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Monique MECRAY Obituary
MECRAY, Monique L.
(Fernandes)
Born on the 4th of July, 1980. She passed away on Easter Sunday, April 4, 2010, in Sacramento after a two-year battle with cancer. She died peacefully with her loving family at her bedside. She is survived by her devoted husband Jay Mecray, beautiful daughter Jaylie, loving mother Joanna Maddison and father Keith Maddison, brothers Dustin and Kyle, and sister Kadie all of Folsom. She will be sadly missed by all of her adoring family members and close friends. A Rosary will be held at the Miller Funeral Home, 507 Scott Street, Folsom at 4 p.m. on Thursday, April 8. A Mass will held on Friday, April 9, 2010, at 2 p.m. at St. John's Catholic Church, 307 Montrose Drive in Folsom. A private burial service will be held after the mass, followed by a reception.
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Memories and Condolences
for Monique MECRAY
Sponsored by Keith and Joanna Maddison & Family.
JOHN
March 6, 2021
a true and lovely lady indeed,, many of my family members have passed away sadly and friends from cancer,, i have many of JOHN MECAYS prints .and went to his dinner after in newport and give the family a half hull of the GLORIANA,ABOUT 2 FT LONG AND I WILL SAY A LOVELY DINNER.. at the restoration of sail boats there and very nice group of guest.... ty so much and god bless you all my best JOHN GAGNE
April 2, 2020
Sweet Monique, I know it has been awhile but I continue to think of you and miss you so very much... You are the most beautiful Angel, I'm sure and I just wanted to let you know that you are on my mind always. Rest Peacefully baby girl...
Alexia Monique
Joanna Maddison
April 10, 2015
My Sweetest Angel...I try so often to come to this site to write to you, but the pain of losing you is so great, I can't get through opening up the page. I cannot believe you have been gone from us for the past five years. Five years ago today, I had to lay you to rest. My heart grieves as though it was yesterday. I have looked through newborn pictures of you until the days before you left us and I still cannot understand why God took you. You had your whole life ahead of you, a beautiful little girl to raise, a husband, plans for your career, a family who loved and cherished you dearly. Life has never been the same for any of us. I begged God to let me take your place, take all your pain, so that you could live, but sadly is was not meant to be and I have had to wake up each day knowing I can never see your beautiful face, see your sweet smile, hug you, kiss your cheek, tell you how much I love you, hear your voice and listen to your funny sayings, watch and be a part of and enjoy the many aspects of your life as you should have been given, and I will never understand. Dustin, Kadie, and Kyle all miss you so much and life has been hard for them as well. Jaylie has grown so much, but is so much like you it is amazing to watch. She always wants to know so much about you, wants to be just like you, misses and loves you, you would be so proud of her! Kadie had a new little girl who she named in honor of you...Alexia Monique. One day she will know all about you as well and will be proud to have been honored with your name. I know how much Kadie wanted you to be here with her during this special time in her life. We take comfort that you are no longer in pain, so if I have to suffer all the days of my life it will not be in vain just to know you live in peace and in paradise and we will be together again one day. I love and miss you so much my sweet 'Lil Miss Liberty! Blowing kisses to Heaven for you...Mama xoxoxoxox
April 9, 2015
Oh Moniquey, it has been 5 years since we have seen your pretty face but you are always on our minds and in our hearts and I'm sure you are smiling down on Jaylie and your Mom & Dad & Sister & Brothers and all of those you love. We look forward to seeing you again some day. Love you forever sweet girl, big hugs!! Love, Lyn
April 7, 2015
HI this is Sofia, Jaylie's BFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF am sorry you are going through the sad times of your daughter. BTW that was jaylie me typing. PS. I love you meme.PS. again we are both really sad. Love you so much meme.
