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James Forgaard Obituary

James Alvin Forgaard
1934-2011
Resident of Anacortes, WA
James, retired San Lorenzo Valley teacher/coach and performer in Santa Cruz community theater, passed away peacefully at the Life Care Center of Mount Vernon, WA on October 30, 2011, at the age of 77, with his loving wife Marilyn at his side.
Jim was born May 23, 1934 in Champaign, IL, the third son of Alvin Walter Forgaard - an aerial photographer attached to the U.S. Air Force - and Bernice (Mack) Forgaard, who later worked for Boeing and Sears in Seattle. Preceding Jim in death were his father and mother and his brother Dean M. Forgaard, M.D.
Jim spent his early years in Illinois and Colorado. His mother and father divorced in 1943. His mother, Jim, and his two older brothers moved to Renton, WA where he attended Renton schools until moving to Burien, WA. In 1952 Jim graduated from Highline High School - where he was an All-Conference linebacker -which led to a football scholarship at Whitworth College (now University) in Spokane, WA.
Jim met his first wife Joy Banghart while attending Whitworth College. They were married in Burien, WA, on June 26, 1955. Jim and Joy settled in Seattle, WA where Jim worked for the American Can Company and Boeing. Sons Randy, Eric, and Scott were born between 1959 and 1963.
Learning of a need for teachers in California, Jim and Joy packed up the family in 1964 and drove south, settled in Fresno, and worked sometimes two or three jobs while attending Fresno State College (now University) full-time and earning their teaching credentials. Jim kept a succession of old Ramblers going, making possible family sojourns to the great Sequoias and the camping trips everyone enjoyed so much. Jim graduated with honors with a B.A. in Recreation Education. In 1968, the family moved to Santa Cruz and Jim became the physical education teacher, coach, and athletic director at San Lorenzo Valley Jr. High (now Middle School) in Felton, CA, a job he dearly loved. He cared deeply for his students and inspired them to be their best. During his tenure, he was honored with a Teacher of the Year award.
Jim organized the school's first golf team, arranged for playing time at a nearby course, and worked to get clubs and balls donated to the boys who needed them. Sportsmanship was as important to him as talent; he taught his young players rules and etiquette for a week before they ever set foot on the course. On match days, his workday didn't end until long after dusk, when he had safely delivered home the last of several boys who lived in remote pockets of the Santa Cruz Mountains.
Jim and Joy divorced in 1974 and he devoted himself to raising his four sons (including Shawn, born in 1970). He put good meals on the table, and embraced the academic, dramatic and athletic achievements of the family with great pride.
Jim's stories filtered down to his children as unintended heirlooms - such as the day he walked down the fairway with Arnold Palmer; the great elk hunt; and the night his mother spirited young Jim and his brothers onto the train and they pushed west over the Rockies to a new beginning in the Pacific Northwest.
Jim discovered a penchant for acting and singing in his forties and regularly landed roles in Santa Cruz community productions, earning good reviews. He shared the stage with famed actor/director John Carradine in a production of The Man Who Came to Dinner at Cabrillo Stage in Aptos, CA, and he played a policeman in the movie Steel Heel, which was featured at the Cannes Film Festival.
Jim delighted in simple pleasures like the aroma of freshly ground coffee, the flavor burst of a ripe tomato, and the patter of rain on a roof. Wherever he went, he brightened the faces of store clerks, gas station attendants and food servers; he was a friend to everyone. And always there were quests - for flea market treasures, the best oysters on the half shell, or a solidly struck golf ball.
Jim retired from teaching in 1990. He later sold his house and for many years lived in a trailer on a peaceful bluff on a friend's property in rural Prunedale, CA, south of Santa Cruz. He rose each morning, brewed a fresh pot of Colombian coffee, and stepped out to watch the early sun illuminate the green canyon, the slopes of which were dotted with the lazy shuffle of distant livestock.
Jim always treasured his home life, but he also felt the lure of the road. He fulfilled a long-held dream with a 2002 journey along Route 66 with three of his children. He was thrilled with the luster of the faded strand of roadside oddities stretching through the desert, the heartland, and all the way back to Chicago.
Jim reconnected with his high school sweetheart Marilyn Holden and they married in 2006. They moved from San Jose, CA to Anacortes, WA in 2007.
Jim spent his final year among the tulips and fresh rains of Skagit Valley, WA at the Life Care Center of Mt. Vernon, attended to by his wife and a team of caring professionals.
Jim is survived by his wife Marilyn; brother Wendell (Cleo); his sons Randy (Julie), Eric, Scott, and Shawn (Shauna); four grandchildren; five nieces and nephews; and his first wife Joy Appleton.
A memorial service will be held on Tuesday, December 13, 2011 in Santa Cruz, CA, from 3:30 pm to 5:30 pm. Please RSVP to [email protected]">[email protected]">[email protected]">[email protected] to receive details.
Donations in memoriam can be made in Jim's name to the American Diabetes Association (www.diabetes.org), the Alzheimer's Association (www.alz.org), or a charity of your choice.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Santa Cruz Sentinel on Nov. 13, 2011.

