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Jennifer Lynne Stark

4/24/1970 - 2/27/2023

Jennifer Lynne Stark obituary, 4/24/1970-2/27/2023, Meriden, CT

Jennifer Stark Obituary

Jennifer Lynne Stark ("Jen"), 52 years old, of Meriden, CT, came into the world April 24th, 1970 to her adoring parents and left the world surrounded by family on February 27, 2023 at 1:07 pm. She was a precious first born daughter to her parents. She leaves her loving, caring mother and best friend, "Mom," Janet Hatch of Meriden and her loving, devoted, supportive father, "Dad," Darrell "Butch" Stark and her caring, supportive stepmother Dolores Latina of Rocky Hill. Her parents were dedicated to Jen's well-being and support throughout her life, including during her adult battles with Sjogren's disease and associated complications, past lymphoma and chemotherapy-induced MDS diagnosed in late 2021 leading to acute myeloid leukemia (AML). Jennifer fought hard until the end through chemotherapies, a bone marrow stem cell transplant, targeted therapy, and related complications.

Jen was an amazing, inspiring example of love, gentleness, thoughtfulness, kindness, strength and courage, without complaining. The loss of Jen is a shared one by all who knew and loved her. She will be greatly missed by all her friends and family. Along with her proud parents, she also leaves behind her middle sister, Amy Beth Courchesne, who was honored and blessed to be her trusted protector, advocate, and caregiver, and Amy's husband, Shawn, Jen's supportive and loving brother-in-law; her adoring youngest sister, Cynthia "Cindy" Carrier and her husband, Marc, along with their children and grandchildren, Jen's beloved nieces and nephews: Isaiah (and his wife, Judy, with their children, Jimmy and Cynthia), Jonah (and his wife, Christina), Rebekah, Deborah, Hannah, Micah, Jubilee, Enoch, Gideon, Marc Jr., and Joanna. The three sisters had a very special bond and so many wonderful shared memories. Jen was a supportive big sister and friend to both and they affectionately called each other "Sister."

She leaves behind her special "Uncle Dave" David Gregorski and other loving and supportive aunts and uncles: Edward and Darlene Dion (Aunt Dar and Uncle Ed), Ronald and Judy Gilbert (Aunt Judy and Uncle Ron), and beloved first cousins Eddie Dion, Chris Dion (and his wife LeQuyen, and their daughters Sarah and Julia), Stephanie Palmer (and children Stephon and Trinity), Michael Gilbert (and his wife, Lisa, and children Sean and Bryan), James "Pete" Gilbert (and his wife, Kenda), Nancy Vogan (and her husband, John), and cousin by choice, Deanna Gagnon. She leaves many loved, extended family members locally, as well as her West Coast family. She is predeceased by her beloved and adoring grandparents: maternal grandparents, Frank and Sophie Gregorski (Gram and Grandpa), and her paternal grandparents, Darrell and Julia Stark (Mim and Pop), alongside whom she will be laid to rest.

Jen also leaves behind her stepbrothers and stepsister and their families: Joey and Michele Latina and their son (Nicholas); Anthony and his wife, Maria, and their children (Anthony Jr. and Dominique); Cori and her husband, John Tatro, and children (Nathan, Summer, and Luke), several beloved, long-time, special friends from elementary school and college, including her 6th grade teacher, Mrs. Grace Lyons, and family friend Deepika Reddy; friends from her church, Unitarian Universalist Church in Meriden, and the communities in which she lived; several close neighbors at her most recent residence who were devoted friends and "cheerleaders" and dedicated staff who worked hard to protect Jen's health and safety; and a special friend Carmel Latta.

Jen was raised in East Hartford, CT. She was a scholar by nature and loved reading from a young age. She had many scholastic honors and achievements. Her teachers adored her. She was a graduate of East Hartford High School in 1988, followed by a hard-earned, dual Bachelor of Arts degree in Biology and Psychology from Wesleyan University in 1992, and her Ph.D. in Neuroscience from Ohio State University in 2001. Twenty years after she published her research, her papers are still being cited as significant findings in the areas of stress biology and neuroscience research. She truly was a major contributor to her lab and the scientific community. She conducted research studies to support ongoing clinical trials for ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) for several years at her first full-time job prior to graduate school at Regeneron Pharmaceuticals, Inc. in Tarrytown, NY, and conducted MS-related research during her postdoctoral work at Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis, MO where she became a huge Cardinals fan. Jen's work there directly led to a treatment for MS patients.



Jen's last career was as the Director of Research Training Programs for the National MS Society in NY. She was looked up to as an accomplished scientist and role model who provided wise career guidance and used what she learned to increase her already-abundant empathy for and commitment to people living with MS. As Dr. Jennifer Stark, Ph.D. she made an incredible contribution to society and grieved the loss of being able to do so further in her occupational field when her health declined.