Jennifer Phillips
July 21, 2013
Monique, I miss you so much.There is not a single day that goes by that I don't think about you. I miss your smile and the way you would light up a room as only you could. This life is a very empty place without you. I love you, Aunt Jennifer
Joanna & Keith Maddison
July 4, 2013
Happy Birthday to our sweet, precious Angel. We love and miss you so much. Jaylie being here to help celebrate your life, makes it bearable. She is such a darling and so much like you! She always asks hundreds of questions about you and wants to be just like you, which is not hard for her to do!! We cannot believe you have been gone for a little over three years, at times it seems like yesterday. Not a day that goes by, you are not thought of and some of our most cherished memories of you bring smiles to everyone. You said some "classic" things that will remain timeless. Mother's Day and Father's Day are always so hard for your dad and I. The silence rings louder than the phone, as you were always the first one to call us. Dustin, Kyle and Kadie always call, etc., too, but you were the one that was up with the sunrise. We are having such a wonderful and special time with Jaylie. She loves you so much and misses you with all her heart too! We will be watching the fireworks at your Dad's work and it always reminds us so much of you. You were just like the 4th of July! An American Patriot, independent, a "little firecracker." Jaylie is taking dancing just like you! So we are sure she will be a gifted and talented dancer just like you!! I wish I could reach up to Heaven and give you a birthday kiss and hug! Love you eternally...and one day we will be together again. Please tell Grandma Donna and Great Grandma "Hello" from all of us. We know how much they would love and adore Jaylie!! Hugs and kisses...Mom and Dad xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Joanna Maddison
December 31, 2012
To My Precious Baby Girl, It is the last day of 2012, but not a day goes by that you are not remembered. I see you in the faces of your sister and brothers, your precious child Jaylie, and in the memories that you gave to all of us! I keep cherished in my heart and I know they do as well. This year, Christmas was special. Jaylie is here spending time with us and has brought us all the greatest gift of joy. She asks all about you and wants to be so much like you...I try to explain to her...she already is in so many ways! We all love you and miss you so much. There will never be a Christmas that goes by that all your fun antics and sayings are not remembered and brings us closer to you. Though another year is ending, I take it as one year closer to being reunited with you. Please tell Grandma Donna, Great Grandma and cousin Zachary that we love and miss them as well! I cherish you my precious child. Be at peace. Love,
Mom
Jaylie Mecray
December 31, 2012
Dear mommy, you are my hero forever. I always love you so much. I will lock you in my heart forever. I love you. Mommy you are the best Mommy I could ever have and the most beautiful too. love, Jaylie. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxxoxxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Joanna Maddison
October 31, 2012
Happy Halloween to our precious girl! We have so many wonderful memories of you on Halloween. You loved all the holidays and we are so grateful for all the wonderful and special memories we have of you. We hope you enjoy the beautiful flowers, pumpkins, Indian corn and other Halloween decorations we left for you...they are from the whole family with all our love. We spoke to Jaylie a little bit ago and she is dressing up as Mary Poppins this year. You always did such a wonderful job dressing her up and we loved going out with all of you. I know how much you and Kadie loved Mary Poppins, as well as, Jaylie Bugs. I am going to give her my two Mary Poppins books that were given to me by Grandma Donna when I was about five. Jaylie told me she would take very special care of them. There is not a day that goes by that we do not think about you, talk about you and remember all the wonderful things about you that made you so special and unique. All your little sayings and things that you would do have all been remembered in our hearts and minds to treasure for the rest of our lives. Jaylie is coming for Christmas and we are all so excited! She loves and misses you so much. Believe me, she will never forget you and asks as many questions about as she can when she is here or talking on the phone. When she came for your birthday, she was sitting on the stool in front of my vanity and was smelling the different perfume bottles. When she picked up your empty Chanel bottle that I have saved she smelled it and said, "Mommy!" It made me cry...she asked if she could have it in her room here and that is where it is and one day I will be able to give it to her to keep in memory of you...but she knew that was perfume was uniquely you. We all love and adore you...please tell Grandma Donna and Great Gramdma that we love and miss them so much too. Be at peace my special child, until we are all together again. We all love and cherish you. Mom, Dad, Dustin, Kadie, Kyle and Jaylie Bugs!! xoxoxoxoxox
July 4, 2012
Happy Birthday Precious Girl!! Oh how we miss you and long to see you again someday...Jaylie is absolutely as beautiful as You and your Mama are!! I love you forever. Lyn
Jaylie and Renee June 2012
Joanna Maddison
July 3, 2012
My Baby Girl,
Tomorrow is your birthday. We always looked so forward to the Fourth of July, not only to celebrate America's birthday, but yours. I know how much you truly enjoyed being born on the Fourth of July...and it was so fitting. I believed that God had a sense of humor when he gave me a child on that day. And you were a true patiot of this country through and through. So many times, I was so proud of you because you were not afaid to stand up for your beliefs whether it was in a classroom or anywhere else. We will be having a cake for you and Jaylie will get to blow out the candles. She picked out a special candle...well you will just have to see it tomorrow! Jaylie finally got to meet her cousins, Danuee and Renee and they both loved her and she loved them. We took Jaylie and Danuee to a cabin by Bodega Bay and they played and played. There was a fireworks display over the Russian River on night and Jaylie says,"We get to celebrate Mommy twice." I told her that we can celebrate you everyday of our lives! We talked a lot about how much you wanted her to live her life as best she can, how doing good in school was so important to you and that you would always live inside of her to guide her way in life. She asks a million questions about you...Did Mommy like this? Did Mommy like to do...? She remembers you so well...trust that! And we will do our best to never let your memory fade one shade from her mind. We love and miss you so much!! We will never get over losing you and are doing the best we can to get by...but we truly cannot wait until we are reunited with you again.
I love, cherish, and honor you my sweeheart.
Love,
Mama xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Jaylie April 4, 2012 Visiting with Mommy
Joanna Maddison
June 18, 2012
My Sweetheart Child,
We are getting ready to have Jaylie for a couple of weeks and looking so forward to it. She will be here for your birthday and we know that is very special for her. I know so many of the special things you wanted to do for her and with her throughout her life and it breaks my heart that you are not physically here. Jaylie will never forget you! That I know for a fact! She is so much like you and wants to know all about you. When she was last here and we went to your Special Place to bring you flowers and balloons, she was so precious! She made sure everything was placed just perfect and wanted to write so many things to you that I had to promise her we could send you many more balloons the next time she came. I am trying to do as many of the things that you wanted for her as I can. Your dad truly missed that phone call from you that always came on Father's Day. We love and miss you so much. A friend has written a song for you and is going to put a video together of your pictures and it will be posted on the internet for all to enjoy. You will live on through eternity with music, something that you loved so much.