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Jesse Jensen

August 24, 2014

Goodbye Mr. Forgaard!

Meaghan Klebold

November 27, 2012

Even though we weren't of blood relation, he always was, and will be, known to me as Grandpa Jim. He was the most amazing person I have ever met. When Jim and Nana (Marilyn, my grandmother)got married, I didn't really want to get to know him at all; I was still getting over her most recent divorce. Nana kept trying to get me to at least talk to him over the phone, but I kept making up excuses not to; I just wasn't ready yet. After almost a year after their marriage, i finally decided to meet him (I hadn't met him before because my dad was the only one who got to go to their wedding [to walk her down the aisle]). Jim was the complete opposite of what I expected him to be. I was prepared to meet some fake CEO-type who wouldn't give a crap about my grandmother or the rest of my family. What I got was the kindest, sweetest, most loving person in the whole world. You could not be upset about something when he was around; it was literally impossible.
The very best thing about him was his love for singing. He would sing all sorts of songs, but his favorites were from the '40s, '50s, and '60s. His favorite song was Boogie Woogie Bugle Boy. I would sing it for him all the time, and throughout the song, he would dance around the room, singing, "Badadadada-dah." And there's another thing he loved: my voice. The first thing I ever sang for him was "A Whole New World" from Aladdin; ever since then, he would say the name of a song, and if I knew it, I would sing it for him.
Throughout the years, little by little, his dementia would take over. Finally, it got so bad that Nana decided to put him in a nursing home, but would still come see him every day, for hours at a time. In August of 2011, I decided I wanted to come see him one last time before he died, because I had a feeling it would be soon. I visited him two days in a row, and in both days, I didn't see any bit of recognition in his eyes, which made me really sad. Actually, now that I think about it, I think I saw some on the last day. When I was leaving that day, Nana told him to say goodbye to me. And he said, "Bye...Meaghan...love...you..." I almost broke down crying.
He passed away two months later.
Jim was the most wonderful person I have ever met. Not one day goes by without me thinking about him. I miss him with every molecule in my body.

Good-bye Grandpa Jim.
R.I.P.

Love,
Meaghan

<3 <3

George Akers

December 5, 2011

Jim and I spent many great hours together in high school with Ron Munter and Eben McKendrick. Sports were important to us especially when we had hard apple cider to drink on the bus trip back from a football game.

We would pool our change to buy a few gallons of gas to cruise around in my 39 Plymouth. Those were great days with a great friend.

Scott Forgaard

December 5, 2011

Daddy-o

THROUGH THE YEARS

Through the years, you've been my inspiration.

For, however I may feel about my life, my shortcomings, my failures, as well as my successes, none of these even come close to how much you sacrificed for us.

Relentlessly working, at times 3 jobs at once, to keep our family together.

Up at 4:30 am, then running along the cliffs, breathing in not only the cold ocean moisture in the air, but the loneliness, and loveliness, of the world around you.

You were so strong, yet, you may have not realized it.

You were so loving, yet, the world may not have seen it.

I DID.

When you got mad at me, I got mad.

But I wasn't mad at you.

I was mad at myself.

You expected the best, and rightfully, truthfully.
I expected the best of myself too.

Yet, being a teenager, the world around me was to rebel, question authority, do the exact opposite.

You still held onto your convictions, your belief of trying to instill in me, (and all of us) the true love for everybody, and everything, you held in your heart.

Even though it seemed to go unheeded……..

I GOT IT.

I saw how hard you worked.
I prayed that one day I could pay off your mortgage and give you the title to your home, one you worked so hard to achieve.
Yet the position you had, and the way the world was, just kept holding you down.

