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for Robert Shader
Buck
June 17, 2023
Hey dad it´s going to be fathers day Sunday. It will be about 16 years that you have been gone. I still will never understand no matter the time that goes by and why it still hurts so much. Life is pretty difficult for me right now and I just wish I had you to talk to. I´m trying to do my best.Almost everyday I think on what my life would´ve been if you would have been here. And what it would be now. Just wish I could have 5 minutes with to hear your voice again. I love you dad you´ll never be forgotten. -Buck
Nick Ostrowski
June 9, 2017
Still thinking about you, Bobby. I have a picture of you and I at 5 years old that your mother gave me sitting on the bookcase. I pick it up and smile often - thinking about the fun I had whenever we were together.
Erica Gleason
May 25, 2008
Dear Uncle Bobby,
I have been a very selfish girl this past year and i guess that is why it has taken me until now to write in your book. It just seemed easier to pertend that you were still in Virginia than to accept the devistating fact that your gone. But, like my mom said I guess it's time to close the book and I owe it to you to keep your memory alive and actually start talking about it.
You were such a special part of my life. I remember how excited I used to get as a kid every time I was told that Uncle Bobby was comming to visit. I think I was about seven or eight the time you showed up at my house pretty late at night, but we were so excited to see you that mom let us get out of bed. You tried to teach us how to be soldiers and stand still with the serious face, I wasn't very good at that all I did was laugh and laugh. I have a picture from that night of me curled up on your lap. I took a picture of it with my cell phone and it has been on the front of my phone since the day you passed, guess it's hard to let go. I remember all of our family vacations down to Virginia Beach when you would take time off work to take us to the beach or to play put put. Remember when you used to barry us in the sand leaving only our heads out to see; Or when we went fishing for crabs. One time we were down there when I was really young and I got mad at you for something, and I slamed the screen door as hard as I could; that was the first and last time you ever scolded me and I never wanted to have that happen again. I spent the next 20 min. crying until you came in and huged me. I never wanted you to be upset with me again. There are so many more memories, like I said you were the highlight of our lives when you would come to visit or we would go down there.
I Graduated college a couple weeks ago. I thought of you immediately when I heard a fog horn at the ceremony; remember when you blew one at my high school graduation ... just one of your many little jokes. I wish more that anything that you and Papa could have been there to see me walk across stage that day.
I miss you so much Uncle Bobby. You were always there, when ever I needed you; even at two in the morning, when I was having boyfriend drama. You calmed me down just by talking to me. You were such a strong and loving man that we all looked up to. I promise to keep your memory alive by remember all of times together and sharing them with the kids. I love you so much and I hope you and Papa are having a good time up there watching over us. Goodbye Uncle Bobby. xoxo
~Erica
"And I know you're shining down on me from heaven
Like so many friends we've lost along the way
And I know eventually we'll be together
One sweet day..."
Nick Ostrowski
May 25, 2008
Bobby, I think of you often - on my commute to work, on the weekends doing yardwork, or just sitting back remembering when. But, most of all, I think of you when I'm playing ball with my son and I wish that he had a cousin like the cousin you were to me. See you someday, my friend. I always was and will always remain proud to be your cousin.
Kayla Shader
May 24, 2008
thanks you guys. you all make me so happy!
Dave & Jackie York
May 24, 2008
There are many good memories of Bob, and they all start when we first met in Brunswick, Maine while he and Kim were dating, Bob proposed to Kim by spray painting the proposal on the Marquis at the local drive in theatre in Brunswick ( that was about to be demolished ) Bob painted " Kim Will You Marry Me "
I saw that, took a picture and gave it to them at their wedding reception. Bob came to the house one day and said Uncle Dave, mom and dad gave me a car to use and it won't pass inspection cause there is a hole in the trunk, When I opened the trunk, all I sawe was a hole, no trunk, so Bob got some bondo and screen and we patched the hole and he passed inspection and drove happily ever after. While He and Kim
were in England, Jackie and I made a big box of goodies and sent it to them, Bob took the box to his duty section and opened it and the first few packages were fudge, so he thought it was all fudge, so he shared it with his co-workers and when he got home and gave the box to Kim and she opened the packages ,they weren't all the same, Kim being somewhat disappointed with the fudge being all gone, as Bob stated she kinda put my love life on hold for a while. When Bob was about to end his career in the Nave he came to me and wanted to talk about his getting out, I said BOB where are you going to be able to retire in 12 years and get a pension and still be young enough to get another job and be with your family, we talked for a while and he decieded to make it a career, But we are all aware of what happened after that. So Kim every time you want to stress a point and slap your thigh, look around, cause Bob will be there with a smile on his face and slap his thigh too. BOB will live within our memories and our hearts forever. Till we meet again on the other side.Love ya Bob, Kim, Rachel, Kayle, Mitchell.
Uncle Dave Aunt Jackie
Joe Griffin
May 24, 2008
Dear Bobby,
Because we both BELIEVE, I know you are looking down on all your relatives, friends and acquantinces with a loving smile on your angelic face as they lend their voice to their memory of you.
As your Godfather, I was there when you were born. My job was to be a sentinal, to keep watch should I be needed. I saw you grow under the caring eyes of your parents and in conjunction with your sisters.
You were a helpful child, a strong and honest youth, and you became a fine fun loving man. At this point my duty was over, because God choose to let you have your wonderful parents into your adulthood.
Bobby, you were a example of true manhood, and I was so proud to be a part of your life. You gave a special memory to each of us who knew you, and today I am expressing a small part of that memory.
We all watched as you gave of yourself to your country. We were so happy when you brought Kim into the family, and thrilled when the two of you expanded the family threefold.
