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Kyoko Selden Obituary

Kyoko Iriye Selden, scholar and translator, died in Ithaca, NY on January 20. She had an eye for beauty and depth, and approached language and learning simultaneously with rigor and humor and in a spirit of collaboration.

She was born in Tokyo on October 2, 1936, to a journalist father who reported from Paris and Shanghai, and a mother who briefly taught English at Toyo Eiwa, a Catholic girls' school. Kyoko studied with the calligrapher Kamijo Shinzan, attended Seikei High School and wrote a thesis on Wordsworth at Tokyo University. 1959 she crossed the Pacific by boat, and then the U.S. by train, and arrived at Yale to study English Literature on a Fulbright. During her years at home with children she grew tomatoes and peas, cut out a shadow puppet theater, painted a watercolor dragon on an upstairs wall, sewed for her daughters matching coats lined in crimson velvet, translated the works of music educator Shin'ichi Suzuki late into the night, and sight-read concerto transcriptions to accompany her children; on car trips she diagrammed light refracting. Then as throughout her life, she practiced calligraphy, painting, and music, wrote poetry and journals. At Cornell University she prepared new material every semester over twenty-five years of teaching, and retired only when her panoramic office view of Lake Cayuga was blocked by a new building. She selected works to translate that were linguistically rich and touched upon major historical and social issues. She wrote a comic sestina for her New York grandson, and taught her Portland grandchildren to sprout avocado pits. She broiled whole salmon to perfection for her friends and students, and her aspidistra always bloomed. At home she and her husband Mark Selden sat at desks placed by adjacent picture windows; sometimes they exchanged handwritten or e-notes, and then each would laugh quietly. They worked together over decades, especially closely in the last years.

Besides Mark she leaves behind her children, Lili, Ken, and Yumi Selden, and her grandchildren, Tetsu and Asuka Lakner and Kaia and Mathis Selden, as well as her brother Akira Iriye.

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Published by New York Times from Feb. 14 to Feb. 15, 2013.

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Matt Sarrel

November 18, 2021

I am very sorry to learn of the passing of this great person, teacher and friend. I was discussing something at work that reminded me of Selden san and I googled her to find her poems. I feel fortunate that I was given the gift of studying under her. That was 29 years ago and I remember her kindness, gentleness and inquisitiveness like it was yesterday.

Miho Attygalle

March 10, 2014

I was not aware of Selden san's passing till today. I was reading an article and Mark Selden was mentioned and I came to know. When I was teaching at CU, she was my mentor. Thank you for your guidance . I will always remember your smile.

nobuko misugi

July 28, 2013

I was deeply grieved to learn of the
sudden passing of Kyoko.I send my love
and deepest sympathy to you and your
family.

Mark Selden Ph.D. chair for Linda Gail Arrigo 1996

Linda Gail Arrigo

March 3, 2013

As Mark Selden's student at SUNY Binghamton Sociology, 1983-85 and 1991-96, I occasionally visited their house and knew that Mark was deeply affected, with the assistance of Kyoko, by the Japanese spirit of teachers taking personal concern for the welfare of students. Kyoko seemed always to quietly help others, very Japanese traditional it seemed to me. An aesthetic of simple beauty, music, and nature. And many times my son, then only 13 rather than 43 as now, ran around the Seldens' basement playing with Lily and Ken.

Mark is very lucky to have had such a quiet and strong companion for so long, and although he is left alone now he must be thankful Kyoko did not suffer and passed quickly after a long life.

Yayoi Koizumi

February 17, 2013

Thank you for the lyricism. I was her student and I miss her very much.

Steven Nardi

February 16, 2013

What an amazing life story! I'm so sorry for your loss Yumi.

Jenny Chan

February 16, 2013

Teacher Kyoko will be missed and remembered by Chinese rural migrant workers (nongmingong) for her translated labor song. In solidarity, peace and love!

Beng Choo Lim

February 16, 2013

I will always remember Kyoko Sensei's smiles and cute sense of humor. And thanks to her excellent translation works, she will always be with us.

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