TODRES--Sidney. Gigantic heart, quick wit, generous, loyal, perpetually optimistic. A true mentor and patriarch. Sid died at home surrounded by his wife of 62 years, Bunny, and his two children, Debbie and Mark, on January 21, 2021. He was 88 years old. The son of Polish immigrants, Sid was born in 1932 and grew up in Lakewood, NJ where he lived above the family's chicken coop business. Sid was the first in his family to attend college and he made the most of it graduating Phi Beta Kappa and magna cum laude from Tufts in 1954. He went on to graduate from Harvard Law School in 1957 where he majored in commas, and semi-colons; and supported himself at the expense of his poker buddies. Sid remained close with many of his fraternity brothers from Tufts and friends from Harvard. During his last year at Harvard, he met Bunny Meadow, winning her over on their first date in spite of making her push his car when it wouldn't start. Apparently, that clinched it for him! They married in 1958 and settled in Scarsdale, NY where they raised their children. Sid worked hard as a corporate lawyer, but always made time for his kids, coaching Mark's championship basketball teams in the early 1970s. During this time, he was diagnosed with what would be the first of his major health challenges, aplastic anemia. When told that he had a 90% chance of dying, he retorted that that meant he had a 10% chance of living. He required regular blood transfusions, which he would schedule for Friday nights after work. Sick and often weak, he nevertheless never missed coaching a game on Saturday mornings. Proving the odds-makers wrong, live on he did! Great friends in Scarsdale, incredible success as a business lawyer, family vacations to the Caribbean, international travel with the International Lawyers' Network, dining at amazing restaurants both domestically and abroad, and six grandchildren were his passions over the succeeding half-century. He loved the ocean and would spend hours snorkeling. Everyone who has spent time with Sid knows of his well-tuned internal divining rod that would point him to ice cream on any continent. Sid was proof positive that one can live well into their 80s on an ice cream diet. His colleagues at Epstein Becker have missed his afternoon pretzel and ice cream deliveries. While many grandparents believe their grandchildren are the smartest, kindest and best looking, Sid knew it for a fact. He suffered from Parkinson's disease for the last 22 years, and, as a result, broke too many bones to even count. Yet, whenever asked how he was feeling, his reply was, "pretty good." He never lost his will, courage or good humor, inspiring all of us. Sid is survived by his wife, Bunny, his daughter, Debbie Todres, his son and daughter-in-law, Mark and Benay Todzo, his grandchildren Quinn, Miles and Blake Todzo and Vanessa, Ally and Melanie Freifeld, as well as his nieces and nephews and their children. The family appreciates the outpouring of love and support from Sid's many friends and family and our hearts go out to the hundreds of thousands of other families who lost loved ones due to the pandemic. There will be a Zoom Memorial on January 31, 2021. For information, contact: [email protected] gmail.com
Published by New York Times on Jan. 24, 2021.