Bobby, you have touched the lives of many people in ways that only now you are brginning to understand.Thank you big guy. I hope they have some sort of hunting in heaven for you.
Dawn Wood
May 24, 2008
Bobby Guy,
Where can one even begin to start to say how much you have always meant to me and my family. So many memories with you, my big brother who was always and forever there for me through every and anything. No one could have ever asked for a better brother then you, or chosen a better husband for my sister, or a Daddy for the most precious triplets.
I’ll never forget the night that Kim came home after meeting you out and you asking her for her phone number…sneaking into my bedroom to tell me about you. Little did we know then that she had found her lifetime love and soul mate.
We might not have been related by blood, but I couldn’t have loved you any more then I do. You were not only there for me, but also like a Dad to Jules and I so thank you for that. I know how you loved to watch her grow and make fun of how she never got dirty! Just dying to see if you could get her to mess up her outfit! And as she grew you were one of the few that understood her love for sports and enjoyed cheering her on.
I thank you for all the great times we all shared. Forever remembering your love for the Oreo cookies as I use to send them to you and Kas over in England, along with Days of Our Lives tapes for you two to watch, and then you and Kim moving back to the states to be stationed only 3 ½ hours away from Jules and I. We loved living so close to you guys so we could see each other as often as we did. All your practical jokes that were endless, as were some of your gestures to people on the road… !. How you always said “For The Love Of God” as you tried to get your point across! Sometimes now I can hear you saying that with certain things! LOL Even now Kas and I laugh about something saying.. OMG.. I can hear Bobby Guy Saying “For The Love OF God” on that one!
You are one in a million and I still find it hard to believe you are gone. But you will forever be in our hearts, souls, and everyday thoughts. I guess we can find peace in knowing that you are watching over us with Pa Shader, Tante, and Nonk. And speaking of Pa Shader, remember that time that I arrived at the Eastwood Circle house and he said Hello and kept walking into the house? I was like hey.. and then everyone thought it was just too funny that he had mistaken me for the mail delivery lady (who was an African American), because of my tan that summer! Oh, everyone thought that was just too funny of Pa! Bless his heart! So lucky to be with them; however, we all wish you were here with us.
I could go on and on. Just know we are here and will be here for and look after KAS, Rachel, Kayla, and Mitch. That’s another thing I always hear you saying.. hollering to the kids to get them to come running.. “Rachel, Kayla, Mitch” and here they come!
You’re the best. And again the best husband that KAS could have ever hoped or wished for, your love and way that you adored her was priceless.
Love you Bobby Guy,
"your Sista" Dawn Rae and Bobby Wood
Tina Gleason
May 23, 2008
Dear Bub - Writing in your guest book is so hard. It's like I finally have to admit that you are not coming back. I guess I thought if I delayed long enough you would walk through the door. I can't even begin to tell you how much I miss you. Thank God we have your beautiful wife and children.
I will keep your spirit alive by continually telling your children stories of you. They just love to hear them. Just a few for your book:
Remeber the time Dad chased us around the house with a broom. I don't recall what exactly we did but thank God we could run faster than Dad. and the time we flushed mom's makeup compact down the toilet - it didn't go down as well as the other stuff we flushed. "The cub bears" always into something. All of our fun times up on the farm with our dirt bike and the field car. It's a wonder we survived childhood. We didn't really work that hard up there I think Dad was just rescuing us. Remember the time we went sledding down the Wheeler Road and we decided to take the cats. Once we got going they didn't like it so well and ended up on my head. Up on the farm we would gather up all of the cats and put them in the grain barn and see which one could catch the most mice. How we would take the woodchucks that Bo or Squire would get and tie them to the back of the bayler and the dogs would chase us around and around the field. I also remember all the talks we used to have both of so similar in our thoughts and actions. I miss you telling me how proud you are of me. And I was so very proud of you as well. Well I guess it's time to close the book. I love you Bobby and I know someday we will meet again. We'll have a lot of catching up to do.
P.s. Your nephew Chad is so much like you. So I guess I am very fortunate I can be reminded of you on a daily basis.
I love you Bubby
Bean
DEBBIE SHADER
May 22, 2008
RACHEL, KAYLA, MITCH, YOUR WERE YOUR DAD'S GREATEST JOYS. HE LOVED YOU ALL SO MUCH. HE LOVED TO CALL ME & TELL ME ABOUT THE DIFFERENT THINGS YOU WERE DOING & HOW PROUD HE WAS OF YOU. I KNOW HE WATCHES OVER YOU & YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE HIM IN YOUR HEARTS. AUNT DEBBIE LOVES YOU ALL SO MUCH. I WILL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR YOU. WE CAN SHARE ALL OUR GOOD MEMORIES TOGETHER. LOVE AUNT DEBBIE XOXOXO
DEBBIE SHADER
May 22, 2008
DEAR KIM, THIS HAS PROBABLY BEEN ONE OF THE HARDEST YEARS OF MY LIFE. LOSING BOBBY WAS SO UNEXPECTED. BUT MY LOSS IS NOT NEARLY AS HARD AS YOURS. BOBBY NOT ONLY LOVED YOU, BUT ADORED YOU. HE TOLD ME MANY TIMES YOU WERE THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE. YOU COULD SEE THAT JUST BY WATCHING HIM. PLEASE KNOW I'M HERE IF YOU NEED ME. THANK-YOU FOR THE LOVE YOU GAVE TO MY BROTHER. LOVE YOUR SISTER, DEBBIE XO
Andrea (Ani) von Hagn
May 21, 2008
Uncle Bobby,
The memory I keep the closest to me is Christmas 2004 (I think that's the year). You were so proud of me and all the home made gifts that I made that year for everyone. It was the same year that Nana made all the quilts. You just seemed so impressed and you were so warm hearted. Thank you for that memory that I will always hold on to.
