Paul Friedman
A Problem-Solver

Paul Friedman, a shy, kind man with a surging mind, was always a problem-solver. Of the five Friedman siblings, he was the listener, the untangler of life's knots. He would pose a zillion questions, leading his siblings toward their own solutions. Professionally, he played a similar role. With degrees in psychology, engineering and business, he became a management consultant for Emergence Consulting in Lincoln, Mass.

You could not not like him, the man who at snoozy business meetings kept his end of the table in convulsive snickers. The friend who shlepped rugelach cross-country for a pal, the human jungle gym for nieces and nephews, the husband who showered his wife, Audrey Ades, with gifts. He collected snow globes (only the tackiest!), saved his report cards (including those from Hebrew school), and gazed at the natural world, entranced, camera in hand.

At 45, he tackled his most delightful problem. In May, he and Audrey adopted a Korean infant, Richard Harry Hyun-Soo Friedman (nom de nursery: Rocky).

Mr. Friedman delivered rib-tickling disquisitions on the challenge of the dirty diaper. He spent Sept. 10 with Rocky. "Did you take him to a playground?" a sister asked. "No," replied the cerebral new papa. "I took him to Starbucks."

The next morning, Mr. Friedman boarded American Airlines Flight 11.

Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on December 2, 2001.

Paul Friedman

business consultant

By Globe Staff, 9/18/2001

Paul J. Friedman of Belmont, a senior management consultant for Emergence Consulting of Lincoln, died aboard American Airlines Flight 11 in New York City on Sept. 11. He was 45. Mr. Friedman was born and raised in Brooklyn, N.Y., and graduated from John Dewey High School in 1974. He majored in psychology at Johns Hopkins University and earned an MBA from New York University. He began his career at Bell Labs in Whippany, N.J. He had also worked for American Management Systems at the firm's offices in New York and Boston, and for Cap Gemini, Ernst & Young, and Fleet Bank. Mr. Friedman was an avid photographer and a collector of antiques and curios. He leaves his wife of eight years, Audrey Ades; a son, ''Rocky'' Richard Harry Hyun Friedman; his mother, Selma of Morristown, N.J.; three sisters, Iris Pollack of Brighton, Amy Radin of Short Hills, N.J., and Meryl of Medford; and a brother, James of Livingston, N.J.. A memorial service will be held at a later date.
Editorial Obituary published in THE BOSTON GLOBE on 9/18/2001.

Paul Friedman, 45, proud new father

He was brilliant, with advanced degrees in engineering and business. Creative, with an eye for antique furniture and a passion for photography. In recent months, though, Paul J. Friedman discovered a new joy: fatherhood.

Mr. Friedman, 45, and his wife, Audrey Ades, of Belmont, Mass., adopted a baby son in Korea this spring, and the hard-working management consultant was instantly transformed into a doting father.

"He gave us a dissertation last week on how to change a diaper," said Friedman's sister, Meryl Friedman, laughing at the memory. "He was very proud to be a father. He videotaped their first meeting with the baby in the nursery in Korea."

Mr. Friedman, a senior management consultant at Emergence Consulting of Lincoln, Mass., who once lived in Morris County, was aboard American Airlines Flight 11, bound for a business meeting at Warner Bros. in Los Angeles, when the hijacked plane crashed into the World Trade Center on Tuesday.

"He was the happiest he had ever been in his life," his sister said.

While Mr. Friedman was easily the brightest person who worked at Emergence Consulting, said company co-founder Allen Rupple, he had a dry sense of humor and often did silly things. When he proposed to his wife 10 years ago, months after meeting her at a suburban Boston synagogue, Rupple said he forgot to bring the engagement ring.

"He was always doing funny things like that," Rupple said.

Mr. Friedman grew up in Brooklyn, N.Y., and after earning two master's degrees from Johns Hopkins University and New York University, he spent seven years working at Bell Labs in Whippany.

In addition to his wife, Friedman is survived by his son, "Rocky" Richard Harry Hyun Friedman; his mother, Selma Friedman of Morristown; siblings and siblings-in law, Iris and Alan Pollack of Brighton, Mass.; Amy and Mitchell Radin of Short Hills; James and Krista Friedman of Livingston and Meryl Friedman and David Price of Medford, Mass.; and nieces and nephews.

Memorial donations may be made to the scientific research association, Charcot-Marie-Tooth Association, 2700 Chestnut St., Chester, Pa. 19013-4867.

