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for Patrick VESEY
Michael Faughnan Jr
August 19, 2013
To the Vesey family, You are in my thoughts and prayers. Your Dad was a class act in every respect, always with a great and inviting smile and never at a loss of words. He got to know my father Mike (whom passed away last year at 90 years of age) at St. Patricks Church and he would stop by our house to get his car fixed. He would talk with my Dad who was from Longford about his growing up in Ireland for hours. My Dad and Mom had such respect for him as did we 4 boys who got to know some of his family attending St Pats Elementary School. My heart goes out to you all having just heard the news. May he & your Mom rest in peace and their stay in your hearts forever.
Brian Vesey
June 10, 2013
We are gathered here today to celebrate the race well run by my father, Patrick Michael Vesey. As of 12 July, 1928, he arrived toward the latter of 12 children born to Mary Vesey, nee Wills, of Fall River, Massachusetts, and Francis Vesey of Belturbet, County Cavan, Ireland. Dad's parents met on the Boston trolley line where ‘Frank' forged his way into the American Dream as a conductor, and ‘Maime' labored in the infamous textile mills of New England. This depression era union was fortified by their Irish Catholic faith and steadfast obstinacy. They rode a turbulent wave of tragedy and commitment through the acquisition and loss of a farmstead in Freehold, NJ, where 3 of the 12 succumbed to infant mortality, common to the times. Then Frank, self-educated beyond 8th grade, erudite and stoic, waged his way onward as the Water-Engineer of Bay Shore, Long Island, NY, while the kids were inspired with respect for education, family unity, and their birthright of Irish shenanigans.
Dad's ‘easy-go-lucky' character was tempered through the intersection of simple moral codes and the humbling conditions of the depression. Finances were tight, but he attended St. Patrick primary school nonetheless, due to Maim's seminal role in its construction. He learned the power of his Irish wit and the greater value of friends won than enemies vanquished. In his early milieu with such a preponderance of children over adults, he learned an ease and skill among people through somewhat of a ‘Little Rascals' culture.
Our life was one richly saturated in the presence of his origins, in stories and persons, many of whom can be seen represented here today. The innocence and simplicity of his times have become almost palpable through the tales and through the genuine goodness, patience, and wisdom of his character. Indeed it is so, that of such stock he came and to which he stayed faithful.
Pat proceeded onward to his high school glory days- football star, most popular, soda jerk, prankster, pool shark, lady's man. Together with brothers, sisters, friends- he painted the town red until the post-war draft required his enlistment in the army. He reported for duty in the not-so-harsh environs of Bordeaux, France, where he attained to the rank of Supply Sargent in short order. The memories and language remained with him forevermore. Returning home to Bay Shore afterward, he studied at Packard Junior College in NYC, now Yeshiva University, held positions as an insurance investigator and book-keeper, then went on to work in accounting with Mr. Anderson, father of life-long friends Joe and Marie.
Not long after, Mr. Anderson retired and Pat held forth, developing the practice, providing honest financial services to our community. He and my brother, Pat Jr. who has succeeded him, have probably served the majority of we here today with such services. Beyond the routine work they must have encountered and tried to assuage almost every aspect of the human condition besetting souls seeking assistance at The Office.
Through work Pat met Anne Elizabeth Barry, a beautiful lass from nearby Amityville, and he later contracted her for secretarial duties. Boy meets girl, they fall in love, marry, set up house, and have five kids- 2 sons, 3 daughters. Together they provided stability, history, comfort, and shenanigans for not only we 5, spouses, and grandchildren, but also happily welcomed others from within and beyond our clan. Mom and Dad together opened their doors and hearts to many in need. In particular, they placed value on extending a hand to all ethnicities, integrating our household in action with some of society's highest ideals. To this day, our family encompasses not only our Irish blood, but also members of Puerto Rican descent, Ecuadorian, Mexican, Moroccan, African American, Swedish, and Scottish, for starters. They were quite supportive of persons of gay orientation as well, and we count a number among our friends.
In such context Patrick conducted his affairs. He enjoyed spending time with family, bowling and cards with friends, travel, the beach, helping others, learning, The Jets, the beach, camping, quoting poems, and of course, the beach. And animals. And children! Regardless of at which stage our paths entwined with his, we recognize in him a bedrock goodness that we now do sorely miss. Let us all here endeavor to “Keep the Faith,” as Dad would say, and strive to emulate his humility, grace, and kindness. Amen.
