all agreed that was surely an act of fiscal desperation and she won, hands down. To this day when I get almost to the end of my toothpaste tube, I think of that story and it makes me smile. Thanks for that, Kate.
Teresa Toro
August 2, 2004
I couldn't believe it when I heard it. She was, indeed, an incredible talent. I met her thru my brother, David. She so impressed me that we asked her to, and she was, in our wedding party back in 1991. She additionally graced us with her beautiful voice by singing at the ceremony. She was a wonderful person and will be tenderly missed. My thoughts and prayers go to her husband and family.
Michael Clark
July 15, 2004
We had the pleasure and honor of knowing Katie. She was a good friend of our son, David. Her dedication to music, children and life was not to be believed...Teaching meant everything to her. What was wonderful about Katie? She had no idea how beautiful and talented she was. Our hearts go out to her husband and her family. You are in our prayers.
Frank and Vicki Ireland
July 14, 2004
Dear Joe, Joan and family,

I still can’t believe my dearest Kate-ums is gone, and my delay in writing this is in part due to that denial. Katy was one of the most special people in my life and I owe a lot of who I am to our friendship. We met in college and stayed in touch for the past 20 years or so. My only consolation in her passing is that we were friends for so long.

Thank you Joan for bringing such a wonderful light into this world. I hope in my lifetime I can touch as many people as Katy did. My world is a much better place for having known Katy and I will never forget her.
Jeff Harding
July 4, 2004
Several years ago Katy said she'd love to sing my songs, and we'd get together to play them (me on piano). Those afternoons were always fun. I transposed each song at least once for her ("Now you know what it's like to work with a singer!") and we'd have a blast going through them.

When her health turned, I stopped calling her to get together--which she called me on. "Don't worry about me," she said. "I want to be busy." So we continued to make music together. She'd give me tips on improving the songs--on one by finding the right order to the many verses, and on another by suggesting a chord substitution that made the song.

Last summer we thought it would be more fun to play with a band. We got together with old mutual friends, as well as my husband, and played together for two days.

Despite her limited energy, Katy was her usual singer/comedian self. "Would you mind if I sang this song kind of slutty?" she asked me. "I think that's what it needs." She had us laughing so hard it was hard to play.

I'm so lucky to have had my life touched by hers.
Kyle McCann
July 3, 2004
When I think of Katy I think of a precious smile, a beautiful voice, a lovely young woman who walked with such grace and ease. Although I did not see her often, I was kept up with her activities and travels by her loving mom and my precious friend Joan. She has left her mark on so many people - her friends and family, all those who listened to her perform, and those she taught.She will be sorely missed here but I can just hear her singing so peacefully and beautifully in heaven.
Alice Hall
July 3, 2004
I keep remembering many fun memories with Kate.
As I stood in the kitchen of the 3rd floor apartment that Joe & Kate shared on the day of Kate's memorial, my voice lessons with Kate came vividly into my mind.
At one point Kate was helping me prepare to sing "The Wedding Song" at my brother & sister-in-law's wedding. We shared a few laughs at the un-PC lyrics (that I kept unintentionally trying to change). Kate's most important advise was to sing the song every day. That way, she said, when you sing the song on the wedding day, instead of panicing, you can say to yourself, this is the song I sing everyday.
On the day of my last lesson before the wedding, Kate asked me if I would get a chance to sing in the church before the wedding & if it would be a piano or an organ that would be used to accomany me.
I wasn't sure of the answer to either question.
Kate said that if it was an organ, that the sound would be different from the piano we had been using, so we needed to practice so I would be ready in case it was an organ that would accompany me.
She told me to go into the kitchen (& stand on my toes as if I were in heels) and sing out to her in the living room playing the piano.
I did feel silly, but Kate had me ready to sing beautifully at the wedding.
My other fun memory with Kate has to do with the recording sessions Viva Voce did with Kate when we first formed our group.
We were so excited about hiring Kate & starting this a cappella choir.
Kate had been giving voice lessons to an African minister. He had these songs in his head that he didn't know how to get down on paper.
Kate worked with him to create the songs & she told him he could hire our group to record his music.
We were so excited. Here we were, this yet unnamed a cappella choir & we were soon to be heading into the recording studio!
Soon we were set for our first time in the studio.
As the music was very religious, Kate told us that no one should feel that they had to sing unless they were comfortable doing so.
This was the first (& perhaps the only) time most of us would be in a recording studio, so we all agreed to sing!
Finally, we had our first session in the recording studio. We had lots of fun, although it was an long night in the studio.
At one point during a break, Kate said to us that we would have to pick a name for the group so she could have it printed on the CD.
It was the wee hours of the morning, & with all the Christian music, I heard myself saying, "Well, we could call ourselves "The Jonestowns Singers". Someone (I think Tom) called out, "and we'll only serve fruit punch at our concerts."
After our laughter died down, Kate looked around at us & couldn't decide if we were joking or not.
"You guys," she said,"I can't go back to this minister & tell him that my choir has decided to call themselves The Jonestown Singers!"
Of course, we had no intention to doing so & soon the name Viva Voce was chosen.
It took years before we received our CD, but I listen to it & remember our wonderful recording sessions with Kate.
Barbara Hipkins
July 1, 2004
Ms. Sullivan's 6 period choir class and after school activities were the best part of my Kennedy High School experience. I have so many great memories of Ms. Sullivan. I will never forget how proud she was when the after school group won best overall group in our competition in Virginia. I remember how hard she worked to get us prepared for our winter and spring concerts. I still have every one of those concerts on tape and still remember almost all the words to every song we sung. I always think about Ms. Sullivan when I go to an Italian restaurant because I remember she used to say she wanted to open a restaurant some day called Basta Pasta. My memories go on and on. Ms. Sullivan dedication and love for music still stay with me today. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family and friends. Her memory will always live on the students lives that she touched (and I know there are many because when we get together we still talk about the times we spent in her class).
Jamye Marcus
June 30, 2004
Dear Joe,

