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Barry Carpenter Obituary
January 17, 1965 - April 6, 2013 of San Francisco, passed away peacefully in his sleep. Barry was born in San Francisco to Leon and Diana Carpenter. Barry attended Star of the Sea Elementary School and was a star basketball player. He then went on to Riordan High School where he continued to be a star athlete. He finished his education at Marin Community College and then San Francisco State. Barry loved his family. He and his mother, Diana, had a very special, supportive and loving relationship. He and his sister, Angie, were very close and loved one another unconditionally. Barry loved life, making people happy and making people laugh. He made long lasting friendships. He is survived by his father, Leon Carpenter, his sister Angela, his niece Emily Bates, his nephew Alec Bates, his Aunt Merle Gagne and Uncle Richard Gagne, Aunt Helen Carpenter-Hull and Uncle Denny Hull, Aunt Alexis Carpenter, many cousins and many friends whom he considered to be a part of his family. A memorial mass will be held at Star of the Sea Church Saturday, April 27th, at 11am. Barry will be missed deeply by all.
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Memories and Condolences
for Barry Carpenter
Jairo Lopez
April 7, 2021
I always ask myself, if someone dies and goes to Heaven -as Berry did-, why are we sad? I came to the conclusion that we are just a little bit selfish because we are sad for ourselves as a result of the hole that Berry left in our hearts.
January 17, 2015
Happy 50th birthday Barry. I'll be thinking about you on this milestone day. I very much wish I could share it with you. Tommy B.
Jolie Stokes Bourque
December 27, 2014
Barry, I reopened your memory book because I wanted to read the love people left for you but also to leave some of my own. Looking for you nearly a year ago I was not shocked but disbelieving you were gone. I thought it was odd that you had not left me a singng hello on my voicemail in soooo long. In a way you saved me by Seeing me. We laughed and loved and made many new memories together. I was respectful of your unwavering love for your mama. Hope Leon is holding up without the two bright, though unwieldy sparks in his life! Thank you for your love and light. I am certain the next life for you is where you will forever shine. Peace finally. Lastly, "howdy,howdy, howdy". I loved you Bar.
Joanie
May 7, 2013
When Barry said "I love you very much" he wasn't kidding. I'll always love you Winkums,very much.
Carl Marino
April 28, 2013
I only got to know Barry over the past couple of years, but what I learned was that he didn't have a mean, evil, or angry bone in his body. His love of music, signing, and trying to make people laugh will always be remembered. R.I.P. buddy. I know how much you loved and missed your mom and I hope you are at peace with her.
Gill Davidson
April 23, 2013
May Barry rest in peace.it was a pleasure to know him back in the 90's. Always full of love and fun!
Renzo Sereni
April 22, 2013
Dear Barry,
You were a great man; so full of life I can't believe your gone. I know you are now with your mom and at peace. God bless your soul!!
We love you "Buddy"!!
Renzo and Maria Sereni
Johanna Pitocchelli
April 21, 2013
Dearest Barry,
There are no words to express how sad I am that you left us so suddenly. Thank you for all the loved you poured out to me over the years. I will miss your huge hugs and kisses every time I saw you. I am will be forever grateful that we had lunch by the Bridge on Thursday and that we talked most of the night. I promised you a long time ago that I would always be there for you and I am glad I was. I know you are in the comfort of your mother's love whom you missed so much. Please send strength to Angie. I miss you. Aloha Nui Loa.
Tony Bosque
April 19, 2013
Barry and I had so many good times. Those happy thoughts will be with me forever. I miss you.
Val Marhefka
April 19, 2013
Thanks Barry:), for all the whistling and your Great Big Love.
Tom Burns
April 18, 2013
There wasn't much Barry and I wouldn't do for each other. We could also call each other, with impunity, at any time of the day or night.
Barry would often say "I love you" to me, but I was too inhibited to say it to him, even though I felt the same.
Barry was an irreplaceable friend and I'll always miss him.
Jennifer Novak
April 18, 2013
My thoughts and prayers are with the Carpenter Family. Barry rest in peace. There is another star in the sky!
Deborah Hull
April 16, 2013
Sending love and light to surround you Angie and Leon. Barry's laughter and good nature will be remembered forever by all of his family. With love, Debbie
Jerry Centeno
April 16, 2013
Sending you my thoughts and prayers Angie to you and your family.
Neville Mercado
April 16, 2013
One of the best basketball players at Star of the Sea Grammar School. Peace be with you Barry.
