Matthew Tyler Gay

1982 - 2022

Matthew Tyler Gay
Matthew Tyler Gay—affectionally known as "Matt Gay", 39, of Sanford, was called home to heaven by our merciful, heavenly Father on January 6th, 2022 due to complications after a brief illness. Upon arrival, Matt was lovingly greeted and embraced with a long hug by his earthly father and best friend, Kyle, who went to be with Jesus in April of 2020.
Matt was born to Kyle and Betty (Crower) Gay in Midland, Michigan on February 8th, 1982. He is survived by his devoted and beloved mother, Betty; sister and brother-in-love, Jessica (Gay) and David Lyon (of Colorado) and their three children Blaine, Hannah, and Severan. Matt leaves behind a large family—aunts, uncles, and cousins—and an even larger group of friends who became family and are too numerous to name, though Matt would have liked to have each of you recognized because of how much you meant to him. Matt worked at Meijer for over 20 years, serving and connecting with the community. In his spare time, his second home—Lost Lake Woods Club—served as a place of respite for him where he drove his latest (and greatest) UTV and made the rounds, connecting with anyone who wanted to talk.
Matt was differently abled from birth and became accustomed to doctors, therapists, and special school experiences. Some doctors suggested that Matt would not be very successful in life, but our mighty God and his loving family and friends believed differently and Matt became a thoughtful, contributing member of society who excelled in human-kindness! He was a loving, generous neighbor to all and despite the challenges he faced, his greatest asset was being child-like. Jesus said, "So anyone who becomes as humble as this little child is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven." (Mt. 18:4) Matt was naturally inquisitive and deeply curious about life, other people's lives, and faith in Christ. He asked a lot of questions, listened intently, and humbly admitted when he didn't understand something. He was imperfect, like the rest of us, but he approached life with wide, wondering eyes and with an open heart that was admirable to all. Matt's questions have now been answered in perfection.
While Matt had many gifts most will remember him as a talented artist. He painted, crafted, sketched and built the most unique and beautiful masterpieces. His art was shocking, and humorous at times, but always incredible and evoked emotion in the people whom he gifted it to. He would spend hours and hours and hours drawing, coloring, painting, and making pottery. Matt's creative capacity defied description and he seemed most free when he was using his hands and his heart to create something beautiful. He is now in a place filled with magnificent color and boundless beauty. We could hear him say, "NO WAY!" as he sauntered into heaven handing out high-fives and Matt Gay hugs.
Matt noticed people in a way that most don't —regardless of their appearance, age, race, position, or status. He was honest and direct in his communication, and he cared deeply—especially for those in need. A compassionate and committed friend, Matt remembered details about people's lives, and he knew their stories. Matt appreciated a good story more than anyone. He would retell the stories that impressed him most and he especially valued those that included humor, adventure, or fast and expensive cars! Matt is now surrounded by saints—new friends—whom he will undoubtedly laugh and converse with for eternity.
Finally, Matt loved life and he lived it BIG. Oftentimes, the world could not see or experience life in the same way Matt did. He was unapologetically different while at the same time he wanted, more than anything, what we all want—to be deeply known and loved unconditionally. Matt had the gift of gab and he loved to laugh! And what a laugh he had! It was huge and loud and fun and we will miss his larger-than-life personality. Matt now knows a love that exceeds all expectations. His desire to be seen, heard, and deeply loved is fulfilled in Christ and for that we give thanks to God.
There will be a Celebration of Life for Matt at Midland Evangelical Free Church on Saturday, February 12th at 12:00 noon. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to Creative 360 or Midland's Open Door.