Stephen Adams
'An 18th-Century Man'
It was not always easy for Stephen Adams. He had majored in philosophy at college, but could not figure out what he wanted to do professionally. His tastes were from another time; his greatest interest a form of ritual English dance with hankies, sticks and swords.

"He was an 18th-century man," said his wife, Jessica Murrow, a musician, who met her husband, who was 51, at this kind of ritual dance, known as morris dance. She had journeyed to Marlboro College in Vermont to accompany a group of dancers on a drum, but had left her drumstick at home. "Someone said to ask Steve. He'd have one." He did.

"Steve loved Irish poetry and James Joyce and old English ballads," she said. "He had very old-fashioned values. He believed in being honorable, honest and loyal. He forgot to put himself first. His career faltered. Making money and work frustrated him."

It was only recently, Ms. Murrow said, that her husband found himself professionally.

A graduate of the French Culinary Institute, he had been named beverage manager at Windows on the World and was on the road to becoming a sommelier. "It was the first time he had a job where he was appreciated and happy."
Published by Newsday on Oct. 4, 2001.
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I'm just thinking about Steve on the 20th anniversary of 9/11. I only got to know him briefly, but have many good memories. He introduced me to the Cathedral of St John The Divine in NYC, which I make sure to visit whenever in town, as well as a great Cuban breakfast restaurant, and the art of finding excellent Chinese food in NY. He was a very kind man, a great cook and wonderful with cats! I hope the next adventure was a great one.
Stevie McDowell (once Doucet)
September 12, 2021
Remembering Stephen on the 20th anniversary of 9/11....
Cindy Roe
August 30, 2021
Prayers and remembrance to this family especially today
Lesley Weathers
September 11, 2020
Steve will always be remembered by all who knew him here in England. A sad loss to the whole dance community.
Love to Jessica today and always x
Chris Cook
September 12, 2017
Rest in Peace Stephen, God bless your family and friends.
Louise SCalzo
March 29, 2017
Andrew L
September 11, 2016
We will never forget. Thinking about you all today.
September 11, 2015
Never to be forgotten
September 12, 2014
Stephen, a happy feeling to know you found your nitch in life but also sad that it was taken from you. You'd be in your 60s now, would you still be working? Probably so, since it was something you were appreciated at. Didn't know you Stephen but I'm sad to know your dream was taken from you.
Daniel Morgan
January 22, 2014
To the family of Stephen Adams:
Stephen will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not allow those we lost on 9/11 be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you.
Peggy Childers
September 10, 2013
To the Adams family,

May the wonderful memories of your loved one provide solace for you during this difficult time; and may God provide you with the assurance that you will see your loved ones again in Paradise. John 17:3
August 12, 2012
Barbara Boam & Kim Rogers walked a mile for you (mile #15) on 9/15/11 as a dedication to your life.
Barbara Boam
September 15, 2011
We hold you in our hearts.
Kymberli Colbourne
September 11, 2011
Every September 11th, I wait to hear your name. You and your wife were customers of mine. I had the bike shop at 110th Street. I am honored to have met you. Jessica I will never forget you coming into the bike shop with a friend after the towers fell. I am sorry for your lost.
Landon Wickham
September 11, 2011
Thinking of you today, Steve. We'll always remember you at Marlboro. Love to all your friends and family on this anniversary.
Barbara Hilliard
September 11, 2011
Spending the day in remembrance... you are not forgotten.
Meghan McFadden
September 11, 2010
May you rest in peace.
August 22, 2010
I met Stephen in 3rd grade. We were friends throughtout school, driving to work, going to proms together. He was a great person to talk to. I wish we had kept in touch. He had the greatest blue eyes around. I will miss him.
Sally B.
October 5, 2008
You are a true hero and you inspire me. Thank you for all you do.
Corey King
September 11, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
March 5, 2008
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Doug Abraham
January 6, 2008
God bless. He has the same name as me, even though I did not know him, my thoughts are with his family.
Stephen Adams
October 9, 2007
Stephen seems to me such a wise and happy soul. He followed his heart. Isn't that what we are all meant to do?I'm glad to meet him,even in this way.I know he fulfilled the first commandment of a happy life,to thine own self be true.Farewell,Stephen...
Sylvia Csupak
September 12, 2007
may god be with your family each and every day.
g d
September 10, 2007
January 23, 2007
im very sorry... they are in a much better place now....
kimberly wilcox
December 19, 2006
i hope that god will be with you and your family though out the years.
December 19, 2006
Very sorry about your loss! Sincere sympathy, Pat - R.N. in TN
Patsy Jo Reed Sircy
October 27, 2006
god bless
October 23, 2006
As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vane. We will always remember.
Kristine Furstenberg
October 10, 2006
May your family remember the wonderful times you shared during your brief stay on Earth.
September 15, 2006
may god be with your family
tiffany coleman
September 12, 2006
I am so sorry for your loss.
Could this be the same Stephen Adams that I went to elementary school with, in Shelburne Falls, Ma?
Nancy Roy
September 12, 2006
To the Stephen family,God bless all of you.I wanted to express my deepest sympathy to those who still suffer.Remeber your never alone,never forgotten.Stay Strong!
Dawn Sproules
September 11, 2006
We will never forget. Our thoughts are with you, Stephen's family.
September 10, 2006
I am sorry for your loss please visit a new site I have made in honor of the 5th anniversary it is for all victims as well as my Daughter Jeanmarie Wallendorf who I lost in the Trade Center.
Christine Barton
September 9, 2006
In memory...
P Tabbernor
August 17, 2006
My name is Stephen Adams too, which ultimately led me to this website. I did not know Stephen but after reading about him, I wish had. He had many of the talents I will never have, but I am sure God is enjoying watching him dance everyday.
Stephen Adams
July 22, 2006
Our heartfelt sympathy, thoughts and prayers to the Adams Family and Stephen's wife.