Published by Newsday on Sep. 13, 2001.
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Remembering Paul on the 20th anniversary of 9/11..
Cindy Roe
September 13, 2021
Our thoughts of deep sympathy we send to your family. Daily may God continue to give you the needed strength to cope with such a sad loss. Paul will always be remembered.
The Kindred Family
November 15, 2018
I worked with Paul when he was at Fleet Bank and I worked for a company called Epsilon. Paul may be the smartest person I've ever worked with, and he was gentle, funny and generous.
Neil Foshay
September 11, 2018
I went to John Dewey High School with Paul, and I was in New York City on September 11, 2001. Fifteen years later, I pray for strength for his family.
Dewey, Class of '74
September 11, 2016
15 years. I'll never forget.
linda koeb
September 11, 2016
Another year, and altho I am late, you are not forgotten. We were moving to a cooler climate, so I have a good excuse. But you already knew that huh!!!
linda koeb
September 23, 2015
I never had the chance to meet Mr. Friedman, but every year I read of the lives lost that terrible day 14 years ago and express my condolences to the family. I'm so sorry for your loss, Mr. Friendman was taken from the world in a terrible way and is remembered.
Geoff Kiran
September 13, 2015
Sounds like I would have loved your personality. Today I pray for your wife, for Rocky, for all of the friends and family you left behind. We will never forget. Love from Texas,
Del Newberry
April 9, 2015
I will always miss you Uncle Paul.
Emma Lesser
October 19, 2014
Just a little late this year, but you and your family were in my thoughts last week. Hard to believe it has been 13 years..but we will never forget.
September 16, 2014
To Family & Friends, death is so unnatural it is something we will never get use too. Our Creator promises to bring about a resurrection . We can believe that.
Joyce S
September 8, 2014
I sent you a message on the 11th of Sept. this year but it did not appear to make it. You are still in my thoughts each year and every year I watch the specials on TV and ask why.
Linda Koeb
October 12, 2013
bella b
September 12, 2013
Audrey--have been thinking about you all weekend and hope that you and your son have found peace and comfort. I will never forget speaking with you on that day.
Charlotte Johnson Amorello
September 12, 2011
Audrey, thinking of you and Rocky today. I was one of Rocky's preschool teachers and will never forget the two of you and how strong you were.
Cindy Gonzalez
September 11, 2011
In October 2001 at a Mass in Fernadina Beach, Florida, I received a small gold angel attached to a card with the name Paul Friedman on it. I have carried this card with me and have offered prayers for Mr. Friedman and his family daily.
September 11, 2011
To the family and friends of Paul Friedman:
Paul will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not allow those we lost on 9/11 be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you.
Peggy Childers
September 11, 2011
Thinking about you this weekend. Rest in peace and my condolences to your friends and family.
Douglas Pulaski
September 10, 2011
I wore a bracelet today with Paul's name on it. I work in a third grade classroom and I shared it with the class. Just wanted you to know we remembered Paul today, and remembered you and your family in our prayers always. GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY Rhonda LaBorde West Monroe, La
September 10, 2011
I cannot believe it has already been ten years since you were taken from your loved ones. It seems like yesterday I watched the tragedy take place on TV..and had no idea my friend was on one of those planes.
I just finished a book titled "Memories" by a lady who lost her husband on 9/11. I hope you have left pennies or whatever around so your loved ones know you are watching over them and you are never too far away.

Rest in peace my friend.
linda koeb
September 8, 2011
After many years, I emailed Audrey last night after learning of the victory for humanity. When you were shockingly taken from us, an 8 month old baby was also left behind. Rocky is now a 10 year old boy. When his class said the 'Pledge of Allegiance' this morning, I'm sure it held an extra special meaning for him, with thoughts of his Dad. America, your family and friends have not forgotten you.
Michael Fetcho
May 3, 2011
May 1, 2011 - Justice has prevailed. Rest in peace my friend! Your friend from Warner Music Group
May 2, 2011
I said a special prayer for you today. I hope you got it.
linda koeb
September 11, 2010
Another sad anniversary. Paul, I always think of you on this date and find it hard to believe eight years have passed. You were my mentor, someone who made me laugh, and most of friend.