I love, cherish and honor you, my sweet baby girl.
Love,
Mama xoxoxoxoxox
June 18, 2012
Hi Monique,
I really missed you yesterday on fathers day. You were always the first of the kids to call me and wish me a happy fathers day. I think about you every day, yesterday was extra difficult. I love you, Dad
May 15, 2012
Hi Baby Girl! I still can't believe you are gone but your beautiful face lives on in each one of our hearts, you know who we are. I love you and miss you terribly , I see you in your little girl, Jaylie. She is so much like you....In loving memory, Lyn
May 14, 2012
I don't know what to say...it seems like that each time I've been on here. Each day I see your picture on my fridge when I am making coffee. I smile at the sight of you, but am still sad that you're gone. I put a baby picture of us in my house next to a picture of Jaylie and Gracie holding hands. We are looking forward to seeing her this summer when she visits her grandparents. Gracie still asks of her often and we watch her on fb. Shes beautiful just like you! I miss you and love you! Love, Kirsten
Joanna Maddison
May 14, 2012
Dear My Sweet Monique,
Today is Mother's Day, and it is a difficult day without your special presence. We always spend time with you at your special place and we know how much you love the yellow roses. I was always so proud to be your Mother and so grateful to God that he entrusted me with his special Angel...YOU! Jaylie is just like having you around again...she is just like you in so many ways. She asked a hundred questions about you when she was here...so precious. She wants to know all about you and I can tell wants to be just like you in everyway! You, being my first born gave me my first Mother's Day...and you will always be a part of everyone in the future as you will never leave our heart and souls. We love and miss you so much. We still cannot believe you are gone, but we do find comfort knowing that one day we will be reuinted. Tell Grandma Donna and Great Grandma...Happy Mother's Day, too. I know you are watching over them. Bless you my sweet child. We all miss you and love you very much!
Love Eternally,
Mom, Dad, Dustin, Kadie and Kyle and we know Jaylie loves you so much, too!
Joanna Maddison
April 8, 2012
Our Precious Angel,
It has been two years since you left us. We love, cherish and remember each and everyday. On April 4th, we went to visit your special place on Earth and brought you flowers and balloons. This year Jaylie flew to spend "special time" with us over her Spring Break. It was her first "solo" flight. She made sure all the flowers were arranged perfectly and I am sure you received the two special balloons that she wrote a precious message on and sent them to Heaven for you. We took her to San Francisco and had a great time and then yesterday we took her back to Build-A-Bear to finish her bear she picked out last year. She has asked us a million questions about you! Trust me she will never forget you and she is so much like you it is almost unbelievable. She is painting a picture of you, which will be cherished forever. Today, Easter Sunday, she has been just darling and made it a very special Easter. Dustin, Kadie and Kyle love and miss you so much as well and I can tell how much your absence is affecting them. I pray you are at peace and I know that you are out of pain, which is comforting. Please tell Grandma Donna and my Grandma that we love and miss them as well. I pray you have a blessed Easter my special Angel...may God bring you peace and comfort....until we see each other again!! We love you so much!!
Mom, Dad, Jaylie, Dustin, Kadie & Kyle
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Joanna Maddison
March 18, 2012
Our Precious Angel,
When we see pictures of Jaylie up a tree or riding her bike she reminds me so much of you! She looks just like you, too! There is not a day that goes by that we do not think of you! We are going to be getting Jaylie for her Spring Break! We plan on having a little birthday party for her while she is here since we won't see her on her birthday. It will be fun to see what she has to say...as she always has such a sense of humor and what fun thing to do she will come up with...like last year's "stage" performance she put on, which was so special we will never for get it. There is always so much I want to tell you...how much we love you, how much we miss you and how hard life is without you. Dustin, Kadie and Kyle miss you so much it's hard for them to talk about it. We all love you sweetheart.
Mom & Dad xoxoxoxoxoxox
January 28, 2012
Hello To You Beautiful!! We love you and miss you so very much, you sweet girl... Please watch over your Mama as she is still having such a difficult time without you and without little Jaylie. I pray for her daily....Love you so much "Moniquey"! Lyn
Joannna Maddison
January 26, 2012
Our Precious Angel,
It's past Christmas and New Year's. The pain of your absence is still so overwhelming that it is hard to put anything into words. We have put up the 19 foot Christmas tree the last two Christmas and decorated the house just as I promised you, but still Jaylie has not been able to come as visit over the holiday season. Her two cousins Danuee and Renee are in awe of it just like Jaylie was and it breaks our heart so much that she cannot be apart of the season, as she always once was. I know how much it meant to you so we will keep trying. I sent Jaylie a Pogo Stick since she is so athletic and I just loved mine when I was her age. There is still not a day goes by that we do not think of you. We all love and miss you so much each and every day. I can remember at Christmas time when you were young you just could stand not knowing what was in those boxes and would try to peek! So I had to either hide your gifts or put empty boxes with your name on them to fool and you laugh when you got the note inside that I would put like "no peeking" or "gotcha." You even got the other kids involved in the snooping! They too are still having a very hard time with you gone. We all love you so much and miss you with all our hearts.