She enjoyed being a member of a book club led by her friend, Liz Hall, who was her yoga instructor and who had an integral role in helping her become established in her Meriden community after she moved back to Connecticut from Rye, NY in 2018. Jen was grateful for Liz and her friendship after having to leave behind her life in NY. Jen volunteered at the Friends of the Meriden Public Library. She had a generous heart which included making fleece blankets for Soul Ryeders when she was in Rye, NY and doing more random acts of kindness than we'll ever know.

Jen enjoyed spending time watching St. Louis Cardinals games with Mom ("Go Cards!"), and spending time with her 11-year-old cats, babies Buddy and Dora, who she was grieved to leave behind. She was a lover of animals and rescued many cats in her lifetime, and had beloved, special past pet cats she rescued: Benedict (Ben), her first baby boy, Maia, Pumpkin, and Vee. She missed Ben to the end. Jen had a love and appreciation for her life and in adulthood also celebrated her half-birthday each year. She loved National Parks and travel. She got to see the Grand Canyon after her battle with lymphoma with a smile nearly as big. Jen and Amy went on many special sister trips together and hoped for more. She immensely enjoyed her flower garden and garden at the grounds of her Meriden residence, inspired by and lovingly started alongside her Uncle Dave.

Jen said during her recent battle that her name, "Stark," means "strong," and, "I'm going to live up to my name." Mission accomplished.

Her memorial service is planned for Saturday, March 25, 2023 at 11:00 am at Center Congregational Church, 474 Broad Street, Meriden, CT followed by a reception. Her burial will be private. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation in her honor and memory to the Sjogren's Foundation, The Leukemia And Lymphoma Society, or the National MS Society, as well as donating blood or platelets if you're able, and doing an act of kindness for someone else.

Jen requested face masks be worn during the memorial service, please, for those who may need protection (as she did) and want to attend.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Record-Journal from Mar. 5 to Mar. 6, 2023.

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Tess

December 29, 2024

I will always remember going to lunches with Jen at Wesleyan. She was a kind listener and person. And I am proud, but not surprised, to hear how she made the world a little bit better.

Patricia Guerra

April 10, 2023

I am so sorry for your loss. I knew from Ohio State. We worked in the same research lab for years. She was the kindest, most caring people I have met in my life. I have so many memories of her but one that stands out in my head is her love of cats and how she helped all the abandoned ones too. Whenever she had to leave out of town she would ask me to care for them. I would do it just because of her because I am scared of cats. She had one- Benedict- oh did he live up to his name. But Jen loved them all. She was a gentle soul to them and everyone she met. I kept in touch with her up until last November. Somehow we always found each. I will miss her dearly. And everytime I see a cat, I will think of her.

annette vellucci

April 4, 2023

I am so very sorry to hear this. I just found out today. I knew Jennifer for so many years. We met in Rye, we lived in the same building together. She was the most kindest and beautiful soul I have ever met. I will never forget the night we had so much fun together. We seen a broadway show together is was the Carol King story. I often took her shopping when her health was failing. She was the strongest person I know. Never complained. I will miss her forever. God Bless you Jennifer. Goodbye my friend. fly high. I will never forget you. Annette

Jerri and Paul Boatman

March 25, 2023

Butch, Dolores, Amy, Cindy and families; we are so sorry to hear of Jen´s passing, I wish we could have known her better and spent more time with her. I know how proud Butch is of her, and I´ve heard Uncle Darrell and aunt Judy speak of her with so much love. she was obviously an inspiration for so many. Sending love and hugs from her California cousins.

Jerri and Paul Boatman

March 25, 2023

Sending love and condolences to the family. We were so sorry to hear of Jen´s passing. I wish we could have known her better but even though we´re coasts away we have always felt the connection with our cousins and loved ones across the states. We love you all and are sending our love and hugs your way.

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Janice Chetelat

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Eileen

March 24, 2023

Dr Jennifer Stark worked with the National MS Society for 9 years. One of her chief responsibilities in the research department was to oversee our fellowship training and early career awards. These awards are so important to ensure that there will always be a well-trained research workforce focusing on curing multiple sclerosis.



This work requires sensitivity, planning skills and strategic thinking. Jen had all of those qualities and during her tenure she greatly enhanced these programs. Over nine years she ushered in well over 250 new researchers into the field of MS.



Another responsibility was to plan and conduct the Tykeson Fellows Conference, which was held every other year to bring together research and clinical trainees from many parts of the world. Jen had to organize and direct the volunteer planning committee, develop the program and recruit some of the top MS experts in the field as speakers. These conferences really help cement trainees' commitment to MS, help them develop life-long collaborators, and give them skills they need to have successful careers devoted to MS. Jen did an amazing job with this work.


Despite her chronic struggles with her health, Jen was a cheerful presence at our New York City office. She talked about her family with pride, and loved her cats.