Here are some of my memories of beautiful Kate:

I was sitting all alone in a rehearsal room at New York City Opera on my very first day of work there as an associate chorister, feeling a lot like a little kid on her first day at a new school. Then in walked a gorgeous young woman with a brilliant smile. She sat down in the chair next to me and said, "Hi! I'm Kate Sullivan." I had my first friend at City Opera! The production was Emmeline, in which we chorus women had to play a group of young girls working in an 19th century textile mill. As in any part she took on, Kate portrayed the role vibrantly and convincingly. After one of the dress rehearsals, our musical director, George Manahan, remarked to Kate in the hallway, "You look about twelve years old up there!"

The quality of Kate's which I enjoyed and admired most (there were many), was her lightening-quick humor and gift for mimicry. Her put-on Brooklyn/Long Island accent was sheer perfection. One of her quips which I especially remember was in a rehearsal of Emmeline, when I remarked that one of the "supers" was wearing a 'keepa',( Hebrew word for 'yarmulka'). Immediately Kate responded, "You mean as in "Findahs-Keepahs?"

The last time I saw Kate was this past Spring, outside of the backstage door to City Opera, after she had attended our performance of Sweeney Todd. As usual, she had a smile on her face and warm words of praise for us, her colleagues.

I was blessed to have known and worked with such a fine human being, and happy, too, to have met the partner who brought her such joy and strength in what turned out to be her last days and months with us. My love and prayers go out to you, Joe, and to all of Kate's family.


Lisa White
June 26, 2004
Dear Joey Andrew,

So very sorry for your loss. Although I have never met Kate, reading this guest book makes me feel I missed out on knowing a wonderful, loving woman. You should feel grateful for the time you DID have together.


Cousin Elizabeth
Elizabeth A. Skalski
June 25, 2004
Katy was one of the kindest, funniest, most talented people I know. She would see the good in a person or a situation and light up any room she entered. I truly regret missing our 20th high school reunion simply for missing Katy. She made many rough days of youth bearable, and enjoyable. Thank you!
Warren Soong
June 25, 2004
Joe, Joan, and all the family,

Kate was such a lovely person. I had the pleasure of first knowing her during our college years (U. of Miami), and through all these years here in NY. She was truly one of the absolute fun/funniest people I've ever know, and was always a joy to be around. I also was lucky enough to work with her as a co-educator at the College I teach at (New Jersey City University). She took over the jazz choir from me in 2000 (and boy did that group get better fast!).
This is when I became aware of her deep and honest love for teaching. We talked many times about the students, their progress/problems, etc. She has made an impact on so many people. She was also so brave, not letting the illness stop her from doing all she wanted to.I will miss her, and I'm so sorry for your lose.
Pete McGuinness
June 23, 2004
How sad to be in contact this way...I too knew Katy from Baldwin High School -- and like many others, was constantly mesmerized by her talent and musical ability -- but that was second only to her spirit. I was lucky enough to play 'Nathan' opposite her 'Adelaide' in Guys & Dolls -- and it is an experience I will never forget...she was, is and will always be a star...my deepest sympathy for your loss...
Larry Taube
June 21, 2004
Dear Joe and family,
Knowing Kate was one of the happiest parts of our life. She brought such joy to every encounter and was a brilliant performer. I remember so many times at City Opera when she was singled out to do a special bit of business or an important acting assignment, because Kate had star quality and that special ability to communicate. I heard her sing in May, better than ever, and with joy and confident abandon.
All our love to you Joe and so glad to know how much happiness you brought to Kate and to us who have become your friends.
Gary Wedow and Larry Lipnik
gary wedow
June 21, 2004
Dear Joe:

The news of Kate's untimely death was devastating to the many of us who knew and remember her so well. As dean of a school with about 750 students, I do not even pretend to know them all. However, there are certain students whose special talents and demonstated leadership sets them apart from the mainstream. Kate was decidedly among a rather elite group of student leaders during her time here at UM.

In the ensuing years, Kate always made a special effort to attend UM School of Music alumni events held in New York, which I appreciated very much. It was always a personal pleasure for me to visit with her about her professional activities, which were numerous and varied. Kate was such a gifted person whose activities and projects transcended traditional so-called barriers. She was a consummate musician who so generously shared her gifts and expertise with all who were fortunate enough to know her.

Since learning of Kate's death, Maria Schneider and I have exchanged a number of emails. Maria related to me that you and Kate enjoyed a profound love and commitment for one another that transcended all previous relationships. While I have unfortunately not had the pleasure of meeting you, the fact that Kate chose you as her life-long mate tells me that you are also an extraordinary person.

Please know that those of us who were fortunate to know Kate as an extraordinary student, and remember her so well, extend our profound condolences to you and your loved ones on her passing.
God bless.


