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Brenda Wagnaar Ray

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Brenda Ray Obituary

Brenda Lea Ray passed away on Jan 8th after battling cancer. She was born in Santa Cruz,CA. on Jan 26th 1961, the youngest of three. She spent her school years in San Jose, CA. Brenda graduated from Monterey Bay Academy like her Mother, and continued on to earn an A.A. degree in Early Childhood Education. Although talented with pencil and chalk she never made a career in art. Brenda?s career was in Medical administration. Brenda settled in Carmichael to raise her children. Her passions in life were Genealogy, Miniature horses, and her Precious bundles of joy. Brenda is survived by her son Mathew 19, her daughter Sabrina 17, Siblings, and her Mother Martha, who survived her battle with cancer. A service for Brenda will be held at the Carmichael Seventh-day Adventist church on Jan 17th at 3pm

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Published by The Sacramento Bee from Jan. 15 to Jan. 16, 2015.

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Lisa Ross

June 17, 2015

I'm so sorry you lost the fight. I will miss your stories and your smiling face. Keep Shellbe, Kodee, Honey, Cowboy, Blondie company until we see them again. Hugs to you my friend.

kinsey Bodine

May 25, 2015

I loved talking with Brenda out at the horse property. I love her children they were kind to me. Brenda told me of her life and i love listening! She was a very loving mother and a great friend. Im choked up...she will be so missed. I love you Brend Ray

stephanie Thompson

February 9, 2015

I love you and miss you alot Brenda. I hope to see you again. I remember all the
good times that we had Love you

Jay Ray

February 3, 2015

We had some good times Brenda, and we had some bad times but I choose true remember the good times I do miss you and at least you're not suffering anymore you're in a lot better place now tell your dad I said hi:((

Marilyn Kitt

January 28, 2015

Brenda, You will always be special in my heart. You had only goodness and you were very special to me. You had no idea how many of us missed you. So many memories, and so much life you had to live, we had to live. I will miss you.

Bruce Burt

January 28, 2015

I am another 2nd cousin. I just heard about Brenda's passing. She was wonderful and will be missed.

Joleen Flores

January 23, 2015

I am Brenda's 2nd cousin, but unfortunately lost contact with her many years ago. We spent a lot of time together during Family Reunions when Brenda was a teenager and young adult. I loved her sense of humor and she had a personality that made it easy to love her. If Brenda was around, you would hear a lot of laughing and funny stories about her life adventures. Brenda always made me smile! My prayers go out to Brenda's children, family and friends for hope, healing and peace. For God loves Brenda and all of His Children, and wants all of us in His Kingdom. John 3:16-17

Noelle Moon

January 22, 2015

Brenda - you were a beautiful woman, mother, daughter, etc. I am thankful that I had the pleasure to know you and your children. May your heart be free now and your body without pain. You will be missed, but not forgotten. xo

Janice Verner-Ray

January 19, 2015

You are missed my dear Sister-in-Law. Prayers for You and for Jay, Mathew, and Sabrina ??

John Jachens

January 19, 2015

I never had the pleasure of meeting Brenda, but I give my sincere condolences to Mathew, Sabrina, and Jay for such a big loss in their lives.

Yvette thompson

January 17, 2015

So sorry to hear that your family has lost you. Met you so many years ago.
You are such a lovely person. Our deepest sorrow goes out to you and your family. Love you Brenda.

Kathleen Cox

January 16, 2015

I met Brenda through her ex-husband Jay, she was a lovely and lively friend and we laughed a lot together. She allowed me to get to know her family, and her kids were her sunshine. Her eyes would light up when she was with them. She was always very nice to me and made me feel like a part of the family. She will be sadly very missed by all who knew & loved her. Fly with Angels, Brenda! We will never forget <3

Cindi Nowak

January 16, 2015

My memories of Brenda...when we were kids, playing with toy horses and dolls at Aunt Noni's house, sliding down the stairs on our butts and hiking to the "caves" up on the hill. No more illness, or pain, Brenda

Phillip Smith

January 16, 2015

It is with a sad heart, that i express my Condolences to the entire family. Wishing you peace and faith to bring comfort, and courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your heart.

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