All Our Love, Mama, Dad and all the family xoxoxoxoxox
Jan Deatherage
January 22, 2012
I know you are with Jesus precious lady, I remember praying with you so many years ago. You were always so concerned for others. You would draw me the most wonderful pictures when you were little. My heart and love go out to everyone as we wait patiently for our grand reunion day.
Joanna Maddison
November 24, 2011
Our Dearest Angel,
Today is Thanksgiving. And today we are all so thankful for all the time we had with you. When it was Halloween, I just couldn't write. I knew how much you loved to dress up and go out! It was always such a special time of year. Now here we are today, another holiday has come and you are not here by our side, but you are in our hearts. We will love and miss you forever. No words will ever be able to express how much we cherish you and are so thankful that you are a part of our family. We spoke with Jaylie for a few minutes today, we know she loves and misses you as well. About a month ago, Kyle and I went to visit you and nine deer came to visit you! Jaylie called me back while we were there and was so excited to know about the deer that came to visit her Mommy! We love you precious, Mama, Dad and all the family! xoxoxoxoox
Joanna Maddison
August 14, 2011
Our Sweet Angel,
On your birthday I tried to get on this site but they were having some issues that the Bee was trying to resolve, but it wasn't done in time. I try to write down my thoughts to you so many times, but I know you will forgive me when the typing becomes tears and I get off the computer. I know you hear me when I talk to you. We celebrated your birthday with Jaylie who, as always, is pricelss. She sang, "Happy Birthday To Mommy We Love You" all day. The night before she wanted to put on an art show for Mommy's birthday. So we drew pictures of flowers and sunsets and then she had us stand on the fireplace as a "stage" and show our picture and tell everyone why we drew the picture for you and how much we all love and miss you and say something special about you...thinking up all the special thinks about you was the easy part!! We took her to Build-A-Bear...what she had wanted us to do for her fourth birthday but she understood why we couldn't. She picked out "Hello Kitty" and named her "Monique" and a dog which she named "Jaylie" and also called it her "Hotdog." We had a blast watching her. For your birthday, she blew out the candle on your cake for you. We took flowers, especially yellow roses, balloons, streamers, pinwheels and candles to where we visit your special place on Earth. She all held hands and sang "Happy Birthday" to you and she helped decorate and wanted everything to be perfect. She is like watching you so much it's almost unbelievable. We talked about you all day...she wanted to what you did for your birthdays when you were her age and what you did and what you played with and where and with you...the list was endless. She cried several times about how much she misses you and I told her that it was all right to cry anytime she felt she needed to. I told her how much you loved her and fought so hard to live for her and never, never would have left her and that you live inside of her forever, which she got very excited over. She wants to know everything about you, when you were a baby, a little girl, a teenager and a young woman. I will do everything that I promised you which is within my power to do. I may not be able to do the things that you wanted for Jaylie until she is much older but I know you understand why. I love you my precious child and miss you more than you can imagine and I know I speak for Jaylie as well. Tell Grandma Donna and your great grandma that we love and miss them, too!
I Love YOU ANGEL xoxoxoxoxoxox
Mama
Joanna Maddison
May 27, 2011
On Sunday, April 24, 2011, it was Easter. I had already given Jaylie her Easter bag when I visited her on April 2nd, and we had so much fun playing together at the park. It was just like playing catch, hide-and-go-seek and showing me how she could do all the activities on the equipment like you used to do. I could not help the tears as I watched her, it was just like watching a rerun of you! She told me how much she loves you and she misses you. I told her about how you will live in her heart and soul forever and she was facinated by that. When Mother's Day came I sat at the computer trying to write to you, but I couldn't, however when we brought you your beautiful roses and I spoke with you I believed you understood. The yellow special rose that represented Jaylie was absolutely beautiful and it was huge! Now, today your precious daughter turned seven years-old. I know you are watching her from Heaven and know what a wonderful little darling she is. She is coming for a few days to stay with us in July for your birthday and we are finally going to get to go to Build A Bear..four birthdays later. She was so precious in Texas for her fourth birthday when she wanted to go but understood why we just couldn't during that time. Everyone misses you so much....and the love for you is eternal as you know. You now have your cousin Zachary there in Heaven with you...now both of you can look after Grandma Donna and my grandma too who also loved you so much. I am sure you have Heaven all organized by now, lol. Love and cherish you my baby girl, Mama xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Amber Junkovic
April 25, 2011
Oh boy, where do I begin? Monique is probably the largest most beautiful and impressionable memory I have in my life. At a mere 12 years old, I was confronted by a sassy, confident girl informing me of my wrong doings to another girl. (The other girl was twice her size, and yet Moe was the one defending HER!) In the end, there was nothing to disagree about and we walked home from school together that day and pretty much for the rest of our teen years. Oh how I loved Monique. I cannot imagine my history without her. It is amazing how much someone can change your life. In those young years, the only way I would describe our friendship, is to compare it to yin and yang. Throughout our adulthood, although far away from eachother, she always held such a large part of my heart. We always picked up where we left off, no matter the time in between. I miss her every day, and have often reached for my phone to call her when something or someone triggers a memory we shared together. I know how beautiful she shines in Heaven, and I will never forget her. And to Jaylie... Your mom was amazing and someday I would love to share my memories with you :)
Amber Dixon-Junkovic
Joanna Maddison
April 7, 2011
My Dearest Angel,
We went to visit you again to today, and I could not believe my eyes when I saw that the candle I lit for you on Monday is still burning brightly. It represented to me that you will forever shine in the hearts of all the people who loved and cared about you. I just couldn't wait to tell you (although I am sure you already knew there in Heaven) but you made all of us smile, as you always did. Tell Grandma Donna and Greatgrandma "Hello" and I know you are taking good care of them.