You and I have the outdoor spirit and I think about you whenever I go camping or kayaking. I wish we had time to take some of those adventures together, but it was nice to talk to Mike and hear some of the stories of your adventures together. Maybe I'll have to take a mirror up to Mossy Bank and tie it to a tree and see if I can see the reflection from Bath. Thank you for all the outdoor gear you passed on to me also. *wink wink* (our secret)
So a couple friends and I pulled some pretty great April Fools pranks this year. I'm trying to get better at it and from what I hear you were the master. Lets just say that breaking into boss' offices definitely helped in the evilness of it all...bubble wrapping things, changing keys on the keyboard, changing pictures in frames, chili peppering drinking bottles...wish you were there.
Lastly, I wish you could have visited me in buffalo...the home of your beloved Bills and Sabres. The Sabres had a pretty good run for a little while, but both teams have some work to do. I still need to make it to an SU game for you.
I love you Uncle Bobby, I miss you, but I know you're with me and in my heart...until we meet again
Love your Goddaughter,
Ani
To Mitch,
Rematch? :)
To Rachael,
You let me know when you're ready to take me on in soccer!
To Kayla,
I'll keep my eyes open for all the name brand stuff you like. My little fashionable cousin.
Aunt Kimmy,
That talk we had was really nice. Don't hesitate to call or write. I loved hearing all the stories and I miss your voice.
My love to everyone reading this...
Barbara Mom Shader
May 20, 2008
My dearest son, This year has been the worst year of my life because you were a part of my heart that was loved so very much..more than words can say. You were such a happy baby and gave us so much joy and so different after having 3 daughters...I use to rock you and sing but not having a great voice you would say without trying to hurt my feelings "don't sing I get you a book ok?" Needless to say you were always tryng to do things you weren't suppose to do and had a sense of humor like your dad. You was always willing to help anyone in trouble so many times...even the amish when they had an accident with their carriage you went and helped them...we were not home but you without a license took them home in our car and all you couod see that you were helping them....When you kept falling asleep in church I asked if you would lilke to become an altar boy and you got so you loved it infact when you were in the navy you were made religous leader...Through high school you had many friends and played all sports and excelled in all of them..Your dad was so proud and prayed for you to get that first hit.We were so blessed having you as our son with the love and happiness you spread to everyone you knew...and was always ready to listen and try to help. Your sisters and I had somethng done to us that we will never undersand until we meet you again..When you brought Kimmy home to us we were so happy because we knew how much she meant to you and then you asked your dad for his mother 's ring to give to her. You were so sentimental and loved your gramma so much and all your family too. Your wedding was beautiful and you could not have given us a more beautiful and wonderful daughter...we love her so much.. and then came the trips what a gift. Rachal, Kayla, and Mitch what a wonderful dad you were blessed wilth and know you will never forget him and Nana loves you all so much and everytime I hug them I am hugging you...Thank you for them and Kim and we will always be there for them and hope they can find happiness and love which Bobby would want for them. Kim's family and close friends also have met so much to us....It's hard to close this book Bobby but want you to know we were so happy having you for a son and after dad passed and I would visit all of you ...you made me feel like a queen....For you Bobby we will go on and try to find happiness and will always remember your spirit, love, and the special person you were to everyone... Thank you again for Kimmy and my babes.... I love you.
Your Mom and you and dad behave up there....xxxxxxxxxxooooooooo
DONNA TATUM
May 20, 2008
IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO DO THIS AND AGAIN YOU ALL KNOW I AM NOT REAL GOOD WITH WORDS. DANNY AND I ONLY KNEW BOB A YEAR OR SO BUT IT FELT LIKE FOREVER. BOB BECAME DANNYS BEST FRIEND , BUDDY , AND PRANKSTER. BOB KIM AND THE KIDS BECAME A BIG PART OF OUR LIFE DAILY AND WILL ALWAYS BE WHEREEVER LIFE MAY TAKE US. WE THINK OF BOB, KIM THE KIDS AND ALL THE FAMILY EVERYDAY. BOB YOU ARE MISSED SO MUCH KEEP WATCHING OVER US AND WE LOVE YA DANNY AND DONNA
Michael Ralston
May 20, 2008
To Kimberlee Anne, Mitchell Owen, Rachel Anne and Kayla Marie,
What words can possibly inspire or comfort all of you in the midst of such loss, sorrow and sadness as Bob is longed for so very much?
Robert Guy touched the lives of so many people and in exceptionally profound ways that, I believe, very few have ever equaled. Certainly none have done so in my presence.
Therefore mere words cannot capture or convey the true measure of Bob as a person, friend, cousin, uncle and especially in his role as a brother, son, father and husband.
Reflecting upon the meaning of Bob's life during the course of this past year has brought an amount of sadness that I thought did not exist, nor could exist. And I'm truly sorry that it does. I've questioned the reason for sadness as a feeling wondering what use there is for it and how there could possibly be a benefit for all of us whom mourn.
I've been able to find some semblance of solace knowing the reason for our affliction is because we've all lost a tremedous amout of joy, happiness, laughter and love. As a consequence of losing what Bob brought to our lives we grieve deeply knowing we lost a treasure of endless value. If the price we have to bear is this extraordinary sorrow in exchange for what Bob gave us with his life we should all gladly except it and be grateful for the blessing. I do. I just selfishly wish more for all of us.
The impact that Bob had on the lives of many does not end with his passing but begins in our memories and in how each of us leads their lives as a result of his gift to us.