William Hipp

Phillip and Patricia Frost
School of Music

Miami University
William Hipp
June 18, 2004
Kate's beautiful spirit (and wonderful voice) are such an integral part of my memories from the choir at St. John's in the Village. She made me feel welcome from the first instant I met her, and her friendship and goofy laugh made every rehearsal and service a joy. Lots of love to you, Kate, and may God grant peace and comfort to your family.
Ron DeStefano
June 18, 2004
I sang with Kate in the Gregg Smith Singers, and always enjoyed the wonderful spirit that she was. She always seemed to have the angels with her in this life, and now she has joined them in the next. Watch for her wherever you go.
Linda Eckard
June 17, 2004
Dear Joe and the Sullivan family:

Many years hve passed since Kate was at the University of Miami and sang so beautifully in the Jazz Vocal Ensemble. I will never forget her. She was one of those people whose very presence captivated you -- a person of outer and inner beauty who was destined to touch people's souls and make a difference in their lives. She has obviously done this so many times in the too-short time she was with us. I will think of her fondly and often. My deepest condolences to all of you.
Larry Lapin
June 16, 2004
Joan and Family,
There are no words at a time such as this to easy the pain. Our deepest sympathy goes out to you and your Family.
Jane & Sam Barile
June 16, 2004
Before Joe met Kate, I had only seen him dance twice: once we polkaed together at my brother's wedding; and another time he was twirling around in the mosh pit at a Sun Ra concert in San Francisco. Then Kate arrived and anytime we were out and there was music, she'd turn to him and say, "C'mon Joe, let's dance." And hand-in-hand they'd glide up to tango, samba, waltz, cha-cha, or fox trot. They way they locked eyes, smiled at each other, and moved in unison (sometimes counting the beat together sotto voce) made me think of the lines from Joan Armatrading's "Love and Affection:"

Thank you
You took me dancing
'Cross the floor
Cheek to cheek
But with a lover
I could really move
Really move
I could really dance
Really dance
Really dance
Really dance
I could really move
Really move
Really move
Really move.

Watching them dance I could see that my brother was with his mate, and that with her he could really move. We will all miss her terribly.
June 16, 2004
Dear Joe, Joan, Jimmy and ALL whose lives were graced by Kate,
"Some lives are like a song,
each note rare and precious.
We are happy to have heard the
Those were the sentiments echoed by so many at the Memorial Service which was so lovingly offered for Kate. The stories shared were from people who were privledged to have known Kate, or Katy!,as a daughter,wife, musician or friend. So many were the tributes to this remarkable woman that it took a three story brownstone to highlight her rich, full life!....And that smile! Have you ever seen such a smile that conveyed such warmth and zest for life! Joe, remember when you brought Kate to "meet the family" for the first time?? You were not out the door five minutes before we were raving about this fabulous woman. We had spent a few hours with Kate that first day and thought she was fabulous; as time went by, and we got to really know and love Kate, we soon realized that "fabulous" was so very inadequate when describing the love of your life! The love that Joe and Kate shared was truly a transforming love; each blossomed and grew in the light of the other's love. It was so heartwarming to see them together and I'll never forget how excited Kate was to share her wedding pictures with us. She shared every detail of the planning and of the day, and I remember feeling so grateful that they were able to realize their dream in such a special and memorable way! Joe, Joan and Jimmy, our hearts, too, are broken. May you find comfort and peace in the blue skies and in the smiles of all those who were blessed to have known Kate.
Trish Montini
June 16, 2004
I will always remember Katy's sweet smile, relentless sense of humor and effortless ability to be in the moment. She was a very special friend to me and the planet doesn't look the same without her.

I have a few stories to share:

I met Katy in my first year at University of Miami. I was dating one of her friends who was older than me by 4 years and Katy kept ribbing her that she was a cradle robber. Now, 20 years later I am dating a woman a bit older than me again. When I told Katy that last Thursday she quietly said, "Tell her she's a cradle robber"... still running with our 20 year old joke and being herself up till the end. She was always so admirable, graceful and in touch with her identity.

We went out for a glass of wine last March. I had a crush on the bartender who was serving us. When I asked Katy what she thought of this woman as a potential girlfriend for me, she said, "I think you need someone who looks you in the eye when you talk to them." Her honest answer helped me shape my confused post divorce attitude towards what I wanted in a relationship. She really knew what love and life are all about and I am forever indebted to her for talking sense into me during a confusing time.

One time in college Katy was driving down the main drag in Miami. She stopped at a light and noticed the man in the car next to her threw a bag of McDonalds out onto the street. Being a friend of the environment and the fiesty person she was, she got out of her car without hesitation and threw the McDonalds bag BACK INTO THE GUYS CAR!!!

Goodbye my amazing friend Katy. I love you and miss you terribly. The world is not the same without you.
Teddy Kumpel
June 15, 2004
Joan and Family,
I tried to think of what to say about the loss all of you have experienced and realize that words can't express such feelings.
Just remeber all the good that came as a result of Katy being here, to share and spead her joy to all she touched.
My deepest sympathy to all who had the opportunity experience her warmth and love.
Bob Angel
June 15, 2004
I want to tell Joe her husband, how on the day I went hiking with Kate-in the sweltering Perth heat-( the day after we finished Dennis Cleveland, the day I arrived to collect her for the hike wearing the ball dress and huge hat and high heeled shoes to make her laugh), we drove a long way, staggered up the mountain, talking(Mainly Her) and puffing (Mainly Me) and laughing (Both of Us) and then sat and gazed at the magnificence of West Australia from the mountain top, and finally in all that stillness she told me about the cancer and, even more , how much she loved Joe and how she knew he was the "right one". And it is vivid in my mind - she was so full of love, and the scene was so amazing and she was so serene and beautiful after all that crazy journeying. We finally tumbled down the track again(me angsty about snakes, her showing off with her mountaineering knowledge!), drove back to the city, had a huge seafood banquet and collapsed happy and exhausted in her room where she STILL had energy to record some mad accents and dialects for me to use in my next play!! It was a perfect day, in a perfect two weeks and I was conscious in that day of it's specialness-and I'm grateful.
Melissa Madden Grey
June 14, 2004
Dear Kate, It was an honor to know you and your bright smile. Smile upon us often, and send much needed wisdom. Keep your halo polished, and give those wings a little fluff once in a while. Other than that.....keep flying! Peace always.
M. Dominic
June 13, 2004
I remember when Joe, my brother had me meet Kate for the first time. I can remember being so happy for him that he met such a beautiful and talented woman. When Joe married her, I felt I had another sister because we were so close in age and I connected with her. She made me laugh with her funny stories and impressions.

