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Doris Betts Obituary

Doris Waugh Betts
June 4, 1932 - April 21, 2012
Pittsboro
Doris Waugh Betts, 79, died peacefully at her home, Araby Farm, near Pittsboro, NC on Saturday, April 21st, 2012.
A native of Statesville, NC, she was born June 4th, 1932, the child of William Elmore Waugh and Mary Ellen Freeze Waugh, both parents having predeceased her.
She attended Statesville public schools and enrolled at Women's College, now UNC-G, earning Phi Beta Kappa honors and publishing her first literary work as a sophomore. While still an undergraduate, she married Lowry Matthews Betts of Columbia, SC on July 5, 1952. They soon moved to Chapel Hill where Lowry entered the School of Law. He received his J.D. degree in 1956, and they moved to Sanford, NC for a long and rewarding time together, raising three children. A new chapter began when they moved in stages to Pittsboro: a full professorship blossomed for Doris at UNC, a judgeship for Lowry, and an Arabian horse farm took shape in the woods two miles from the Courthouse. She remained in Pittsboro for the rest of her life, continuing to write fiction and teach. She was an active member of Pittsboro Presbyterian Church where she served as Elder. She retired from UNC in 2000 as Alumni Distinguished Professor of English.
In a long career, it is safe to wager that Doris Betts never wrote an awkward sentence, and it is certain that she never wrote nonsense. She was incapable of writing without grace, originality, and truth. She possessed an additional rare gift of heartfelt empathy for human beings in all their striving, a quality that made her a masterful teacher in adult life. She tempered this compassion with a frank, hard-edged wisdom that reflected her Calvinist roots and won the respect of all who knew her. She rose from humble beginnings to become one of the foremost writers and educators in the South.
As a young woman she won a Guggenheim Fellowship, the Mademoiselle Prize for college fiction, the UNC Putnam Award for her first novel, and three Sir Walter Raleigh Awards for subsequent novels. In 1975, she received the N.C. Medal for Literature, the highest civilian award bestowed by the state of North Carolina. Additional honors include the Distinguished Service Award for Women (Chi Omega), the John Dos Passos Award for literature, Chancellorship of the Fellowship of Southern Writers, a Medal of Merit from the National Academy of Arts and Letters, the North Caroliniana Society Award in 1998, and an Academy Award for the stage play, "Violet," based on her story, "The Ugliest Pilgrim."
She had few equals as a teacher of English and a mentor of young writers. Students crowded her classes at UNC year after year, often camping-out so they could register in time. She received the UNC Tanner Award for distinguished undergraduate teaching in 1973, and was the first recipient of the Katherine Carmichael Teaching Award in 1980. She served as director of the UNC Freshman English program, director of the North Carolina Fellows program, head of the University's undergraduate honors program, and was the first woman ever elected Chairman of the Faculty at the University of North Carolina. In 1998, UNC endowed the Doris Betts Distinguished Professorship in Creative Writing in her honor.
Home and family were precious delights to Doris Betts all of her life. Her husband, Lowry, and her daughter, Doris LewEllyn, predeceased her. Surviving are LewEllyn's husband, Prof. Thomas Alvin Mroz, of Clemson University, SC; her sons David Lowry Betts and his wife, Catherine Johnson Betts, of Pittsboro, NC, Erskine Moore Betts II and his wife, Mary Willcox Betts, of Apex, NC and grandchildren Anna Josephine, of Pittsboro and Matthew Palmer and William Alston, of Apex. Also surviving are her cousin Lynda Robinson Johnson, nephew Jeffrey Freeze and family, and aunt Mary Faye Waugh Reavis and family of Statesville, NC and her cousin Linda Tompkins of Pittsboro. In Columbia, SC, surviving are her sister-in-law, Mrs. Erskine D. Betts (Rowena), nieces Ellen and Mary; and in Fletcher, NC, her niece Rowena as well as their children. In St. Louis, MO, surviving is her brother-in-law, Robert Moore Betts, and his daughter, Katherine.
Services will be held on Wednesday, April 25th at 11:00 am at the Pittsboro Presbyterian Church, led by the Rev. Troy Lesher-Thomas. Arrangements are by Hall-Wynne Funeral Home, Pittsboro, and burial will follow in the churchyard.
The family expresses special gratitude to Thomas Stinchcombe, M.D., and others in the Department of Oncology, UNC Cancer Center, for their excellent care; to the congregation of Pittsboro Presbyterian Church for their unceasing prayers and witness; to Jackie Glasser, R.N. and the staff of UNC Hospice of Pittsboro; and to Doris's trusted nurses, Diana and Onelia Tolentino, Carolyn Patterson, Connie Bray, and Leslie Moore, for providing a peaceful ending at home.
Memorials may be made to UNC Hospice, Box 1077, Pittsboro, NC, 27312, or to the Pittsboro Presbyterian Church, Box 713, Pittsboro, NC 27312.