And this is especially true of Mitchell, Rachel and Kayla. Keep your Dad's memory close to you always; it will benefit you greatly as you grow to adulthood as a Shader.
I want to openly express the loss I feel; I love and miss you, Cuz, and will until my time ends. Thank you for being there for me always as my Brother. The ride you gave me was simply the best and I'm a better man because of you.
My love and compassion goes out to all who share in Bob's loss. Especially to you, Kim, and the youngsters.
Michael "Cuz" Ralston
DEBORAH SHADER
May 16, 2008
THERE ISN'T DAY THAT GOES BY THAT I DON'T THINK OF YOU, BOBBY. NOT JUST WITH SADNESS, BUT WITH A SMILE. YOU LEFT US ALL WITH YOUR GREAT WIT AND TO LIVE EACH DAY TO THE BEST OF OUR ABILITY. YOU LOVED LIFE, AND THAT'S HOW I WANT TO REMEMBER YOU. I KNOW YOU & DAD ARE WATCHING OVER US, AND THAT BRINGS ME & THE FAMILY GREAT COMFORT. I LOVE YOU BOTH. LOVE, HITTIE (DEB SHADER) XOXODEBORAH
Roxanne von Hagn
May 16, 2008
To all who have known Bob--we can't bring him back, however we can pay it forward. Let us all take Bob's great compassion, work ethic, love of family and his willingness to help others and keep his spirit going. His sense of humor was one of his biggest traits and pulling a good prank made everyone laugh--let's keep that alive! Laughter is the best medicine and he would want us to laugh!
God Bless us all--Bob will be missed, however not forgotten--he lives on in our hearts.
Love & Prayers,
Roxanne (Shader) von Hagn
Hitty # 2 :)
Love you Bubby--Love Rucky!
In Kuwait in favorite chair with fav Bills blanket and having a fav drink!
May 15, 2008
Dawn Rae Wood
December 11, 2007
Bobby Guy, thinking of you even more today as you would have turned 45 today. I'm sure you are celebrating somehow in heaven with Pa Shader, Tante, and Nonk. Still can't believe that you were taken from all of us at such a young age... I don't think ANY of us will EVER understand. Just hope you are watching over all of us and knowing how much you are loved and missed so very much. You will never leave our hearts or daily thoughts. Love and miss you my big brother!
Frank Ribich
September 16, 2007
Bob was a good friend. I worked with him at MCT for a while. He was always there to help anyone in need. Everyone always respected Bob for his knowledge and his kindness. Bob always talked about his family, and we always knew how they were doing. Bob will be missed very much.
Bruce Amato
September 13, 2007
To Kim and the kids:
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Bobby boy as you well know was like a big brother to me. We deployed many times together while at mobile comm team. I learned alot about life and myself from bobby boy. He helped myself and others any chance he could get, in anyway he could. I will always cherish the many great memories I have of bobby boy. Whether it be playing softball, deploying or helping him around his house on occasion, or even just having that occasional beer. I can't believe he's gone, but I do know he is watching down on all his loved ones, and will always be by thier sides. I wish everyone in their lifetime I can meet a Robert Shader.
Dawn Rae Wood
August 7, 2007
Bobby Guy, so many of us think of you and miss you so MUCH each day... still wondering why the 'rock' of this family was taken from us. No matter what anyone ever says.. it will never seem right to any of us as we have to move on with our lives. Believe me big brother, we are all thinking of you and missing you each day. It just still seems like a nightmare... one that can't be woken up from.. no matter how hard we all try. Love you Bobby Guy!
Raymond Barnes
June 3, 2007
To the Shader family:
My deepest condelences for your lost of Bob. Bob was one of my supervisors back at Mobile Comm Team at Little Creek. He always went out his way to help the "new guy". He taught me alot. He will be missed. They broke the mold when they made Bob Shader.
richard putnam
May 22, 2007
Kim
don't know what to say,Bob was /w
Viking Bball W/ Boboo......good times& memories........hope 2 see
family soon.....let's not forget
"relay". my back is bad.i'll still
try 20 laps................peace!!!!
send along to your family,
God Bless.......rich put
DEBORAH SHADER
May 21, 2007
WE WERE TRULY TOUCHED BY THE AMOUNT OF PEOPLE WHO CAME TO EXPRESS THEIR LOVE AND SYMPATHY FOR BOBBY AND OUR FAMILY ON SATURDAY. IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL CELEBRATION OF HIS LIFE. AS IT WAS SAID,"HE TOUCHED SO MANY PEOPLE." WE APPRECIATE ALL THE ACTS OF KINDNESS WE RECEIVED. WE LOVE AND MISS HIM DEARLY. LOVE, DEBBIE SHADER MAY 21, 2007
Rachel Shader
May 16, 2007
i love and miss you daddy. i wish you could be here. i would do anything to have you back.
love you berry much,
Rachel
Kim Shader
May 16, 2007
This is for everyone who has been so giving of their time, money, food, home, and hugs. Rachel, Kayla, Mitch and I are so very grateful and humbled for the thoughtfulness from family, neighbors, acquaintances, and strangers. We can never give you all enough thank yous for all you have done and continue to do.
The children are doing ok but having difficult moments. They miss their daddy and are now realizing some of the loss in years to come. It is hard on me every day and moment as sooo many things are difficult to fathom without Bob by my side. Thank you all for making this most difficut time a bit more bearable. Bob would be extremely proud of everyone and very grateful as well that he has placed us in such a giving and loving community.
Thank you.
Kim and family
Mitch being a Hokie 2006
May 10, 2007
Rachel and Kayla Soccer 2006
May 10, 2007
Too cute and how they have grown!