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Rebecca Stark

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David Gregorski

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Dave Gregorski

March 21, 2023

I can still hear "Hi, Uncle Dave" on the other end. We made up for not being together in person, by frequent and often lengthy phone calls. Jen´s thoughtfulness, sweetness, sense of gratitude, and humility were consistent. We grew even closer the last few months, which I´ll forever be grateful for, though now missing her comes from a pained heart.
I´m glad for the time we did spend together, sharing our passion for gardening. Her first love was flowers - of course because they might help the ailing bee population. She spent so much time, in and among the flowers, yet was never stung. I´m sure the bees felt her love.
I persuaded Jen to try growing a few vegetable plants. As they grew and began offering a harvest, she was truly in awe, showing the innocence and wonder that were so part of her being. She gave so much to the world in her quiet way, and seemed surprised when life thanked her somehow.
"Hi, Jen." - - You know how much I miss you. You will always be part of my heart. Love, U.D.

Tuula Fai

March 15, 2023

Jen was my best friend for 33 years. She was the most beautiful angel on earth. Everyone who knew her benefited from her loving presence, quick wit, and unmatched intellect. Love you Jen. You´re with God now.

Cedric Raine

March 13, 2023

My late wife Maureen, would be preparing a typical English afternoon tea with fresh-baked scones plus the trimmings on a Sunday and would say something like, "I'd better put a little extra in for Jen in case she pops in", and more often than not there'd be a knock on the door and a lovely smiling Jen would be standing there. She loved to visit Maureen and I when we lived in Rye, NY and our house was about halfway between the village and her apartment, perhaps a welcome rest-stop on her way home. She was like family to us, conversation came easily. Rarely did she dwell on her own illness, more often on how Maureen's treatment for ovarian Ca or on what was happening at Einstein in my MS group. Yet we both knew that Jen was having a hard time with her disease. She would stay for an hour or so, savoring Maureen's fresh-baked scones and then quietly take her leave until the next time. Less frequently, she would look in on her way home on an evening and join us for dinner - no trouble, I usually did take-outs because of Maureen's illness - and the two of them would have a lovely chat. Maureen loved Jen's visits and I am pretty sure the feeling was mutual. Since leaving Rye in 2012 and losing Maureen in 2013, I've thought often about Jen's visits, her friendliness, braveness and humility. Since then, Jen and I have exchanged Christmas cards and the occasional telephone call but it was never the same as those afternoon teas. I shall miss her, just as I miss those scones and the warmth of her company. The Good Lord will surely have a special place for Jen and Maureen to continue their chats.

Christine-Stinga

March 10, 2023

I remember the first time I met Jen, at Butch´s house with her sisters, back in the 80´s. She radiated a gentle, kind, loving energy that was so strong. She had unbelievable strength and courage to fight this disease. She will forever have a place in my heart. Sending love and comfort to her beautiful family. Xoxo

Kim Calder

March 8, 2023

Jen gave me the gift of her friendship from her earliest days on staff at the Nat'l MS Society. Fond memories flood my thoughts -- Cardinals/Mets games; the Butterfly House at Natural History Museum; a Shania Twayne concert; lots of long conversations; birthday and holiday cards that always arrived on time. She is missed!

Dawn Ray

March 6, 2023

I have no doubt that Jennifer lives on in the hearts and minds of all who had the privilege of knowing her. She was a beautiful soul; she rests in peace.

Betty L Leidy

March 5, 2023

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Betty L Leidy

March 5, 2023

Jen was my neighbor at Victoria Towers. Jen always had a smile on her face and her Bee Garden was a delight to all of us. Condolences to her family.

Sue Lake

March 4, 2023

The trust she had in me for caring for her babies, Buddy and Dora during the mornings. I will always cherish this privilege. Rest in peace!

Betty Leidy

March 4, 2023

Betty Leidy

March 4, 2023

Betty Leidy

March 4, 2023

Jen was my neighbor at Victoria Towers. She always had a smile and spent hours working in her Bee Garden. Condolences to her family.

Uncle Bud and Aunt Reta

March 4, 2023

Jennifer, the greatest regret your West Coast Stark family has is that we have been seperated from you and the East Coast Family by a continent. But you all have been present in our hearts, and you especially through your failing health sweet Jennifer. Love always, Uncle Bud and aunt Reta.

The General

March 4, 2023

Jen fought with grace and love. No matter what she was going through her first thoughts were always about how others were feeling. She loved life and never gave up. Jen was a sweet soul with a mighty spirit.
The General

Deana San Souci

March 4, 2023

The the whole Stark family and friends,
I´m very sorry for your loss. Jen will be greatly missed. A beautiful life for a beautiful lady. Love to you all.
Deana San Souci

Liz Hall

March 4, 2023

Jen Stark you have succeeded!! You were strong, humble beyond compare, thoughtful and generous. I am so honored you crossed my path. I had so much more to learn from you.

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