1962 - 2017
CONNOLLY--Paul Matthew,

of San Francisco, CA, passed away peacefully on March 29, 2017, after a brief illness, surrounded by his loving family and friends. He was 54. Paul is survived by his partner Chas Nol of San Francisco, CA, and his lifelong friend Dana Blackburn of Heath, MA, as well as his brothers Jerry Connolly and wife Diane of West Linn, OR, Brian Connolly and wife Melissa of Sherborn, MA, and Mark Connolly and wife Victoria Ward of Panama City, Panama. He was a beloved uncle to Sean, Ethan, Nico, Alex, Isabella, Sydney and Ronan. Paul was born in Cambridge, MA, on May 1, 1962, to Joseph and Ann Connolly and grew up in Belmont, MA, and Northfield, IL. A Harvard University graduate with honors, he also received a Master's degree from the Yale School of Management. Paul was a national leader in nonprofit management and philanthropy, and most recently was Director of Philanthropic Advisory Services at Bessemer Trust. He was previously Chief Client Services Officer at TCC Group. He published books and numerous articles on philanthropy and nonprofit management and spoke frequently at national and international conferences. Paul served as Chairman of the Board of the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts and a director of the Nathaniel Wharton Foundation. He was a member of the San Francisco Advisory Committee of the Foundation Center, an advisory committee for the Headlands Center for the Arts, and the Program Committee for Horizons Foundation. He was active in gay men's spiritual communities. Paul was a talented ceramicist and sculptor and an adventurer, traveling the world with friends and family, curating unique and extraordinary experiences for them. He challenged everyone to embrace and express unbridled joy. Paul's compassion and humor will be sorely missed. Donations in his memory can be made to Horizons Foundation and Peaked Hill Trust. Visit for memorial events and guestbook.