May 10, 2007
katyfilia miller
May 9, 2007
with my deepest and heartfelt sympathy
Gary Whyman
May 9, 2007
Kim, Kayla, Rachel and Mitch,
While you have no clue who I am, I was in Prattsburgh when Bob was there, graduating a few years ahead of him with his sister Roxanne.
Please accept my deepest sympathies over this tragic loss.
Bob, ever the clown and competitor, always struck me as one of the best of an era that is long gone in that sleepy little town.
Obviously, his deeds and his life are a testiment to this fact.
For those of us 'Prattsburghites' in this era, the passing of one of our own dear friends cuts deeply into the soul of who we are, where we came from, and what we hope to accomplish in our lives.
I cannot begin to imagine the grief and loss you are feeling, but please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
I hope you all can find the strength, as I have, to re-dedicate my efforts to being a better person... for the memory of Bob, and for the future he would have worked his entire life to try and build for his children... for all our children.
My deepest sympathies to you all...
Robin Flint
May 9, 2007
It's been nearly 27 years since we graduated from high school and I saw Bobby (as we all knew him then) once in that time. He was still in the Navy. I marveled at how mature and self assured he had become. I wondered at the time if all of my high schools friends had turned out so well (myself included). Even now, I think of Bobby and laugh. He certainly had that effect on me during those good old days.
My thoughts and prayers to the entire Shader family.
Juliet Patterson
May 9, 2007
As I read what everyone else writes, I see that everyone writes to us the family. Honestly I just wanted to write that I WANT HIM BACK. To many times in life do we take things and people for granted. Uncle Bobby was more than an uncle to me, he was a father figure. He taught me so many things about life, and always kept me smiling. He use to get his butt kicked in basketball in playing me, but I think that he just let me win haha! He always had to be different in teaching us all something.. I remember one holiday, think it was Easter, he had strings, each color represented one of the kids, and they had to follow the string to their basket..lol! or leaving little hints leading them to the next place where the present was suppose to be lol.. only to find it was another clue!
I hadnt seen Uncle Bobby since last year some time, but I kept telling him that I would come down this time.. and then I couldnt get off work.. or something would come up.. I am filled with guilt, anger, and hurt.. Feeling guilty that I should have just told work NO I have to take off.. Feeling angry that I didnt get to say goodbye, feeling like I let someone so special go without saying by. I am so hurt that I had to finally see him in a casket, just hoping and praying that while i was standing there, he was just going to open his eyes and say "JULES, what the hell is matter with you? Im alive." Now its all real that he is not here with us, leaving us all behind. My friends tell me that God just needed a good man by his side (and we all know he surely did take the BEST man in this world!!) but it doesnt help! I think Aunt Kimmie and the trips (and his family) need him more!.. maybe I am being selfish..
I just miss him SOOO MUCH!!
JUST ISNT FAIR..
I CANT stand that AUnt Kimmie is hurting so bad and there is nothing I can do. I want to make it all better for her.. But none of us can..
Uncle Bobby-- I cant tell you how much I love you and miss you already! you said you werent there for my high school grad but would for my college and now.. :(
Aunt Kimmie--I LOVE YOU! and am here for you!! xoxo!!
everyone is in my prayers, as I know we are ALL IN PAIN!
Randy Barrett
May 8, 2007
Bob was my very close friend as I grew up in Wheeler, NY. I have fond memories as I think about the good times we had. I know that Bob loved and lived life to its fullest. I feel privileged to have known him for so many years.
Ma, Debbie, Roxanne and Tina,
It’s been more than 2 weeks now and I’m still in denial about this. My dear wife Heidi has been great source of support, but I must say that she hasn’t seen this side of me before. Anyway, I love you all. You are like family to me. You have our deepest sympathy.
Kim,
You are in our prayers. Bob was a very special person to us all, but of course the magnitude of his loss is even greater with you. We know you are going through a lot right now. Let us know if there’s anything we can do. At the very least, I’ll do what I can to keep things upbeat and celebrate Bob’s life during the service on the May 19th.
Kayla, Rachel and Mitch,
Hello again! Remember me? I’m the guy who Kayla calls “Funny Man”. Your dad was a good man, but you already knew that. He was a close friend of mine for many years, but you already knew that too. What you may not know is that your dad talked about you long before you were even born. He talked about how much he was looking forward to being a father. He also talked about the one gift he was going to give you. It’s a priceless gift, but it’s a gift that you might not even think about that much. He didn’t give you this gift at Christmas or on your birthday. The gift I’m talking about is your name. You are a Shader. Wear that name proudly, because your daddy sure did.
uncle billy & aunt carol sivik
May 6, 2007
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Susan Grillion(York)
May 5, 2007
my prayers and thoughts are with the Shader family. Though we did not spend a lot of time together, I know that there was a lot of love in that family. I hope that the love will help you thru this terrible loss.
Bill & Joan Blevins
May 5, 2007
During the 1990'S Joan and I wondered who would move into the large two story house next to us in the Point o Woods section of Va. Beach. We had seen many famlies come and go over the years. All with at least two children. We expected the next family to be likewise. To our surprise here came this handsome couple and a LARGE Rottweiler named Buster, NO KIDS.
We soon make friends with Bob & Kim. And inquired why such a large house for only two people. They explained they wanted kids in the future.
In 1995 Bob came rushing into my gargage proclaiming that he was going to be a father to triplets.
July 3, 1996 Kim & Bob became proud parents of Rachel, Kayla, and Mitchell.
As time went by we watched the kids grow, and as expected Joan and I became more attached to the Shader family each day. We marveled at the love Bob & Kim showed for not only the kids but to each other.
