Wadin, Alyce L
Alyce L. Wadin 91, of Vestal NY died very peacefully August 8 2017 ending a 4 day stay at Bridgewater Nursing Home. She was predeceased by her parents Harold & Florence Moore & by her loving husband of 62 years Keith. She is survived by her daughter Gail Wadin & Tom Conlon of Johnson City, NY. Her son Edward Wadin & Mikio of Niagara Falls & her Golden pleasure Flowie. Her 2 grandsons Aaron & Sheryl Wadin, Adam & Crystal Wadin and their 6 great grandkids all from Rio Rancho NM. Survived by Debbie Wadin & Ken Shields of Deposit NY. Her sister Phyllis and Stan of St Louis MO, her baby brother Rod & Sharon Moore of Vestal/Ithaca NY, several nieces nephews, cousins and by Laura the" muffin" lady who was a true dear friend for many years.
Alyce graduated from UE high school & married Keith Wadin 8/21/48 .They joined First Presbyterian church of Johnson City & were life long members. They both had a very strong commitment to our Lord and lived their lives serving & sharing their faith with others. Mom was the first to visit shut ins, the sick and was quick to greet the newcomers at church to make them feel welcome. She served as a Deacon & organized several events, spent countless steps in the kitchen preparing meals for the homeless & flood victims. My mother had several part time jobs thru the years but family always came first. My parents were always at our life events, band trips, concerts and traveled thru snow storms to make holidays a family event. They loved to square dance, travel & spend time together at antique car shows. Mom would set up at the flea markets allowing her to socialize & mingle with the public. She was a lady with a deep sustaining faith & did not hesitate to share that faith with others. She would always say, no experience in life is ever good or bad. All experiences are 'memorable' So turn your bad days to memorable ones. She loved to quilt. She made countless quilts giving them away to friends & family keeping a list to make sure she did not leave anyone out. My parents spent 18 winters in Florida which allowed her to have another audience of friends and family. Mom lived fearlessly and was always ready to" go". At 75 she learned how to golf & celebrated her 80th birthday by riding a horse. Mom was not known for sitting idle. She was known for being on the go, baking,( her famous cream puffs) organizing events, entertaining, playing cards or just walking up to complete strangers wanting to strike up a conversation by saying Hi I am Alyce with a' Y', how are you today. Mom always wanted everyone to feel loved & included in any & all events. My parents had a great life and lived sharing their love & joy with everyone.
From the day Dad died 9 yrs ago part of mom also died. They never spent a night apart in 62 yrs of marriage, she missed him deeply. As many elderly do, she felt like a burden, hated being alone & did not want to interfere with my life. However her dementia was progressing, she fell causing her to have 3 back surgeries. One year after Dads passing she moved in with Tom and I. Eventually her care became overwhelming leaving me no option other than to retire early. Being an RN I was familiar with home care & the challenges the medical field offers. However I wanted to keep her with us for as long as possible to protect her from the pitfalls that elder care institutions offer. Trying to find reliable, caring, capable and trusting help is difficult. Having no family near bye to help with moms continued care, after 7 yrs I finally placed her in Hilltop nursing home. Hilltop is known for being expensive and supposedly one of the best in the area. I thought I was educated as to the process of how nursing homes function & was promised as a good faith mission once at Hilltop her care would be progressive allowing mom to pass thru their levels of care as she needed. However on Monday 8/1/17 mom fell was sent to be evaluated in the local ER at UHS. She had no fractures but needed to be at a higher level of care. After being at Hilltop, private pay for 21 months they refused to take her back to Hilltop stating their was "no bed available". Maybe their was no bed available but how does one prove that .Mom consequently was admitted & went to 2 different floors before arriving at Bridgewater on August 5th. Each floor had different environment, different staff every 8 hrs. & to mom with her advanced dementia this journey was very stressful. Being familiar or thought I was familiar with the system, what I tried to prevent happening to my mother over the past 8 years happened. Being unable to return to Hilltop she was up for bid to the local nursing homes, Bridgewater was the only bid. I had a very difficult time agreeing to this move however I relied on my faith & truly believe that when one door closes, another opens, hoping to make this very desperate experience more positive. Bridgewater nursing staff was truly genuine in their care & compassion. Thank you to their staff. I stayed by moms bed side 24/7 the last 8 days of her life. It was difficult yet very rewarding. It has made my mission in life to support our elderly even more passionately. The elderly are confused, hard of hearing & are typically ignored & left alone to die when hospitalized. We must fight together to stop this. The elderly should not be left alone to die and be ignored. So in lieu of flowers lets salute the elderly. Everyone who reads this, please pass it along & everyone do a good deed. Relieve a care taker for a few hours, sit with someone alone in the hospital, help run their errands.. Start remembering the elderly & include their needs in our daily routine. Because as a baby boomer our days are coming. Unless you want to be ignored & left alone in your passing years, you must start helping to make a change today. Mom I miss you, I love you & know you are reunited with Dad dancing and singing in the choir. Your death was purposeful, your ideals & memories will be passed on for years to come. The family will be gathering at her brothers cottage 9-03-17. celebrating her life, remembering, sharing stories and tears will be of joy .Alyce lived her life to the fullest and we celebrate her life and rejoice with her in her heavenly home coming. Cremation services provided by the Hopler & Eschbach Funeral Home. Please sign Alyce's guestbook at www.HEFUNERALHOME.com
Published by Press & Sun-Bulletin on Aug. 20, 2017.