Vivienne K Bender
1929 - 2021
Bender, Vivienne K. (nee Katz) born August 26, 1929, passed away peacefully in New York, age 92, on September 8th. She was predeceased in January by her beloved husband of 71 years Jerry. Her devoted son Martin (Jacki Tutelman-Bender) and cherished daughter Lisa (Gregory Mc Cue) were by her side. She is survived by her adored four grandchildren, Carly Hayes (Chris), Jamie Bender Parker (Clayton), Zoe and Brandon Mc Cue. Vivienne was the beloved sister of Carolyn Goldsmith and the late Rosalind Ballen. She also leaves behind her brother-in-law Jules (Rebecca) and her many loved nieces, Mindy Prosperi (Robert), Cindy Phillips (Jimmy) and nephews Marc Goldsmith (Linda), Elliot Ballen (Janet), Steven Elkind, Chris Bender (Kristi), Michael Bender (SuChin), and many great nieces and nephews.

Vivienne Katz was born in Brooklyn, New York. After attending The Shulamith School for Girls of Brooklyn, she attended New York University and Montclair State University. She began her career in Hebrew musical education at Temple B'nai Abraham in Newark, New Jersey under the leadership of Rabbi Joachim Prinz. Directing the Hebrew school choir, she recorded two albums of Jewish holiday music, "Children Sing the Seder" and "Children Sing on Hanukah." As a second career, she attended graduate school and became a therapist. She maintained a practice in Manhattan for almost 40 years, greatly loved and respected by her patients.

Vivienne was a gifted pianist with "perfect pitch," comfortable playing anything from The Beatles to Simon & Garfunkel or Chopin, Mozart, and Bach. In 1945, for her 16th birthday, her parents gave her a Steinway grand piano which followed her from each place of residence for the remainder of her life and now remains in her daughter Lisa's home. She loved an audience, to hold court, alternating between storytelling and firing questions at her admirers. She had a zest for life, the energy to travel the world and loyalty and love of family. Her affection, kindness, and emotional support will be greatly missed. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in her memory to The Juilliard School.
Published by New York Times from Sep. 15 to Sep. 16, 2021.
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My most sincere condolences to the Bender family. Vivienne was a warm, loving and insightful woman who changed and enriched my life in many ways. Feeling a hollow spot in my heart with this news.
Madlyn Dickens
October 7, 2021
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