May you rest in were truly taken far too soon. And you are missed by many.
linda koeb
September 11, 2009
I happened upon this guestbook today by looking up another John Dewey Alum.. only today learning about Paul's fate. I knew him well from Dewey, smart kid, shy, (like me) ..very nice guy.. so sorry to hear find this terrible story... God bless his family and friends
Bob Mantin
March 6, 2009
I stumbled upon this guest book for Paul this morning. Paul was a good friend of mine in public school and in Junior High School. We went to different High Schools and didn't keep in touch. I remember that Paul was a gentle and kind hearted person without a mean bone in his body. He deserved a better fate and his good nature contrasts sharply with the intentions and mindset of those who commit violence against innocents. No true religion can condone such acts. May God bless Paul's memory, his family and loved ones.
douglas pulaski
November 13, 2008
I went to high school (John Dewey/Brooklyn NY), with Paul. I remember a wonderful person who always had a good thing to say to all he knew.
He is truly missed !
Glen Poyer-Hunte
October 11, 2008
Seven years later and I still will never forget speaking with Paul's wife Audrey. I worked at Massport and took her call that day--and I will never forget her voice and words. May you find peace and comfort on this sad anniversary.
charlotte amorello
September 11, 2008
We will also pray for the family,not always loose hope we know the are in God s hands.
when i look unto their face; I see love,we will always miss them..for little while we will see them, Because entenity is so near to us.
I was in U.S.A three times . I have never seen the love which I was given in the great Nation .U.S.A
That is why whatever, touches American people Bless America
yours pastor Edward Ssemango.
New Beginning Christian Center,Kampala Uganda
pobox 11731 kampala. email; [email protected]
Edward Ssemango
September 7, 2007
In memory....
P Tabbernor
June 4, 2007
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
November 1, 2006
I met Paul when I worked in NY on Genesis with Amex. Paul quickly became one of my best friends there and was one of the kindest and brightest people I have ever met. Finally after 5 years I am able to sign this book. My heart goes out to his family..he was indeed a treasure..and I am thankful to have known him and to have been able to call him my friend.
linda griffin-koeb
September 11, 2006
Paul, you'll never be forgotten! May you Rest In Peace.
K. Melaragni
February 25, 2005
My brother and I worked for Paul's dad Harold in the early seventies. Paul worked there also. He was a bright guy. His dad was very proud of him. He was a pleasure. The Friedman family was a pleasure. Harold taught my brother and I a lot and inspired us as well as his own children.My best to the Friedmans. Ave U still remembers you. Frank Illuzzi DDS
Frank Illuzzi
November 28, 2003
At my best friend memeorial golf outing yesterday I received a bracelet with Paul's name on it. My friend was firefighter Brian Cannizzaro who I miss terribly, I share in your pain and pray that Paul is at peace. My prayers are with your family.
James Keegan
August 10, 2003
Yesterday our University (Idaho State) paid tribute to all of the victims of this tragedy. The students passed out names of the individuals so that we could wear his or her name for the day. As the day ended, I found that I had made some kind of connection with this man. And, as I found with many of my colleagues, we wanted to know more about our "person."

I just read bout Paul, and I am deeply moved and humbled at the priviledge of having even this smallest of connection with him. I also feel connected to his family and I extend to you my fondest thoughts and my deepest sorrow at the loss of such a wonderful man.

This experience is more than just a knowledge of an individual it is a true connection with a special life.
Carla Dando
September 13, 2002
I knew Paul from our days together at NYU. Today I learned of the tragedy of his death from watching the memorial service at Ground Zero on television. When I later read about Paul on the NY Times Portrait, it struck me that he had not changed a bit since I last saw him a decade ago. A kind man with a surging mind, a problem-solver, a listener. He was always the one we'd pick (or stick!) in charge of our study projects. His wife Audrey and son Rocky should know he touched a wide circle of lives. A wonderful, gentle person, who I will always remember fondly.
Rob Navarino
September 11, 2002
My company passed out badges today to remember the lives lost of 9/11. I received Paul's name on my badge. I've worn it all day and have said many prayers for him and his family. I wanted to find out as much as I could on Paul. He sounds like he was a wonderful husband, brother, son and most of all father. My thoughts and prayers are with Audrey and Rocky. Paul didn't know me, but I'm lucky to have picked his name and learned of his life. I will never forget him.

Liz Fair
September 11, 2002
To Audrey--You are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you peace and comfort on this somber day.
Charlotte Amorello
September 11, 2002
I wish peace to Paul's extended family and I pray for their comfort.

Al Newman, a friend of Amy
al newman
September 11, 2002
I never met Paul Friedman, but I see by this picture, by his description, that he was a bright man with a nice smile. Over the past few days, I have been going through these entries, and I am struck by each person, each who lived a rich life, with loved ones and friends who still grieve. On this day, and the days after I send my wishes to this family, the family of Paul, who have memories of him, his adopted child who can hear these memories as an adult and think fondly of a father and a trip to Starbucks.
Sharon Ronsse
September 10, 2002
Dear Friends and Family of Paul,
I will be wearing a "heart" with Paul's name on it during this Wednesday's Rolling Requiem. After reading his bio and learning just a small fraction of who he was, I would like express my deepest thoughts and prayers. I will be thinking of him and his family this Wednesday.

