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JOSEPH COTTER Obituary

COTTER--Joseph William. 66, of Purdys, New York, and New York City passed away Friday, October 25, 2024 unexpectedly from a heart attack. Joe was the beloved and proud father of Lydia ("Liddy") and William ("W"), the partner of Jane Carroll, and former husband of Lydia Biddle. The son of Diane Cotter Liesching and the late Joseph P. Cotter, Joe was born June 8, 1958 in New York City and raised in Astoria, Queens and Crestwood, NY. He attended Annunciation School in Crestwood, the Hackley School in Tarrytown, King's College, Taunton in Somerset UK, Pembroke College at the University of Oxford, and Williams College, MA, where he received a degree in Political Economics. Joe went on to earn his MBA from the Stern School of Business at New York University. Joe was the President National Resources, which he founded in 1988 with his business partner, Lynne Ward. National Resources is a specialist real estate development and investment firm that focuses on the redevelopment of urban and industrial sites. Innovation was Joe's hallmark and central to National Resources' success in developing real estate that transforms people and the environment in order to enhance the lives of residents and community members. Joe saw things other people didn't, and that's how he approached business, and life. Joe adored spending time with his family and extended family--whether in Purdys, watching sports including his beloved Yankees, or times walking on the beach. Joe's other passion was reimagining the world - and the projects that could bring his vision to life. He travelled extensively just to look at architecture and innovations of any kind, discovering nooks and crannies wherever he went. Joe was an accomplished athlete and leader in his youth, and that is where he learned to see life as a team sport. At Hackley, he was captain of the basketball and baseball teams. He was recruited by King's College, Taunton as an athletic scholar and joined their Rugby team. He contributed spectacularly to the team, which earned him the right to become an All-England Rugby Player for his class, unheard of for a novice American player. During his time at Pembroke College in Oxford, he received his "blues" for basketball. With his father and several family members in the NYPD, and his brother Billy serving as a government advisor to the US Treasury, Joe had a deep respect for all those that serve communities and this country. Joe was the eternal optimist, with a sparkle in his eye; he always lit up the rooms and brought groups of people together. He was a futurist with a global point of view. He had a keen intellect, always dreaming and envisioning a way to level up, or help someone pursue their dreams. He had a prolifically quick wit and an uncanny ability to relate and engage with people. His ability to connect knew no bounds, from the construction workers on his projects to executives and colleagues in the finance community, to academics at Oxford. He truly had a gift in bringing smiles to everyone he met and never outgrew the urge to create a little mischief, recognizing the uniting and energizing power of laughter. We loved him for it. Along with his children, Liddy and William and William's fiance Clarissa Cena Wallin, Joe is survived by his partner, Jane Carroll, his former wife, Lydia Biddle; his mother, Diane Cotter Liesching; brother, William T. Cotter, sister Dianne and her husband Bill Ledingham; niece Dr. Lauren Ledingham and her husband James Whittle; niece Christine ("Christie") Ledingham and her fiance, Stephen Skubina; and nephew Will Ledingham. He was predeceased by his father, Joseph P. Cotter, and his stepfather, Richard Liesching. Joe was a patriarch, and a larger-than life individual. He will leave a void in our world as we have lost a powerful force, and one who showed us that having fun and meaning with all those you journey with IS the destination. A private funeral service and burial will be held by the family. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made in Joe's memory to the Joseph W. Cotter NYPD Emerald Society Foundation. https://www paypal.com/paypalme/ NYPDEmeraldSociety A memorial celebration of Joe's life will also be held in the near future where all are welcomed. Details to follow.

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Published by New York Times on Oct. 31, 2024.

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John Oehler

February 6, 2025

I am very sorry to hear of Joe's passing. He was a great mentor and friend. I worked for him for a number of years and really benefitted personally and professionally from his guidance and thoughtfulness.
We developed some really unique buildings that benefitted and changed the communities in a really meaningful way.
The world is a much better place with you having been in it. I will fondly remember our time together.
My condolences to the family.

Lauren

February 5, 2025

Joe was such an uplifting, joyful presence at Williams. He made everyone he encountered feel like gold. And, of course, we all loved that little bit of mischievousness that followed him everywhere. He will be sorely missed by so many in the class of 1981.

Marie Ferguson

November 28, 2024

Occasionally, I would run into Joe in DeCicco and he was usually so pleasant. I´m sorry to hear about his passing.

Condolence to the family!!

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Karen Malm

November 4, 2024

Joe was such a part of the Hackley community and will be missed at our reunions. He always showed up with a big smile on his face and plenty of laughs. He has made such a huge impact in Westchester with his development projects and will leave his legacy in his many building projects and developed communities. Life is short - get out and live it!

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Elyse Damsky Lenskold

November 3, 2024

Remember Joe fondly always for his kindness that continued for my mom when we lost his dad.

Mike Sartain

November 3, 2024

When Joe arrive at Kings Taunton , he brought a blast of energy and adventure. Playing rugby he taught me how to throw a rugby ball "american" style, and team tactics that lead to winning the house basket ball competition. One long weekend he came with my brother, Rex, and I to stay with my Aunt in her Tudour timber cottage on the outskirts of London. We took Joe to see the sights of London. Buckingham Palace, Trafagar Square, ending up taking our photo (besides a very large policeman) on the steps of No 10 Downing Street. Every time I see no 10 on the TV, I say to my family .. "I was there with Rex and this great guy called Joe Cotter.!! He will be greatly missed, and our thoughts go to all his family. We've all lost another "good-un" From Mike Sartain - Meynell House Kings Taunton.

ADL

November 1, 2024

Joe was a visionary and mensch. He created thousands of jobs, and made the Hudson Valley a better place for the next generation. May his memory be a blessing. I will miss him.

Frank Cooney

October 31, 2024

My Condolences and Prayers to the Cotter family and all those who knew & loved Joe.

Tim Brooks

October 31, 2024

Sincere condolences.

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