May you know that we will never forget, we will continue to pray for Stephen's sould to rest and watch over all those that love him and that he loved and shared life with.
Gerard Family
September 12, 2005
There will soon be true peace on this earth.
Never again will we lose our loved ones to death.
Those who have gone, will be returned to us.
It is promised by God.
It will be a joyous time.
John 5:28,29
Revelation 21:3,4
Psalms 37:11,29
Psalms 83:18
September 30, 2004
1 mile was walked to honor the life of Stephen and all the family, friends and loved ones he left behind. May you find some comfort in knowing that you do not grieve alone and that he will be forever in our prayers.

Stephen, may you rest in peace.
Kathy Swaringen
October 11, 2003
To Steve's friends and family:
It is perhaps for myself that I write this two years after that awful day in an attempt to make some sense from a senseless tragedy. I knew Steve from Marlboro College where we attended some classes together.
Steve would always go to extra effort to prepare an individual breakfast for me. He was an excellent cook and a most gracious host. When I think of Steve I remember him standing in the doorway between the kitchen and the dining room watching to see if anyone needed anything else and rarely enjoying the fruits of his own labours with the rest of us.
He was a very nice man and a very good person.
Each person's life affects so many others and our time on this small blue planet is so short that no act of kindness is ever wasted.
Thank you for your kindness, Steve.
You have not been forgotten.
Trac Massey
September 12, 2003
May your Memory be Eternal and May YOU REST IN PEACE, Stephen.
September 11, 2003
God Bless You and may Peace be with you on this day.
September 11, 2003
My cousin was a very caring man and as a young man was very thoughtful of everyone and we had a great time as kids. I will never forget you or anyone. God speed and may god learn the dance of peace Patricia
Patricia Henry
September 11, 2003
Kimberly Tucker
December 18, 2002
God Bless you.
Phyllis Berte
October 5, 2002
You searched your life to find your place in this world. May you know this very day the eternal joy of standiing in the presence of God in your place He has prepared for you. Pray for me, Stephen, as I continue my journey looking for my place here, until we meet up there.
John Brentin
September 22, 2002
may peace be with you
anne jones
September 16, 2002
Reading your husbands profile touches my heart. He must have been a great man! Thinking of what happende to you and so many others on that day only a year ago makes my hart cry.......I tell my children every day since 9-11 that they have to learn to tell all good things to friends and family and how much they love them befor its to late. They look at the pic of your husband and say " It could have been dad" Life is vonereble and I hope something good comes out of this.....even for you!!
I´m sorry that my english isnt better, its so much I want to tell you but I dont get the right feeling in my word...
Take care and remember even here in sweden we think of you!
Lots of love
Pia Holm
September 13, 2002
As a student at Marlboro College(class of '86), I had the good fortune to share some of that marvellous experience with Stephen.

