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Toby Slingerland Obituary
1970-2024
Salt Lake City, Ut-Toby Scott Slingerland passed away peacefully in his Salt Lake City home on Saturday October 12, 2024 at the age of 54.
Toby was born to Robert (Bob) L. Slingerland and Betty (Warr) Slingerland on July 14, 1970. Toby is survived by his father Bob Slingerland, his brother Rob Slingerland, his sister Stacey Lundy and his two Samoyed dogs, Belle and Sammi, and his niece and nephews; Alexis, Nate, Cole, Sam and Will.
Toby grew up in Erda, Utah, just down the lane from his beloved Grandparents Norman J. Warr and Emma (Rydalch) Warr. Toby graduated from Tooele High School in 1988. Toby loved to ski, race 3-wheelers, play basketball and tennis, fish with his Grandparents, throw underage parties and chase girls. Toby was the mischievous member of the family, and he was whip smart.
Toby's life took a terrible turn in 1991 when he was in a car accident on the way back from Wendover that resulted in him becoming a quadriplegic just before his 21st birthday. In the first decade following his accident, Toby persevered and lived a vibrant life. He went back to the University of Utah and got his BA in finance, led a thriving online news company, dated, drove his specially equipped van, and traveled all over Europe. In more recent years Toby's health and body often failed him, and he spent a lot of time in hospitals and recovery facilities. He despised being in facilities and couldn't wait to get back to his beloved old firehouse in the Avenues to be with his dogs, fish and visits from friends and family.
A special acknowledgement to Toby's father, Bob, who made innumerable sacrifices to ensure Toby was well taken care of, had his own house to live in, a van to drive, etc. Bob was always the first call Toby made when he needed assistance or had an emergency. Toby's dad was always there for him.
Toby often said his mother Betty "is my favorite person". Betty passed away in March 2023. Toby is now reunited with his mom, once again flying down the moguls, racing his 3-wheelers, and serving aces. We will miss you, Toby.
No services will be held. Toby requested that his ashes be spread in Coronado San Deigo.
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Memories and Condolences
for Toby Slingerland
MEG AVERETT
October 31, 2024
OH BOB. I AM SO SO SORRY. I SAW HOW YOU CARED FOR TOBY. MY LOVE TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
MEG AVERETT
Holly Chiodo
October 24, 2024
Bob,
My heart is broken to hear of Toby´s passing. I know you were a tireless support and your love for him was seen in your dedication to his life. Sending my deepest condolences and love,
Holly (Barber) Chiodo
Vicki Schoenfeld
October 23, 2024
Dear Bob and family,
I have the most special memory of Toby when he was about 11 years old. Toby had asked for a three piece business suit so he could be an executive. Bob asked some of his friends to "accidentally " be the same restaurant for this lunch. I forgot the name of the restaurant but I can picture it. In Toby walked, handsome, very well-suited, confident, and proceeded to greet the people just like his dad did. He was charming and fun, and this memory always makes me smile. I´m so happy I was able to meet him. My love and friendship to you Bob, you and your family helped Toby live an incredibly full life, and were true examples of love, compassion and dedication.
Love and friendship, Vicki Schoenfeld
Ted Ream
October 19, 2024
Bob and Family,
I knew Toby through my sister Blessing and our shared time camping in the Uintah mountains. My favorite memory of Toby is a crystal clear recollection of running down a
beautiful forest trail with Toby at Moose-horn lake shortly before his tragic car accident. Toby was such an intelligent, dynamic and resilient soul. I really appreciate your family (and so enjoyed bar backing at Green street during my college/ROTC years). Your family is involved in so many amazing memories which is a testament to Toby and the joy he brought to his friends and family.
Gary & Paulette Birdsal
October 18, 2024
bob and family --
We are sending our heartfelt sympathies to you at this incredibly tough time.
All our love -- Gary & Paulette Birdsall
Tricia (Lash) Funes
October 18, 2024
Toby took me to our prom. Although I´ve lost the photo he was a friendly addition to the Class of 88!
Theodore Forsman
October 17, 2024
Slingerland Family,
I am an old friend of Rob's from the 80's - running partner, basketball teammate at Greek Orthodox Church, and more... Rob and I enjoyed many a great time in those years, especially at Green Street. Rob and I have lost touch, but I know we both consider each other cherished friends.
I am so deeply sorry for you on Toby's passing. I probably met Toby once or twice, but not sure.
The obituary is beautiful. Thank you Bob for taking such good care of Toby throughout his amazing life. I can't imagine the heartache his passing leaves.
In the Greek Orthodox Church, at the time of someone's passing, we say to each other "May His Memory Be Eternal." I'm certain Toby's memory will be eternal. I ask Our Gracious God to wrap The Slingerland Family in His Loving Arms as you grieve.
Ted Forsman
Dave Olsen
October 17, 2024
Bob and Rob,
Toby was an amazing man who was a major influence in my life. He attacked challenges and lived a full life, but he didn't do it alone. I was impressed by your family's ability to be there for him and how you put your own lives and careers on hold to help him live his best life. He was an inspiration and strength to all and he will be missed.
Cheryl Norris Reather
October 15, 2024
I had the privilege to be Toby´s babysitter at a young age. He was a super fun boy. He had a lot of energy. He was adorable. There will always be a special place in my heart for Toby and Betty.
Holly Nissalke
October 14, 2024
Bob and Rob, Toby never went without anything because of all the sacrifices the two of you made in every possible. He was so blessed to have you there by his side every moment, no matter what was going on. I know the last years were so difficult...and I know that you all know Toby is free, reunited with his best friend. Heaven has two angels in Betty and Toby - I hope they both stop by to see my mom and dad... they can trade Green Street and Jazz stories. All the love in the world to the Slingerland family. Holly Nissalke
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