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BLY--Robert. The American Academy of Arts and Letters notes with sorrow the death of a poet deeply connected to nature who fearlessly spoke out against war and examined our ideas of masculinity.

Published by New York Times on Dec. 4, 2021.
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To the family, many, many friends and colleagues of this nice man Mr. Robert Bly fine comfort with you during this difficult time in your lives. We will missed Mr. Robert Bly's presence and his many contributions to his community. Robert Bly was a poet and writer best known for his 1990 book "Iron John: A Book About Men." May the love and the special memory you shared and cherish with him show just how much your life was touched by him. May you find comfort in your wealth of fond memories together with Mr. Robert Bly. May the God of comfort bless your grieving hearts with strength, loving kindness and peace as the world copes with the loss of Mr. Robert Bly. He will be greatly missed, but not forgotten.
January 17, 2022
With sympathy to the family of Robert Bly. May God comfort your sad hearts at this time of sorrow.
November 28, 2021
My condolences.
November 26, 2021
Thanks for being you Robert and sharing your journey!
Glen Michael
November 26, 2021
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
November 24, 2021
Did not know if him....but glad to have discovered his works! Will cherish them!
November 24, 2021
Iron John a fairy tale? That is very light. The story, and Bly’s book, touch the very bedrock of human experience.
In 1993, I dreamed the story of an old man emerging from the rock at the bottom of a lake. It was frightening as dreams can be. Most of the elements of this 5000 year old story of the wild man, or rust man, were in my dream. Iron John, who I had never heard of, appeared in my dreams periodically over the following decade.
Once I told the dream to a Jungian Analyst while in therapy. Typical of an Jungian, (which Bly associated with but did not refer himself as), my Analyst simply asked me if I had read Bly’s book. I said I hadn’t.

About three months later, I saw the book at the bookstore and bought a the copy. The “fairy tale” and my dream were amazingly similar. I can assure you my mother never read this story to me and would have thought it unchristian. It is also a complex story, nothing that would interest a child.

Robert Bly’s writings about the disconnect between fathers and sons played out tragically in my life. The grief men in our culture carry with them, which Bly encouraged to share with each other in the 1990’s men movement, is very real. It’s a harsh reality.

I met Robert Bly at a conference at Pacifica around 2009. That night I dreamed I saw him in the library, and he said, “Follow me.”
My life is inexplicably intertwined with the story of Iron John. Robert Bly touched my soul with his book. I just wanted his family to know.
Robert Speers
November 24, 2021
My condolences to the Bly Family and relatives! Roselle Jacobson is my mother who has also passed away.
Paul Schulz
November 23, 2021
Scott Chamberland
November 23, 2021
THANK YOU, ROBERT, For: Wild Men !
Jon Pochop
November 23, 2021
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
November 23, 2021
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