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Published by The News & Observer on Apr. 22, 2012.

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April 25, 2012

Erskine & Mary, so sorry to hear of the death of your mother & mother in law, Doris Betts. I've (Brenda) enjoying many Betts' books, & have loved her writing. Sending our deepest sympathy.
Your neighbors,
Brenda & Keith McFarland

Robin Bain Brigman

April 24, 2012

I met Doris Betts as a colleague and friend of my father, Robert Bain. She was the epitome of the "Southern Woman"...elegance, grace, strength, humor and charm... with the voice of an angel. Her absence will be felt greatly for a great time.

Jaki Shelton Green

April 24, 2012

May you rest in peace dear sister...I was a frustrated young wife and mother trying to balance motherhood, writing, and supporting a husband in graduate school when Doris and I met for the first time. Her friendship with my former husband was the sweetest gift for me. Their "people" were from Iredell County was the hook for their many conversations about Southern living. I will forever cherish a lengthy compassionate letter Doris wrote to me after the deaths of my daughter, Imani and Imani's dad, Sherman Shelton Jr., her student and old pal. She shared her own journey about her daughter and the need to travel regularly to SC. I understood. We talked about our daughters then, our fears and our joys. She gave me many sprouts for healing and hope for which I am grateful. I planted those soulful sprouts in my heart for safe keeping. I will continue to hold the Family in love and Light. Peace and Blessings

David Madden

April 24, 2012

To know that Doris, of whom I am very fond and for whom I have enormous respect for her writing, teaching, and pure professionalism,is no longer in this world, that I will never see her again, makes me very sad. She was my first editor, for a story in CORRADI, Women's College of NC, and I have followed her life and work ever since, including a time when I was writer in residence at Chapel Hill and visited her writing class--she arrived in hurry and left in a hurry, doing what she did naturally, bringing order into situations.

Marianne Hansen

April 23, 2012

I never did become a writer - far less a Southern writer - but Doris Betts (to us it was always both names: "Doris Betts") was one of the two most important people in my undergraduate experience. She taught me most of what I do know about writing, and an awful lot about listening, about accepting other people's ability to solve their own problems and puzzles in their own ways, about taking chances, about trying and trying again.

Pamolu Oldham

April 23, 2012

Doris Betts had me visit her once a month. I was a 9th grader, had written a poem about Giacometti and the voice of God for the Methodist church bulletin, and a member thought I needed to meet Doris Betts, who lived across the creek--Sanford,NC, 1964. I was supremely awed and fasinated as she introduced me to language as a sacred trust. She fed me Roethke, O'Connor, Faulkner, Rilke, Warren, etc. We had two of the most amazing lunches in Pittsboro more recently, and even this last fall she emailed the most insightful, layer-by-layer criticism of a short story. She was direct, loving, and so full of grace. I will always love her and have her voice in my ear.

John Cullom

April 23, 2012

Doris was inspiring - honest, kind, and tireless. I have to think there are very few people that knew her that don't feel in her debt. The level of effort she devoted to her students is humbling, as is the grace with which she handled us. She taught by example how to be a better person and writer, and even if I can't live up to her example, I am fortunate beyond my deserving to have it.

Ellen Fussell Policastro

April 23, 2012

After I wrote my Master's thesis about Doris Betts, I eventually met her on the steps of UNC's Memorial Hall after one of her speeches, and she was a delight. She actually asked to read my thesis, and after I sent it to her, she was kind enough to respond with lovely words of encouragement. I continued to correspond with her and seek her out at book signings and other literary events. She was one of the most entertaining and thought-provoking writers not only of the South, but of our time. I respected her immensely.

Suzanne La Mee Bodeen

April 23, 2012

A wonderful and witty writer, a warm and friendly woman who I never had the privilege to meet in person. She will be missed by all who knew her personally, and those of us who knew her through her stories, novels and reputation.

Jim Henninger

April 22, 2012

If not for her friendship and guidance, I don't think I would have survived my freshman year at UNC in 1970.

Suzy Barile

April 22, 2012

Though never her UNC student, I was a student of her writing, and am forever grateful.

John Gavin

April 22, 2012

I knew Doris as the mother to my best friend David, his sister LeuEllyn and Erskine. A great mother, author and a loss to NC. We need more people like her.

Warren Rochelle

April 22, 2012

Doris Betts, 1932-2012, Rest in Peace. She was one of the few special teachers who changed my life and the lives of so many others. She was an amazing writer. She was a truly good human being. She taught me so much about writing and life and goodness. I loved her so much, and I will miss her so very much.

Warren Rochelle
Fredericksburg, VA
UNC '77

Anne Russell

April 22, 2012

Wow. A great role model for women. As some folks say, "She had it going on."

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