I think my fondest memory of Kate was when she sang at my wedding about six weeks ago. She sang an interlude song called, "Take My Breath Away" as she played the keyboard. She was so beautiful and her voice was just so lovely I just tried so hard to hold back the tears of happiness. She was the highlight of our ceremony. I will miss her so very much. She was amazing and lived her life to the fullest.
Mary Ellen Montini
June 13, 2004
Dear Joe and the Sullivan Family,
My prayers are with you as we say goodbye to Kate.I know she will be incredibly missed.I've had the true pleasure of singing with Kate in the Royal Scam and the Savoy Stompers.Her beautiful spirit surpassed her incredible talents and I will never forget the laughs we had together (like when we had to sing 'Dancing Queen' without cracking up - and we put Abba to shame) or when Kate could make me cry with her version of 'The Nearness of You'.She was blessed.I was so lucky to have had the opportunity to work with her and once working with her it was impossible not to just love her as a dear friend I've had all my life.
I'll miss her too.

Wendi Gordy
June 13, 2004
When I think of some of my best memories from high school, Kate was there, with her kind heart, her great wit and her awesome talent. As with too many friends over too many years, I wish I had done more to stay in touch and build new memories. For the memories I do have, however, I am grateful. My deepest sympathy to Kate's husband and family.
Kevin Richert
June 12, 2004
When such a light leaves this world, we feel the darkness for a while. Then the brightness of her smile, the love light in her eyes, and the golden light of her courage shines with God light on all she touched.
Lee Bellaver
June 12, 2004
I had Ms. Sullivan while I was in the Calhoun Choral Program both for Choir and Show Choir in 1991-1993.

My sympathies to her family. She was a wonderful teacher and person.
Jenn Morris
June 12, 2004
Please accept my deepest sympathy. May the memory of Katy give you strength and solice.
Adrienne Denmark
June 11, 2004
Katy was my best friend in High School. We actually had met in the 3rd grade when my mom was her CCD teacher. Fast Forward to 9th grade and we met again playing guitar and singing in our Church's Folk Group.
10th grade came and our friendship blossomed. I loved singing in Concert Choir with her and while I wasn't a part of the drama club, I enjoyed watching her perform in their shows.
My fondest memories are of sitting on my porch in the summer and talking about 'things' and singing and playing our guitars. She was a great listener and helped me to work out some pretty tough 'teen-age' problems. She was always there for me when I needed her.
College years came and went and we lost track of each other. I always thought about her and always asked for her when I would run into someone from school.
Fast forward again to mid-2002...I was on Classmates.com and always checked to see if she was registered...and then I found her!
I immediately e-mailed her and she told me how rough the last 5 years had been. She wanted to give me her bad news before our 20th Class reunion so that the night of the reunion would be of only pleasant things. I watched her at our reunion as she walked around laughing, joking and greeting people all night long. She did it all with her beautiful smile shining brightly.
We spoke by phone several times and then I received an invitation in Nov.'03 to hear her sing w/the GSS in NYC. I wouldn't miss it! We went out after the concert and enjoyed some quiet conversation. She beamed when she spoke of Joe and then whispered to me that she would be eloping during her upcoming trip to Hawaii!. SShhh---don't tell anyone! I was so happy for her. And even though we spoke of a summer visit to our house in NJ, I felt deep inside that as we said our good-byes on that street corner in Manhattan, I would never see her again.
So many memories of Katy, so many happy times. I will think of her often and always with a smile on my face. I am not surprised by the many entries in this Guest Book, and I am not surprised at their contents. My friend Katy was a special person and touched so many people's lives. I will miss you, my friend.
Joe, Mrs. Sullivan & Jimmy, please accept my heartfelt condolences on your loss.
Michele (O'Hare) Novelli
June 11, 2004
Dear Joan, Joe and Families
As a beautiful person, Katie touched so many lives. I had the priviledge to see her conduct her students at a concert. I got to see her on stage singing her heart out! I shared dinners and saw into her soul. As the mother of another artist, I shared her passions. She was that ray of sunshine for all who knew her. May she find that peace in her new life with her sister and the angels. Sing to us Katie!
Love and hugs, Betty Ann
Betty Ann Coffin
June 11, 2004
Dear Joe:

Our hearts are with you!!
How can we ever forget the talent shown in the wonderful performance of Kate and yourself at our Fiftieth Wedding Anniversary celebration? The caring and effort it took to locate the music and lyrics to the song "Because" was very heartwarming and so appreciated. Needless to say, you both were connected and we connected to you.

We keep in mind that those we hold dear never truly leave us. They live on in the kindness they showed, the comfort they shared, and the love they brought into our lives.