I will never forget his smile and warmth. He was a great cook, rustling up the best omlettes anywhere, and a dedicated student. He had so many talents and interests.

I was very sorry to hear of Stephen's loss and admire your strength and courage throughout this difficult year. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your family.

Chris Laing
Venice, California

Christopher Laing
September 12, 2002
Dear family and friends of Stephen Adams,
I did not know Stephen, although by reading some of his memorials I know that he was greatly loved. My name is Nora and i go to a highschool in milwaukee, WI. my highschool decided that in honor of the one year anniversary of September 11 we would each get a name of a victim. i received Stephen's name. i cannot say that i feel your pain and suffering, because quite frankly i dont think anyone could. but i can say that i am praying for Mr. Adams and his family in friends. i hope that after a year the pain may start to recede bit by bit. i know that you will never fully recover in any means. i dont think anyone in your position could. but dont go through the pain and suffering alone. i know that when i am feeling that there is nothing in the world that will make me feel better and then i turn to a friend, i do feel better. crying is good, it makes you feel better. Stephen Adams will not be forgotten and he is now, i'm sure a happy man in heaven. Here are some quotes that i feel are appropriate:
"We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can only fly by embracing one another."
"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."
with much love,
Nora D
September 11, 2002
I met Steve at the Marlboro Morris Ale in 1984. He taught me how to eat raw oysters and wash them down with Guinness. A few years later, he let me stay at his place when I was in town for a dance workshop. I met Steve again various times at Pinewoods Camp, where we strove to improve and expand our English dance skills. My morris team danced to honor Steve, and his old team mate Chris, at sunset on Halloween 2001.
Kate Early
September 11, 2002
On this first anniversary, our Church is praying for all of those who lost their lives last Sept. 11th. I will be keeping Stephen and his friends and family in my prayers. Remembering his passion for morris dance and love of his family and friends will inspire me to live my life with enthusiasm and thankfulness.
Elisa Baroni
September 11, 2002
Dear Ms. Morrow, It has taken me to long to send you this note and I am sorry. I do not know if you remember me, but I am the person who runs the bike store on 110th street. Every day I have a quiet moment in the store, or if I recount the days immediately after the towers came down, I will always remember that you stopping by the store with a friend, on the bike you brought from us that summer to have it checked. I remember you bringing your husband down to the store check out the bike before purchasing it. At the time you dropped in I was getting ready to head back downtown to the towers when you popped in. After we conducted some business you told me that your husband was missing. I am writng you now hoping that you are doing ok. I think about the events of that day and the days immediatly after, all the time; and when I am in thought, your visit the store is etched into my memory. My deepest sympathies and those of my family and friends whom I have told of your lost, are extended to you and your family. I have found that riding gives me time to refect and sort out my life. I hope it has or can do the same for you. Have a wonderful summer and if you have a moment stop by the store, we would love to see you.

All the best and happiness to you.

Landon Wickham (New York Cyclist)
Landon Wickham
July 1, 2002
Angela & Anthony Clement
June 13, 2002
I look forward to meeting Stephen in heaven and watching him dance! Sounds like a wonderful man. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends, and we will never forget him!
Del Newberry
May 15, 2002
May you never be forgotten. My prayers are with your family.
April 5, 2002
On my knees for You in Arkansas...God Bless and Keep you...Peace and Love--Brooke
Brooke Frierson
March 28, 2002
Please know that the whole world is thinking about you with love and deep concern. Our prayers and thoughts are always with you, when some days are just too hard to bare. Please remember this. He sounds like a wonderful man and your soul mate. Now we must move on and let justice be made for these crimes. You live in a wonderful country and we are all behind the Americans to help out as much as we can.
J. McGowan
March 21, 2002
Stephen, Thank you for all you were and brought to this world. We are a better nation because of your contributions.
March 10, 2002
A warm and gentle soul, Stepehn Adams helped to define my college world as one I look back on with the greatest fondness. I miss you and will never foget.
Jody Berman
February 6, 2002
Jessica, I think of Steve and of you every day. As long as I live, he will be remembered with great fondness and tears. It's funny how memories take on new meaning--I now think back to the times I helped set up for the ale with Steve and am grateful that I had those times with him. The best memories of course are of dancing with Steve.
My love to you both.
Jan Arabas
January 27, 2002
I know how hard it is to live without your loved one. My brother is also missing and the hardest part is not knowing. I pray for you and your family. May you have the strength and courage to live and to always remember the joy your loved one has given you. God Bless You And Your Family
Lisa Dedvukaj
January 21, 2002
Jess....I love you, always. For me, we'll always be stuck in time at the Marlboro Ale. Selma
Selma Kaplan
January 15, 2002
I'll never forget Steve's friendly smile at pub at the Marlboro Morris Ale. I will really miss him!
kathi tighe
January 13, 2002
May Stephen's honesty, old-fashioned values, life and love live on in all who love him. May the warmth of his love surround you. We are deeply sorry for your great loss of Stephen. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Teresa Jahn
January 11, 2002
My thoughts and prayers go out to the family of Stephen Adams. I am still saddened by this all.
Mark Capper
January 10, 2002
My heart is broken at your loss. May you find peace and healing in time and know that someone in NC is saying a prayer for Stephen.
January 6, 2002
My heartfelt prayers to Stephen's wife Jessica. It sounds like he was your soul mate! I am deeply sorry for your loss.

