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Julia Lorillard Wampage Pell

Julia Pell Obituary

PELL-Julia Lorillard Wampage of Middletown, Rhode Island, died of lung cancer on April 13, 2006, at Newport Hospital surrounded by her loving family. She was born in Washington, D.C. on May 9, 1953. She is survived by her life-partner, Julie Smith, her step-daughter, Elise McCaffrey, her parents, former Senator and Mrs. Claiborne Pell, her brother and sister-in-law, Toby and Janet Pell, and her sister, Dallas Pell. She is also survived by her nephews, Nicholas Pell, Clay Pell, and Eames Yates, Jr., and her nieces, Tripler Pell and Christina Randall. Educated at the Potomac and Madeira Schools in Virginia and graduated from Montesano, Gstaad, Switzerland, she received her Bachelor of Arts from the University of Rhode Island. She served on the boards of the Newport Art Museum, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, and the Potter League for Animals. She was President of the Board and the lobbyist for the Rhode Island Alliance for Lesbian and Gay Civil Rights, and a founding member of Equity Action, a Field of Interest Fund at the Rhode Island Foundation. Julie was a civil rights advocate and passionate about improving the lives of the disenfranchised, the oppressed, and those less-fortunate. Her father, former Senator Pell spoke out on the Senate floor about his daughter Julie, a lesbian. He said he now had a more profound understanding of the discrimination she faced. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the ACLU Foundation of Rhode Island, 128 Dorrance St., Providence, R.I. 02903; Visiting Nurse Service of Newport and Bristol County, 1184 E. Main Rd., P.O. Box 690, Portsmouth, R.I. 02871; and Equity Action Fund at RIF, One Union Station, Providence, R.I. 02903. A memorial service will be held at 45 Ledge Rd., Newport, R.I. on Wednesday, April 19 at 11 AM. Condolences, information and directions available at www.memorialfuneral home.com

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Published by New York Times on Apr. 15, 2006.

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Matt and Peter Drunemeton

April 18, 2006

We wish the Pell family comfort and healing at this time and thank Julia and her father for their courage and work as James Baldwin said in these "yet to be United States" for greater respect and honoring in law for the simplicity and healing Power of LOVE.

Sara Fishman

April 17, 2006

It is unfortunate that Karin and I did not have the privilage of meeting this wonderful, vibrant woman. Clearly, active in her attempts to progress her cause... and the passion of her feelings. Our loss has been felt by the people we love and care so much about. May our hearfelt sympathy reach the family and friends of this most magnificent woman.



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deborah grabler

April 17, 2006

The following is the last letter I sent to Julie-unfortunately, it arrived too late.



My dear friend Julie,

From our first meeting at Michael Shays last spring, over salmon and broccoli, after your Key West winter with our mutual friend, Candace, I knew we would be friends.

Our time together has been too short

A sampling of what would have been.

I know we would have continued playing competitive ping pong and hearts, and I would have continued helping you learn how to lose

more graciously. We would have ridden our bikes for miles, and shared laughter, insight and carefree afternoons watching our dogs, surrounded by the beauty and tranquility of a place we both love.

I am losing you to a medical journey

Of chemicals, compounds and pain,

to a disease, unrelenting and unkind

But you are always in my heart and prayers.

I find comfort knowing you are in capable, loving hands.

Until we meet again.

candace nagle

April 17, 2006

julie was one cool cat. i had the good fortune of being her cottage mate for three months the winter of 2005. i loved hanging out with her. julie was easygoing, puckish and kind. toward the end of our time together, i told her i thought we would be lifelong friends. little did i know that our time as friends

would be so short. julie will always have a sweet spot in my heart.

Carol Morrisey

April 17, 2006

Roger and I met Julie in early 2005 and grew very fond of her in the all too brief months of our growing friendship. She was warm, witty, gracious, generous and sincere. We feel such a deep sense of emptiness now that she is gone, and yet there is a place in our hearts where Julie will always live and continue teaching us how to care and how to share.

teri weidner

April 16, 2006

Julie was a star who rose to prominence in the gay community, a comet who

blazed new paths, a meteor on this life plane touching many lives, and now her essence is universal. We will miss her love and power and presence among us.

We'll watch for her twinkling in the heavens. Teri Weidner

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