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ALISA SWIDLER Obituary

SWIDLER--Alisa Feinstein Born June 1, 1972 - Died September 13, 2019. Beloved wife of Joshua Swidler, loving mother of Nathan, Asher, Rosie, Ava and Lily, cherished daughter of Bob and Paula Ertel Feinstein, admired sister of Jonathan Feinstein. Accomplished philanthropist. Beacon of light and joy! Your unforgettable passion and life force impacted multitudes during your sadly shortened life. "A light that bright cannot possibly be extinguished". Board member: Charlize Theron Africa Outreach Project; Zioness; Democratic Majority for Israel among other philanthropies. No gifts or flowers please. The family is arranging a charitable cause to be announced.

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Published by New York Times on Sep. 17, 2019.

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Ahlya Rafique Fateh

September 11, 2021

Thinking of you beautiful girl.... Miss your warmth and friendship. Sending love to Josh and the children, Ahlya xx

Ike A

October 21, 2020

A true force of nature, I met Alisa after my cousin attended a charity event she had hosted. They started talking about health in Africa, he mentioned he had a Nigerian cousin, a public health physician and she insisted he introduce us. She followed up by firing off an email to my cousin that very night or first thing the next morning and only a few days after, we were having coffee in a cafe near my office in Marylebone. Full of life and energy, her glamour could.very easily lead the casual observer to miss her very canny and shrewd perspectives and insights. Several more meetings followed- her generosity and warmth and energy were unique. Was sad to stumble across this- my deepest condolences to her family who meant so much to her

Old friend

June 8, 2020

Alisa and I lifeguarded at the same day camp swimming pool before college started. She was so kind and bright; we had many great conversations. As I expected, she has gained even more friends since then as well as a beautiful family. I wish you healing and hope during this difficult time.

Leke Adebayo

November 9, 2019

ALISA was an extraordinary human being.

That word is nearly always overused in social discourse but from the very first moments I met her - in July 2009 - I immediately realized I was in the presence of an individual that was truly remarkable. What she saw in me is still unclear but, like all the greatest people, she had this ability to inspire others to appeal to the better angels of their natures.

In more prosaic terms and, put simply: you never wanted to let her down. Not because of profit or gain but simply because we were always swept up in her utter humanity, her passion and her enthusiasm for others: the haves and the have nots, those fortunate and those not so lucky together with the powerful as well as the dispossessed amongst our fellow humans.

We worked on so many projects together - whether in the UK or abroad...whether about Africa or otherwise - and, on each occasion, I could never detect any preference or favoritism of issue. She applied her ineffable energies and her benevolent outreach as equally to (say) the Walkabout Foundation as she did to helping 'The Beautiful Game'.

Alisa - you were a friend, a guide, a mentor, a sounding board and a shining inspiration.

Your legacy will undoubtedly live on, not only through the projects that you made your life's work but by way of your family's everlasting love and the remembrance (through perpetuity) of your friends and wider network.

Josh, Nate, Ash, Rosie, Ava and Lily - I am profoundly sorry for your loss.

I wish you a long life.

Nina Blackwell

October 15, 2019

Alisa was such a warm and welcoming person - she will be deeply missed.

Marcie Rodrigues

October 15, 2019

What such sad news!! Remembering the good ole days in England and what a wonderful hostess and Josh, u as a Host were! She will be greatly missed and our hearts and prayers are with You,
Fondly, Marcie and Bill Rodrigues

Syvia Dhenin

October 5, 2019

Oh My God. I just found out about this horrible, awful news. She was such a life force and so important in so many ways to me and all who knew her. I am so sorry. If there is anything I can do from here let me know. All my love Syvia

Shari Fox

September 25, 2019

We are so deeply sorry to hear about the passing of Alisa. Thinking of your family during this most difficult time.
The Fox Family

Ahlya Fateh

September 23, 2019

My lovely Alisa I wish I had met you earlier so I could have known you for longer... you were such a dear friend to me and all the wonderful friends I have met through you... my deepest condolences to Josh and the children...your five heartbeats

Christina Searle

September 21, 2019

I wish I had known you just a little. I am so very sorry to hear this sad and shocking news. Your neighbour from The Great Park who also had a sudden loss. Thinking of you all. Sending you courage.

Judith Lulow

September 19, 2019

Deepest sympathies to the family.

Judie & Bill Lulow

Alan Schantz

September 19, 2019

I only knew you for a short period of time but you were a gift from god and your memory will last forever.
My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
I hope that you are resting in peace knowing that your legacy with continue forever.

Mary & Nick Thurlow

September 19, 2019

Our sincere condolences and deepest sympathy

Melissa Coe Whennell

September 18, 2019

Dearest Ava and Lily,
Miss Coe is sending you her biggest, warmest hugs.

Vincenza Gelardi

September 17, 2019

Josh, Nate, Ash, Rosie, Ava and Lily, very sorry for your loss.

Chris and Emily Adelsbach

September 17, 2019

Josh and family. We are absolutely heartbroken for your loss.

All our love,

Julia Ohare

September 17, 2019

Deepest sympathies to Josh, Nate, Asher, Rosie, Ava and lily. Our thoughts and love are with you all

Nackvi's

September 17, 2019

Our deepest condolences

September 17, 2019

So sad and sorry about your passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.
The Christopher-Ohrt's (Lambrook)

Patricia Martin

September 17, 2019

Josh, Nate, Asher, Rosie, Ava and Lily,
There are simply no words to express our sadness for your unimaginable loss. Alisa was God's special gift to this world. So blessed to have spent time with her. Sending prayers and love. The Martin Family.

Alisa on the riverbank watching her son row.

GILLIAN Shakespeare

September 17, 2019

She lit up the world. We are heartbroken for a beautiful family

Sarah Warley

September 17, 2019

Dear Alisa,
Our children have grown up together from the youngest age and we are all so devastated by your passing. All our love and thoughts are with your family. You lived with an energy and purpose that was nothing short of remarkable. It was as though you knew you only had a limited time to make the biggest difference to so many lives. You are a light and an inspiration to us all and I know that your lovely children will continue to carry the torch for you. RIP. The Warleys

Patricia Martin

September 16, 2019

XXO. RIP. Will never forget your smile.

Patricia Martin

September 16, 2019

Josh, Nate, Ash, Rosie, Ava and Lily,

Words cannot express my sadness for your loss. If this world could have a measure of her kindness, compassion, strength and love for humanity, we could achieve God's purpose. #lightsobrightwillneverstopshining
Love, Patricia, Paul, Bryce and Gabrielle Martin

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