But, you kept Persevering

No matter that we had little money.
No matter that you were working long days.
No matter that you had to supply Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner, every single day.
No matter that you had to do whatever it took to raise us 4 sons.

You made everything into a gourmet meal. Thank you.

Breakfast:
Incredible eggs, bacon, pancakes, cereal, (with powdered milk that you mixed with regular milk, because we (or maybe I), didn't like white colored water, and on special occasions your potato pancakes. (yum!)
Shawn's favorite for awhile was ice cream.

Lunch:
Great sandwiches, wonderful egg salad, P.B.&J, tuna, and sometimes spam (which actually was pretty good!), along with a little snack, and a piece of fruit.

Dinner:
Many good things including hangaber pie, porcupine balls, (which I recently discovered we have Eric to thank for that recipe, and the best spaghetti anywhere. (which we sometimes got from Adolphs).

And Oh, at Thanksgiving time, waking up around dawn, to start stuffing and cooking the turkey, making smashed taters, and all the other trimmings.
I remember waking up to the smell of turkey, and stuffing on Thanksgiving morning feeling so Warm, and Loved.

The same was true with Christmas morning, with the wonderful smell of bacon and eggs, and the mmmmmm, Blueberry Muffins.
I thanked God to have such a Wonderful, and Loving Father.





You are my Inspiration.


Your mom instilled in you the values of old. (Which to me means good).
Values which now are fading in this world as we all grow older.

Old. What does that mean?
To some, old means worn out.
To others, and to me, it means some people are beyond our wisdom, and understanding.
They now, and have, stood the test of time.
A goldmine of knowledge, understanding, forgiveness, and unconditional Love.

Someone who withstood not only the winds of change, but the storms of life.

Thank you Dad for raising me.

Thank you for making me whole.

I Love you Dad.

WE ALL TRULY LOVE YOU.

Scotty








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Marilyn Forgaard

November 27, 2011

The smile on his face was wide and accepting. It lit up the room like a Christmas tree. His manner was never overbearing, rather , polite and humble. You wanted to shake his hand or hug him. His compassion was in his sweet words and thoughtful ways of telling stories. He gave credit to all, never judging, extending his charity to all who needed it. He was a special, wonderful man. I am blessed that he loved me.

Marilyn Forgaard

Wendell Forgaard

November 23, 2011

My brother Jim was an amazing person he had many health issues in his life but he never let them get in the way of his love of life. I will always remember the great times Jim, Dean and I had, hunting, fishing and our shared love of golf. We had many parties and picnic's which always included a good song. I will always remember his smiling face and good humor. Our family misses him very much. God's Peace Brother, until we meet again. Love, Shorty

Cleo Forgaard

November 23, 2011

I knew Jim for over 65 years and when I married his brother Wendell ( over 63 years ago) I also not only had a brother in law I had a brother and Jim had a sister. As an only child I embraced Jim and his brother Dean into my life and our families meshed into one. Jim's death has left a great void in my life. Until we are all together again, God Bless. Cleo Forgaard,

Bob Moore

November 21, 2011

It was a pleasure to be Jim's friend and fellow RVer. My entire family will always remember him.

Joe Ward

November 20, 2011

I will also think of Mr. Forgaard as being just what a teacher should be. A teacher. Always fair. I enjoyed his class and his opions

robin wisnia-jablonski

November 18, 2011

Mr Forgaard was really important to me. He was a special teacher to me, and a friend. I am sorry and will miss him. Condolences to his family.
Robin Wisnia Jablonski

greg scott

November 18, 2011

RIP JIM

Christopher Rudy

November 17, 2011

I was saddened to hear of Mr. Forgaard's passing. He was a good man. He was my junior high gym teacher, but more importantly, he was my golf coach. Even as a young kid I was amazed that Mr. Forgaard was able to convince local golf courses to allow us kids to play. To be on the team we had to learn the rules of golf and pass a written test on the rules of play and golf etiquette. I may not have been a very good golfer, but I learned to respect the game and how to behave on a golf course. Those two things alone have served me well over the years. He will be missed, but he leaves behind a lot of lives that he touched in a positive way.

Allyson

November 14, 2011

So sorry for your loss I worked with Jim when he was at fidalgo I can remember him humming and singing . He was very blessed to have such a wonderful wife that always looked after him and love him.

Pete Newell

November 13, 2011

A Wonderful and Multi-Talented Man who Raised Four Unique Sons to Be Positive and Productive Members of our Society. May Jim Rest in Eternal Peace.

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