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TOM La FARGE Obituary

La FARGE--Tom. 73, died at home on October 22, 2020 after a long struggle with cancer. A former president of the Harvard Lampoon, he took a Ph.D in Renaissance Literature at Princeton and went on publish six novels and a collection of stories while teaching English to a generation of students at the St. Hilda's and Hugh's School and the Horace Mann School. Tom's novel The Crimson Bears/A Hundred Doors was translated into German and published in a series that contained only three other authors: JRR Tolkien, Mervyn Peake and Peter S. Beagle. With his wife, Wendy Walker, he founded the Writhing Society, a salon devoted to exploring diverse writing practices, and Proteotypes, a press associated with the Brooklyn gallery Proteus Gowanus. In the last years of his life he worked tirelessly to save a community garden from deed thieves; the Maple Street Community Garden will soon become a branch of the city parks. Besides Wendy Walker, Tom leaves a son, Paul La Farge. When circumstances permit, a memorial will be held in Brooklyn.

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Published by New York Times on Jan. 22, 2021.

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Simone Taylor

January 24, 2021

Please except my deepest sympathies, May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

Aran Nulty

January 22, 2021

Dr. LaFarge was a teacher who touched my daughter's soul (Aran Nulty, HM '98). If there's a memorial, she would be deeply grateful to be there.

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