Lots of love,
Mama XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX
Keith Maddison
April 7, 2011
Dear Monique,
A year has past since you left us, but it seems like only yesterday. It's been very difficult for me to accept the fact that I won't ever hear your voice or get to talk to you again. Jaylie is so cute and so very much like you that everytime I see her it's as if I'm looking at you. I enjoy looking through all the pictures we have accumulated over the years, but it's so painful knowing we will never be able to take anymore with you. I have so many favorites that I don't know where to start. Some of the most precious memories are of thoes at the holidays, the times we spent at your house in Phoenix and all the trips that we took especially the one to Europe. My favorite picture of just you and me will always be the one with us standing together at the Bridge of Sighs in Venice, Italy. I miss your requests for me to make your favorite meals, they will never again be as good as they were when we shared them together. I miss your phone calls, you never forgot to call and wish me Happy Father's Day, tell me "Happy Birthday Dad," and when you needed my help solving problems, moving, helping with repairs, help with your car or helping you with other things anytime you needed. I will always be there the same for Jay and Jaylie, just as I promised you. I received such great pleasure watching you fulfill your dreams with Jay and Jaylie. No father could have ever been more proud of his daughter than I am of you. You will be in my heart at all times, forever. I love you. Dad XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX
Joanna Maddison
April 6, 2011
I lit a candle at noon on Monday, April 4th at the moment one year ago that you became an angel in Heaven. Today, three days later that candle still burns as brightly as the day it was lit. It stands as a reminder that you will never dim, even as the years pass along. Jaylie who is so much like you, will never let that happen and neither will any of your brothers or sister and all the prople who cherished you as I did. I love and miss you so very, very much, Mama xox
Joanna Maddison
April 4, 2011
Our Precious, Cherished and Beloved daughter Monique,
It has been one year since the day, that I believe God looked at your tired face and said, "Child of mine, you have faught and suffered long enough, it is time for you to have peace, without pain, without suffering and come home to live in paradise." Although the pain has not eased and the tears continue to fall for those you left behind, we all find comfort in your peace. I am so grateful to God for sharing you with me. You came into this world and brought happiness, love, laughter and joy to everyone who knew you. You will never be forgotten. We have so many wonderful memories of you to keep in our hearts until the end of our time and then we will be back together again for all eternity. Jaylie, your precious little girl who is so much like you, represents that you still live on through her. She loves and misses you and I know will always cherish you as her own precious Mommy. She always tells me how much she misses you and we talk about you and I share with her all the wonderous things you did as a child, teenager and when you had her and answer the questions because she wants and seeks out to know all about you. As she gets older, as I promised you, she will never forget you. You and only you are her beloved Mother, God gifted you and Jay with a beautiful, darling, smart little girl and we are all so very thankful. I know how hard you faught to bring her into this world and in her heart and soul she already knows that about you. Dustin, Kadie and Kyle love and miss you and cherish the memories they have of you as their beloved sister. I could not be prouder to have been chosen to be your mother. I am keeping this book online for the next several years in order for people who loved you so they may write to you and then one day Jaylie will have the book to cherish as her own. We brought you your favorite yellow roses today to the place we know are resting, but we talk to you through God in order to tell you how much we will always love and miss you. I am also very grateful to your husband Jay who did everything within his power to help you in your fight against the cancer and to provide you with his love and I know you lived much longer, which allowed us to spend more time together here on Earth. We will see you again one day my sweet angel. I know you are with Grandma Donna and your Great Grandma and once again making their lives filled with joy. Sending you hugs and kisses...catch them and hold them in your heart.
I love you so much,
Mama xoxox
Kirsten Shafer
April 4, 2011
Mo,
I can't believe a year has gone by already. You were always one of the strongest girls I knew - both in health and then in sickness. You handled yourself with amazing grace and love even though your pain was visibly unbearable those last years. As things happen in life now, I often wish you were here to share them with, laugh about things, and cry together. Your loyalty and love for your friends and loved ones was true and I always knew you to be right there next to me... there always when I needed you. We traveled through our early twenties together, growing up together, getting married...having babies...and sharing all of that right along with you made it so amazing. When I needed a friend you were there, and for that I will never forget you.
