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April 25, 2012
Erskine & Mary, so sorry to hear of the death of your mother & mother in law, Doris Betts. I've (Brenda) enjoying many Betts' books, & have loved her writing. Sending our deepest sympathy.
Your neighbors,
Brenda & Keith McFarland
Robin Bain Brigman
April 24, 2012
I met Doris Betts as a colleague and friend of my father, Robert Bain. She was the epitome of the "Southern Woman"...elegance, grace, strength, humor and charm... with the voice of an angel. Her absence will be felt greatly for a great time.
Jaki Shelton Green
April 24, 2012
May you rest in peace dear sister...I was a frustrated young wife and mother trying to balance motherhood, writing, and supporting a husband in graduate school when Doris and I met for the first time. Her friendship with my former husband was the sweetest gift for me. Their "people" were from Iredell County was the hook for their many conversations about Southern living. I will forever cherish a lengthy compassionate letter Doris wrote to me after the deaths of my daughter, Imani and Imani's dad, Sherman Shelton Jr., her student and old pal. She shared her own journey about her daughter and the need to travel regularly to SC. I understood. We talked about our daughters then, our fears and our joys. She gave me many sprouts for healing and hope for which I am grateful. I planted those soulful sprouts in my heart for safe keeping. I will continue to hold the Family in love and Light. Peace and Blessings
David Madden
April 24, 2012
To know that Doris, of whom I am very fond and for whom I have enormous respect for her writing, teaching, and pure professionalism,is no longer in this world, that I will never see her again, makes me very sad. She was my first editor, for a story in CORRADI, Women's College of NC, and I have followed her life and work ever since, including a time when I was writer in residence at Chapel Hill and visited her writing class--she arrived in hurry and left in a hurry, doing what she did naturally, bringing order into situations.
Marianne Hansen
April 23, 2012
I never did become a writer - far less a Southern writer - but Doris Betts (to us it was always both names: "Doris Betts") was one of the two most important people in my undergraduate experience. She taught me most of what I do know about writing, and an awful lot about listening, about accepting other people's ability to solve their own problems and puzzles in their own ways, about taking chances, about trying and trying again.
Pamolu Oldham
April 23, 2012
Doris Betts had me visit her once a month. I was a 9th grader, had written a poem about Giacometti and the voice of God for the Methodist church bulletin, and a member thought I needed to meet Doris Betts, who lived across the creek--Sanford,NC, 1964. I was supremely awed and fasinated as she introduced me to language as a sacred trust. She fed me Roethke, O'Connor, Faulkner, Rilke, Warren, etc. We had two of the most amazing lunches in Pittsboro more recently, and even this last fall she emailed the most insightful, layer-by-layer criticism of a short story. She was direct, loving, and so full of grace. I will always love her and have her voice in my ear.
John Cullom
April 23, 2012
Doris was inspiring - honest, kind, and tireless. I have to think there are very few people that knew her that don't feel in her debt. The level of effort she devoted to her students is humbling, as is the grace with which she handled us. She taught by example how to be a better person and writer, and even if I can't live up to her example, I am fortunate beyond my deserving to have it.
Ellen Fussell Policastro
April 23, 2012
After I wrote my Master's thesis about Doris Betts, I eventually met her on the steps of UNC's Memorial Hall after one of her speeches, and she was a delight. She actually asked to read my thesis, and after I sent it to her, she was kind enough to respond with lovely words of encouragement. I continued to correspond with her and seek her out at book signings and other literary events. She was one of the most entertaining and thought-provoking writers not only of the South, but of our time. I respected her immensely.
Suzanne La Mee Bodeen
April 23, 2012
A wonderful and witty writer, a warm and friendly woman who I never had the privilege to meet in person. She will be missed by all who knew her personally, and those of us who knew her through her stories, novels and reputation.
Jim Henninger
April 22, 2012
If not for her friendship and guidance, I don't think I would have survived my freshman year at UNC in 1970.
Suzy Barile
April 22, 2012
Though never her UNC student, I was a student of her writing, and am forever grateful.
John Gavin
April 22, 2012
I knew Doris as the mother to my best friend David, his sister LeuEllyn and Erskine. A great mother, author and a loss to NC. We need more people like her.
Warren Rochelle
April 22, 2012
Doris Betts, 1932-2012, Rest in Peace. She was one of the few special teachers who changed my life and the lives of so many others. She was an amazing writer. She was a truly good human being. She taught me so much about writing and life and goodness. I loved her so much, and I will miss her so very much.
Warren Rochelle
Fredericksburg, VA
UNC '77
Anne Russell
April 22, 2012
Wow. A great role model for women. As some folks say, "She had it going on."
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