Tomi Lisvosky
June 8, 2013
Not only one of my favorate uncles but one of my favorate people and best persons I will ever know!
June 8, 2013
Dear Pat, How could we ever know that my dear sister Anne would join you exactly a week later. 54 years together on earth, now together forever in Heaven. May the angels escort you both into Paradise. Forever loved.
Meg
Marge Knight
June 4, 2013
A TRIBUTE TO MY UNCLE PAT
As you all know Pat was born into a large Irish family. He was one of 10 boys and had two (2) sisters, Rose who was my Mother, and Mary.
He was a football star in High School and attended Business College in New York.
One time he was interviewed at the train station (on his way to school) and the announcer commented how well dressed he was. The joke in the family was that the first one up and out the door was the best dressed.
I remember spending time at my Grandmother's house and Pat giving me many rides in his car that had a rumble seat. This really was fun for me.
Pat fell in love, married Ann and they had five (5) beautiful children.
Pat loved the water and taught swimming lessons for many years.
Every summer he would have children from New York city come to Long Island. Many of these children kept in touch with Pat, had their own children and still visited.
Pat's heart and giving ways were as big as he was.
On one occasion he met a stranger on Main Street. This man had lived in Bay Shore and was walking around looking to see how the town had changed. Pat struck up a conversation with him and told the man he could take his car and ride around as long as he needed to. Of course the man returned the car and even if he hadn't Pat would say “Its only a car” The word NO was not in Pats vocabulary.
On another occasion his Daughter Amanda who lived in New Mexico had to attend a conference in California. Pat flew to California, stayed at the hotel and took care of her Daughter Mandy who was about a year old, fed her, changed her diaper and spent time at the pool with her.
On still another occasion Pat and his Grandson Zac decided to go visit his Daughter Jennifer in Boston. They took a train, plane, boat and a bus and loved every minute of
it.
He was a die-hard JETS fan and made many trips to Florida to see the Jets play Miami.
One day Pat was riding a bike around my neighborhood and he lost his wallet. He was not too worried about his money or anything else....just his phone list…If you knew Pat and had a telephone you were on his phone list which was about a foot long, written in small letters and folded many times. The person who found his wallet sent it to him in Bay Shore, money and phone list all intact.
When Pat was 75 years old he visited his Sister Mary in Houston, I was also visiting.
He asked Mary if she knew if there was a pool in the area with a diving board.
Mary found one and we went down to watch him dive. Little did we know that the diving board was 50 feet in the air. He dove and loved it.
And so my dear Uncle Pat I could go on and on telling everyone what a great Uncle you have been, but I'm sure everyone knows that.
I'm sure you will be watching every JETS game from up in heaven and hoping one day they will win the Super Bowl.
You will be greatly missed by your loving wife who you adored and your wonderful Children and Grandchildren who meant everything to you.
With All My Love,
Marge
Laura Vesey Rozell
May 22, 2013
Aunt Anne, Patrick, Jennifer, Brian, Sharon, and Amanda
I have many fond memories of your dad. During my early college years I would take a quiet drive to Robert Moses in the late summer afternoon often running into Uncle Pat at Field 3. We would sit by each other enjoying the warmth of the afternoon sun. He loved the ocean and I would watch him take a late afternoon swim. May you all be blessed with warm and funny memories to cherish a lifetime. He was one of the GREATEST! I love you Uncle Pat! Love, Laura
May 21, 2013
Dear Ann & Family.
So sorry for your loss. Pat was a wonderful man and he will be missed deeply. All our prayers and thoughts are with you at this difficult time. Love to all Evelyn, Ron Baer and family
Noel Mick
May 21, 2013
Amanda,
Please accept our most sincere condolences for your family's loss from all your co-workers at The Eye-Bank for Sight Restoration. You and your family are in our thoughts.
Carmela Bazata
May 21, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss. Whenever I saw him, he always had a smile ,which then made me smile.
Patricia Nirmaier
May 21, 2013
Dear Anne & family, Pat "Duke" was a good friend of my husband John Nirmaier...You are "all" in my thoughts & prayers at this very sad & difficult time.
Susan M. Souhrada
May 21, 2013
It was my pleasure to have known this
wonderful man. He had it all!
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