Then came retirement from the Navy and the move to Roanoke in April 2006. So some 7 months later Joan and I sold our home of 37 years and moved about 2 miles away from the Shader's in Roanoke.
Then came April 22, 2007 when Bob passed away. I watched Kim attempt to cope with Bob's death. All I could do was be with her and marvel at how strong she was with Rachel, Kayla, and Mitch. I stood in my living room and could only watch as she told her children their father had died. I thought of how proud Bob would be of Kim, who was so stong for her kids, while her heart was broken. During my 30 years as a police officer, I have witnessed many things, but I know I will never witness anything as sad as watching a mother tell her children, who are still at that age of innocence, that their daddy had died.
I remember a old Hymn " Will there be any stars in my crown". I see Bob's crown, in the kingdom of heaven and think of how bright his stars are shining. I see many stars for his family and friends, a star for his service to his country, a star for the love of God, and those stars front and center that are shining so brightly for his love of Kim, Rachel, Kayla, and Mitch.
To Bob's entire family in NY,MD,ME, and PA, and especially to Kim, Rachel, Kayla, and Mitchell please know we will be there to help in any way we can, no matter where our paths may go in life. Words cannont express our sorrow on your loss.
Miss Joan
Mr Bill
Carol Cason
May 4, 2007
Your family have my deepest sympathy for your loss and are in my prayers.
Kim Shader
May 4, 2007
Thank you all for all your kindness and special words and sympathies. Rachel, Kayla, and Mitch are being real troopers but really miss Bob at bed time the most. All your words and offers of help are a blessing. I am missing everything about Bob and finding it almost too much to bear. But I am trying to focus on the kids and that is what I have to do...
Thank you all,
Kim
Priceless pose of a special fishing day!
May 4, 2007
The INCREDIBLE Shader Family - Loved by ALL
May 4, 2007
D Dawson
May 2, 2007
My thoughts for the family and friends left behind so suddenly.
Robert Taylor
May 2, 2007
Dawn,
Sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. You have been a great friend throughout the years. I pray that God will give you and your family strength and direction during this time.
Liz Edger
May 1, 2007
God only takes the best.Bobby surly was that. We were so sad to hear of his passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Frank and Liz Edger (Babe Filia)
Barbara Shader
May 1, 2007
To the families of Roanoke,
Our families were truly comforted by all of you during this tragic time. The love and support you showed us as we all traveled from different parts of the U.S. was amazing! We feel like we have extended family in the community of Roanoke! Thank you so much for everything-you blessed us so dearly and we truly appreciated it! God Bless you all!
Barb Shader (Bob's Mom) and families
Juliet Patterson
May 1, 2007
unCLe BoBBy<33,,
i have so much to say to you.. so many things left unsaid.. i feel so lost without you in this world.. you were just an amazing man.. you came into our lives before i was born and not only did you bring happiness into aunt kimmies life.. but you brought so much happiness to our whole family.. my grandparents got another son.. my aunts and uncle got another brother.. and most importantly, i got an uncle..or should i say-- a second dad!
you were a dream come true to all of us.. always bringing laughter and smiles into our hearts, always being the mediator and lightning the mood!.. always telling me that you would give me money to eat jalopenos.. to teach me how to dive, you held me by my feet and dropped me in the water.. your crazy, outrageous ways are what made you YOU.. what made you able to get away with all your practical jokes..
and now you are gone..
what are we suppose to do?..
you were SOO MUCH to all of us.. i honestly cant imagine how we all are going to get thru this thing called life without you.. more than anything i am mad and angry.. with hurt coming in a close second.. yesterday was a week, and i find myself still asking why? WHY YOU? why a good, honest, genuine, family man?.. as bad and selfish as it sounds, why not someone who doesnt give a crap about their life? i dont get it.. i find myself asking god almost everyday.. and on sunday, when i went to church, i got a little bit of an answer.. he has a plan.. i know he does.. but that doesnt change the fact that you will not be @ my college graduation, or my wedding.. or the girls!! or mitchs games!!
im trying for you to get over this and be strong.. to not be mad or angry @ god..im trying to just believe in him and know that you are looking over me..keeping me safe with papa, dee's mom, and ashley..i know i am lucky to have such great angels watching over me.. i just wish you were here.. i dont want to let you go.. but maybe its time for me to let go of the anger and the sadness that i have..
i will always remember all the things you taught me.. i will never EVER EVER forget you.. or the memories that you gave me!.. forever AND EVEr you will be in my heart.. and in my prayers daily! i MISS you SO much! and lOVE YOU! i just want you back!!
but i guess what is done is done.. and i need to let you rest in peace..
so while you are up there drinking your beer, eating your wings, and watching your Yankees and Buffalo Bills.. i will be down here without you, trying to stay strong and awaiting the day that god allows me to see you again!..and i will be there for the kids, to help to guide them in the right direction, NEVER letting them doubt your love!!
rest in peace uncle bobby.....i love you..<333
4-22-07 -----> a day i will never forget <----------
Fran Filia-Szczesniak
May 1, 2007
To all of Bobby's family: My prayers are with you. My heart is filled with pain for each of you. I know you're a strong loving family and will help each other through this loss. Please let me know when the memorial service is in Bath. I will be there. May God send you a band of angels to look after you.
Paula Russell
May 1, 2007
Kim & Family,
I am so sorry for you lost and if you should need anything feel free to call even if it is to talk. He was great man and remember he will always be with you all in your hearts and memories.
Ron Camacho
May 1, 2007
Kim and family - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May you live in comfort knowing that Bob is in peace.
Pat, Debbie, Nikki Dennis
May 1, 2007
Kim, Rachel, Kayla, Mitch - Our hearts and prayers are with you. Words cannot express the pain we feel for your loss, but please know you and the family are in our thoughts and prayers every day.