With our love,

Aunt Florence and Uncle Jules
Mr. & Mrs. Jules Skalski
June 11, 2004
From the first time I met Kate at her first Royal Scam gig,I dont know if you remember the joke I made (as bad as it was)..we were talking and Kate was telling me about some of the projects she was involved in. She continued by saying they she was a mezzo-soprano, at which point I told her that I was a mezzo-stunato. Well it was funny at the time.
But there is a lot less light on this planet since Kate went home.Ther are plenty of green meadows and flower adorned hiking paths for her to enjoy now.
She was a beacon, a talent, a friend, and your beautiful wife. I am priveleged to have known her and priveleged to be your friend.
Love you both.
Jimmy Cotugno
Jimmy Cotugno
June 11, 2004
I was so saddened to hear about the passing of Kate Sullivan.
I had the privilege of singing in Kate's a cappella choir Viva Voce.
Or, as Kate named it origially to get a permit to sing in Central Park by the Delecorte Theater, "The Walk-Ups", since we rehearsed in one member's 5th floor walk-up.
Kate chose the Delecorte Theater location because she figured the people waiting on line for free tickets wouldn't leave even if we sounded terrible! (which, of course, under her leadership, we did not.)
I also took private lessons with Kate & she had to ability to make me believe in my voice & not take myself too seriously.
With the facial exercises Kate had me doing to relax my jaw, I told her that if she ever put in hidden cameras she'd be a shoe-in for "America's Funniest Home Videos."
I will treasure the memories of my lessons with her.
Kate had a radiant personality, like a sunflower, that naturally drew people into her orbit.
I loved going to City Opera performances and, with my opera glasses, making sure I found Kate early on so I could watch her perform. She always looked like she was having so much fun.
I feel so lucky to have known her.
The world will not be the same without Kate in it.
I send my heartfelt sympathy to Kate's family.
Barbara Hipkins
June 11, 2004
I did several productions with Kate at New York City Opera. It was always so much fun to have her around. We used to do "dumb New York accents" together, me being from Brooklyn and she from LI. I loved her smile and her eyes. She fought very hard and didn't really want anyone to pity her, and you couldn't really, because she seemed so ready to live and participate and give her all.

I'm sorry I never met you, Joe, but I do remember the shine in Kate's eyes when she came in to do a show one day at NYCO and showed us her engagement ring. She really loved you, as I'm sure you loved her.
Bernadette Fiorella
June 11, 2004
I met Kate on a gig with Brass Tax some 12 years or so ago. She had car trouble on the way to her first gig with us, and wound up arriving late. I remember thinking before she had arrived that this would be her first and LAST gig with us, since her travel situation was not dependable. Well, we hit it off right away. Her beautiful smile, her laughing eyes, open personality, and comedic charm were infectious. I left the band a few years later to eventually join the Savoy Stompers. A few years after that we were in need of a singer, so I called Kate. She joined the band and eventually fell in love with Joe Montini, a great and wonderful man. My heart is happy that they met, and my heart is heavy - I miss her smile. Sing well up there Kate.
Eddie Denise
June 10, 2004
I attended a Tanglewood summer music camp with Kathleen in 1981. I saw her again at a reunion in 2002. I was struck by how intense and alive she was. The photos of her recent wedding show this quite well. Though I didn't know her most of the years of her life, I am deeply moved that someone so young and vibrant should pass away so soon. At the same time (in a yogic way), I'm sure her spirit IS alive somewhere in the universe.

My deepest condolences to you, Joe. Take care.
Christopher Schardt
June 10, 2004
Steve DelVecchio
June 10, 2004
I can't remember if Kate and I first met working at City Opera, or in the Gregg Smith Singers; I only know I was drawn to her right away, and we "clicked". Not only because of her obvious musical gifts and the wide , exciting range of her interests, but because of her depth, warmth, effervescent enthusiasm for life, and her intense spirituality. She had the exuberance of a child, and the craftsmanship of a seasoned professional. She was a dream colleague. Sometimes, we only talked briefly, arranging to sub for each other in various jobs, and sometimes we had the opportunity to luxuriate in long talks on the mysteries of the Universe, but I always walked away smiling. When I came out with my first CD of original music, she was literally the first person to buy one, and was full of encouragement and ideas. When she found out Steve Buscemi was a neighbor, and had been noticing her interesting look, she told the story of their street conversation with the excitement of a kid just given the break of a lifetime, lighting up as her dreams soared high in her mind's eye, and lighting up everyone else's world at the same time. When she talked of her sister, it was with tenderness and admiration. And talking about Joe always made her sparkle with the deep joy of a woman in Love.. Later, as she fought her own battles with a courage, creativity, and patience I have never seen elsewhere, when I said she was my hero, and tried to show her several songs I had written that she had been the inspiration for, she would not look at them, or hear of it. She didn't want to be anybody's hero or inspiration...only Katie, their friend, doing the best she could to get through each day. I am most grateful, that after a bit of a pause, we were able to do one more concert together in the Fall, reconnecting, enjoying each other musically, personally, and spiritually. I don't worry about her...though she no doubt hated to leave the people she loved so and the world she adored, I believe she found peace, and is just as busy and creative and funny and charming and delightful on the other side of the veil as she always was. And she won't be far from those who really were bonded to her, for time and eternity. As for the rest of us left behind here, it will take a little time to turn that dark absence into cherished memory. Still, we all carry pieces of Kate with us always in who we have become through knowing her. Sincere condolences to all her family, and a hearty celebration of a very special Life!
April Lindevald
June 10, 2004
I was fortunate to connect with Kate while working with GSS. She is a bright and special spiritual sister. I know she will be doing more work to illuminate this earth from where she is now. Love and many blessings to all who continue to support the work Kate shared with us. Nameste & Shalom Frank
Frank Haggard
June 10, 2004
Your wife Kate was truly a wonderful spirit and I'm glad I got to know her when she sang with our band. She always had a bright smile and something positive to say. Although I know you will miss her dearly, it was great that you got to spend time with such a special person. Love and condolences - Gino & Carol Amato
Gino Amato
June 10, 2004
Dear Joe -