Jaylie is growing up so amazing! Her little face maturing to look more and more like you by the day. She is going to give her dad a run for his money soon enough...with your good looks and your attitude....she's bound to take on the world. I will always share with her how wonderful her mom was...how much her mom loved her and what her mom dreamt for her future. I remember your dreams...I can't wait to share them with her. Your memories will live on, you had an impact on many...and wait till I tell the stories :)
Missing you always,
Kirsten
Lyn Loveday
March 30, 2011
Oh how I miss your beautiful face little girl....You are in my daily thoughts and although I don't get to see little Jaylie in person being way up in the Northwest, I do enjoy the pics of her on facebook and seeing her is like seeing you at that age. I love you so much and miss you terribly.
You are forever in my heart. Love, Your Auntie Lyn
March 29, 2011
My Dearest Baby Girl, As the day of the one year anniversary of your passing approaches, my heart breaks a little more. I believe I am still in shock that my vibrant, out-going, precious child is gone. I can never look into your beautiful face and see that smile or give you a hug and tell you how much I love you. We all miss you so much my dear child. This wasn't the way it was suppose to be...parents don't bury their children. You deserved to live your life and I would have traded places with you in a heartbeat. I will be visiting you later today and we will talk more. I will always cherish...you took a part of my soul so we will forever be connected. I love you so much....Mama xoxoxox
BBQ on Easter in Arizona <3
Kristin Maddison
February 22, 2011
Mo,
You've been such a huge part of my life along with Jay and little Jaylie Bugs. Seems like just yesterday you were welcoming me into your home while I was getting settled in Arizona with my new life with Kyle. Looking back on it, those were most of my best memories. I got to spend so much time with you guys, and was truly made a part of the family. My first visit to the Grand Canyon was such a blast, something that always brings me happiness when I think back. Coming to see you guys on the weekends from base was always the highlight of our week. The small things like hanging out in the pool, and going out to eat, shopping at the mall together, taking Jaylie out, or watching movies are memories I cherish so much. I'm so blessed to have had those experiences and thankful for the beautiful daughter you guys have brought into this world. She reminds me so much of you, so carefree and a little social butterfly. You live on through her, and I know you are looking down on us watching us live and grow. You will forever stay in my heart Mo, I love and miss you so much!!
Joanna Maddison
February 17, 2011
My precious baby girl,
Today is your Grandma Donna's birthday, someone I know you loved so very much. You brought so much joy to her life. You loved to spend the weekends with her at her little apartment and play cards together or go up to the mall and help her buy things. She may have been disabled and in a wheelchair, but to you she was perfect. I will always be grateful to you for the joy you brought to my mother's life. I now know, too, the special bond between grandparents and their grandchildren. And once again I have you to thank. You are a treasure that left behind a little gem. Jaylie is the darling of my heart. She reminds me so much of you. I know how much she loves you and that she misses you very much just as we all do. We do not know why God took you from us, but knowing I will see you again one day I find comfort in your peace. I love you precious baby girl...Mama xoxoxoox <3
Jay Mecray
February 17, 2011
This is a most difficult thing to write. Writing a letter to my deceased wife is not what I ever envisioned in my future. I hoped Monique would grow old with me and survive me by many years. Unfortunately, we know this was not to be and it saddens me every day since her passing.
I feel very blessed that Monique gave me such a precious gift to remind me of her though, our daughter, Jaylie. Every time I look into our baby's eyes, I see her mother and get to remember what a kind and wonderful person Monique was. Our daughter is truly the biggest blessing one could give and without Monique I would not have this wonderful angel in my life.
Monique, you are painfully missed, but I know deep in my heart you are in a better place and not feeling the pain that you unfairly had to endure here. I know you are watching over your daughter and will see her grow into a woman soon. I love and miss you terribly, but will see you again one day.
Your loving husband.
Jennifer Maddison
February 16, 2011
Mo,
I visit you every chance that I get. And each time like I have said before, I play your favorite country songs and just shed some tears. I bring something each time to mark your spot; whether it be flowers, a letter or little decorations. You are always in our thoughts and always remembered for the wonderful life that you lived. It tears me up for several days after visiting you but the last time motivated me to have my side tattooed with flowers and stars. I love you so much!
Love always Cousin Jenny
Joanna Maddison
February 16, 2011
If God had asked me if I would accept a baby girl but could only have her for 29 years I would have told him absolutely yes. The joy and happiness you brought to this family and your friends is without measure. You are loved and cherished for eternity. Although I will grieve your loss for the rest of my life, I would not trade one minute of the years we had together. Rest in peace my sweet baby girl. I love you Mama xoxoxoxox <3
Joanna Maddison
February 5, 2011
It has been 10 months since you left us my sweet baby girl, however, the tears keep falling as though it was yesterday. I am sure they will never really stop. Jaylie is growing up and is just like you. Bright, inquisitive, independent, outspoken, entergetic just to name a few of her precious qualities. She has learned to ride a bike and rides like the wind, which reminds me so much of you. She talks about you and how much she misses you. I will always do my best to keep your memory alive for her with stories about you and all the thousands of pictures we have of you. You were so important in her life and always will be as you will always be for the rest of the family. We all love, cherish, and miss you so much. Rest in peace my sweet child. Love, Mama xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
January 24, 2011
My precious Monique,
You are the light of my life and so is Jaylie. I had so much fun taking her to Disneyland on Saturday as we had spoken about. This is the second time she has gone with us, a promise made is a promise kept.
