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Mary Frances Dunham Obituary

1932 - 2021
Mary Frances Dunham of New York City, NY died on Monday (October 11, 2021) at home where she lived with her daughter's family. She was 89 and had lived with Parkinson's disease since 2006.



She was born March 26, 1932 in Summit, NJ. She graduated from the Brearley school in 1950 and from Radcliffe College in 1954. Her first job was teaching ancient Greek and Latin at Brearley. In 1958 she obtained a master's degree in education from Harvard. That same year she married architect, Daniel C. Dunham whom she met in 1951 at the summer Fontainebleau program where she studied composition with Nadia Boulanger. She and her husband spent their first year together in London before moving to East Pakistan (now Bangladesh) in 1960 where they lived for nearly a decade. She learned Bengali, wrote the first guidebook for foreigners in Dhaka, and began her studies of Jarigan folk music with the poet Jasimuddin. In 1972 she completed an M.A. in Indic Studies from Columbia University. In 1979 she was an editor on Ravi Shankar's Learning Indian Music textbook. In 1997 she published Jarigan: Muslim Epic Songs of Bangladesh. In 1999 she worked with renowned poet Ahmed Sofa to translate Tales of Flowers, Trees and Birds. In 2013 she was honored by the president of Bangladesh in recognition of her contribution to the 1971 war of liberation by raising awareness in the U.S. Congress.



As a pioneering bike advocate, Mary Frances was one of the first members of Transportation Alternatives when they were founded in New York in the 1970s. She led their bike education program, worked on The Bicycle Blueprint and published more than 100 interviews, articles and letters to the editor in newspapers around the world in support of biking. She always traveled with her fold-up bike whether living in big cities like Shanghai and Barcelona or traveling to small villages such as Tikal or Lijiang. In 2006 she moved to Shanghai with her daughter, Katherine's family and lived there until 2013. Since moving back to New York City in 2013, she was an active member of the LiLY Morningside Village French Circle.



Her early childhood was spent in France where she became fluent in French. Her love of languages continued throughout her life. In addition to Bengali and French she studied ancient Greek, Latin, Sanskrit and Arabic. In Bangladesh she taught the doctors from the Cholera Lab the Bengali they would need for their surveys in the villages. She also helped establish the first Alliance Française in Dhaka during the 1960s.



She is survived by her daughter, Katherine Dunham, her son-in-law Steve Sweeting, her two grandsons Nicholas and Xano and her brother Christopher Raphael. To honor her memory, contributions can be made in her name to these bike organizations:

TRANSPORTATION ALTERNATIVES: 111 John Street, Suite 260, New York, NY 10038, phone: (212) 629-8080, email: [email protected]">[email protected]">[email protected]">[email protected]

BIKE NEW YORK: 140 E. 45th Street, Suite 2002 New York, NY 10017, phone: (212) 682-2340, email

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by New York Times from Oct. 16 to Oct. 17, 2021.

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Wang Ping

October 12, 2024

Dear Yaya,
We´re missing you and, still remembered we were together years ago in Beijing. We very much appreciate the helping from your family.

Wang Ping

Zhengyang Echo Yue

October 10, 2024

Dear Yaya, I finally got to revisit New York City this year. The moment I walked into your building, I thought about you, as if running into your grocery run to Westside Market. May you rest in peace. You are remembered. Echo

Zhengyang Echo Yue

October 10, 2023

Dear Yaya, another year, still missing you. Time does fly and I still keep all the memory with you. All the best, Echo.

Zhengyang Echo Yue

October 12, 2022

Still remembering you Yaya, a lot. Can't believe it has been a year. It still feels like yesterday that I got back from school, and running into you in the building. All the best, Echo.

Rafiq Hussain

April 3, 2022

I missed attaching the link to a National NewsPaper
"The Daily Star".
https://www.thedailystar.net/views/in-focus/news/mary-frances-dunham-memoriam-2905086

Rafiq Hussain

April 3, 2022

Dear Kate,
I just came across of knowing your Mom's passing away she had a wonderful Life and immense contributions to humanity in such vast ways across Continents and Languages -May she rest in Peace. You and family are blessed to have had this passionate Lady as your Mom. I am from Bdesh residing in California and am very familiar with Dhaka in the 60's and familiar with all that I just read thru..
Wish you all well and good health.

Rafiq

Gail Minault

October 29, 2021

Dear Kate and family. I am so sorry to hear of Mary Frances' passing. I last saw her in Shanghai, when I visited there with a choral group. She was already suffering from Parkinsons, but we had a lovely evening of reminiscences.

I first met Mary Frances and Dan when I arrived in Dacca/Dhaka, then East Pakistan, as a very junior Foreign Service officer in 1963. I found out that there was this extraordinary couple in town, he was an architect, and she had brought her harpsichord along and had organized a weekly Baroque music group, including my colleague, the press officer, on flute, and a couple from the Cholera Research Lab, on recorders. Would I be interested in providing the continuo, since I played the cello? Well, yes of course, except that I hadn't brought my cello with me! But I met with the group at Dan and Mary Frances' house, and decided that I just had to figure out a way to join in. So I flew to Calcutta, rented a cello from a music shop, neglected to tell them that I was taking it to Pakistan, and brought it back to Dacca in the seat next to me on the plane. For the next year or so, we met every week and played Telemann, Bach, and other Baroque worthies, with our impromptu combo. I returned the cello to Calcutta before I left Dhaka in August of 1964.

I eventually left the Foreign Service and went to grad school in South Asian Studies at Penn, and when I was back in India doing PhD research, my husband (who was working for CARE) and I visited Dan and Mary Frances in Calcutta.
Our friendship endured over the years, as we stayed in touch with Christmas cards, but alas, not many visits. The lore of our joint experiences in Dhaka endured as an undying bond. I recently had a sense that I had not heard from Mary Frances for some time, and I wondered how she was. I know she is now at peace and I miss her inspiring presence. She was an extraordinary person, with a quiet manner and a will of steel. With fond wishes, Gail

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Zhengyang Echo Yue

October 25, 2021

Dear Yaya, I miss you a lot after I travel back to China, and I still miss you today. My New York days would not be the same without your gratitude, kindness and all your smiles. You and your family gave me a home away from home. I always wish I spent more time with you and had known you even more and I still regret that today. I would treasure every bit of our interaction and time spent together: delicious meals together, board games we played, family concerts, thanksgiving dinners...You will always be remembered. Dear Kate, Steve, Nick and Yaya, I am sorry for your loss.

Robin Patton

October 25, 2021

I came to know Mary Frances when I was a student at Brearley and best buddies with Kate (Kathy!). Mrs. Dunham was so much fun and always involved in interesting activities and exposing me to new people. I'll always remember her for the spaghetti dinners she prepared and her bicycle. She was such a warm and friendly person with a golden spirit of service - I remember her as always helping people. She will be missed!! With deepest sympathy, Robin Murray-Gill Patton (Brearley '82).

Wang Ping

October 24, 2021

I'm so sorry to get the news from Kate, and the momorial days I enjoyed with you are already clear in my mind, forever.

Jessie Nelson

October 19, 2021

Dear Kate, Steve, Xano and Nick,
I´m so sorry for the loss of the incredibly kind, gentle and brilliant powerhouse, our Yaya. She was an inspiring force and impossible to forget. I was honored to know her and love her with you!
Big hugs, Jessie

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