I knew, as soon as I heard your message last week, that we'd lost Kate. It really threw me for a loop. You know that we'd been talking about her coming down for a visit. She was not completely forthcoming about why she had to postpone again in her last e-mail. I guess I just thought that, with her incredible spirit, and having survived so long under such circumstances, that she'd get here eventually.

I did not have a long friendship with Katey, maybe seven or eight years. But when we met in Saranac Lake with GSS, the connection was immediate. I remember talking about astrology over Greek food in Lake Placid that first night. She just sparkled. I loved her honesty, her wit, her depth. She was just so much fun to be around. And I remember meeting you at the restaurant under Citicorp after a GSS concert, and her later talking about how profound her connection was with you. I was so happy that she was able to enjoy "Rosie" after we left New York.

I'm sorry she never got a chance to snorkel here, but I hope she's swimming now. I'm so thrilled to have some arrangements of hers, thrilled to know that she'll live on through her music, and I'll get to sing it. You, more than anyone, know how much she'll be missed. Please give our condolences to her Mom and family. And thanks, Joe, for being there for Kate.

Heather Carruthers
June 10, 2004
To Joe and all of Kate's family, I offer this memory. Katy came over to our apartment on 23rd Street. I had just purchased a small trampoline and was eager to show it off. I invited Katy to see it; she took one look, hopped on, and began to bounce with the exuberant abandon of a ten-year old, laughing the whole time. She was totally herself - free and joyous. . . Rest in peace, beautiful Kate.
Leslie Leonelli
June 10, 2004
Kate sang with us in the choir at St. John's in the Village Episcopal Church for a couple of years. She was a wonderful, beautiful spirit, always a joy and uplifting to be around. Her voice had a unique quality that I loved. While she was with us we had the privilege of performing one of her jazz spiritual arrangements -- challenging, impressive, effective. I am deeply saddened by her death, but thrilled to know what a rich life she led and am especially moved that you and she found each other and were married--the pictures from the wedding are spectacular! All best wishes to you in this difficult time. I know that all who knew her, including myself, consider themselves honored to have known her.
John Sheridan
June 10, 2004
I am stunned by this horrible news. I do not want to believe that such a beautiful, vivacious girl has succumbed, and been taken from us.

I was her friend, and though not a part of her daily life, she was special to me. We were colleagues and fellow students together at Tanglewood in the great summer of 1981. We were both high school students then, and I always enjoyed her spirit, sense of fun, and her wide-eyed openness about all the music, and the world around her/us. It was always fun to be around Kate.
She was just so vivacious and beautiful, and young and free.

...So many years passed, and in August of 2002, we all got together at Tanglewood for a very special and memorable reunion. It was profound to reconnect with some of my important roots, and one of the most special parts of the whole weekend was re-connecting with Kate. We had so much fun. Just talking with her, reminiscing, finding out about her life, and sharing together was so reaffirming for me. She was so supportive, and open. She made me feel like she was really there for me, available to talk, plan, and help me with my own career. I shared my hopes and dreams with her.

She invited me to come visit when I was in New York, and I promised I would. I also promised I would keep in touch. I did not, and now it is too late.

I will always remember Kate as an imporatant friend and support, first in our youth, and then more recently. Her beauty was not just physical, but in her ability to make you feel important, and loved.
She was inspirational to me. Her wise sense of humor, and her beautiful singing voice were like the halo, and the sparkle around a beautiful, shining angel ... which she now is.

I will be chanting and praying for her spirit, and for her loved ones.

Thank you, Kate.
Andrew Alexander
June 10, 2004
I loved Kate from the moment I met her. The earliest memory I have of her was when Joe brought her to our home for Thanksgiving. Because I am a shy person, it takes me a while to warm up to new people, but with Kate it was different. Talking to Kate was as easy and fun as talking to a best friend; it was like we had known each other for years. By the end of the night she had Joe, me and my sisters dancing and singing in our living room. From then on when talking about her she was always referred to as "Aunt Kate".

In the words of Theresa, “Kate is a beautiful person inside and out.” Kate’s smile would light up the room, and she was always smiling. She smiled when she talked, sang (Christmas carols in Brooklyn), and danced (Electric Slide at the wedding). Her good heart made her so lovable.