I love you so much,
Mommy
January 24, 2011
My Dearest Monique, There is not a day that goes by and you are not thought of, missed, and loved. It has been very hard knowing I will never hear your sweet voice, telling me all the interesting and fun things you have been doing. I cannot never hug you or kiss your cheek to show you how much you are loved. You have been gone for a little over nice months now, and the pain of your passing has not eased in the slightest. However, knowing you are not in pain is comforting. I love you baby girl. I know there are several things that have happened here on Earth that would upset you that would never go on in Heaven where you are and I am grateful for that. Therefore, you are able to rest in peace. I find it so unbelievable that the first words I said to you when you were placed in arms when you were born were "I love you Monique" and the last words you said as I held you were, "I love you Mom." I love you more than these simple words can say....Mommy xoxoxox <3
Jen Maddison
October 20, 2010
MO,
I miss you so much but visit you often so you can still hear george Straight. I hope you hear it when I sit with you and talk and cry to you. It was so hard on us as we laid you to rest but so thankful that you are no longer hurting. You are so loving and caring and I will never forget what you have done for me. Im thankful that you got to hear Kaia's last words to you through my cell phone saying "Monique I love, get better!" Theres not a day that doesn't go by that I don't think about you and the wonderful mother, wife, cousin, and friend you have been. Love you lots.
Love always, Cousin Jenny
Joanna Maddison
August 29, 2010
My Dearest Monique,
There is not a day nor an hour that goes by that I do not think about you. Your dad and I are going to visit Jay and Jaylie this week. The visits, of course, are not the same without you there, but we share a lot of the wonderful memories we have of you...so we will never run out of things to talk about on that topic! You were such a special person and I love and miss you so much my 'lil fircracker. I bet you and Grandma Donna are inseparable! I will write to you again soon. I love and cherish you my precious child, Mom xoxoxoxox
Alana Emmons
July 4, 2010
Happy Birthday dearest Monique, we love you so and miss you. Jaylie is so precious and we are so lucky to have her to carry on your "firecracker" personality and when we look at her we see you. Rest in peace our special angel. We love you, Bob, Alana and family
Monique's 29th Birthday...July 4, 2009
Joanna and Keith Maddison
July 4, 2010
Our Precious and Cherished Daughter Monique,
Tomorrow, July 4th, America celebrates our Country's Birthday: "Independence Day." However, along with celebrating that special American holiday, we were blessed with the birth of our special little baby girl. We have been celebrating your birthday for the past 29 years. When you were little you thought everyone was celebrating your birhday with all the special fireworks and parties. You were born on a day that fit you so well. Independent, a true patriot, love and appreciation of all things American, a little firecracker. I also kept looking to see if God had put a tag on you somewhere that read, "Made In America." We were always so proud of you for being so true to our beloved country. We talked about what you wanted to do for your 30th birthday, and I am so sorry you did not make it to see your dream come true. We will be celebrating your life; I am sure God will grant you your birthday wish. July 4th also marks the 3rd month that God said it was time for you to rest in peace. We all love and miss you so much and will through eternity. Jaylie talks so much about you and told me how much she loves and misses you, but knows you are always with her even though she cannot see you right now, but will again one day. Happy Birthday our Baby Girl we all adore you and find comfort in your peace. Rest in peace our precious child...until we are able to wrap our arms around you and never let you go.
Happy 30th Birthday our Little Firecracker! Hugs and kisses, Mom, Dad, Dustin, Kadie and Kyle xoxoxoxox
Still having fun at Funderland
Joanna Maddison
June 7, 2010
Mommie & Jaylie having fun at Funderland
Joanna Maddison
June 7, 2010
Monique & Kadie
Joanna Maddison
June 7, 2010
Mommie & Jaylie
June 7, 2010
Mommie & Jaylie
June 7, 2010
Mommie and Jaylie: August 2009
Joanna Maddison
June 7, 2010
Joanna Maddison
June 6, 2010
My Dearest and Cherished Monique,
You have been gone from us just over two months. However, knowing that you are out of pain and are no longer suffering brings all of us a measure of comfort. I spoke to Jaylie today, she is so much like you! She told me that, "Mama is in Heaven, but she is also with me too, and she is with you too Grandma. We miss Mommie don't we Grandma, she was your baby." Out of the mouths of babes! I told her how much you loved her and will forever. Jaylie is such a special gift as all children are. Rest in Peace my precious child...until I am able to wrap my arms around you again and never have to let you go.
