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Joseph Elmer Obituary

Joseph Lee Elmer Jr. passed away on January 18, 2022, at the age of 91 in his hometown of Norfolk, Virginia. He lived a long and fruitful life as a devoted husband, a father, a grandfather, and a great grandfather. Joe worked as a mechanic for Piedmont Aviation for forty years and served in the US Navy Ready Reserves for 30 years. He received the Charles Taylor Master Mechanic Award from the Federal Aviation Administration for lifetime achievements as a senior mechanic. He was an active deacon and trustee at Virginia Heights Baptist Church and was a member of the Lake Taylor Civic League. After retiring, he continued to serve the community through his church and he volunteered with World Changers, a team of experienced construction supervisors who worked with young people on week-long construction/mission projects. Joe was part of a Baptist sponsored team that repaired roofs in Florida following Hurricane Andrew. He traveled to New York shortly after 9/11 to prepare buildings for habitation. Most notably, as a "retired" mechanic, Joe was always available to friends, neighbors, and family for home repairs or a quick tune-up. Joe met Jane Brown, the love of his life, at Maury High School in 1945 and they were married in 1952. Together, they had three daughters, Elizabeth (Betsy), Rose Ann, and Janet Patricia (Patty). Joe loved the holidays with his family, especially the food. His very special Christmas Eve tradition was to take the entire family out to eat Chinese food, a custom started by his father. During the dinner, Joe would regale everyone with the many puns he would store away for the occasion. Joe's favorite getaway was his cottage in Surry County on the James River where he loved to pilot his boat and pull his daughters on water skis. It was also a place where he enjoyed many Thanksgiving dinners with his family and close relatives. Joe also liked model trains, traveling, and collecting mechanical Christmas toys. Joe is survived by Jane, his wife of 70 years. He is also survived by daughter Elizabeth Baine, her husband Parker, and grandchildren Parker III and Emily Baine. Daughter Rose Ann Arnaud, grandchildren Joseph Harder and Thomas Harder, his wife Liz, and their children Caretta and Ridley also survive him. In addition, he is survived by daughter Patty Wilburn, her husband Robert, and their children Rob and Elizabeth Ann. A memorial service will be held at a later date. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.smithandwilliamskempsville.com for the Elmer family.

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Published by The Virginian-Pilot on Jan. 30, 2022.

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hauke d powers

February 6, 2022

To the entire Elmer family....The only way I know of Joseph Elmer is through his wonderful daughter Betsy...Just knowing her SHOWS me and everyone around what a wonderful father and role model he was to his family...May God's love and comfort blanket the family in this time of sadness...Bless them all...

Virginia Printing

February 4, 2022

Our condolences to the entire Elmer family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time.
We did not know Joe as well as others. We only spoke about twice a month sometimes for a minute or two, other times longer. Over the years the time added up and we always looked forward to seeing him.
It's hard to find men like Joe these days. Hard worker, married 70 years, family man and faith it God.
Every month, Joe would come in and leave with a box. We would always ask "Joe, let me carry that box for you". Every month Joe would reply "I got it".
The last time we saw Joe was in December. The last words we exchanged, I said " Joe, I will see you next year" and he replied "God willing".
Joe, we will all miss seeing you. Rest in peace my friend.

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