Dawn Wood
May 1, 2007
To all our friends and family,
I would like to thank everyone for their prayers and just outpouring amount of love and support in this tragic time. I would especially like to thank the new families that our Shader clan has come to know in Roanoke. I do not believe that I have seen so many families come together to offer not only support but to also open their homes to the many families that traveled from other states. Thank you all so much for EVERYTHING.
Bobby was my big brother and like a father to my daughter, Jules. I can't even begin to describe the void that this leaves in our hearts and lives. We'll be loving and missing you forever Bobby Guy! All our love to you as you sit in heaven with Pa Shader, Tante, and Nonk! Dawn, Bobby, and Jules
Mary Beth Hart
May 1, 2007
Kim, kids, Aunt Barb, and girls - I just don't know what words to say. My heart is broken for all of you. Please know that you are all in our prayers, and we love you all so very much. We are here for you if you need anything. Bobby was the big brother I never had, and I was the brat that wouldn't shut up. Kim, Kayla, Rachel and Mitch - We love you and if you need anything please let us know. Aunt Barb and girls, we are with you in spirit and will try to be there soon.
Love always - Mary Beth, Thurman, Joseph and Aaron
Dawn, Louie & Malinda Rodriguez
April 30, 2007
Dearest Kim, Rachel, Kayla & Mitch & the rest of the Shader family,
Bobby was like a brother to me & was "Uncle Bobby" to Malinda. Words cannot express the heartache.You are all in our prayers. We love you!
Roxanne (Shader) von Hagn
April 29, 2007
To all our friends and family,
Thank you for your prayers, we truly feel them. This has been a very difficult time and with your support it is helping. Bob was such a loving and caring guy-he will truly be missed.
Raise your glass, bottle or can and say-to Bob! Think of him during the Yankee, Bills, Sabres or SU games!
Love,
Roxanne & Milt
Nick Ostrowski
April 29, 2007
Bobby Shader was my cousin. Some of the best days of my childhood were spent with him. He was fearless, compassionate, and brimming with ideas and energy. I loved him and will miss him very much.
Thomas Fitzwater
April 29, 2007
Please accept my deepest sympathies.
Calvin & Sherry Hicks
April 29, 2007
To All of Bob's Family,
Please except our deepest sympathies. We also went to high school with Bob and have many great and loving memories. He was a great friend and will truly be missed. Please let us know when the Memorial Service in the Bath area will be.
DEBORAH SHADER
April 29, 2007
THANK-YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND THOUGHTS. HE WAS A WONDERFUL BROTHER. WE WILL BE HAVING A MEMORIAL SERVICE IN THE BATH AREA IN THE NEAR FUTURE. LOVE, DEBBIE SHADER
Bonnie Cabone
April 26, 2007
Kim, Kayla, Rachel & Mitch,
We are so very sorry to hear of Bob's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sincerely, Bonnie, Joe, Reese, Raychel & Austin Cabone
Joyann Elward (Partridge)
April 26, 2007
To the Shader Family, Rox, Tina and Deb-So sorry for the loss of your brother, Ma and Dad I'm thinking of you! To Bob's wife and children, You are all in my thoughts too!! I'm so sorry!
JOHN RICHARDSON
April 26, 2007
KIM AND FAMILY, WE ARE SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. BOB WAS THE MAN WHILE HE WAS HERE. KEITH WEATHERS WAS HERE AWHILE AGO LOOKING FOR YOU PEOPLE. YOU ARE IN OUR PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS.ANYTHING I CAN DO LET ME KNOW. RICH AND THE FELLAS FROM OCEANA
David O'Connor
April 25, 2007
Bob was my mutual misplaced Syracuse fan in Virginia Beach, incredible softball teammate, co-worker, dedicated and loving family man and true friend. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. I cannot put into words how Bob will TRULY, TRULY be missed and never forgotten. Peace be with you and God Bless.
Aimee Roberts
April 25, 2007
Shader family, Our hearts have been heavy ever since we heard the terrible news. We will pray for your family often. Please call anytime. Your friend Caitlin Roberts and family.
Joel Dobrow
April 25, 2007
Kim and Family,
While we didn't get to know you and Bob for very long, we were shocked and saddened to hear of Bob's passing. Our hearts and prayers are with you and the family.
Joel, Mary, Samantha & Jacob Dobrow
Kelli, Mike, Joey & Jonathan Bonkoski
April 25, 2007
Kim, Kayla, Rachel, and Mitch,
I was so shocked when I heard the news today. Every time I hear a leaf blower I think it's Bob out there cleaning off the street. I also remember what a great Dad he was, riding the kids around the neighborhood on the four wheeler. He was such a wonderful neighbor. We miss you all. May you turn to God to keep you strong during this difficult time.
Love,
richard putnam
April 25, 2007
dear Shaderfamily,sorry for ypur loss,Bobby was a good man,we all will miss.God bless!!peace
joan&rich putnam
prattsburgh,n.y.
Eileen Smith
April 25, 2007
We simply cannot find the words to express how deeply saddened we were to hear the news of Bob's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Richard, Eileen, Garrett and Delaney Smith
brenda crowe
April 25, 2007
dear kim, barb, & families, so sorry to hear about bobby. i graduated with bobby in 1980 and have alot of great memories. please take care & my thoughts are with you.
jane williams
April 25, 2007
Dear Barb and family. I was so sorry to read of Bob's passing. may i offer my deepest sympathy. love, janie
Kevin VanAmburg
April 25, 2007
So sorry for your loss. I went to school with Bobby.