Love you eternally,
Mom
A romantic ride through Venice, Italy; 2003
Joanna Maddison
June 6, 2010
Monique and Dad in Venice, Italy; Christmas 2003
Joanna Maddison
June 6, 2010
All Monique wanted for Christmas was Jay 2003
Joanna Maddison
June 6, 2010
Monique & Jay in Germany for Christmas 2003
Joanna Maddison
June 6, 2010
Jay and Monique in Germany for Christmas 2003
Joanna Maddison
June 6, 2010
June 6, 2010
Rachel LoBue
May 13, 2010
I am very blessed to have gone to school with monique. She was one of my very best friends. She is missed dearly. My condolences go out to her family.
Ericka Mattson
April 12, 2010
Jay, Jaylie and Family,
My prayers and thoughts are with you. God Bless you.
Ms. Ericka Mattson
(Tutor Time, Phoenix, Az)
April 12, 2010
Our heart goes out to all. We were lucky to have met Jay and Monique through Michael and Shai. We will keep all in our thoughts and prayers during these difficult times.
Steve & Roberta Kanelos
Shai Schendel
April 12, 2010
My heart goes out to Monique and her family. She will be missed and I am happy that I had the opportunity to spend some good times with her. I will keep Jay and Jaylie in my prayers for this difficult time.
Tom Thompson
April 10, 2010
Dear Monique,
On Easter Sunday, 2010 as the Lord was celebrating the Resurrection, He must have needed a special spirit to add joy and sunshine to this solemn occasion. He looked down on Earth and saw you...someone who sparkled like a shiny river rock...someone perfect for the part. He then lifted you up to be with Him eternally; and you too were resurrected.
You will always be missed, but never lost. We know where you are...and your joyful and loving spirit will live in our hearts forever.
You were so special as a child. With your perky smile, and innate sense of humor, you brought happiness to all of your family and friends. And, the happiness grew as you brought Jay into the family...then blossomed when your beautiful daughter Jaylie came along.
While celebrating your life, we watched on a video screen many of the happy and joyful times you spent traveling with Jay and your family. There you were with your perky smile, wearing a casual shirt with the words "too sweet for you" printed on the front. Yes, "too sweet for you"!
Thank you for blessing us with your uplifting spirit that will serve to remind us what a special and wonderful person you were. And then there is Jaylie, with her own perky smile and cheerful personality, forever reminding us how sweet you really were...yes "too sweet for you".
We will always love you and will cherish our memories of you forever.
Grandad & Maureen
Amanda Livesay
April 8, 2010
Words cannot describe what a beautiful person and friend Monique was to me! From the first time we hung out together we just clicked and knew we were meant to be BFF’s. Although she had an extremely hard fight for the past two years she handled herself with grace and fought harder than I could image. There has not been a day that goes by that I do not think of my friend but I know she is at peace and in a beautiful place, cancer free, laughing, dancing and doing all the fun things Mo loves to do. Monique would always say “You only live once” and I believe this was something she lived by. Before she was sick she lived her life to the fullest and was able to enjoy an amazing part of her lift with her husband Jay and little girl Jaylie.
Mo- you will always be in my heart. I am so lucky and thankful you were such huge a part of my life. I am not sure why things happen the way they happen but we all have a plan. You are no longer in pain and that comforts me and I know you are watching over all of us. I am so sorry I am not able to attend your service but the day after you passed Carsen and I found out we were pregnant; I almost got to share this amazing news with you. You are and will always be my very best friend.
Love Always,
Amanda
Joanna Maddison
April 8, 2010
On July 4, 1980, God granted me the greatest gift of all, a healthy baby girl to love and cherish. Throughout her life she had a wonderful sense of humor, infectious smile and the love of so many people. In February 2008 she was diagnosed with esophageal cancer. She fought valiantly to survive, but God did not want her to suffer anymore, therefore, he called her home to be with him in Heaven. Rest in peace my sweet daughter, I will miss you forever, but I will find comfort in your peace. You live on through your darling, daughter Jaylie who is just like you. You will be forever missed. It has been an honor and a privilege to be your mother. I love, honor and cherish you. Love, Mom
Joyce & Cliff Dillingham
April 8, 2010
My husband and I met Monique several years ago through my nephew. She was sweet and full of life and it was always nice to see her. I was so sorry to hear of her illness but was unable to make contact with her during the past year. I wanted to tell her that she touched our lives and I feel fortunate to have shared a brief time in her life. She made a music CD for us that she said were her favorite songs. We play it often and I always think of her. The tears are falling as I write this, in rememberance of her life and the lives that she touched. My thoughts are with your family.
Jay, Monique, Amanda, and Carsen
April 8, 2010
Carsen Livesay
April 8, 2010
Monique, will be missed by so many. God bless her and her family. My heart goes out to all who knew and loved her.
Best Friends
April 8, 2010
kadie maddison
April 8, 2010
God saw you getting tired,
When a cure was not to be.
So He wrapped his arms around you,
and whispered, "Come to me".
You didn't deserve what you went through,
So He gave you rest.
God's garden must be beautiful,
He only takes the best
And when I saw you sleeping,
So peaceful and free from pain
I could not wish you back
To suffer that again.
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