Now, that she is no longer with us I pray to her. I believe I can talk to her and she will listen. I love my Aunt Kate and will always remember her.
Laura Montini
June 10, 2004
I am a nurse that just started working with her in the last year or so. She was a type of personality that you warmed up to right away. She always had a gentle smile irregardless of the situation. I lost my mother to cancer in 1996; it is a terrible disease. I don't like to quote cliches, but something someone sent me at the time of her death always stayed with me. It gives me comfort to think of it. The brightest stars in the sky were from planets that have died millions of years ago. She will not be forgotten.
June 10, 2004
I was lucky enough to work with Kate singing at The Church of the Heavenly Rest, and with The Gregg Smith Singers. I was immediately struck by her beautiful genuineness. You couldn't ask for a more supportive colleague. She was kind enough to compliment my singing, but I'm the one truly in AWE of her unique talents. Her contributions will really inspire me and her other colleagues for many years to come.
Alex Guerrero
June 10, 2004
Words seem to fail at times like these. Kate was such a bright light and she will be missed. I'm so grateful to have known her. It was an honor to work with her and perform some of her brilliant music. All my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family now.
Greg Davidson
June 10, 2004
I was lucky enough to marry Kate six months ago in Kawaii, Hawaii. We had the time of our lives and captured it on video. One can view photos of our wedding at the website

www.digitalweddingshawaii.com/mo ntini_sullivan

Kate and I made music together for three years before we dated for the first time in August 2000. I moved into her brownstone on the first floor two years ago and started an upholstery business. I was able to work at home, thus allowing Kate and I to spend our days and evenings together. She was the most strikingly beautiful woman I’ve ever met. Her piercing eyes looked right into my soul. I’ll always remember how truly talented she was. Whether it was singing, acting, producing, composing or just being a hiking partner, she had “it”. She was also a great linguist, dancer, comedian, teacher, pianist and lover of nature and animals. Most of all, she was a great friend to countless people. She had a special way of making people feel important about themselves. I love her and miss her so much.

As you can imagine, I am devastated by the loss of my dear wife Kate. I tried to prepare myself for this moment, but I’m still “hurtin’ for certain”. I’ve been reading all the guest book entries and have received many calls and e-mails. Thank you everyone for your responses. Every kind word I read or hear spoken about Kate helps me through each night.
Kate will be remembered via her website:


which is currently under construction by myself and her friends.

Please attend a memorial/party for Kate on Sunday, June 13th. Arrive anytime between the hours of 10am and 10 pm to celebrate and learn more about Kate.

415 2nd street (between 5th and 6th avenues)
Park Slope, Brooklyn, NY
Joe Montini
June 10, 2004
Ms. Sullivan was my eighth grade Chorus teacher, I was a soloist in her chorus. The thing I remember most about Ms. Sullivan was her spunky personality and her eagerness to make chorus fun for all of us, especially at this turning point in our lives. She had us singing everything from samba to russian folk song, to spiritual, to 80s power ballad. She was very supportive of me and my future musical carreer, as I now am , ironically, a performer and eighth grade chorus teacher. I have carried some of her style and have tried to incorporate the best things that I remember about her and all of my music teachers. I always wanted to thank her for all of her support and kindness during a time that almost nobody remembers fondly. She really made an impression on me and the rest of the chorus that year. I can only give my thanks now to her family, and wish my sincerest condolences. She was a great lady and I'm sorry that I never got to tell her that I followed in her footsteps.
Stephanie Horowitz
June 9, 2004
My husband Gary and I were privileged to work with Kate at Bellmore-Merrick. Just saying her name brings back memories of her warm smile and open heart. She brought joy to countless students and fellow teachers. We are so saddened by her loss and send our deepest condolences to Kate's loved ones.
Lynn Seaman
June 9, 2004
Dear Sullivan Family
We are deeply sorry for this loss to your family. The only confort is that kathy is in a better place.
Bojan and Vera Stricevic
June 9, 2004
Ms. Sullivan was my 9th grade chorus teacher at Calhoun ten years ago. I remember her as the coolest teacher, who instilled the love of music in her class. I wish her family and friends well.
Prudence Jarvis
June 9, 2004
Dear Joan and Jimmy,

There are no words that can express the loss of Katy, she was a free spirit and gave her love freely. May your hearts be filled with all the good memories of both Katy and Kerry , and know that they are with you always in your heart as they will be in mine forever.
Love, Margaret
Margaret Farrington
June 9, 2004
Kate was the Concert Choir director at Calhoun HS immediately prior to me (in addition to being the Kennedy HS Choral Director). In fact, when applying for the position at Calhoun, I taught my demonstration lesson to her Kennedy Choir. I was taken by how kind and helpful she was- she immediately put me at ease. I owe my being hired at Calhoun to Kate. She became a wonderful mentor during my first few years of teaching.

Kate had a special relationship with her students that only few can achieve. She was much more than just their choral director, she was their friend. Her love of sharing the joys of choral music was evident by anyone who was fortunate enough to be in her choir.

On behalf of the entire Calhoun High School Choir family,

“The Lord Bless You and Keep You...”
Sanford Sardo
June 9, 2004
I am shocked to hear about Ms. Sullivan's passing. I will always remember her as my choir teacher at Grand Avenue Jr. High. These are my strongest memories of her:
She coached me to sing at NYSMA (and I did pretty well too). She did not hold me back from singing in the recital when I had a miserable sore throat, but let me rest it through the practices to save my voice. With her we sang popular songs, like "We Didn't Start the Fire," and funny songs, like "Mana Mana" (complete with muppet props). She always smiled and her class was my favorite time of day.
My deepest condolences to her family and friends. This world has lost a bright light of a teacher.
Margo Scheinhaus
June 9, 2004
As far as I can remember the last time I saw Katie was when I graduated from Baldwin Senior High. I was a couple of years ahead of her, but we got to know each other pretty well through choir and choir and plays. Somewhere I think I still have a friendship bracelet she made for me.

Reading what she has done with her life makes me even more sad to hear of her death. As a kid she was someone to mourn; it sounds like as a woman she has become even more so.