April 15, 2013
My condolences to your great loss - eugene mcguire(star 1978)
Dan Talbot
April 15, 2013
I'm really sad to hear of Barry's passing ! He had such a wonderful sense of Humor and thoughtfulness about him that I will always remember, I will miss his presences greatly ! Always in my Thoughts Barry R.I.P
Junior year
Crusader 1983
April 15, 2013
RIP
jen Newsom
April 15, 2013
Bear Boy: unbelievable. I am still in a good state of denial. But this I do know: we've talked about this and it happened and though it all sucks, we can't deny you being with your mom is the only place you were truly happy. Give her a kiss and i'll get back to you. i can't fully accept this, still...PS: how did you get in the Balboa? I thought you had overextended your stay there!! I will try to put up that picture with you holding Chance, you tried for years to do that! and finally did....
Alex Sadovnikov
April 15, 2013
My deepest condolences to the Carpenter family!
Barry was my classmate at Star of the Sea (for 8 years), and a neighbor. I have many fond and humorous memories of our times together. He always treated me very kindly.
May he rest in peace!
April 15, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers are with you Angie and family. I am so sorry of your loss. Tanya Sinkevich and Family
Trim wellbeloved
April 15, 2013
Truly an unforgettable character and one of the nicest and most sincere people I have ever known. Barry was a true friend, may he rest in peace.
Nicolai Rubtzoff
April 15, 2013
I was a classmate and remember him from the earliest days of Star of the Sea, probably 1971,and later Riordan High, but not since then. What stands out is that even though he was always much more athletic and accepted than me,he never treated me condescendingly, saw me as an equal, and was always cracking up (laughing) about something.
Nicolai (Nick) Rubtzoff
Richard Ferrando
April 14, 2013
Dearest brother Barry, it has truly been a pleasure being your pal since we were introduced to each other by our dear friend Danny Spinale some 30 years ago. I will always remember the smiles and laughs we shared whenever we got together. The Giants and 49er games. The BBQ's at Dannys. The 3 consecutive MLK 4 day weekend Reno trips we took on your birthday. The fun times you, Johnny, Danny, and myself had through the years... The 2 weeks i visited with you in Maui 2 years ago. I will forever keep those fond memories of you close to my heart for all time. You were one of my best friends. Loyal and true since the day we met. I miss you so much. The 4am phone calls and singing messages you often sent which sometimes irritated me ironicly are now severely missed as well. You will forever remain in my thoughts. I know you have finally found your peace when you reunited with your mom...your first love. Until we meet up again on the otherside goodbye for now my brother i'll be seeing you... Big love then, now, and forever, your pal always, Richie
Susan and Albert Alioto
April 14, 2013
We saw Barry play on the Riordan basketball teams. May he rest in peace and may his loved ones have every comfort.
Rob Grant
April 14, 2013
Barry, I can't believe you are gone, you were so full of life. I miss you already. It is truly a sad day for us but I know that you are now happy and finally at peace. I enjoyed your company and friendship immensely. You were one of a kind, that's for sure. We shared some great times and laughs together that I will always remember and think of often. I just wish you hadn't left us so soon. I miss you. Your friend,
Rob Grant.
Marta Suvaco
April 14, 2013
I had the pleasure of meeting Barry along with Aunt Helen and Denny& His dad Leon. he was very friendly and we all had a good time and laughs with him. My condolences to the family and specially to my good friend his Auntie Helen. Also to Uncle Denny, and all his immediate family. Leon the memories will keep Barry alive for ever. "May God Be With You" Amen...
Jeff Berger
April 14, 2013
He had a big and caring heart. I will miss his cheer and friendship.
Rest in peace.
April 14, 2013
Our love and prayers are with you Barry, Angie, Emily, Alec, and the entire Carpenter family. We will always remember Barry as spirited, generous and kind.
Kelli & Paul Stock
April 14, 2013
We will miss you deeply Barry, and will always carry you in our hearts.
Love you,
Your sister Angie and Bill Morris
Merle Gagne
April 14, 2013
My Dear Sweet Nephew, I am so glad we had dinner and many laughs a few months ago. After all these years The Balboa Cafe is now one of my favorite places in San Francisco and I expect to be there, thinking of you, with one of your many friends. My heart is broken, but I know my sister is happier than she has ever been. With great love, your Aunt Merle
April 14, 2013
My dear sweet brother, you are now in heaven and at peace with our mother. I love you with all my heart. I miss you, but I know I will see you again. Angie
Sister JoAnn
April 14, 2013
Special prayers for Barry.........
April 14, 2013
Barry was always happy and funny. What a loss. My condolences to the Carpenter Family. Sincerely, Ana Handelman
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