FEDER--Judith D. Beautiful and beloved wife of her devoted husband, Tapani Talo, adoring mother of Eliel and Eero, cherished daughter of Bob and Marge, loving sister to Susan, Ben, Jessica and Abigail, doting aunt of Sam, Basia, Brent, Danya, Seth, Zachariah and the late Maximillian, wonderful friend. Judy was a brilliant scholar (summa cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa, Princeton '78), talented singer and musician, linguist, and valued manager of the New York office of Brodeur International. Initially diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer in 2001, she fought an unceasing battle (never in remission), unwilling to cede an iota to the disease. Her own long struggle and experiences led her to conceive Patient Wisdom, a forthcoming product for the next generation of online patient communities. Her meditations on simple joys over the past nine years inspired all who knew her. Funeral Sunday 1pm. Bet Am Shalom Synagogue, 295 Soundview Ave, White Plains. Contributions may be made to the Princeton University Class of 1978 Foundation, 102 Tanglewood Lane, Newtown Square, PA 19073.

Published by New York Times on Apr. 24, 2010.
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Although I knew that Judy was very ill and in hospice, I was deeply saddened to hear of her death.

Judy and I were virtual friends and colleagues for 4 years. We met briefly at a conference in Washington DC where we both presented on online support groups. She stayed in touch with me on this shared interest and encouraged me to continue my research in this area even though funding was hard to find. Amazingly, she invested her time and energy in trying to get funding to start a project of online support for people with chronic diseases. As part of that project, we conducted a survey and later collaborated in writing a paper and producing 2 conference presentations Second conference presentation was the Medicine 2.0 conference last summer when she was beginning the final decline. She attended the conference despite being quite ill.

Although we had numerous phone conversations, I regret that we met in person only three times. But always, I was impressed with and moved by her generousity, vision and dedication to helping empower patients and caregivers using Internet support and information resources.

She was a remarkable being and an inspiration. She will be will be missed.

I hold you, Tapani, Eliel, Eero and the rest of your family in the Light as you traverse these dark times.

Andrea Meier
Andrea Meier
May 2, 2010
I just found out about Judy. I am so very sorry!!! I communicated via email with her for some years and have admired her since we'd met online some years ago.

I was already supporting a dear friend with bc mets for about 4-5 years by then and she's already in heaven 4 years.

I still come to the bcmets board since I have become somewhat of a local resource and still support and do BC awareness work. I also still have many whom I know with this blasted disease.

I hope and pray for your healing, dear Judy's family! May you know peace now, in your hearts.

Judy will be missed by many but she will never truly be gone since she has touched and helped so many! Judy is a hero, as are all battling this beast.

May God bless you all and hold you close in your grief.

Jeannie P.
Jeannie P
April 29, 2010
I knew Judith online as part of a metastatic breast cancer group since she joined in 2005, and she was always a voice of wisdom and inspiration. I'm so sorry she is gone.
Jane Sterett
April 29, 2010
Thank You all so much for Remembering and your beautiful comments,
Tapani Talo, Husband
Tapani Talo
April 27, 2010
Judy was admired by whole extended music community while at Princeton, not only for her incredible musicality, but also as the epitome of beauty and grace. She touched many more people than she ever knew.
Joan Hartman
April 26, 2010
I am very saddened to hear about Judy. We were actresses together at WMAC (double-cast in Dark of the Moon), sang together in the Westchester Philharmonic Choral Society and competed for the part of Luisa in The Fantasticks (she won!). Many happy memories. Judy will always have a place in my heart. Amy Syd Israeloff Babcock (Westford, MA)
April 26, 2010
Judy was a support and inspiration to so many women living with metastatic breast cancer. She became a hotline volunteer in 2008 for SHARE, Self-Help for Women with Breast or Ovarian Cancer. She was a lovely woman and so helpful to our callers who spoke with her. Our thanks and deepest sympathy to her family.
Ilene Winkler
April 26, 2010
I am so saddened to learn of Judy's death. I met Judy while we worked at Brodeur. She was so talented, competent, smart and impressive. It was a joy working with her. My deepest sympathy to her family.
Amos Kermisch
April 26, 2010
I feel lucky to have had the opportunity to know Judy. She was an incredible person made stronger by those around her. She will be long remembered for the thoughtful emails she wrote at a time when most of us would have shunned the world.

To Tapani, Eliel and Eero, my heart and prayers are with you as well as to Susan, Ben, Jessica, Abby, Bob and Marge.

Her spirit will live on in all of us who continue the struggle against this dread disease.
Mark Harkins
April 26, 2010
I am sorry for your loss. I knew Judy at Highlands Jr. H.S. We were in many classes together and I remember how talented and gifted she was. She excelled in everything. She was a kind and caring friend and class mate. My sympathy to her family.
Denise Sacks
April 25, 2010
I was very sorry to learn of Judy's death, though not surprised, sadly, and send my condolences to her family, friends and colleagues. I knew Judy through her involvement with a mailing list called BCMETS, www.bcmets.org for women with metastatic breast cancer and their families. She first joined our online community in October 2005, and was always a loyal, thoughtful and supportive voice for better treatments for herself, and for other women. She will be sorely missed by many of us, and long remembered.
Musa Mayer
April 25, 2010
I knew Judy many years ago when we were girls at SAAC (Science and Arts Camp) in Port Ewen, NY. Judy always impressed me with her smiling face and her happy demeanor. She was a terrific singer. After hearing her star as The Girl in "The Fantasticks," the off Broadway show couldn't hold a candle to her. We hadn't been in touch for at least 40 years but when I read of her death I was immeasurably saddened. My condolences to her family and friends. RIP Judy, blithe spirit.
Celeste Leibowitz
April 25, 2010
To Judy's family:
I am so sorry to hear this news. I had met Judy at several meetings and been in periodic e-mail contact with her (what witty, precise messages!), and I'll miss her very much. I'm sorry I won't be able to attend her funeral and hope you will accept my condolences from cyberspace.

Trudy Balch
April 24, 2010
Dear Marge and Robert. I am very sorry to learn of your loss. I am sure that Judith was a wonderful daughter, mother, sister, friend, musician and will be missed by many. Fondly, Beth Fass
Beth Fass
April 24, 2010
My love to all of you who will be at Sunday's Service for Jude. I am there in spirit. She was a gift of the gods to us. We are so lucky to have had her in our lives.
Anne Wilson
April 24, 2010
RIP Judy. You were a terrific woman. I always admired your strength and grace. My condolences to your family -- who you loved so dearly and fought so hard to be with.
Christina Rae
April 24, 2010
I am so, so, so sorry to learn that Judith passed away. My heart goes out to the whole extended family.
Ellen Kirschner
April 24, 2010
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