Jimmy Alfano

July 23, 1955 - October 8, 2016

Raleigh

Jimmy Alfano departed this life unexpectedly in his sleep October 8, 2016, leaving a rich legacy of family, friends and community who will treasure their memories of times together. Ended much too soon, his was a life well-lived, full of love and lasting friendships.

Jimmy was born July 23, 1955 to Theresa (née LaSorsa) Alfano and Gabriel Alfano. Raised in East Meadow, NY, Jimmy established lifelong friendships and developed his skill in the culinary arts, a talent which was further refined at the Culinary Institute of New York. Choosing Raleigh, NC as home, Jimmy became a part of the Angus Barn community, working as chef and colleague with the best in the field for almost 20 years.

A true family man, Jimmy's definition of family encompassed so many. Devoted husband and doting father, he provided for his family's every need while graciously including immediate, extended and chosen family in birthdays and holidays. From seemingly effortless gatherings to his gorgeous garden, Jimmy was so talented. He loved his time designing and nurturing both people and flowers; everyone and everything flourished under his care.

Left to cherish his memory are his wife, Denise, and children, Jessica (and Daniel) Thibault and Elizabeth Alfano. He is also survived by his brothers and sisters-in-law Kathy & Richard Alfano, and Joan & Philip Alfano, his sister Fran Alfano; sisters-in-law and brothers-in-laws, Terry & Matt D'Amico and Barbara Jean & Frank Fiore, and special friends Debbie and Mike Porpora and all of their families, who were also very dear to him. This list does not begin to cover the people touched by Jimmy. So many are devastated by his passing. As his daughter Lizz wrote "We won't ever be able to fill the void that has

been left behind, but I'll always know where to look when I need my dad. He will be in the garden."

A celebration of Jimmy's life will be held on Friday, October 14, 2016 at St. Francis of Assisi RC Church, 11401 Leesville Road, Raleigh, NC 27613. Gathering at 10 a.m. and service at 11 a.m.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to The Jimmy Alfano Scholarship Fund c/o

North Carolina Restaurant & Lodging Association, 6036 Six Forks Road, Raleigh, NC 27609 or The Angus Barn, 9401 Glenwood Ave, Raleigh, NC 27617. Condolences: rfhr.com

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Published by The News and Observer from Oct. 12 to Oct. 13, 2016.

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October 14, 2016

Sincere condolences to the family. Deeply saddened to hear of Jimmy's death. May cherished memories and prayers, both comfort and strengthen you.

Jim Ankeny

October 13, 2016

Forgive me I am not a writer. While I am extended family and I didn't directly know Jimmy very well, I felt I did. I am thankful I was able to experience so much of him with his family, friends and events as that was where he seemed so happy. My sorrow for Denise, his family and friends who he was so instrumental in has been so strangely strong. I sympathize with void they are feeling. I feel his passing as such a similarity to the passing of my wife Marys father Ed Dever at an similarly untimely age. I imagine Jimmy was enjoying and preparing for so many new chapters with Jess and Daniel's new marriage, enjoying the celebrations, spending time with friends and family, enjoying his yard and garden.
One of the first times I got to meet Jimmy was when we had an amazing birthday for my mother Flora at the Angus Barn, his endless care for us was only surpassed by his making sure Daniel had the most incredible doggie bag I could imagine. My kids still insist we return for every celebration! Ribs, Ribs, Ribs!
Whether at cookouts for Lizz, Jessica or whoever's celebration, preparing for Jessica and Daniels wedding, or just any excuse to have a party he was so amazing to be around. The most amazing wedding I have ever attended(my own withstanding) was Jessica and Daniels with Jimmy and Denise at their best he was in his absolute element. I am without words.
Some of my favorite recollections are from the recollections of others. While hanging out with Melissa, Skip or Daniel more often than not a reminiscence of some time with Jimmy would come up describing the food, the company, the companionship or care he had provided. Often we would talk about some type of project and I would hear Jimmy has a guy this phrase became almost mythical and for me will forever remind me of him. His continuous influence in his family, friends and community.

So many leave us much too early make sure to enjoy your Jimmy's( and Ed's)

October 13, 2016

My deepest condolences to the Alfano family. I didn't have the honor of knowing Mr. Alfano personally, but I know Jess, and she would light up every time she spoke about him. My heart goes out to you and your family Jess.

DV

Estela Estrada

October 13, 2016

Sweet Jessica, I am so sorry for your incredible loss. I have felt your pain first hand. Know that you are loved by your Cat family. Sending you and your family much love and strength during this difficult time.

j b

October 13, 2016

Rest in peace chef.

October 13, 2016

Extending condolences to the Alfano family. May your hearts be comforted by love and kindness of God who feel your pain. ( Isaiah 66:33)
JB

October 13, 2016

So sorry for your loss. Jesus wept after the death of his friend Lazarus. We weep along with you. John 11:35

October 13, 2016

How very pained we are for the loss of Jimmy Alfano and we know he adored you, dear family and know of your undying love for him. Psalms 51:17; 62:11,12.

O C

October 12, 2016

I am so sorry to read of your loved one's death. May you hold on to the fond memories and and draw comfort from knowing that God cares for you. 1 Peter 5:6,7.

Jennie Tylec

October 12, 2016

Dear Jessica, I am so very sorry for your loss. I never met your father but I remember you speaking of him fondly on many occasions. I am sure you will be surrounded by family and friends during this difficult time - please also know your Caterpillar family is thinking of you. Sending comforting thoughts, prayers and strength to all who loved Jimmy.

T G

October 12, 2016

My heartfelt sympathies go out to the family and friends during this difficult time. I hope that the promise in 1 Thessalonians 4:14 can bring comfort. Knowing that there is a hope for the ones we have lost in death can be so assuring.

October 12, 2016

My sincere condolences to the family. May you find comfort from the words at Psalm 116:15

Julie Brown

October 12, 2016

Jimmy Alfano was a good man. He was a customer of mine at da Vinci's Pasta for many years. He was funny, creative and above all he loved his family. When he came in to our shop he talked about his wife and children. He also loved working at The Barn and his Barn family. It was an honor to know him and he will be missed by so many.

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