My deepest condolences.
Erik Wikstrom
June 9, 2004
Dear Joe
In reading through the many postings here it is evident that your wife was a remarkable person. My condolences on your loss.
Mary Lorimer
June 9, 2004
Dear Joe,

What I'm happiest about in thinking of Katy is that she met you, her soul mate, in her final years. As one who was pretty, loving, smart, and a lot of fun to be with, Kate had many boyfriends over the years. No one was right for her until she met you. Liam and I are so glad you got married. I remember Kate's telling me last summer that she wanted to set a date for your wedding (you were engaged) but didn't know if she'd have the energy to go through with it.

Thank you for eloping. It made sacred your very deep love for each other. And it fulfilled her dream of being married to you.

I'm so sad to have lost her. But when I think of her relationship with you, Joe, I'm comforted. She left life with her deepest need realized--a healthy loving relationship with a beautiful man.

Thank you.

Kyle McCann
June 9, 2004
She was my 7th grade chorus teacher in Grand Ave Middle School. News about her death spread quickly through my school and everyone has said what a wonderfull teacher she was. She would always tell us about all the plays she was in.She was definately a successful woman. She will be missed by her students as well as friends and family.
Michael Lembo
June 8, 2004
Dear Joan and Family,
I am so very sorry to hear of Kate's passing. Joan, although it's been some time since we worked together, I have often thought about you and your family. I can only imagine how difficult this is and was heart-broken for all of you when I received this sad news. In the time Kate was with us, she certainly achieved more than many do in a longer lifetime. What a blessing she was. Joan, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
With much love,
Donna Guarton
June 8, 2004
Dear Joe,

Kate was my first voice teacher. She was loving, encouraging, and a great inspiration to me and my wife, Gina, who studied with her as well. I will never forget the many gifts she gave to me.

With deepest sympathy,

Stan Serafin
Stan Serafin
June 8, 2004
Dear Joe,

Kate and I were friends in high school. Her sister Kerry and I were in the same class, and were friendly as well, but Kate and I were both involved with the Drama Club and Concert Choir and therefore spent more time together. I was unaware that Kate’s condition had gotten worse and also unaware Kerry had succumbed to the same disease. When I received this notice yesterday I was overwhelmed with sadness.

I greatly admired Kate; in fact you could say I was in awe of her when I was a sophomore. Amongst many of the music programs in which she performed, she played Adelaide in “Guys and Dolls” and I would sit in rehearsal and be riveted to her performance. She was talented, smart and beautiful yet never pretentious and that amazed me. I regret I did not see her perform in recent years.

I tracked her down a couple of years ago. I knew she had been sick but we didn’t speak very much about it. My perception was that she had beat the disease and when I received your wedding announcement with the beautiful photographs I was relieved and very happy for you both.

Of course it was always my hope that I would see her again. I am heartbroken that I never made that happen. My deepest sympathies are with you and the rest of Kate’s family and friends.

I would be grateful if you might forward me the address to which I might send a contribution. I would be happy to make one in both Kate’s and Kerry’s memories.

You are in my thoughts and prayers,
Amy (Forsberg) Perry
June 8, 2004
Dot and I wish to express our deepest sympathies on Kate's passing. Though we only met her on one occasion, her talent and poise were immediately obvious. Our hearts go out to you in your time of sorrow.
Eliot Ganek
June 8, 2004
I was so sorry to hear of Katie's death and wanted to convey my deepest condolences to your family. I was a high school student several years before Katie at Baldwin High and remember her infectious love for music. I hope that you have many recordings and pictures to keep her memory with you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Shari Zimbler Wolf
June 8, 2004
Dear Joe,
Kate was a wonderful and passionate person who I got to know as a teacher at my University. She was driven by her own sense of musical excellence and integrity and communicated that feeling to her students. I am very sad that we have lost her. Please know that we are thinking about her legacy and our thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.
Ed Joffe
Edward Joffe
June 8, 2004
I'm was blessed with Kate's presence at our Tanglewood Reunion after 21 years. Now I am even more thankful for the time we spent together. Thank you, Joe, for sharing your wedding photos with us. When asked about you, her face lit up and she said "he's wonderful" and we all knew - Kate was truly happy, and loved you, all of you. To Kate's family - please know that I am thinking about you.

I miss you Kate. Thank you for being a special part of my life.
Zenobia Perry
June 8, 2004
Dear Joan & Family,
May your hearts be filled with the love and joy Katy has brought into your lives and may thoughts of her bring a smile to your hearts and lips as you remember the wonderful legacy she has left behind. You are in my thoughts and prayers as always.
Sandy Chesler
June 8, 2004
Dear Joan and Joe and family,

I was privileged to be with Kate for a few months in 1999-2000 in a bi-coastal relationship, and to know her rare, special qualities that so many of the entries speak about. She was so full of life and love and was so open with everyone. My times with her will always be unforgettable, and my heart is heavier with news of her spirit departing this plane.

My prayers and thoughts go out to you in your loss of such a precious soul who graced us with her presence.


Scott Phelps
Scott Phelps
June 7, 2004
Knowing Kate and singing with her was something I'll cherish and I count myself among those who were privledged to have touched her life in some way. Her quick wit, magnetic personality and wonderful talent made her a joy to share our profession with. We will miss her greatly in the Gregg Smith Singers and will all hold dearly to the time that we had with her. Thank you Katey for choosing to share a piece of your life with us. You will be missed but never forgotten.
Mary-Elizabeth Poore
June 7, 2004
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