God Bless and keep and comfort you in your time of sorrow...
Cyndi Keech
December 29, 2001
Stephen, thank you for the sacrifice you made to protect the freedom I sometimes take for granted. We may have never met, but your loss has been felt.
meredith lewis
December 24, 2001
November 30, 2001
Dear Adams Family,
I know that this has been a great loss on all of you. I am truly sorry and know that you are in my prayers. My heart goes out to all of you. I know that this letter can not bring Stephen back but i hope it can bring peace and comfort to your hearts. May God bless you all and watch over you through this tough time.If there is anything i can do please feel free to e-mail me.Take care and God Bless. Our Nation will rise again but the TRUR HEROS will live in our hearts forever.
Love always,
Sarah (age 16)
Sarah Nix
November 14, 2001
My heart is with you. May God give your family strength and surround them with love.
Elizabeth Killen
October 26, 2001
You lived in my building, where I first met your wife Jessica twenty years ago. I was always glad to see your smiling face and remember how much you enjoyed your stint at French Culinary Institute. Your gentle presence was always felt by our fellow residents and I am so sorry that you are gone. I hope that you did not suffer and that your life will continue to be an inspiration to others. I will never forget you.
Della Clason Sperling
October 24, 2001
I'm praying for you, still. Lisa.
Lisa Battee
October 23, 2001
It was with great sadness I saw Stephen Adams name listed as victim of the attack. I attended the French Culinary Institute with Stephen and really appreciated the friendship we developed. Stephen was a gentleman and a gentle man. My thougths are with you Jessica,whom he always spoke dearly about, and the rest of the family.
mikael falkman
October 22, 2001
My name is AJ and I am 8 years old.I saw the name Stephen G. Adams and I was shocked because my uncle's name is Stephen George Adams. I feel sorry for what happened. Love, AJ
Alec Charlip
October 21, 2001
May G-d give the whole family of Stephen Adams the peace and strength to endure each day. May He bring you many dear friends to comfort you and ease your burden. May He lift your sorrow in the months and years ahead.
Cara S.
October 12, 2001
I wish words could help you. Please know that you are in our prayers and find strength. No one will forget.
Leslie Miller
October 9, 2001
Our hearts go out to you & your families. We will never forget the horrible tragedy that has taken the lives of so many. All of the victims & their families will remain in our thoughts forever. The LaFleur Family; Michael, Leah & Zachary
Leah LaFleur
October 8, 2001
Stephen, I hope you did not suffer.
susan schneider
October 8, 2001
I am terribly sorry for your loss.
Dione Sackman
October 6, 2001
Morris dancers both, I saw Steve dance, and danced with him, all too long ago. I see him still, with bells and hanks, stepping and capering with determined joy, making the gloom evaporate.
James Voorhees
October 6, 2001
The days are hazy, the sky seems clouded over. My heart is heavy with sorrow of your loss. I send you my love and payers. If I were there with you I would hold you and try to bring a little confort to you . Know that God is there and he can give a deeper feeling of confort than I could ever. When you feel like you can't go any further know that the world of good people are there for you. LOVE
Donna Johnson
October 4, 2001
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