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I just heard of Paul's passing today...he will be sorely missed by many, including so many of us in the nonprofit and philanthropic world. He was an amazing talent and, even more so, an amazing spirit. I will keep you, his loved ones, in my thoughts and prayers.
Don Crocker
June 22, 2017
He will continue to inspire those who knew him, and may his spirit continue to lift and extend his vision and mission and work to its ultimate expression, for the benefit of all.
John L. German
May 2, 2017
Dear Paul, you'll be very missed
What an impact you've had on so many people and so many organizations
Rest in peace my friend
Thomas Rio
April 26, 2017
Keeping all of Paul's family and friends in my thoughts. His energy and talent will be missed.
Maggie Osborn
Maggie Osborn
April 19, 2017
I will miss you always, Paul. Your wit and kindness were special and important to me. My deepest condolences to Paul's loved ones.
Dana Willis
April 15, 2017
So sorry - and unbelieving - to read of Paul's death. He was one of the most enthusiastic people I knew. He loved his family, his friends and his beautiful ceramics! Myra in NYC
April 14, 2017
So unexpected Chas. Very sorry for your loss and we send our regrets to his family. Paul was a generous man with a beautiful smile. He had warm personality that we witnessed during the summers we got to know you both on the back shore dunes of Provincetown. Peace be with you Paul.
Peter Clemons
April 12, 2017
Dear Chas, family and friends, May Paul's passing remind us of the tremendous love that is available to us in each moment. Tenderly,
kaleo kaluhiwa
April 11, 2017
My condolences to Paul's partner, family, and friends. Paul inspired me and pushed me to think. His writing formed the basis for a semester-long course I taught at NYU, and he was generous with his time as a guest speaker for the class. I was honored that he joined the Advisory Council for my organization, Fund the People, just last year. I recruited him because I loved his balanced approach, I respected his intelligence, and I was drawn to his warmth and irreverent humor. Although I knew him only as a colleague and not as a close friend, I am still in shock that he is gone. He is already missed by many, many, many people.
Rusty Stahl
April 11, 2017
My heartfelt condolences to all of Paul's family, friends, classmates and colleagues. He was a delight, with charm and humility in equal measures. I hope to be able to connect with many of you at the memorial service next month.
Anne Marie Connell (Harvard '84, Yale SOM '90)
Anne Marie Connell
April 11, 2017
The Horizons Foundation has been more than generous over the years to provide annual funding that allows the California Art Education Association to award a student scholarship in honor of Juan Marquez. We sincerely appreciate their continued support of visual arts in California and Paul's contributions to such a worthwhile organization.
The California Art Education Association
April 10, 2017
I worked with Paul when he was at TCG Group and I was at The Robin Hood Foundation. He was such an early thought leader on nonprofit management and a kind , thoughtful person. I'm so sorry for your loss. Lisa Smith
April 10, 2017
Our sincere condolences to the family and friends of Ms. Connolly. Draw close to God in prayer in your time of grief as he promises to stay close to you. Romans 12:12
Penny J
April 8, 2017
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My deepest sympathy and condolences to the family during this time of grief. Psalms 55 : 22.
April 8, 2017
Rest in peace, Paul. The world is a better place for having had you in it, and the nonprofit sector benefited greatly from your passion and commitment. xo
Carolyn Cavicchio
April 7, 2017
It is with deep sadness that I heard about Paul's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with Chas and Paul's family. This without question was a loss to soon.
Peter Perlman
April 7, 2017
I'm so sorry for your loss, God is always there to listen to us especially in a time of need, confide in him and he will help - 1 John 5:14.
April 7, 2017
My heart is with you.
Rani Cohen
April 7, 2017
Sending my love to Chas, Dana, Stuart, John, Michael, Dianne and all who knew Paul. To know him was to love him. A great bright light has left this world. xo N
ND Kates
April 7, 2017
So saddened to hear of Paul's passing--he was the best of the next generation of nonprofit leaders.
David LaGreca
April 6, 2017
Paul was always a sparkling personality and a loyal, supportive friend. The world is a bit grayer without him in it. With deepest sympathy, Mary Trudel
April 6, 2017
Rest in peace, Paul. You have left us, but we will not forget you. You touched so many so deeply, and through your work you had an impact on many more who never even knew you. What you created in your life will continue for years to come. We in your Heart Circle hold Chas, Dana, your family and friends with tenderness and love, as you would have wished. Goodbye, my friend.
Fred Fishman
April 6, 2017
I like to think that Paul is somewhere new, catching up with old friends and loved ones and delighting new acquaintances with his charm and wit! Much love to Chas, Paul's family and all who loved him so dearly.
Arnna Egan
April 6, 2017
Sincerely thinking of you.
Rod - Marcelo Harrington. - Maarcelo
April 5, 2017
Paul brought a big heart and great joy to every occasion. His delight in life was contagious, and his humor and insight elevated every experience I shared with him. He will be sorely missed, but so fondly remembered. My deepest condolences to Chas and all of Paul's family and loved ones.
Tony Coray
April 5, 2017
I am sorry to hear about the loss, my dear Chas. I met Paul only once shortly. And I was touched by his life force and joy that he expressed in interaction with others. I feel touched and sad. I imagine a large community of friends and family being with each other in grief, trust and surrender. I stand with you. Sending love...
Johnny / Pirouette Schoofs
April 5, 2017
A heartbreaking loss to the many interconnected communities Paul touched with his magic. To Chas, Dana, his family and many friends our hearts go out to you. Where we gather together we will remember you, Paul. Robin and Crow
Robert Birch
April 5, 2017
So sorry.
Gordon Haber
April 5, 2017
Condolences to Chas and Paul's family. Paul gave a giant amount of life energy and was so generous in many communities. His intelligence and talents will be sorely missed. His early passing is painful for all of us who knew him. With love and heart.
Terry Cavanagh
April 5, 2017
Paul was a great man and it's a very tragic loss, especially at such a young age. Sincere condolences to his friends and family. WB, SOM 91
William Barnes
April 5, 2017
Even though we were "only" Breitenbush friends, you were a wonderful friend, indeed. The smaller and larger community will both miss you. Much love to Chas, your friends, and your family.
Barry Schoenfeld
April 5, 2017
Dear Chas,
Very sad situation for you.
I hope that you are surrounded by loving friends, and loving memories.
In solidarity.
Solus +
April 5, 2017
My deepest condolences to Chas who loves Paul ever so much and also to to Paul's friends and relatives.
Ruven Hannah
April 5, 2017
I would like to extend my sincerest condolences. A SOM classmate that will be missed and who departed from this world way too soon.
Dwight Beach
April 5, 2017
Paul was a great man and a mensch. A remarkable human being who fully shared with his community in so many ways. He lived life fully and graciously. I'm thankful for his gifts.
Chamelean (NCRF)
Alan Goodin
April 5, 2017
My deepest condolences, Chas. Thinking of you and sending lots of love. Germen "Tulip" Terpstra
April 5, 2017
Very sorry to hear this sad news. Paul was unfailingly kind and disarmingly witty. He will be missed by many of us in his SOM class of 1991. - Rabia de Lande Long
April 5, 2017
I extend my heartfelt condolences to Chas, Paul's family and his wide network of friends and colleagues. We have lost an extraordinary person far too soon.

JHW, New York
April 5, 2017
Paul was a wonderful colleague and friend to all of us who had the privilege of working with him in the SF Office of Bessemer Trust. We will miss him dearly. Our deepest sympathy and support go out to Chas and Paul's family during this time of loss. With Sympathy, Your friends on the Bessemer Trust SF Team.
Bessemer Trust SF Team
April 5, 2017
Please accept my heartfelt condolences for your loss of Paul. Losing a love one is one of the most difficult things to cope with. But, we have help. God invite us to throw our burden and anxieties on him.(Psalms 55:22) May God be with you doing this difficult time.
April 5, 2017
Rest in peace, Paul.
We love you and you are forever in our hearts--as your heart was as big as the world.
Love, Dianne, Steve and Charlotte
April 5, 2017
I am so sorry for the family's loss. May you find comfort through prayer and God's loving promise found at John 6:40.
April 4, 2017
I express my sincere condolences. May God give you Peace, Comfort, and Courage to face the days ahead & Loving Memories to forever hold in your Heart. Psalms 29:11
Ms. G.
April 4, 2017
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