Lisa Bailey
April 25, 2007
Kim and entire family,
Please accept our sincere sympathy on the loss of Bobby. He was one of our classmates in high school. He was a wonderul guy, and will be remembered by all for his laughter and love of a good time. You are in our thoughts.
Lisa and Jim Bailey and family
Dorothy Walker
April 25, 2007
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. We are so sorry for your loss.
Dottie, Carolyn, Joyce & Families
JEAN F BATES
April 25, 2007
Dear Kim, Barbara and famlies.
We are so very sorry to hear of the passing of Bobby.Our thoughts are with you all.
Love, Gordon and Jeanie Bates, Prattsburgh, NY
Eric Olivero
April 25, 2007
Not only did I have the pleasure of working with Bob, but I also had the joy of being his teammate for many a softball season. His time among us was short but his impact upon are lives will be felt forever. Our prayers are with the entire Shader family.
Candi Castle
April 25, 2007
Kim
There are no words to express the sadness I feel over Bob's passing. He was a beautiful person who always had a nice word and a smile for everyone. I can only be grateful that I was afforded the opportunity to know him. Bob WILL be missed! All my best to you and your family.
Lynn VanSkiver Larry Comfort
April 25, 2007
Barb, Roxanne, Tina & Deb and all of Bobby's Family
We are so saddened to hear of your terrible loss. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this time.
Deborah and Chloe The Schlotthober Family
April 24, 2007
Kim,Rachel,Kayla and Mitch,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. We pray for God to comfort you and give you strength. Chloe loves the girls company. When they play together their laughter makes a wonderful sound, such a pleasure. Please let us be of any help or comfort to you and your children.
Judy Myers
April 24, 2007
To the Shader Family,
Erwin, Marian, Janet, Nancy,& Chet Lewis & David; along with Judy & Michael Myers send their deepest symphany to all of the Shader's. We were sorry to hear about Bobby's passing. Just look up in the sky at night and you'll see a bright shining star, that will be Bobby looking over all of you. He will always be with you in spirit.
Please if there is anything I can do when you come back home; please don't hesitate to ask. I'm only a few steps away.
Jason Boothe
April 24, 2007
Kayla,Rachel and Shader family sorry to hear about your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Coach Jason Vinton Flames,
Lisa (Hively) Schuck
April 24, 2007
Kim and family: Please accept my
deepest sympathy. I'm one of Bob's
classmates from Prattsburgh Central
School Class of 1980. He was a super and funny guy. He will be greatly missed by all.
Fred Zagar
April 24, 2007
I'll always think about you when I am riding in the wind.
May it comfort you to know friends are thinking of you and remembering you in their prayers.Miss You!
Theresa Poliquin
April 24, 2007
I've had the pleasure of knowing Bob since he met Kim. He was a one of a kind guy. A great husband, outstanding father, just a super person. Please accept my deepest sympathy to all of you. I wish I could be there to support you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We love you. Theresa & Family
E J Nazario
April 24, 2007
Although I knew Bob only briefly whenI first joined Simplex, he certainly made a lasting impression. I have nothing but good memories. He will be missed.
Kerry Moncure
April 24, 2007
Kim, Kayla, Rachel and Mitch,
We are so sorry for your loss. Bob was a great coach and family man and he will be missed by everyone he touched. God bless, Kerry, Jeff, Emma, Maggie and Katie Smith
Scott Hensley
April 24, 2007
We are sorry to hear about your loss. I just met Mr. Shader a few weeks ago when our sons starting playing baseball together. I remember one Saturday practice where Bob rushed out onto the field to help coach the boys. He was so excited and full of energy and the boys loved it.
Erich Skomsky
April 24, 2007
My prayers are with you and your family. Bob will never be forgotten. He was a special person
MM and Mac McKinnon
April 24, 2007
Your family is in our prayers during this difficult time. Even though we have never met, we want you to know we will continue to pray that God's strong arms will comfort you and give you the peace that only He can give.
Sincerely,
M.M. and Mac McKinnon
Scottsboro, Alabama
(cousin of Rebecca and David Gess)
Joe & Janet Baroody
April 24, 2007
Kim and family -- Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We've kown Barb and her family for so many years and have always marveled at what a strong group they are. From talking to Barb, we know you, too, are a strong person and a wonderful mother. Our sincere sympathy and love to all of you. Joe & Janet
Ray Campbell
April 24, 2007
Please accept my deepest sympathies.
Tamara Goode
April 24, 2007
To the Shader family, our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. My daughter Tammie Goode is a class mate of Mitchell.
Evie Guill
April 24, 2007
Kim,
We miss you all so much and are so heart broken over the loss of such a great man. Please know you are in out thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Tim Shires
April 24, 2007
Bob was a ray of sunshine that would brightened up any room he walked into. If you were having a bad day, Bob would find a way to make you laugh. It was a pleasure to have know Bob and worked with him here in Norfolk. His presence here will never be forgotten.
Tina DiMucci
April 24, 2007
My sincere Sympathy is with Bob's Family. He was a Super guy to work with and we will miss him very much.
Carolyn Brown
April 24, 2007
The Brown Family extend their condolences to the Shader Family.
David, Shelia & Michael Crosswhite
April 24, 2007
We are so sorry to hear about Bob's passing. Kim- if you or the children need anything please just let us know. Our thoughts and prayers are with you thur this very sad time.
Don , Sue ,Mary,Denise Stinson
April 24, 2007
Kimberlee & Family
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very difficult time.
Michael Long
April 24, 2007
Kim and family,
Our heart goes out to you during this very difficult time. If there is anything that we can do to help you in your time of sorrow please do call on us.
Our prayers are with you.
Michael Long and your family at Lowe's.
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