Peace to you,
Andrew Tomko
Seattle, Washington
Andrew Tomko
September 9, 2002
June 5, 2002
My name is also Paul Friedman. I watched the 2 planes strike the towers from my classroom window which is in lower Manhattan. When I finally arrived home later that night, my answering machine was filled with calls wondering about my safety. Were some of these calls meant for you? I'll never know but our lives now seem entwined and your ideals will continue through all the Paul Friedman's of the world.
Paul Friedman
March 11, 2002
To Audrey: I will never forget. May you and your family find peace, comfort and happiness again someday.

God Bless.
Charlotte Amorello
March 11, 2002
To Family and Friends of Paul:
A sense of humor is a wonderful gift and this man shared it often. He also was caring, loving and giving. Truly all traits to be remembered and shared with Rocky as he grows. His dedication to family and to education and work are admirable. May you all find warmth and healing in memories and in God's compassionate arms.
Sheila Werland
February 28, 2002
It has taken me a long time to be able to talk about what happened Sept. 11th. It was a quiet morning as I headed to work at American Airlines. Half way to work I heard on the radio that this had happened, thinking this could not be a commercial jet. When I arrived We were put on a Emergency Response team. Those first calls were the worst days of my life. Paul's Boss was one of them. I have had trouble learning how to deal with my emotions and anger toward these terrorist. To the Friedman family my thoughts and prayers are with you. Paul and your family will live in my mind and hearts forever.
February 6, 2002
When I read Paul's name on the list of victims of Sept. 11, I remembered Paul as a friend of my son Douglas in Mill Basin. As this name is quite common, in our circle, I wasn't sure it was the boy I knew but when I read the obituary in the Times and read the names of Selma, Amy and the other names of his sisters, It comfirmed that this was indeed the Paul we knew. I notified Douglas about it and we would like to extend to the family our deepest condolences and heart-felt sympathty to the family.
Florence and Douglas Pulaski

Florence Pulaski
January 19, 2002
To the family of Paul Friedman: My deepest and sincerest sympathy on his tragic loss. He will most assuredly be remembered.
Maria Dakis
January 13, 2002
We are very sorry for your loss of Paul. May his ability to listen, his life and love live on in all who love him. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Teresa Jahn
January 11, 2002
Paul was a member of our temple. I'm sorry I didn't get to know him - he sounded like a real mensch.
Richard Lesses
January 11, 2002
Having a brother named Paul Friedman, who travels quite frequently, my heart jumped into my throat when I saw this name listed on the list of victims of the terrorists attacks on Sept. 11. While MY fears turned out to be for naught, I know the family of the actual Paul Friedman, who passed on this, day were not.

My heart goes out to each and every family member and friend Paul left behind. I can only imagine what your days are like now. May God's saving grace and mercy comfort you all your days.
Laura Hoffman
December 31, 2001
To the loved ones of Paul. I walked 1 mile today 11-27-01 in honor all him and those he left behind.

May god bless and keep you in this difficult time.

Paul, You will not be forgotten, rest in peace.
Kathy Swaringen
November 29, 2001
To the Friedmans:
Tonight I have just learned of Paul's death. Paul and I were amongst the 42 classmates in the NYU masters program. He was one of the nicest fellows, thoughtful, and great sense of humor, as we all plodded through those two years. What a waste for the world to lose Paul, and so painful for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you in your healing.
November 23, 2001
Dear Friedman Family,
I just wanted to write a note to say how sorry I am for your loss. I am wearing a bracelet on my wrist with Paul's name on it. It is called a mercy band, an acronym for Bearing Another's Name Daily. I am praying for you, the Friedman family, daily. My prayer is that our Heavenly Father will bless and keep you and that He will make Himself known to you in a powerful way.
God bless you,
Jan Taylor
November 1, 2001
I knew Paul at NYU through our common friend Joe Woolf. He was a wonderful man with an infectious laugh that I'll always remember from happy, happier, days.
Rob Kaplan
October 24, 2001
Shocked and unspeakably saddened. My thoughts and wishes for comfort are with you always.
Howard Kaufman
October 9, 2001
Barbara Bolin
September 26, 2001
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