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Mary M. Merriam
Mary Nims McDonald Merriam of Conway died on Monday, February 15, 2021, at the age of 89. She was the daughter of Ellen (Nims) McDonald and Edward P. McDonald, MD, and the sister of Edward P. McDonald, Jr.

She was born in Albany, New York, educated in local schools, graduated from Albany Academy for Girls, Bennett Junior College, and Parsons School of Design. After college, she worked in New York City as an interior designer for the firm Brunschwig & Fils.

Summers were spent at the "Little Red House" across from the family farm in the Greenfield Meadows, and volunteering at Historic Deerfield, then known as The Heritage Foundation.

One of the summer job's major benefits was daily lunch at nearby Deerfield Academy where she and Bobby Merriam began their eight-year courtship. They married in December 1957. She flourished in the small community, delighted in her role as a faculty wife, and thrived on using her creative talents as a designer and a hostess. Her dedication, pride, and sense of humor left a lasting impression on her "boys."

Beginning in the 1970s, Mary taught quilt making in adult education programs and later led classes in her own shop, The Quilted Tulip, as well as in community centers, and with friends.

She was active in many organizations including the Pocumtuck Valley Memorial Association, the Conway Historical Society, the Church Street Home and the Franklin County Public Hospital Board of Organized Work.

She was humble and considerate, and lived with dignity and grace. She was an inspiration to many, most especially her family.

She was predeceased by her husband Robert L. Merriam, parents, and brother.

She leaves four children, Robert L. Merriam, Jr., Melinda T. M. O'Brien, Susan M. Bobe (Viorel Bobe) and Abigail M. Merriam; eight grandchildren, Christine Bobe, Alyssa Bobe, Jennifer Bobe, Mindi Merriam (Kenneth Alexander), Eshalla Merriam, Casey O'Brien, Betsy O'Brien, M. Charles O'Brien; and four great-grandchildren, Avielle Alexander, Zayla Alexander, K.J. Alexander, and Camden O'Brien.

Burial arrangements are pending. A graveside service is anticipated in the spring.
Published by Recorder on Feb. 18, 2021.
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I remember Mrs. Merriam as welcoming, generous with her time, kind, forgiving, and just a very nice person. It was enjoyable to see and speak with her just a couple years ago.
Scott Mackey
March 14, 2021
Thank you all for your thoughts and memories of our Mother, Mary Merriam. She lived a long and happy life and truly enjoyed being a part of the Conway, Deerfield and Greenfield communities. We hope to be able to gather in the spring to honor her legacy.
Susan Merriam Bobe
March 3, 2021
I knew Mrs. Merriam through PVMA (where I worked) and considered her a very gracious and kind woman. I know she will be deeply missed by many. I offer my sincere condolences to her family and friends.
Elisa Martin
February 27, 2021
I’m so sorry to hear of her passing she was a wonderful woman who is loved by the whole SPS family, my deepest condolences. Gigi Young Kurth, “74”
Gigi kurth
February 24, 2021
Tom Poor
February 23, 2021
I knew Mary and Bobby as a faculty son growing up in Deerfield, as a student and my soccer coach, and later as a fount of stories about the days of Frank and Helen Boyden. Bobby was straightforward and pretended to be gruff; Mary was sweet and empathetic. They made a great couple.
Tom Poor '61
February 22, 2021
It was so nice to meet Mary a few years ago and to show her our house, where she spent time as a girl. What a sweet person.
Anna Morrison, Al Norman
February 20, 2021
Warmly gracious. A friendship which lasted almost 60 years despite my living abroad.
Suzie Comins Meijerink
February 19, 2021
I remember and speak for all the Walbridge family of our fond remembrances of Bob and Mary Merriam. We send our condolences to the Merriam family on the loss of a wonderful lady. We are grateful for having shared a part of her life on her journey. John Walbridge - Class of 1968
John Walbridge
February 19, 2021
Howard Coonley, DA'62
February 19, 2021
Bobby's nickname was "Frowner" but you always knew he had a well- hidden heart of gold. On the other hand, Mary's sweetness shone through at all times. R.I.P.
Doug Gortner '61
February 19, 2021
So sorry to hear of Mary's passing. Wonderful memories of her as a classmate at AAG. She was kind and gentle. May the love and caring of family and friends help to console her loved ones during this difficult time.
Audrey Goldstein Efros
February 19, 2021
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